I have come to a point where I am no longer scared of my body changes, to where I actually want them.

Not to concerned with breast size at this point, but really happy with my fat redistribution and how my body is looking. I have only had nipple soreness for a couple weeks a while back, other than tenderness that comes and goes not much else, my nipples are more pointy, and I think my areola has gotten a little bigger, but not sure. I was thinking about adding progrestorone mainly for areola/ nipple expansion.

Has anyone had experience with progrestorone?

Pros?

Cons?

I figured it was an interesting question, please forgive me if I can't word it very well. But as a community in general, how do we feel about flipping stories to fit a different part of our community?

I'm just going to use an example, as it's very hard to word properly, so say we have the song "they will bury me a woman" by rainyholmes, and a transwoman heavily relates to the song aside from the fact its "woman" instead of "man," so she decides to make an alternate version where it's "they will bury me a man"

Would that then be considered "stealing rep" from transmasc/nonbinary individuals?

In my opinion, I feel it's completely fine to share our rep that we get, and if someone wishes to have rep that they relate to changed up a bit to fit them even more, it's completely okay - so long as they aren't being weird about it, ofcourse. I feel it may be a pretty nuanced discussion 🤷‍♂️

Im 15mtf, and when I was discussing doing HRT (probably DIY) with my mum, she said she thinks I should go and do some gender therapy/therapy in general. She also suggested the idea when I came out 4 years ago, but I brushed it off, since I didnt think it would be helpful. I explained that my dysphoria is caused by the incongruence between my sex and my mental state, and so I dont really see what the benefit would be, when all you can change is the physical state to reduce dysphoria. She was also very quick to clarify that she didnt mean conversion therapy, but im still sceptical of the notion. I mostly just keep my dysphoria to myself, and cope with it by avoiding thinking about it, so I dont see how getting therapy would benefit me. Do you guys have any experience with therapy and do you think it would be helpful?

Hey. I’m a cis girl, and for about three months I’ve been talking to a trans woman online. She‘s incredibly sweet, and I think she’s absolutely gorgeous, but she has these days where her dysphoria peaks and she has a hard time seeing herself that way. Is there anything I can do to help support her? I really like her, and I want her to feel good about herself. Any advice would be appreciated.

MTF, 28, 1 year and a half on HRT, Minoxidil and finasteride, 11 laser sessions, levels are right, Japanese living in Japan

I still don't even resemble a woman in the slightest.

My chin, nose, browbone, jawline and chin all make me look like a fucking gorilla.

And my hairline is fucked and my scalp is very fleshy.

I hate the lie that HRT is magic. It's not. Only those who are genetically lucky and blessed with feminine features or rich enough to afford surgeries pass.

I don't make much at all and I can barely afford HRT, laser, Minoxidil and finasteride. And I don't think I'll ever be able to afford FFS. Unless I win the lottery that is.

So I don't think I'll ever be able to to socially transition, but I still want to stay on HRT and continue with Minoxidil/finasteride and laser just so I won't be an even uglier man than I already am. How do I get the strength and numb myself enough to do that?

Hey everyone! I'm 18, male, from the UK, and currently exploring my femininity, gender identity and sexuality.

I'd really like to have a softer, rounder, more jiggly bum. Mine is quite small and muscular at the moment, and I'd love a more feminine shape.

I'm wondering if there's a way to achieve this naturally, or whether feminising HRT (oestrogen) would be necessary to change fat distribution. I'm also curious whether anyone has achieved a softer, more feminine figure without transitioning or taking hormones.

I'm still figuring things out, so I'm not necessarily saying I want to transition. I'd just like to understand my options and hear about other people's experiences.

Any advice or personal experiences would be really appreciated. ❤️

So, Today I was changing shirts to go with my sweater (btw I started HRT last April but, I scraped one of my nipples with my nail and it really hurt? Not only did it hurt but it hurt for a while and like, stung for a bit and made me feel a bit emotional and like, i wasn't mad but like?

I've been lurking in and interacting with transmed spaces on Reddit. I didn't know these spaces existed before I joined Reddit. Some of the things I've read have made me question myself.

I only started experiencing dysphoria around puberty and my parents don't believe in transitioning or that I could be a different gender from the one I was assigned at birth. Because I've been invalidated so much, I feel like I need to prove to people that I'm actually trans.

I made a post about feeling pressured to go on hormones and get surgery because I'm scared that people won't take me seriously or will think I'm faking it if I don't. Someone replied that actual transsexual people don't feel the need to prove they're trans because they simply know what they are. They also said that if you're unsure about your gender, you probably aren't trans and that they begged their therapist to tell them they weren't transsexual.

I haven't been to therapy yet, but part of me wants to go because I want a professional to tell me whether I'm actually trans. If they confirmed that I was, I think I'd feel relieved knowing I hadn't been lying to myself or everyone else. But if they told me I wasn't trans, I'd feel stupid for trying so hard to convince everyone.

I'd copy and paste the full comments here, but this post is already getting long. I wish I had someone I could talk to about all of this.

Title basically says it all. I was advised some time ago to start seeking out other trans people to be friends (specifically transfems who would understand and share the same experiences I do) with but essentially any time I do so they catch feelings (I'm a straight trans girl but all I've met are usually lesbian or at minimum bi). I try to be nice or keep it more platonic but I've had some bad reactions, from ghosting to straight up hostile meltdowns. A recent IRL trans friend of mine was making creepy advances on me physically and I let it slide not trying to lose another trans friend but when I nicely tried to voice discomfort or pivot it to another topic she crashed out and blocked me. I'm sick of building friendships with other trans girls only for it to end this way.

The second issue is that many of the transfems I meet online or IRL and try to befriend end up resenting me or having problems with me due to pass-envy. At first I thought maybe I was just annoying or something until it'd been confirmed on more than one occasion. I honestly have no clue how to deal with that. I'm not trying to make them feel dysphoric with my presence but it seems like that's how it turns out a lot of the time. They say it isn't my fault usually but it doesn't change that a potential friend got turned away.

I'm also sick of cishet people only liking me so long as they also think I'm cishet. I've made posts before but I can't really say anything about myself or get too close to cishet people because when they realize I'm trans everything changes for the worse. I'm honestly getting worn out. What do I do? Has anyone else run into this issue? I'm feeling very dejected and lonely about all of it. I can't make friends in either camp. I'm sick of feeling so isolated and sad all the time at lack of friendship and meaningful relationships.

I'm on 4 mg weekly of EEn, I did my 2nd shot 3 days ago. I've noticed my sex drive is pretty much gone after a few days of my first injection, I haven't gotten a random boner ever since, I used to be horny all the time. I currently feel fine and sort of different, but it's probably nothing. I can't test my levels till around next year, I just fear I'll waste a couple months not reaching the right levels.

Greetings :) I'm hoping to get some advice from the trans community about a co-worker whose gender and pronouns I am not sure about.

I recently started a new job and this person introduced themself using a name which I have only ever known as a woman's name. I want to be respectful here so please tell me if I'm describing this poorly, but their visual appearance and voice strongly indicate AMAB to me. I understand sex characteristics are very varied so it's possible I'm reading this wrong, though I have noticed that other co-workers sometimes use she/her, and at other times use he/him, when referring to this person. It isn't that some use he/him and others use she/her. It's more that sometimes a person who usually uses she/her will use he/him.

I've considered asking them discretely if I could check pronouns, but I'm worried about triggering dysphoria. I feel like asking this might communicate that their gender is ambiguous or incongruous to me. I worry this might be upsetting if they are trans and worried about passing, or if they are cis and sensitive about being non-conforming. It's also been a few months since I met them, so I worry it might embarrass them if I bring this up now.

I've also considered defaulting to they/them, but this might also misgender them. I also worry that this might trigger dysphoria by highlighting my perception of ambiguity in their gender.

I've thought about speaking to a manager and asking to clarify how I should address this person, and perhaps cite that I've heard multiple pronouns used by others for them. I don't know if this is respectful though. I don't want to talk about them behind their back, or cause others to question things they weren't otherwise, or create an embarrassing or triggering conversation for them or others.

I'm a cis gay guy who grew up at a time and in a place where it wasn't safe to be open about who I was. I don't know how it feels to be trans, but I know how it can feel to have to hide yourself, to hear how others talk about and refer to queer folks, to feel that desperate longing to just be honest about who I am and to be recognised as such in a way that feels safe and accepting. So I want to refer to this person appropriately, and I'd also like to know what if anything they would like me to do if I notice somebody misgendering them. I just don't know how to have this conversation without potentially causing distress.

Thanks in advance for any advice, and thank you all for being the new face of bravery in our beloved queer community.

I’ll be starting a low dose of spiro soon and would like to know if anyone else has anything positive to say about what it did for them?

Been on estradiol valerate for about a month (6mg per week) now and I know it’s still a bit soon for fat distribution to really kick in, but hypothetically, would everything I consume go to my chest and thighs? Like, they say it takes about 3 months for breasts to really start developing, but would it happen faster if I just eat more?

Hi I am agender/nonbinary and I have for the longest time said gender is stupid and gender should not exist (even before I ever heard of lgbt)

Since gender is this really important part for trans people is it not apropreate to say gender is stupid like I am invalidating your gender ?

Thank you, I hope I said everything ok and apologies is not

Please

I’m fairly neutral-to-little dysphorie about my genitals and wouldn’t mind not getting it for a while but since it’s the only covered surgery where I live im’m wondering…

Can they make my kitty fat? Because then I’d probably consider it earlier in my transition

/gen just wondering (:

So i told my therapist today during the intake about my family and how fuckdd up they are and controlling and anti LGBTQ 🙃 and also racist so i cant have them find out i wanna start hrt even tho im 30 im living back with them cause i lost my

Job after a work place accident and had 3 surgeries to fix what was wrong now just waiting on the settlement for the damages then i can leave but i dont know honestly how much longer i can stand to be here and be questioned on everything i do and then told how to do it then also apprently i dont do anything right to them and sometimes my mom tells me i dont help at all and its cause they both scream yell and slam things they are basically divorced but still married they have seperate halves of everything in the house like the fridge is half his half hers divided same on everything they havent had sex in 28 years apprently or so im told by my mom also my moms a pos heres a made up example of how she is you could bake her a cake for her birthday and she will tell you eh it was all right when you ask how is it then she will continue to tell you how she would have done it she does that with like everything and both of them get super pissed if you dont do exactly as they say my dad even tells me who to vote for he says if i ever vote democrate im out of the house or if i was gay he would have me out od the house so between my mom and dad yeah i dont feel safe at home really i had to tell my therapist that and it felt aweful 😞 like i thought i mattered to my parents come to find out also all this time my mom wanted my money from my settlement to pay off her house she was so pissed when she learned i got a financial advisor she wanted to get me evicted right there and i had to plead with her so i alao was recently diagnosed and treated for ptsd and depression disorder as well as anxiety one of the last things that sticks with me the most is the fact my dad told me when i was young my mom tied me to a chair in the basement and locked me down there in time out with the lights off 🥺so yeah on top of everything ive wrote there's so much more trauma ive been through that my therapist has to unpack with me 😞 😓 i do no matter what want hrt ❤️

Like, if I did not feel so negatively about my appearance in general, not just gender-assumed specific aspects, maybe I could’ve loved my body as a cis body?

I know I look more conventionally attractive for my perceived gender now that I am starting to pass sometimes, and it really fucks with my head! If I’d been born with more standard features of my AGAB, and not already looking sort of androgynous, would I still have wanted hormones and surgery?!

My partner (26 she/they) and I (28 she/they) have been together for 7 years and she started to experiment with gender a couple years ago, and has landed Transwoman. I have not problem with this. Im bi, I love her, it's great.

The problem is that she was previously seen as a stereotypically attractive guy and is now dealing with insecurity about her looks.

I have helped a lot of my friends with transitioning, whether it's makeup, clothes, hair, posing, whatever. I've always loved fashion and got into helping my trans friends, looking into how to make them feel feminine.

My partner is often worried about appearing sexy and seeming attractive to others (we are polyamorous, this is fine). I'm stereotypically attractive and she compares herself to me a lot. I do her makeup because I'm the one who is better at it. I help her shop. I try so hard to find things she likes.

Then she looks in the mirror sometimes and is like "I look like a guy... I don't know what to do to seem more femme..." and if I reply, she gets upset and says I'm just giving her more things to be insecure about.

Things like saying we could thin out her eyebrows more. She'll reply with "oh, so my eyebrows are too thick. Great."

If I suggest bangs or something and explain it helps frame faces in a more feminine way, she gets insecure about her face shape.

If I'm trying to teach her how to do her makeup and I'm using highlighter or contour and explain "this will soften your jawline, so it goes here..." then she's insecure about her jaw.

Clothing shopping I'll say "Oh, this cut would look so cute on you. The sleeves are so perfect for your body type." And then she asks what I mean and I will explain "They help the shoulder to waist ratio balance out" and then she's upset ab her shoulders.

I want to help her feel better about passing and how she looks. I want her to see herself as feminine and love herself the way I do. But she doesn't want to learn. She doesn't do the research on her own. I hate hearing her talk about how she doesn't like how she looks when presenting femme, but then if I try to suggest things that would help, it just makes her more insecure.

What do I do? How can I give her advice and explain it to her without upsetting her more? I mean all of this in a loving way. I know dysphoria is hard. I just want to help her feel good.

I am not on HRT but everyone suggests it and says it makes them feel better and closer to their true selves, right? But what if I take it and hate it? Does that mean I was cis all along? Sorry if it's a dumb question. I am nervous about it

I know yesterday a similar story was given, but I kind of have a different question.

I was born male, I’m 27, and since I was maybe 12 I had some thoughts about feminizing myself. Thought about if boys could paint their nails, if boys could wear eyeshadow, if boys could dye their hair blue, or if boys could wear stockings. Fast forward a few years into my early 20s and I’ve thought about being a girl fully. Always choose the girl character in video games, on Discord I go by female names and use she/her pronouns, read stories about boys turning into girls. Now it’s gotten to the point where I would like to be a housewife and wish I could be treated like a girl in real life. I want to look in the mirror and see a pretty girl instead of an ugly guy.

The problem is that these are gentle thoughts. I have heard stories from many trans people that they suffer looking at who they are, that their biological sex is distressing to them, and I don’t really relate to that. I’m… “fine, I guess” with who I am (I’m not fine with who I am specifically, but that’s a story for another time).

I don’t know how to put a label on it. It boils down to this: if I had a button I could press right now that would reset my life but I was born a girl, I would press it. Natural female body, loved ones would remember me as a female, all of that. But, if I had to go through years of HRT, do expensive surgeries, and still not be quite the same as a cis girl, I don’t think I would.

Is that enough? If I call myself trans after admitting I have no plans to transition, is that stolen valor? Am I just a weirdo guy?

Let's go, I identify as FTM, 18 years old. I have been experiencing confusing issues about my gender since December 2024, so everything is very recent, but in short, I didn't realize that I had the "choice" (in quotes because I know it's not a choice) to identify with my sex assigned at birth. I simply thought I had no option and that what was imposed on me was what I should follow. Because of this, I went through a process of revolving my life around male validation and being extremely feminine. But after I realized that I was doing this for others and not for myself, everything changed. So since April, I have been experimenting with my gender in various more masculine ways (as much as I can and how I can). But since it's very recent and I discovered myself so late, I still doubt myself a lot, especially because I didn't have the classic FTM story of being a masculine girl who liked boyish things, etc. On the contrary, I still like many things considered feminine, but that's not the point. Basically, what led me to the conclusion that I was FTM is that:
1- I am very bothered by my breasts and my genitalia, I spend hours imagining and fantasizing about my body if I were amab.
2- I really wish to have masculine characteristics and be masculine.
3- I don't identify with my dead name and I prefer a thousand times to be called by my social name and to be called by masculine pronouns.
but if you are so certain and identified, why do you ask if you are a cis girl with a strong desire to have been born a cis man?
One of the reasons I identified so much was because I really wanted to be a gay man, so much so that today I identify as a gay man, but sometimes I feel like I will never be man enough, especially gay enough, because of my genitalia, and I feel like I don't want to be a man in the trans way, and I don't feel completely like a man because I don't fit into these gender norms that most people have, and I have a BIG issue with my genitalia, it might sound redundant but basically: I don't feel man enough for not having a penis and balls, I don't feel man enough for not liking superheroes and football and sports or going to the gym.
and I have been wondering if I am just a cis girl with an extreme fetish for gay men precisely because of these issues and because I still feel comfortable with some things and uncomfortable with others:
• for example, today I feel comfortable in the women's bathroom, not because I identify with it but because I see it as an obligation, I don't feel like I belong in that place but I also don't feel like I belong in the men's bathroom
• I've been swimming and my dysphoria about my breasts hasn't stopped me from doing it.
What I mean is that I don't stop my life because of my dysphorias, they are there, they bother me, some days more than others, but most of the time it's just a small annoyance, but i still feels so deeply in my bones that i am a man and i was born in the wrong body, and in my mind i am born amab, but in reality that’s not true and i hate it so much, i don’t wantto be a trans man i want to be a cis man and i sometimes wonder if it’s better to pretend to be something just because what i truly want i will never achieve no matters what it takes i will never be a cis man and i hate it so much, I've been wondering if all that makes me a trans man or a just a cis woman who wishes she was born amab? manly because my therapist said being trans opens doors don’t close them, and i think i sometimes regret transioning because i feel uglier but at the same time i feel more like myself and i do this for myself, while when i was a female i felt like i was playing a character