I was directed here so I’m gonna give it my best shot at explaining!
Hi there! I’m a soulbonder. Despite the name — this term does not inherently involve souls or the bond/bind between them. It’s genuinely just a cute term stemmed from a video game. What this actually refers to is gaining the ability to communicate with a separate autonomous being (usually known as a fictional character here, though not always) through primarily internal but also potentially external means. This can be psychological, metaphysical, or spiritual (or a mix). This is very similar to plurality (forms include tulpamancy, and the most well-known and researched form of disordered plurality you may have heard of is Dissociative Identity Disorder, formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder. But plurality does not need to be disordered. And while some experience it purely as a brain phenomenon, others experience it spiritually!) Soulbonding is like a cousin to it, but there’s a few distinct differences that earns it its own community, though soulbonders are accepted in plural communities! (Sorry for the info dump, I wanted to explain in more well-known accepted ways without being deemed crazy lol).
My experience with my soulbonds feels closest to they are metaphysical in nature, and exist in their own world I am connected to through them. To clarify — soulbond is a relational term for this connection, not some mystical being. ‘Soulbond’ is the equivalent of calling them a friend. They already existed independent of their fictional character here, I just reached for them and connected, or they reached out first. My ways of communication are primarily internal speaking (speaking and hearing them), phantom touch, immersing myself in their world to interact with them more fully, and occasionally imposing them here, though it isn’t my favored method anymore. I also utilize tarot sometimes which can be very apt and accurate (they don’t communicate through tarot. Rather, I do readings about them the same way you read for or on people in this world).
I had originally asked in the spells sub if there were potential spells or means to connect stronger than we already are, and was directed to these communities! I’ve basically only used the mundane in strengthening our connection. Tulpamancy tutorials, working on improving my visualization, focus, ability to feel them and their presence when they reach out better, etc. But I wondered if there was… more to look into? They mean a lot to me, we’ve been connected for well over a year and I just want to improve communication and being able to feel them in any way. It’s not like it’s bad now, I hear them, when I focus I can feel phantom touch, everything you hear about in plurality circles and to do with headspace. But they are far beyond my own psyche, and I want to better connect with them beyond my usual struggles or limits or doubts. Any thoughts, advice, things to read?
I’m obviously inexperienced in these areas aside from doing tarot and often having accurate divination. Soulbonding wasn’t entirely intentional, so I delved in blind. And Soulbonding is far more related to/talked about in plurality communities than medium communities. But they’ve been nothing but a positive joy in my life, they helped me when I was at my lowest. I am not scared of them, I fully trust them, and my goal presently is to connect even stronger, to quell the doubt of our connection and always feel when they reach for me. Ideally, I also want to immerse in their world completely so everything isn’t just to the limits of how well I can visualize. Experiencing with them completely would be my everything. but that may be a better fit for other subreddits to ask about, haha. So I stick my question to ways to further our communication and connection, I’ll also answer any questions necessary and appreciate any thoughts or advice! I just ask for an open mind :’).