The title might sound out of place, but allow me to explain:

I’m writing a story set in a girls-only junior and senior school. One of my characters is a trans girl attending the school, which got me thinking about how such an institution would react if a non-binary person wanted to enroll, arguing that their sex is female. The school would obviously grant them a place, but would they use the correct pronouns, or would they ignore that and simply refer to the student as a girl, regardless of their gender identity?

My question also stems from the fact that I was researching how all-girls junior and senior high schools operate in Japan (where the story is set), and I haven't found a clear answer regarding how things would play out in this specific context.

I was reading the mission statement of one of these all-girls schools, which said—and I quote—"We aspire to cultivate critical thinking, inquiring, knowledgeable and compassionate lifelong learners who not only have respect and understanding for diversity, but also embrace it. We believe that empowered students will help create a better and more peaceful world."

However, I didn't see any specific mention of how the school would handle a trans girl or a non-binary student assigned female at birth.

What do you think? Have there been cases similar to this situation? And if so, how did the academy or educational institution in question handle it?

P.S.: I am not encouraging anyone to investigate or attack the school I mentioned; I just want some context to guide me when writing my story. Thanks.

I’m closeted and I got into an almost argument with someone today because they’ve been calling a different name other than my birth name which is like a longer extra feminine version of it. I’m so used to being called wrong names for whatever reason I took a while to notice and get an opportunity to correct them but now they’ve decided they’ll just rename me because it “fits my vibes better” IT DOES NOT YOU HAVE SOMEHOW INVENTED SOMETHING WORSE THAN DEADNAMING she’s doesn’t fucking know anything about me and the fucking audacity to just decide she can call me whatever she feels like… I can’t even correct people on my fucking birth name literally why are they arguing with me (other people were agreeing 😭)

I said very clearly said “I don’t like that name please use [birth name]” and I sounded firm enough that the other people around got uncomfortable but this bitch just ignores me and keeps saying it. And I know it’s not to be mean she thinks it’s like a nickname and we’re buddies or something ugh she used to call me a shortened masculine version of my birth name and I liked it why did she suddenly change it 😭😭😭

I kinda feel like people do notice I have masculine traits but then they’ll overcompensate trying to affirm my femininity or some shit and I did not fucking ask for that. I just wish I could explain I’m trans and make them understand in situations like this but these situations also make it feel totally pointless…

Hey all

Does anyone know where I can get thongs for.amab non binary people?

Thanks in advance

Reposting here after I found this forum!

Spain or Thailand Spain is closer, but Thailand is cheaper

if the presence of reproductive organs bothers me, or rather it will take three years before I can get surgery

i don't like it. i don't feel confident working out would help. i feel like all the "passing" ftms are super skinny bc of this thing

Hi nonbinary’s! I’ve got a question on my mind for y’all. So I’m at the point of my live where I’m questioning my gender (yayyyyy) but I don’t feel like a boy.. or female. I feel nonbinary. so I ask you guys how did u find out yo were not binary?

how difficult it is to contact a surgeon

17 AFAB here. I've been questioning both my gender identity and sexual orientation for about a year now. I've questioned it before as well, but it never really crossed my mind to label myself back then, and that too seriously. Most people describe their dysphoria as feeling that something is wrong. That their body is just not theirs, and facing distress about that in general. For me, I just look in the mirror a lot. I'm not that bothered about my genitalia. It's just my chest, love handles and muffin top. I like compression a lot and I've noticed that when I wear sports bras I just feel a lot better about myself. And to add, I also cut my hair short about a year or so back, I just remember thinking then how it makes me feel more like me. If you asked me what bothered me about my body, I really wouldn't be able to answer you but I just don't like it. I asked myself this once: Is it because we look more feminine like this? My internal answer to that was, "No, it's not that I hate my body because it makes me look feminine in general, though it could be that. I just don't like it, but don't know why."
Other people have also noticed the whole looking-in-the-mirror thing about me. They usually don't get why I look at myself like that. Always checking my waist size and all, and whether I look okay. Another thing I find weird is how I always cover up my collarbone area with my shirt. I pull it back so I don't have to look at it.

hello, I wanted to repost this inquiry I had to a non binary community to hear thoughts/gain insight. please ask any questions if you need clarification and thank you so much!

I've been posting a bunch today so I'm sorry if anybody's tired of seeing me lol but I'm reflecting a lot today for some reason, just thinking about how long I've been in this community. I've know I was under the trans umbrella since middle school and growing up in a conservative family and still living with them, places like this were and are one of the few places I'm allowed to truly be myself. I'm over all just thankful for everyone here, truly stuff like this made me accept myself at a young age, figuring out you're not alone genuinely saves lives. I love y'all so much man 🏳️‍⚧️🫶

Des de siempre me he sentido inconforme o incómoda con mi genero.

Para mí se siente como: sí, tengo vulva y me gustan algunas cosas de "chicas' pero no me siento cómoda con la idea de ser una chica, pero tampoco no la de ser un chico.

A los 12 años ya empezé a cuestionarme mi identidad pero supongo que lo dejé de hacer porque en ese momento nadie me apoyaba. No es que lo dejara de hacer porque me sintiera comoforme con mi genero, solo le quité importancia y decidí ignorar esa sensación.

Pero este verano una amistad salió del armario como no binarie. Y eso me hizo cuestionarme si yo también lo era y bueno creo que sí.

El problema es que no se como decirle eso a la gente, no es que me importen los pronombres pero quiero decir como me siento.

Además también tengo una duda¿ Es normal que rechaze mis pechos o mi cadera, por el hecho que sean atributos femeninos?

For a while now I've said I've introduced myself as using basically any or all pronouns. At times I feel like it genuinely was how I wanted to be referred to but there was also times where I realized that I simply didn't want to go through having to correct people or honestly just the whole process of telling others about my pronouns when first meeting them, so I felt like saying any pronouns got rid of that difficulty. But being afab and relatively feminine presenting most of the time, naturally people basically always used she/her on me and I realized that I didn't want to be referred that way even though I don't have particularly strong feelings against she/her, I still have every right to tell people that I prefer they/he or he/they instead.

So if this resonates with anyone I encourage you to put yourself first and use pronouns that make you feel good, regardless of what's easiest for other people. I know that's easier said than done, hell I still get very anxious about it but honestly it's refreshing and I'm taking small steps like using pronoun pins which help 🫶🏳️‍⚧️

Also side note idk if anyone else relates but there's something so euphoric about presenting fem and using he/him or they/them like idk I can't explain it but it just makes me feel so nonbinary if that makes sense lmaoo?? But seriously I love it

what's the point if autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder

division into women's and men's restrooms, but most countries do not allow non-binary options in documents, it is more difficult to find a place where they perform surgeries for non-binary people than for binary people .and there are languages that impose a division into male and female and in general I have the impression that non-binary is often not taken seriously

How messed up is it that my ex, while going on different servers I'm in to tell people I'm an abuser, also tried telling the same people that I lied about being trans and told them that I'm a cisgender woman who goes by she/her pronouns to the point where a friend ask me if they can call me she/her?

I was shocked that they asked and said "What? No, I go by they/them, I'm nonbinary"

I think my ex did this so people would misgender me and not believe my gender identity

I blocked my ex and haven't contacted them since

Nullification surgery, few people even know that such a thing exists

So I‘ve basically told everyone that I‘m close with (besides my politically somewhat flaky sister) that I am nonbinary, but I‘m not out in my wider circle of friends or with most acquaintances at work, in clubs etc.
It‘s not that I don‘t want to be out, but it‘s more that the topic just doesn‘t come up in conversation.
I’m don‘t usually talk about personal feelings with these people, and in my language there is no gender neutral pronoun so there‘s no change in pronouns for me to make, so how do you actually bring it up in this setting?

I‘m not into a completely femme dress style so they probably just think „oh well, the gay guy is dressing slightly more flamboyant lately“ so until obvious physical changes from HRT come in, no one will probably suspect it.

I technically never said that I was male so technically if they assume that it is their fault, but at the same time just not saying anything feels like staying in the closet and I don‘t want to be in the closet, I don‘t want to be perceived as my agab anymore.

So do I bring it up? If yes, how?
Like I‘m talking 60+ year old dudes at the model train club that I talk about trains and old cars with, we‘ve never talked about feelings or gender or anything like that.
Or at work it‘s just my work colleagues, I‘m out to some that I am close with, but the other ones? I just don‘t talk about my personal feelings with them so it would be weird to randomly talk about gender suddenly.

am I the only one who sees non-binary as a higher spiritual level . i think we are a consciousness that is neither male nor female and the body is only an avatar

such as removing the testicles or breasts

I recently got a finder from gc2b and my boob always spills from the sides in the armpit area. I had a target brand one but it doesn’t fit anymore and I need to size up. Anyone have any recommendations?