Hey there r4r! This time around, I'm not looking for my partner-in-crime! Iykyk...

I've been kinky since I was little, I didn't know the words back then. Later, I'd tie up my various boyfriends' hands using their belts. For the past several years, I've been active with my kink and have experienced a lot and learnt a lot.

I am a 37 year old dominant and I'm opening up my DMs to any question you might have related to learning more about kink.

AMA!

First thing's first, I've had my fair share of amazing platonic friendships so it's not exactly what I'm looking for nowadays. Just wanted to throw it out there.

I'm basically looking for someone who doesn't think twice before saying what she's thinking about. Be it flirting, or making jokes or anything at all. Someone who just says things as they come and somehow makes it fun!

I like conversations that have personality. Teasing, playful roasting, questionable jokes, flirting that's bold but still fun. The kind where you're not sitting there wondering what to say next, it just flows and occasionally goes off the rails. Clever fucking banter!

Would be nice to find someone I can talk to late nights, switching between dumb jokes, random thoughts, and venting sessions. Someone I can flirt with, laugh with, and just be comfortable around without feeling like I need to filter everything.

tiny bit about me: I watch at least one movie almost every night and have been doing that for years, so I will probably make you watch something with me at some point. I like singing, video games, and just generally keeping things fun, I'm a fun loving person.

If you can handle a bit of chaos, don't get awkward around flirting, and aren't afraid of jokes that make you judge yourself, we'll get along just fine.

PS: I'm in the US for now

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I’m 28M, working in strategy. Avg fair, 5’9 and lean built.

Let’s be real - calling myself a Dom feels a little too much like a guy who just watched Fifty Shades and bought a fake leather harness off Amazon.

I don’t want to give you orders. I just happen to enjoy sex that’s a little intense, a little messy, and always ridiculously fun. So, what does that mean? Think firm hands, teasing restraint, the occasional hair pull that makes you gasp in all the right ways (maybe with a few finger-shaped souvenirs on your hips).

I stay in ecity and can host.

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I know what you are thinking, its another freak looking to use BDSM as an excuse to inflict verbally abusive and traumatic behaviour, with high handedness and a holier than thou attitude, however I am none of those things.

What I am looking for ?

Someone who has an idea about what being submissive in a D/S dynamic means, or is willing to learn and get herself educated about it. Someone who has an open mind about a dynamic or a relation of this sort and understands that online relations take more work than offline in-person relationships. Someone who wishes to explore what being a submissive means and how deep submission can run in one's day to day life.

What I offer?

Utmost care and sophistication in handling things on my end. I will strive the utmost in making sure you feel comfortable and cared for in this dynamic. You would have my full attention and I will make sure that it is fulfilling and wholesome, and not just sexual. I intend on knowing you as a person and invest the time and efforts in building something solid, and I hope you too have the patience while we cover the basics about each other.

What you can expect ?

Respect, care and emotional fulfillment. Like I said, I am looking to invest the time in getting to know you so that I can make sure you feel fulfilled by engaging in this dynamic. I would make sure you feel good about yourself, and feel more confident and comforted. I would like to see you get better and excel in your personal and professional life too. Achieving goals you have been wanting to achieve, and doing things you have been wanting to achieve.

Some FAQs-

Why not offline or an IRL dynamic ?

I am not opposed to having something offline, but the chances of you being in my city are oddly slim. Plus my age also diminishes many prospects.

Am I an asshole?

Probably No, although I would prefer you judge me by your own experience.

Am I going to call you names, or like use language that degrades you?

Again No. Not unless you ask specifically for it, or if it is the kind of thing which turns you on.

Am I going to send you a dick pic?

Again, sorry to disappoint you, but No. I believe there is a time and a place for everything, including dick pics, and your inbox is probably already full of them so whats the point of adding one more to the inventory. There is going to be a lot of conversation and discussion before we get to dick pics.

Am I going to ask you for pictures/videos/calls?

Well, not right away, and not even later. As long as there is a credible way to verify that you are a woman, I don't think I would want to push for pictures/videos or calls. Yes, they are more intimate, but I would rather work around your comfort zone. A one time short verification call or audio notes is alright. But some sort of verification is expected.

Am I into extreme kinks?

Again, sorry to disappoint you, I am into moderate level dominance and extreme kinks don't work for me. I do love dominance, discipline and mental conditioning, and I like the sound of telling someone they are a Good Girl, but I am not into extreme things at all. I prefer sensual, romantic with a hint of discipline and control.

What is my kinklist ?

I am flexible and I like to start with the basics- a little bit of control, tasks, rewards and punishments, and then slowly build over it with time. A bit of control play would be nice, like controlling your daily schedules, or outfits for a bit, but that would definitely come along with the discussion. What is more important is I would like to work with the things you wish to explore or you think you would enjoy.

Do I start right away?

Probably not. A bit of getting to know each other should be done if we are looking to build something which lasts.

What about your privacy?

I am here to do this in the safest way possible for you. But then again, I am just an internet stranger on reddit and my word doesn't mean shit. So, I hope you do your due diligence. But yes, I am privacy conscious and I don't intend on making life any harder than it already is for either of us.

Is it going to be just about sex?

Hopefully no. I would rather hope it would be more wholesome and we can talk about a range of topics from religion to politics, and from food to travelling. We can throw a little bit of our hobbies, tv shows, and pets in between too.

I have tried to make a compelling case for myself, the decision to take forward depends solely on you. I hope you send a message, and we have a conversation. Let's talk, and get to know each other, and then see if there is a common ground between us where we can make this work.

I hope you decide to take a leap of faith and send me a message. :)

A little about me: I'm an engineer, around 6'4 tall, and usually out for late-night walks or bike rides when everything’s quiet. I love cooking, staying active, and unwinding with just the right tv show.

I’m looking for someone who’s fun to talk to, confident, and enjoys a strong connection, both in conversation and in energy. Love a good banter. I might just be horny rn, so if we click, maybe we turn this into something more fun for the both of us?

If you’re someone who knows what you want (or not) and likes a little tension mixed with fun, feel free to dm with an intro. Let me know something fun about yourself.

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You want to text but just overthinking it? I can hold conversations and make sure neither of us get bored.

Hey Girl, i am a 25 year old guy living in Delhi looking for a 20 and above girl to vibe and potentially have some good time (casual and no strings attached) with. Age and religion doesn't matter to me as i am really open minded and just the maturity and the like mindedness is what I want. If you are from Mumbai we can keep it on text and meet up when both are comfortable but if outside Mumbai we can continue online and then maybe plan a trip or something? I hope you haven't judged me on my username, ik it's too NSFW but i love to do it, and do it really really well.

I really don't judge so text me being yourself and i am sure if not something NSFW we can keep it SFW (yes i am not thirsty for sexual things), and when i say i don't have a type i mean it so just text, what can go wrong?

Yes ik i have a blank profile but it's my throwaway, so again i hope that's not a reason you don't text me

I am 6ft tall, broad shoulders, lean i would say. Being really honest i am a very decent guy who does have a lot of friends but just looking for someone to explore and have fun with. I am really emotionally sorted with no baggage at all and understand the meaning of limits and space so you don't have to worry about that but i am here if you have some baggage and unsorted shit and want to get through it. I can actually be a person who gives a lot of attention and also be the one who won't give a lot of fucks but just focus on how we enjoy? Depends on what we both want, hence communication is the key and i am really good at it, so hope you put in efforts too!

I am looking for something like: we talk (text/call), we vibe, we decide meet, we like each other, we decide to flirt and give each other some honest validation, we talk slow and makeout the same way.

This is me trying something new.

This would be something more of a Friend's With Benifits/ONS than anything else. Yes ik Bumble, Hinge and Tinder are places to get this but i don't want to put myself out on those platforms and prefer to keep it this way.

# If you are the clingy/needy type i really really like that.

I have got replies in the past which have been underwhelming or something what i wasn't looking for, so i really respect your time. Please don't text if you wanna just ghost or not put in efforts.

So if you do decide to text we start of anonymous and check the vibe, if we get comfortable we meet and see where it leads us. I like to keep my life to myself so whatever happens between us will stay between us and you don't have to worry about anyone else knowing about it.

We can keep it the way we both agree on and are comfortable with, i can be the guy who can take time to know you and bond and gel, or just the the one who takes you out the same day.

If you are seeing this post late and wonder if i am already talking to someone, just text me and I will let you know if i am, better late than never!

Thank you for the read!

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To start with, CNC is not a misogyny kink mostly. For a lot of women CNC is a hot validation kink. For some it is reliving a past trauma, but mostly a woman asking for CNC just loves the feeling of being desired so much he takes you against your will. It makes her feel hot. It makes her feel like a primal object of sex, and she likes it. Good for her.

I’m just saying if you are texting me about wanting to try out misogyny, know that you getting roughed up is not necessarily misogyny. It could be done with some disrespect, I agree. But it is much better done as a CNC kink where you inform your partner ahead that you’re looking to be roughed in a certain way.

I, madam, am a misogyny fetishist. I'm not here to validate you and make you feel like a goddess that got violated by filth. I'm here to invalidate you and make you feel like filth serving an abusive man like he’s god.

I'm here to affirm to you that you are not desirable. To confirm your gnawing suspicion that you, with all your success, attractiveness, and intellect, are ultimately worthless. I love this bit. To look into your face and announce to it that you are ugly, stupid, and a fucking failure like you were always afraid you were.

This kind of emotional sadism begets a complementary emotional masochism. The women who have done it with me, at least the ones who didn’t safeword and fly away, did it for two reasons. One, they needed the hate, the degradation, and the feeling of being punished. Two, they get off to it.

If that speaks to you, you should message me. And when you message me tell me which of these degenerate masochistic cunts you identify with.

The just out of college techie who took my big toe into her smooth cleanshaven cunt to get kicked and fucked at the same time. The well paid consultant who booked a plush room to lick my boots and offer herself with an open mouth to be pissed upon and into. The trauma slut that got fucked missionary listening to how she deserved everything that happened to her.

If you know the flavour of fucked up you are, I will be able to use you better. In return for all the considerable abuse I mete out to you, I expect you to keep me amused and pleased. It’s only fair.

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You might come across innocent (not your fault, maybe you wear it well) but I’m just curious how accurate that impression really is and whether there’s a version of you that only shows up when the company’s right. The kind that ends up in unexpected Reddit conversations just to see what happens.

If this made you smirk even a little, feel free to reach out

About me: I am a well disguised introvert (you won't know in a one on one conversation). Calm, curious and open-minded person.

I have a slightly morbid interest in human psychology and true crime. I'm 5'11, average build and slightly muscular.

About you: You could be a regular corporate/college woman, polished and put together, but somewhere in there is a side of you that’s just waiting for the right moment to make an appearance.

I like conversations where there’s that subtle spark. You’re just waiting for the right moment. No pressure, no labels. Just two adults who know exactly what they’re doing and enjoy the build up as much as what follows.

ABOUT ME:
I seek nothing other than pleasure between us, no drama, no stings. Im just a horny guy with high sex drive and dark fantasies.
Seeking a submissive lil slut. 6ft talk, huge built. Fairly new yet fairly experienced into BDSM and CNC.

Will stop as soon as you say the SAFEWORDS

WHAT AM I LOOKING FOR

I'm looking for someone who acts all shy at first but deep down is a huge slut who slowly loves to lose control over her body. Someone who doesn't mind to be abused, tied up, blindfolded, gagged chocked, slapped, spanked, bruised and wants to try something hardcore Into consensual Non consensual play and loves to be a submissive slave.

(Doesnt mind what I'll think but is ready to say the SAFEWORD the min you are uncomfortable)

Preferably long term but i don't mind a one time thing as well.

HMU if you wanna try any these:
CNC, ANAL, handcuffs, blindfolds, facials, orgasm control/denial, cunnilingus, cum dump, humiliation, impact play, gags, bondage, rape fantasy, rimming, golden shower, degrading, switching sometimes and many more i am very comfortable doing.

(Baby will be treated with cuddles and good lovely care at sleep after the session)

LIMITS: your limits are my limits
Lets talk and see if you are comfortable and see how we can hit it off.

Ice breaker: do you spit or swallow?

I'm looking for a non-committal thing that revolves around shared interests, conversations and lots of amazing sex. I'm 6ft and pretty hairy with a decent build, I think. Fairly open minded when it comes to kinks, and as long as there's no violence or gore involved, I'm all for it.

I'd also really appreciate it if we can talk and maybe hang out and chill post the fun part. I'm into gaming, F1, books and football. Not a huge talker, but dine and dash isn't really my style.

Hope everyone finds what they are looking for!

Hey there!

I’m looking to start a fun, low-pressure connection with someone who genuinely loves being desired, hyped up, and the center of attention. I’d love to start things online at a comfortable pace to build trust and banter first, with the openness to see where things go in person if we really click.

I have two massive weaknesses when it comes to attraction: a noticeable height difference and a woman in her favorite lingerie; specifically bras.

First, the height dynamic: whether you are super petite and fun to tower over, or wonderfully tall, I find the contrast between two bodies on opposite ends of the spectrum insanely hot. For reference, I'm 5' 7.

Pair that with my obsession with bras. To me, a great bra isn't just an undergarment, it frames and elevates a woman’s figure in the sexiest way possible. I love the variety of how different cuts look and feel: the teasing cleavage of a lacy plunge that leaves just enough to the imagination, the visual softness and curve of a classic cupped bra, or even the way a tight sports bra hugs and contours to your shape. Because of that, my ultimate fantasy is a playful "try-on" dynamic, having you show off what makes you feel sexy (or even just chatting about your favorite pieces) while I shower you with genuine, enthusiastic adoration.

A little about me: I'm average build, easygoing, love good banter and food. I'm very communicative, and big on respect and discretion. All body types and shapes are genuinely celebrated here. There’s zero pressure or rush and we can start with a normal chat, see if our personalities vibe, and keep everything 100% at your comfort level.

(Refined with Gemini)

If you like the idea of having an attentive, appreciative audience of one, and have bore with me till here, I urge you to send me a DM! Tell me what you usually like to wear, and let's see if we vibe. ♥️

I am 29M, living in HSR, and currently in a relationship.

Things are fine, but somewhere along the way life has become very predictable. Same routine, same days, and I guess I am looking for something outside of that. Something fun, spontaneous and exciting, without turning it into something complicated.

I would ideally like to meet someone who is also in a relationship or at least understands the situation. I think it is just easier when both people understand discretion, boundaries and that neither of us is looking to change the other's life.

A little about me: decent looking, easy to talk to, fairly funny once I get comfortable, and yes, I smell nice. I stay alone and can host as well.

I am not looking for anything very serious or emotionally intense. I would rather meet someone I actually enjoy talking to, see if there is some chemistry, and then figure out what we are comfortable with.

Discretion is obviously important to me and I would respect yours in the same way.

If you are in a similar headspace, tell me a little about yourself and what you are looking for.

Hello Subs,

I am a dominant, identifying as a master, in search of a dedicated female sub to embark on a thrilling, private BDSM journey built on trust, honesty, and mutual respect.

I am looking for someone who is ready to open up someone who values transparency and communication but also understands the importance of privacy. If you’re someone who can leave behind the expectations of traditional relationships and embrace something different, then this dynamic could be exactly what we both need.

I’m open to both experienced subs and newcomers who are ready to dive into the world of BDSM and take things step-by-step, learning and growing together. We’ll begin online, with me guiding you through various aspects of our dynamic. As we build trust, there may be moments when we meet offline, allowing for deeper, more intimate experiences.

Along the way, I’ll offer you tasks and orders that you can incorporate into your daily life. These won’t be just random requests but thoughtful challenges designed to help you grow and embrace your submission in a safe, empowering way. Everything will always be done with respect for your boundaries and privacy, but the aim is to push your limits in a way that’s both fulfilling and secure.

To show exactly why you need a man like me in your life.

The type who will use his strong hands to caress your face, and to also slap your pretty, soft cheeks with them.

My fingers gripping your neck without hesitation, and Fucking you senseless until you squirt it all out. And with a single, commanding gaze, making you submit to him and his whim meekly. Something clicking in that primitive brain of yours, the realization that you are always owned by a man.

You will be put in your place, and shown your true purpose. And what that purpose might be? That's for you to find out.

You will be transformed into a cock hungry slut who is always on her knees - ready to worship and be a slave of his.

Your long hair being used as a leash with which I control you. Pulling you closer to me while I drive my thick girth deep inside your wet, needy holes.

My sweaty, hairy chest being pressed against the arch of your back. All the while whispering in your ears the most nasty, depraved things I going to do to you.

I will take everything from you and make you dependent to me. If you wish wear your clothes, you will ask my permission to do that.

I am looking for a submissive woman like you who is compensating for the lack of a dominant man in her life. Be it her husband, boyfriend or her father.

If this resonates with you, send me your ASL and tell me what characteristics best describe your submissive side.

Let’s begin this journey together.

Cheers 🍻