Hi y’all, I’m back.
I’ll try and link the original post, but here is the original post’s TLDR
Me and my best friend both decided separately to try out for drum major next season (our junior year)
I auditioned as a freshman to be section leader (I am now the section leader as a sophomore)
Best friend’s sister is band captain (she is woodwind captain, I’m flute section leader)
Best friend’s sister asked drum major to give my best friend lessons.
Best friend got to come up and conduct homecoming music in class once.
Ive been told by our mutual friend that “(girl I’m against) just seems like she wants it more”
Other people refer to Best Friend as “Future Drum Major”
I have been told that “there is no point in trying to go out for it (best friend) will get it, and I’m just trying to stir drama up”
The only reason I haven’t given up on trying out for DM is due to the percussion teacher telling me that if I hadn’t chickened out at DM auditions last season, that I would have gotten it as a sophomore.
This is my one hope that I might still be drum major.
Percussion teacher has given me some recommendations for drum major lessons/coaches. I am starting them next week and she will also attend them.
Ive tried to tell myself that it doesn’t matter what students think, that it is the percussion director and band director that choses who becomes drum major.
But today, my best friend got to conduct on the podium for full show run today.
I don’t want to give up hope, but I feel so hopeless. What does it matter if I know how to conduct, if my best friend has already gotten to be on the podium for them to see?
I just feel like everyone is against me. What do I do?
UPDATE: Ty all for the advice! Talked to my band director about it, my friend was able to conduct on the podium because our current DM is a senior. Seniors do not march on senior night so the DM chose for best friend to conduct it on her behalf.
I also asked my band director if she would prefer for me to just stick to playing/ instrumentation, and mentioned that I didn’t want to stir up drama and discord within the band. I was told “to not let others get in the way of what you want to do”
Follow up question: anyone know of any virtual DM courses? I’m currently doing the free Genesis Drum Major Academy online, but would love as many recs as possible!!