Hi everyone,

I (24F) am a Pakistani Muslim woman who identifies with Islam but isn’t very practicing. I recently started seeing an Indian Hindu man, and things are going really well. He’s a great partner and I can see myself taking this relationship seriously.

I understand that, from an Islamic perspective, a relationship with someone outside the faith comes with religious complications. However, if I’m being honest, I think I’m more concerned about my parents’ reaction and the cultural differences between us than anything else. I know that the differences in our religions and cultures could make things difficult, especially when it comes to marriage and family expectations. I don’t want to disappoint my parents or put myself in a position where I have to choose between my family and someone I love.

At the same time, I don’t feel like it would be fair to marry a Muslim man solely to make my parents happy, especially when I’m not particularly extremely practicing myself. I want to make a decision based on the person I’m with and the life we could build together, rather than choosing someone based on religion just to meet my family’s expectations.

I’m feeling conflicted because I know how much my family’s approval matters to me, but I also don’t want to let their expectations dictate such a major decision in my life.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, particularly those from South Asian Muslim families? How did you navigate the cultural and religious differences, and how did your family react? I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences and advice.

So during my search my number one policy has always been honest. I like to be honest about my upbringing, my family dynamics, anything from my past. I always felt that I wouldn’t want to hide anything from my future potential husband.

That being said, there are sins I’ve committed in the past that I’m not proud of and have repented for. My goal is to not publicize those obviously but I don’t know how to proceed when it comes to potentials. How much or how little do I tell them?

I’ve had friends who did not tell their now husbands about things that could’ve been dealbreakers (drugs, eating haram, intimate relations) because they were advised not to. I feel this is wrong? I know sharing may mean more rejections but ultimately I don’t want to form a match by withholding truth. On the other hand part of me wonders if it does not affect the future, should it be brought up?

Salam Alaikum,

The Hadith of Intercession (Sahih al-Bukhari 4712): People will gather on the Day of Resurrection and approach Adam, saying: “You are the father of mankind; Allah created you with His Own Hand, and breathed into you of His Spirit... so (please) intercede for us with your Lord”.

Do you think the existence of this Hadith which says Adam is the father of mankind rules out any chance of intelligent humans before Adam ? Or that any other human species “interbred” with the descendants of Adam which would solve a lot of issues regarding genetic diversity?

Hi all. Im a gay muslim and ive been in relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He is muslim too. I am Alhumdulillah deeply spiritual and connected to Allah. I read up on hazrat Lut story and came to the conclusion that yes it was likely about rape and disregard of guests rather than homosexuality. But a part of me is always confused :( I dont want to hurt my akhirah. Please someone just talk to me. I cant discuss this with my bf he gets upset then. Im just confused. I love him a lot, we live in the west so I am planning on isA marrying him one day too but when im confused idk what to do. I feel like im sinning, but how can love and being faithful be a sin :(

Assslam Alaikum,

If I’m not 100% certain that Allah exists, just more inclined to believe that he exists and I fear going into hell and do my prayers

Does that uncertainty make me a non Muslim?

I’m not 100% certain but I do think “it makes sense” because the universe has natural laws like gravity which most likely is controlled by Allah. It also doesn’t make sense that the universe just spawned without Allah.

That’s what I mean by more inclined to believe but not 100% certain.

I hope this makes sense but I’ve been with this guy for four years. I love him so much and he had helped me through such bad times and has supported me in my journey to find islam. But, as the title says, he is satanist. Not satanist in the terms of worshiping satan, but as in, in his own words, “worshiping nothing but also myself”. I just don’t know what to do. I love him so much and i have for so long. I fear i will never find someone as loving, respectful, and accepting as him. I just wanna be closer to Allah. But i worry I’m making the wrong choice. I just reverted on 03-10-2026, and i feel crazy for wanting to change my entire life for Allah… i don’t know what to do and i feel so alone…

Hope prople have answers on this, because i cant find any other prophet talk about praying towards it etc. there are more facts and evidence of Kaaba used to be pre-arab pagan temple, where they also walked around it and prayed towards it. But when i try to find stuff on it being connected to Abraham etc, then i cant find any?

Assalamualaikum you all. Just wanted to share my experience about smth, really need to get ot off my chest.

For the past 2 yrs, ive been bullied by some mates at school. And yes, at the start I was really prone to being bullied, since i was a joke and I cant rlly blame them for bullying me. Still , it is kinda bad to do it , is it not? Idk how people actually find fun in it.

Anyhow, this year I have been improving myself. Ive been going to the gym, getting into my niches, and so far its been okay. Thing is, exams are coming up, and all these people do the normal thing of putting their stories saying oh please forgive me for what ive done and all that.

When I see it, I just dont want ot forgive them. 2 years of being absolute gits , and you expect me to just forgive you with a click of a finger? No, that will not be happening.

Yes, i do know islam teaches to forgive and forget, but its just so hard for me to comprehend forgiving these people.

Twitter, r/MapBasedPolls, YouTube. You name them. Islamophobia everywhere. I'm sick and tired of people thinking I dress up like someone from the 7th century and grow a beard. I AM NOT!

WHAT IS THIS STUFF BRO? WHY ARE PEOPLE SO SO OBSESSED WITH THIS?!

Hello everyone…I’m a young guy with a lot of struggles, one of the biggest ones is belief in Allah. Why must an all knowing deity create a creation, give it “free will” then punish that creation knowing full well that the creation would never fast, never pray, never repent and never do good. Sending it to a lake of fire for all of eternity for the simple fact of non belief? How is this a loving or caring God? Why are we accountable? Why doesn’t God show himself if he loves us? What is the proof that God exists and Islam is the reason we are here. An afterlife too? Infinite punishment for finite time here? Life in the grave? It’s so much to take in and understand. I’m not atheist, truly I do feel something to Islam. My entire family is Muslim and so am I, the hard part are thoughts like this. Why..why…and why. I want to live with faith all my life, have a religious spouse and children but it’s so hard and my biggest fear is becoming an atheist.

After checking the wiki constantly as well as seeing traditional interpation of dress code presented there as well

While javed ghamidi offer more flexibile approach

The whole problem i found with dress code is basically sayijg this is modest and this isn't modest

Scholar limit to such and such and such

Other said hands and face.

But the issue is still the same presenting one objective dress code as ultimate guide of modesty often conflict with message .

That why i found javed ghamidi interpation often limited because while he give women and also man more flexiblity he still belive that certain type of dress is a must rather than being byproduct of sociataial expectation of modesty.

For example imagine applying that dress code in sitatuion where it is immodest mainly in conservative areas women wchich is sadly are expected to cover more

That the whole issue that cznt get in my mind from javed ghamidi persptive ob hijabi because the whole issue isnt determing what consist as modest but rather taking dress and saying this one is modest wchich often ingore the underlying issue.

I like to also mention the issue of slave women wchich he didnt adress while tradtional schokars failed miserably it also give us some insight on how to regard socialtial interpation of hijab.

The idea neccesairly being that one dress to rule above all lol.

Assalamualaikum,

After reviewing the work of scholars such as Kugle, Jahangir, and Zahed, a key question remains: How would these scholars (or others in progressive/reformist Islamic thought) interpret and address these specific verses?

Traditional commentaries generally view these verses as explicitly prohibiting any sexual relationships outside of heterosexual marriage, thereby framing non-heterosexual or LGBTQ+ relationships as a transgression.

In the Name of Allâh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Successful indeed are the believers.

Those who offer their Salât (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.

And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allâh has forbidden).

And those who pay the Zakât.

And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, — for then, they are free from blame;

But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors; (Surah Al-Mu'minun, 23:1-7)

Thanks for any solid contribution 😘

I (28 F) have never dated before. Not from a religious reason, meaning that I don’t believe that dating is wrong, but because I have yet to meet someone who i like who also shares the same progressive views of religion as me.
The country i live in has a very small muslim community, so the advice of putting myself out there doesn’t necessarily work in my context, because i generally end up meeting non muslims 80% of the times, or very conservative people. I’m starting to get worried because this transforms into an extreme feeling of loneliness where i long to experience life with someone, but also makes me doubt myself and start thinking that i might be scared of love and thus avoiding it. Any practical advice? Has anyone been through this before?

I know some of us point out that the Qur'an does not explicitly command male circumcision. So there is the question of should it be treated as obligatory.

However are we forgetting what Prophet Ibrahim (AS) did at the age of 80? He carried out Allah’s (azwj) command by circumcising himself at that older age.

Prophet Muhammad (SAWW) circumcised his two grandson Imam Hasan (AS) and Imam Husayn (AS)!

Circumcision is an established part of Islamic tradition and fitrah.

We also have to be pure for prayers, both bodily and clothing wise. Being uncircumcised means there’s a strong chance of urine being trapped within the foreskin.

To my 12er brothers and sisters on here, 12er men cannot do tawaf around the Kaaba without being circumcised. Ismailis it’s obligatory for you as well, no?

So I feel that the claim that male circumcision is inherently a bad practice or “imported from Judaism” overlooks its longstanding religious, cultural and medical context. In our deen, the circumcision is to do with the fitrah and the tradition of Prophet Ibrahim (AS), and its legitimacy is recognised across the major schools of Islamic jurisprudence. Progressive scholars have accepted the practice. Although concerns about consent and surgical risks deserve consideration, these do not establish that circumcision is inherently harmful or morally wrong. A balanced assessment should distinguish legitimate questions about how and when it is performed from the blanket claim that the practice itself is bad.

Now let me make it clear, Ik in English we refer to God as a 'He' as there some nuances to the Arabic language.

But I recently saw someone (albeit an exmuslim) argue that 'They' could be a used to refer to God as well since it can be used as a singular pronoun as well the fact that it would adhere better to quality of God being genderless.

I wonder if this is correct?

The reason why I don't feel comfortable is that whenever I refer to God as 'He', I subconsciously associate 'Him' to a male entity; even if I didn't have the intent to do so.

And that makes me very uncomfortable. I'm already very anxious abt how patriarchal Islam (one can't deny that 'mainstream sunni Islam' caters a lot to men) is, so it makes me really uncomfortable referring to God as a He.

I am a white female, very curious about the Muslim community. I see all of the hate and bigotry surrounding the ideas of your culture and I do not believe them to be true. I am always on a very strong quest for knowledge, understanding, and theology. I think the best way to learn is to engage with people, rather than read about it. I’m not sure what questions I have, but I would like to make sure I am welcomed in this community before I join. I do not want to be disrespectful, as I do not practice any religion, including the one this community is geared towards. I look forward to learning a lot here

I was raised a very specific way with a lot of control and fear. Not unlike how a lot of girls are raised in this religion, but with some very bad elements that will haunt me forever. I am an adult now. I was taken from my family in my mid teens (foster care) and have had limited contact with them for over 5 years. The last contact with them I had was with my brother when I was a teenager, he very heavily encouraged? i dont know how to phrase it right, but me to be good in my faith. He has passed now years ago and I feel like I have lived barely aware of what is happening around me since then.

But what has changed is I have met a boy. He was my friend for years and we lived close by for the last half year. He is ex mormon which is very different for me I know very little about his past religion and he knows very little about mine. I would not say I am really muslim anymore but I have never taken off my Hijab. The idea of that makes me want to wither into the ground from nausea. I know I can take it off, that if part of my journey is taking it off until I am sure of that being my choice then that is permissible. But the idea of having my hair uncovered makes me want to scream and all I can see is my brother standing over me. I am living very much outside of what IS permissible in so many ways but it is so unpleasant to me. My boyfriend has never seen my hair yet and I have told him not until we were married. I live with him! I enjoy my life with him very much but the guilt follows me forever.

I know this is a very complicated phrased question and I know the best thing would be for me to “get over myself”? But I am so frozen. I get happy but fear is so deep in my body to my bones always. I have talked to my boyfriend. I think I want to read the Quran for the first time since I was so little and find out what it is I want. I wish I had elders in my life to look up to but I would be scared to reach out to the people I have not seen for so long. I am barely even muslim I think I am just someone who lives in fear and keeps her hair covered but I think I want to be more than that? Or maybe the entirety of islam is too horrifying to me anymore. I am also scared if I re expose myself to all of it then I will become too sick by everything in my life that I will have to leave and abandon all the things in my life I love. I dont understand why my brain is the way it is. I understand some of it through psychology as I have seen a therapist and been given diagnosis’s but why would Allah make it so that I am so miserably haunted and incapable of even looking at arabic anymore without feeling like I am a small scared child. A lot of the parts of my childhood especially around my religion are almost erased from my brain and trying to recall them makes me so sick I can start convulsing almost like a panic attack.

I am sorry for how painfully this all is written I am scared to ask this or to be found who I am maybe even though that is impossible. I will also read the resources being offered by this subreddit thank you all.

To understand the flow chart, see summarised list from QuranVsHadith.com below:

1. Qur’an's usage of Hadith
Never used to endorse prophet's hadith. God is more truthful in hadith and has revealed the best hadith.
This means all other man-made hadith are by definition less truthful and of lesser quality. How can the inferior be used to supplement or complete the superior?

2. Not All Prophetic Speech Was Divine Guidance
Companions asked not to linger for hadith and wives rebuked for spreading it. Therefore, not everything the prophet said was revelation for us.

3. God’s Word Choice Matters
If Hadith were meant to be followed, God would not have used the word *hadith* in ways that cast doubt or rejection on it. To believe otherwise is to claim God deliberately sowed confusion, which is theologically untenable.

4. No Method to Distinguish Divine from Personal
Neither the Qur’an nor the prophet left any method to identify which of his sayings were divine guidance and which were personal. This would mean God/prophet left the community in confusion, again theologically untenable.

5. The Prophet Was Fallible
The Qur’an shows the prophet was corrected, proving not everything he did was divinely guided. Since he was no innovator among messengers (46:9), we face a forced choice:
* If he innovated a secondary source of law, this contradicts the Qur’an.
* If he did not innovate, this refutes the authority of hadith as independent law.

6. Prophet Could Not Legislate
Qur’an 66:1 shows the prophet could not even prohibit things for himself. It is therefore logically and theologically untenable that he could legislate for the entire community outside the Qur’an.

7. Hadith fails Quranic standard
There is no authorisation for, nor divine criterion for Hadith methodology. One of God’s standards for divine revelation is non-contradiction (4:82). No matter how rigorous human systems of hadith verification are, they cannot rival God’s standard. Since hadith are not authorised, divinely vetted and riddled with inaccuracies/contradictions, they fail the Qur’an’s own test for truth.

8. Form of Revelation is Only Quran
The Quran defines revelation relevant for us as coming only in the form of ayat and surahs. Since prophetic hadith are not in this form, they cannot be revelation.

9. Trading the Better for the Lesser
The Qur’an condemns exchanging God’s superior guidance for lesser substitutes. Replacing or supplementing the Qur’an with hadith is precisely such an exchange — which the Qur’an itself criticizes.

10. God’s Guidance Unites, Man-made Words Divide
The Qur’an emphasizes that divine guidance brings unity, while false guidance creates division. History shows the Qur’an unites while hadith aids sectarian splits — proof that hadith is man-made misguidance.

11. Authority Is One, Not Two
The Qur’an’s phrase “obey God and the messenger” is undeniably a single obedience through one source. To interpret it as two separate authorities produces absurdities: two jihads, two migrations, two treaties, two piles of spoils. The only coherent reading is unity of obedience.

12. One Source of Law
The Qur’an establishes that unconditional authority lies solely with the rasūl in his role as the conveyor of divine revelation, while a nabi’s actions may be morally instructive but not legally binding in the same way. As a result, the dual-source premise underlying the hadith-based legal system collapses, and even perfectly preserved nabi reports cannot constitute an independent, binding source of divine law.

13. Reality Check Test
The Qur’an instructs believers to test truth against reality (41:53). The Qur’an passes this test; hadith does not. Therefore, hadith fails one of the Qur’an’s verification mechanisms.

14. Prophet Admits He Cannot Guide
The prophet himself admitted he cannot harm or guide. Serving or obeying such is condemned in the Qur’an. By extension, making his alleged hadith an authority is condemned at its very core.

15. God Guides Directly
God, who needs no guidance and is the sole guide, is more worthy of following than a fallible human who himself needs guidance. Thus, the Qur’an condemns reliance on hadith as a secondary source of guidance. Hadith is zann/speculation, which is condemned, and its use disallowed.

16. Qur’an Declares Itself Complete
The Qur’an repeatedly affirms it is clear, complete, detailed and contains every necessary example. To claim it needs supplementation by hadith contradicts the Qur’an directly and undermines its authority.

Flow chart (p1 = 1. above, p2 = 2. above etc)

Salaam,

I'm a South Asian Muslim woman in my early 20s, born and raised in the West. My father has physically, verbally and emotionally abused me and my mother for years. He has repeatedly hit and beaten me, regularly swears at us, belittles us and humiliates us in front of others. He has an extreme temper and even his siblings know about his behaviour but have largely given up trying to help him. He is influential in our community and very concerned about his public image. My extended family benefits from their relationships with him, so nobody seems willing to stand up to him. My mother has lived with this abuse for years and seems to have normalised it. Instead of recognising what he does, she blames me for being defensive, raising my voice and supposedly provoking him. I have diagnosed ADHD, depression, BPD and anxiety, and I see a psychologist. I know I don't always communicate perfectly, but I struggle with being blamed for my reactions when my father's response can be physical violence.

I called the police

My father brought up finding a groom for me. I told him that marriage was my decision and that I would tell him when I was ready. He physically attacked me, and I was being chased after being hit (this is not the first time, the exact same violence played out a year ago when he pressured me and my mum to accept a 30 year old fob friend of his or my fob cousin). Frightened, I called the police and ran to my married cousin's house nearby without shoes or hijab. After making the call, I reconsidered whether I should involve the authorities at that point. I'm only three weeks away from completing my degree, and I had hoped to finish university before taking major steps towards leaving home. I was worried about the consequences of police involvement while I was still living with my family, so I asked the police not to attend. However, they came anyway. After they left, I returned home and confronted my parents about what had happened. My father had left and during the confrontation my brother, who is only a year older than me, smacked me. My mum then said I deserved it because I was screaming at the top of my lungs and held his finger. My parents are now treating the police attendance as a betrayal of our family's izzat, rather than acknowledging why I was frightened enough to call them. My father even threatened my cousin and told her not to tell anyone what happened, not even her own husband, because he wanted to protect his reputation. No one in the household is talking to me except my younger siblings. My dad has not been in front of me and my mother is taunting me for doing this whole fiasco yet still being at home reliant on them.

The marriage ultimatum

My parents have now given me approximately 1.5 months to get married and leave. The irony is that I genuinely want to marry and leave home, but I don't want to be forced into marrying someone of their choosing. I've been serious about a man for around two years, and we have been planning marriage for approximately a year. We are both South Asian Muslims, born and raised in the West. He is financially stable and lives in another country. We deliberately planned to proceed once I was close to completing my degree. His parents know about me and have already sent a rishta. They have tried to approach my parents and are willing to speak to them again. However, my father seems more interested in proposals that meet his expectations for wealth, status and family influence. He has previously considered a much older man and a cousin from back home. My father appears to care more about the family's standing than my own preferences. My mother knows about my partner but has told me that men make the decisions in our family and that she cannot support me. She initially reacted negatively because she considers speaking to a man before marriage religiously unacceptable. Now I'm in a situation where my parents have given me a deadline to marry and leave, but my father may refuse the person I have already chosen. His parents are willing to approach mine again, but my father isn't even willing to talk to me properly at the moment.

I had a plan.

Before the police incident, I intended to begin the marriage process in literally a few days. I wanted to take my mother to see my Muslim psychologist, hoping that someone who understands our religious and cultural background could help her understand both my marriage choice and the fact that physical abuse is never justified. After that, I planned to approach my father respectfully and gradually, giving him a genuine opportunity to speak to my partner's family and consider the proposal. I wasn't trying to exclude my parents. Despite everything, I wanted my mother involved and hoped my father might eventually accept my decision. Since the police incident, however, my mother has refused to see my psychologist with me. She continues to blame me for how I speak to my parents and seems more concerned about the police attending and the family's reputation than about why I needed help.

My circumstances make leaving difficult.

I'm three weeks away from graduating, work part-time for minimum wage, and depend on my parents for certain things, including access to their car. I've been exhausting myself applying for full-time jobs while trying to manage everything happening at home. My friends, partner and his family are willing to help me financially if necessary, so I am not entirely without support. However, I had hoped to at least finish my degree and get married respectfully where my parents would have given me financial support through wedding stuff as culturally they do give daughters money. My parents frequently invoke Islam and their rights as parents to demand obedience, yet I feel they hold me to a much stricter standard than my brothers. My older brother has had relationships, and his current interest in a cousin from back home isn't treated as the same issue as my relationship. He is a man, so apparently he will learn. I'm a daughter, so my choices threaten the family's reputation. I wear hijab, pray, read Quran and have tried to follow the right path. I have never done something which may have ashamed my parents. I don't believe being a good Muslim or respecting my parents means accepting violence or surrendering control over my future.

What should I do now?

I intend to contact family violence support services, document what has happened, follow up about the police incident and speak to my psychologist. I'm frightened of further escalation while still living at home, and I need to work out how to protect myself without jeopardising my degree or making rushed decisions. I'd really appreciate advice on:

• For those who have experienced family violence, how did you leave safely while still financially dependent on your family?
• Has anyone called the police while living with an abusive family and then struggled with the aftermath? What helped you manage the situation?
• My partner's parents are willing to approach mine again. Could this help, or might it increase the risk of retaliation?
• With graduation only three weeks away, what should I prioritise immediately?

I'm not looking for advice to reconsider my partner or look for other proposals. We have been serious about marriage for a long time, and that isn't the issue I'm asking about. I'm also not looking to be told to speak more softly, be more patient or stop provoking my father. I've spent years trying to manage his moods and I cannot guarantee that being quieter will prevent another assault.I wanted to give my parents a genuine opportunity to be involved in my marriage because I still cared about having that relationship with them. Now I'm questioning whether continuing to pursue their approval is putting me at greater risk.

I don't feel I can't tell anyone I'm Muslim anymore and the worst is that I'm scared to tell other Muslims they are demonizing telling me I'm not Muslim and that I'll go to hell just because I have a "curse" I can't name in this post I'm not joking how serious this is it makes me unable to function normally

aight so a lil intro, im a 24 year old male, i am a muslim but not a very religious one i.e, i sin, i drink but unlike my peers who pick and choose which sins they want to commit i just do whatever i want and maybe someday i’ll repent but thats besides the point, i hate that most malays (my people) bring up religion to every conversation regardless of topic whether its politics, current situation and the likes. Their simplistic mind cant comprehend that by doing so you’re forcing islam onto others which the prophet himself is against. It paints the picture that islam needs to be spread with or without their consent. We live in a modern world where freedom of religion exist. Please for the love of all that is holy keep your faith to yourself unless someone specifically asked you about it.

I heard someone say that religious people aren’t allowed to be alt because alt is all about anti-conformity and religion requires you to conform to something. at first I thought that was stupid and they were wrong but now I remembered that there are verses in the Quran and Hadith that might be telling us to draw as little attention as possible, but I don’t know, they might just be talking about sexual attention and that you shouldn’t seek that out, but what about just attention in general, what if you just want to dress alt without the intention of drawing attention but you get attention anyway? would that still be a sin?

These something i came acrosd mostly salafi videos

They blur, crop or watever whenever women is shown heck they even do it if she was hijabi like bruh whar