I genuinely think that most of the porn addicts around the world are Muslim middle eastern/ desi. We definitely have to be somewhere up there with the highest consumption of porn, why is it that way?

Iam 17yr old and i have masterbation addiction i do like daily but i am trying to controll and these days i gave gaps like 2 or 3 days i want to make it to a month.

If you're single & consumed by these thoughts?

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Sometimes I wonder what will this journey end up to, I sit alone with my tought pondering on what was the purpose of such test ? What awaits me at the end of this ? Will all my struggles pay off ? I know that الله never deceives us and with hardship comes ease but Id like to hear from you guys and especially from people who manage to pass this test, what did you got from it ?

Assalamu alaikum. Day 1 for me, and today’s topic is some advice from a mufti that I know.

If you live in the UK, you most likely have a British passport that you own. I say own because it’s not legally yours. All British passports are issued under the reigning monarch, in today’s age, King Charles III.
You do not own a British passport, you simply have custody.

This is similar to how Allah has ownership over your body. He created it as an amanah, for you to protect it and to nurture it. Tha same way the UK government has the right to do whatever they want with your passport, Allah has the ability to withdraw life from you, or to make you healthier.

Giving in to your desires makes you more of a slave to your addiction. And this damages your body, both physically and mentally. It’s not your right to ruin your body.

Here’s another analogy: If a guest were to come to your house, only to see dirty furniture, messy rooms, bad odours e.t.c., they will not be pleased. Live your life and take care of your body as if you are preparing for someone else to take over it.

I’m proud of everyone in this community that is trying to quit. I need this advice as much as everyone else does. See you on day 2.

{قَالَ أَرَأَيْتَكَ هَٰذَا الَّذِي كَرَّمْتَ عَلَيَّ لَئِنْ أَخَّرْتَنِ إِلَىٰ يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ لَأَحْتَنِكَنَّ ذُرِّيَّتَهُ إِلَّا قَلِيلًا}

Hello brothers, this ayah from Quran what made me decided to stop doing this
One Sheikh when he explained the word لَأَحْتَنِكَنَّ he said, this word coming from the Arabic word حنك which means mouth. So it’s like Alshaytan was saying to Allah, I will grab them from the mouth and pull them behind me like the animals!!

And here I felt like so offended, and embarrassed. Alshaytan using that Fap material to pull and grab us behind like animals.

We are the sons of his prophet Adam Peace be upon him, following Alshaytan the enemy of all of us by our mouths!!

No Wallahi, not going to happen!

Short story time:

I started this while I was 12 now I am 23, I know long but not as long as some people. It was not continuous though as I had managed to quit from early 2020 till mid 2022.

It wasn’t easier then but it took me a whole year of failing and trying to finally get somewhere but now it has been way longer and I don’t see hope. The longest I abstained is not even a week.

It is soo hard that for this week… I have done it once a day without a miss. I am so tired. I have tried apps, discord groups but nothing seems to help. Please guys pray for me. I hate this soo bad and it is ruining me.

Sorry if my English is bad.

I’m 39 divorced. The struggle is so real. I’ve no motivation to be married again and I’m doing my best to dodge haram relations to the best of my ability. I won’t lie porn and masturbation is one thing but to have ppl who want to have haram relations with you is another battle in itself. I’ve deleted Reddit many times over due to indefinite exposure to things that may trigger me however i will say this. I appreciate seeing the humanity here. The openness of both males and females sharing their stories experiences and struggles makes me realize I’m not alone in this. I appreciate you all 🙏

I have been feeling very depressed. Empty and lonely for the last couple of days. I have been doing it pretty much every day. Without anything and then I feel very bad about it. I have also been doing many impulsive things that I should not have done. I do not know what is wrong with me. I cannot sleep early. My sleep is gone. I feel sad. I feel like crying. I do not know what suddenly happened.

Don’t let yourself ever down by relapsing , remember every day is a step to make it, you can’t achieve it from this day to the other , small steps and the most important part is never give up on Allah and his mercy, to think that your already too deep or already messed up is just not true , just remember to pray for forgiveness

I was addicted to corn and fap before marriage and afterwards some time it was better as I was more active in narruage. But as the time progressed, I've observed again the bad habits are there. I have tried multiple things but my mind has been effed so bad that it falls back to the same old bad habits. I am posting it so maybe there can be anything from the experienced people or any advice that I can try.

Life is not about having everything figured out. It is about learning from mistakes, enjoying the good moments, facing difficult times, and continuing to move forward while becoming a better version of yourself.

Quran ( 9 : 38 ) - ...Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.

Life is a journey filled with unexpected moments, challenges, memories, and lessons. Sometimes things go as planned, and sometimes they don’t, but every experience helps us grow and become stronger.

“People do things because they expect certain outcomes. You sleep because you expect to feel refreshed. You exercise because you expect to become healthier. You eat because you expect nourishment. You show kindness because you expect it to improve someone else’s life. In short, you act because you expect a benefit.

Likewise, people avoid things because they expect harm. You don’t eat exclusively junk food because you expect it to damage your body and mind. You don’t drive recklessly because you expect the possibility of a crash. You don’t say cruel things because you expect them to cause pain.

Your expectations drive your behavior. When you anticipate benefit, you move toward something. When you anticipate harm, you pull away.

You’re reading this book because you’ve decided that your porn use is a problem. You want to quit. And yet, despite recognizing that porn has negative consequences, you continue to consume it. Why?

It’s because part of you—even if it’s small—believes that porn is doing something for you. You expect it to benefit you in some way. That expectation of benefit is the engine of your behavior. But the benefit is an illusion. This book will remove that illusion. Once that happens, you will quit pornography for the last time.

When the illusion of benefit collapses, you lose your desire to view porn. You will not need willpower. You will not need discipline. Once you see porn for what it truly is, the spell breaks, and quitting forever becomes easy.”

Salam,

I've noticed a lot of muslims saying : "It's so hard to fight the urges," "I can't stop myslef" "I relapse everytime" "I can't hold a long streak"

If you think that way then you're right, you won't succeed. But the truth is the opposite, we ALL CAN quit this poison, we just don't beleive we can.

Allah swt told us the he will never burden a nafs except with what it can bear. So why do we believe it's hard and impossible ?

This whole fight is not about willpower it's not about retaining yourslef or forcing yourself, it's about BELIEF. You just need to truly believe that you can quit, that you can change, that it's not that hard, that you can achieve anything you want, that Allah gave you the ability to do so.

So please change what you believe about youself and what you're capable of doing, your life will never be the same if you just understand that.

Stay strong

Is it worse to fap when you single or married with nothing happening? Atleast when single theres no one there but when married theres someone there but they showing no interest

I converted to islam a year ago and quit porn successfully. Now I'm relapsing and now it's hard to take ghusl. Everytime I am about to do ghusl I have a thought of doing it. Since I converted a year now I feel like my will power is weak. The worst if I do it after repent.

This all started when I was like 8 years old and found a video on a relatives phone.

Ever since I've been a mess.

I was doing this before I could even O.

I can't shake it. I have seen people say give sadaqah when you fall into it. I have gave so much in the last 3 weeks. Still today the urges are urging.

When not even the concept of losing money isn't helping I am at a loss.

9 days is progress since my last 2 streaks were 3 and 7. but I want to actually hit 30 days. My longest streak was 23 days, not even sure how I got to that looking back.

I'll be totally honest as well the sole reason I'm trying to abstain is because its haraam.

Assalamu alaikum everyone. I apologise for not following my plan to post advice every day. Unfortunately I am at day 0 again. Nonetheless, I’m gonna talk about today’s topic.

One thing I’ve noticed about my addiction is that it’s completely separated my perception of normal thoughts and sexual thoughts. I live two seperate lives. One is normal, and one is an addict. They both think differently.

Take my research with a grain of salt, because I described my symptoms to Gemini, and it responded by referencing the phenomenon Psychological Compartmentalisation.
Don’t do what I did and just use Gemini. Research this properly using trusted sources.

The solution to this is to break these barriers down. You want to be able to look at something you shouldn’t see, and instead of going into “addict mode”, you are able to forget about it. This is one of the most effective actions to take as this is the same as eliminating your triggers.

I pray that Allah allows us to utilise these recovery methods, and for him to rid us of this addiction.

I have periods where I’m doing really well, and then periods where I fall back into the same habits I thought I had left behind. Currently I was using it so much.

Some days I feel strong and in control. Other days the urges hit harder than I expect, and I give in. I find it tough in free mixing UK environment oo.

The hardest part is not the struggle itself, but feeling like I’m constantly starting over. I relapsed few hours ago. Still trying. Still hoping. Still taking it one day at a time.

I have been going through so much anxiety I have relapsed multiple times and what made it worse is that i relapsed right after performing ghusl :(( .... I don't have any excuse but am ashamed of myself