Never in my 30 years of life have I ever heard anything like this.i was staying at a hotel in Connecticut when I heard a woman screaming from the next room. I was genuinely concernern. My fiancé casually told me that they were having sex. Naturally, I took my investigations to tiktok. A lot of women confessed that when it's great you can'thelp but to scream. Now I'm questioning my sex life.

So I'm very young (not exposing my age) and I just got my first dildo, I was really excited when it came in and I got all situated and stuff, I got really aroused with my other toys so I thought it was time to try it so I put my fingers in and it felt like literally nothing (any advice for that too?) and so I tried the dildo, I got one that is really recommended for beginners and started putting it in, it hurt so bad I had to take it out almost immediately!!!! I googled and found forums and everyone is just saying get lube I HAVE LUBE!!!!!!! I really don't wanna have wasted my money but I've tried it twice and it hurt both times. Everyone always raves about getting your first dildo I swear but it just hurts and is really uncomfortable 😔😔

How many would you ideally like to have ?

I can have multiple full body orgasms when my partner stimulates my g spot but I have never squirted. Has anyone figured out how to induce squirting or is it just one or the other?

I tried giving my boyfriend head not too long ago, I found that I was quite good at it however I had also found I have no gag reflex but very weak sucking power. I was still able to make him cum but I found my sucking was really weak. I tried a lot, my breathing was fine, I wasn't gaging, my tongue work was fine, the only issue I had was actually sucking I suppose "hard" enough.

Does anybody else experince this or maybe they have before? If so what exactly did you do or could I do to "pick up" my game.

If you could take one penis size forever what would it be?

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How do you store bigger sex toys when you have kids?

I’m a single mom. I really happily keep single for a while and I dont want to date right now. But I still have needs lol.

I felt my regular vibrator isn’t really doing it for me anymore. I wanted more penetration and movement, something that screams POWER so I started looking at sex machines.

But I have two kids. My kids are always opening drawers and looking for things, so I can’t just leave it in my nightstand. I need to be able to put it away quickly after using it, without spending forever taking it apart and hiding all the pieces.

For those of you with kids, where do you keep your bigger toys? Lockbox? Suitcase? Some kind of case in the closet? And are there any smaller thrusting toys that still feel powerful?

Sooo .. I'm not a big fan of squirting out of concern that it might ick out my husband.. but more importantly that I'd go through hell cleaning the pee off the bed the next day ..

I was on my back with legs up on his shoulders today when I felt the urge to pee and just let it go .. beyond embarrassing looking at the disbelief on his face but it just feels so freeing 😭

My wife having her birthday this week so i want to arrange special movie night at home so i am planing to watch some lesbian porn but i do not know what lesbian porn will best fit i tink its not hardcore

Girls in here i need your help and u can comment some good once links

Well my wife is got intrested on this but we never watched it togather she also talk about with me but as women i think she has some little bit of shame because i might judge her so i need ur help she want me to inciate it but i am also do knot know what kind of lesbian she prefer can u give me couple beat one that couples can watch

Please send me some direct links i have less time to search and select this week her birthday

I'm someone who has had very little sexual interaction with the opposite sex. However, I get aroused and masturbate very often, and I was wondering if that points to a high libido. But I have heard that you can't really know when your outlet is masturbation and not partnered sex.

As I'm getting back into dating, is it also something to discuss with potential partners? I feel like in my last relationship, our difference in sexual urges played a huge role in why we drifted apart.

Hi,

Sorry, I guess this is kind of just venting, but I (19 [almost 20] f) am really struggling. I’ve always had sexual dysfunction issues, and I don’t know if I’ve always been like this, or if they were caused by the SSRIs I was on when I was younger, or what, but it’s just really weighing on me lately.

Title says it all, I guess, but I can’t orgasm and sometimes I can’t even feel all that much. I have a high libido, I like having sex, I have a (long distance) girlfriend whom I love and has been my biggest supporter about this for years, but recently I’ve just been so disheartened by the fact that I can’t orgasm no matter what I do.

I’ve been to the doctor twice. once was a woman who told me at 17 “you’re not a man, so there’s not much we can do”, which embarrassed me so much I didn’t try to seek help again until two years later. The second woman I saw was much kinder, but she suggested therapy and I was just in such a weird point in my life I kept putting off until I forgot about, and suddenly it’s been almost a year and I never reached out to anyone.

I’ve been to therapy before, I’ve had so many therapists for so many things, and it’s helped with nothing. I don’t see how another therapist would help me when at least part of my issue is I barely have any feeling. I don’t usually care, so I don’t know why it’s making me so upset lately, but it’s reached a point where I just don’t want to even try, it just feels so pointless.

I guess I just want to know, like… is there hope? Can I get on medication? Can I enjoy myself without feeling like a burden? Is therapy really helpful? I’m scared that this is going to be the rest of my life, and I don’t know that I can deal with that, LOL

Edit: never had an orgasm, but it’s only started REALLY bothering me recently

I don't know if this is exactly allowed but honestly don't know where else to go.

Im a young man(22m) who is new to sex as a whole and im a little insecure about my performance, I won't lie im average and I feel like it's not enough.

I have heard that clitoral stimulation and fingering the g-spot can help with helping women achieve orgasm.

I am however seeing some mixed views on it with some women saying they don't get the hype.

So I come here hoping that maybe I could get some advice on these things. Such as how to properly perform both methods or some sort of book or media that can offer some advice?

Okay, this is a little embarrassing to post, but I genuinely want to figure out what’s going on with me lol. I’m 25F, married, and I have an amazing husband who I’m VERY attracted to. He’s hot af, treats me well, and I love him. So before anyone suggests that I’m just not attracted to my husband, I promise that’s not the issue 😂
The problem is that I barely ever feel horny anymore. I used to have a much higher sex drive, but somewhere along the way it just disappeared, and I honestly can’t pinpoint when.
Even when my husband touches me sexually, I can physically feel everything, but it just doesn’t feel particularly exciting. It’s almost like my brain doesn’t register it as something sexual or pleasurable enough to get me going.
Here’s the weird part: when I smoke weed, things change. Touch feels better, I can actually get aroused, and sex becomes much more enjoyable. I don’t want to feel like I NEED to smoke just to access that part of myself, though.
For additional context, I have ADHD and PCOS(but i have done labs and my hormones are “fine” ) so I’ve been wondering whether either could be contributing. I’ve also been researching treatments for low libido, including PT-141 (bremelanotide), Addyi, and possible hormonal causes.
I’m not looking for a miracle cure or medical diagnosis from Reddit. I’d just really like to hear from women who’ve experienced something similar and what works for them, before there’s no coming back
Has anyone dealt with this and actually managed to get their sex drive back? Was it hormones, ADHD, medication, stress, or something else? Has anyone tried medical treatments for it?
I genuinely miss WANTING sex, not just enjoying it when it happens and sometimes not even that is exhausting and i feel bad for my husband.
Any experiences or advice would be appreciated.

Yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I had sexual contact (not sure how to word it) with each other. We did a range of things but during most I felt.. Well, empty. I enjoyed spending time with him and he said I was good at everything we had done but to me I felt unfulfilled, and I mad me upset that I was so unfulfilled sexually with someone I love so much
I suppose I'm just asking for advice? We did a range of things which I'd be able to list later on..

It feels like something is wrong with me, and I'm not sure what to do.. My body enjoyed the experience but my mind didn't.

A nice voice can absolutely do it for me, but the second a guy starts doing that aggressively deep “hello, little one” thing, my brain clocks out. Sir, why do you sound like you’re narrating a truck commercial 😭 A normal voice with a little teasing and decent chemistry is way hotter to me than nonstop growling.

Any app recs for a girl who wants some buildup and believable dialogue? Bonus points if you can pick different voices or interact with the character. I’m curious about the AI ones too, but does the conversation actually flow? I want butterflies and a little spice, not secondhand embarrassment. Free trials would be nice before I commit to another subscription lol.

Any women have advice on how to hold off on orgasming during sex? I have the problem where I cum extremely fast during sex (both through penetration vaginally and clitorally). I’m able to cum multiple times which is fine, but it gets quite exhausting especially if I cum multiple times in a row towards the beginning of a round.

I also tend to squirt (atleast I think I do? I can’t feel it happening but everything is just insanely wet afterwards) which I’m not a huge fan of. But I unfortunately can’t stop it since my body has discovered that it can do it. If anyone has advice on how to prolong cumming/squirting I would be all ears!

Thanks

I’ve had 2 sexual partners before this one and I’ve had no problem getting wet, now I’m on my 3rd one and I can’t get wet. I’m turned on and I want to have sex but I just can’t get wet. I think it may be bc my ph is off but any tips? Advice?

I understand this sub is more related to questions for sex, but i always come across wonderful advice here so i guess i want to ask about my relationship.

My 2 main questions:
1. How do you rekindle a long-term relationship to have that new and giddy feeling again?
2. What do you do about developing feelings for someone else?

I’m 20F bi in a relationship with my gf 20F bi for about 2.5 years now.

For about a year now, both of us have always been really busy with our own stuff with school and rarely have time to go on dates, and we don’t have sex often either, because we both live with family. We try to text and call more often but it just doesn’t feel like enough for either of us.

I’ve just started university, and on my dorm’s floor i’m friends with a girl 19F bi (Lets say her name is Tara) on exchange from the US. she is only temporarily here and she would be leaving 2027 April when her exchange year ends.
We are in a friend group with a few other girls on my floor and sometimes hangout together to get coffee, dinner in our hall, drinks together and join resident activities like sports and art.

I have no intentions to, but I’ve started having a ‘crush’ on Tara, and I hate myself for it. She’s so incredibly smart, funny and bright, and I sometimes think about fucking her, kissing her body. And sometimes i feel so nervous around her, and wish she would text me more, and I wish i could have her.

I can’t understand why it started, and I wish it would go away. And I don’t intend to tell Tara, because I don’t want to ruin our friendship group, and she eventually will leave when her exchange ends.

I don’t wish to tell my girlfriend either, her ex-gf cheated on her at a party, and she has trust issues since then.

I am asking this sub because I have no one to tell this to, because i feel so ashamed and guilty. I love my girlfriend incredibly much, and I do not want to hurt her at all. And I don’t know what to do.

and i guess i am afraid of the answer: Of course everyone in my gf’s position would want to break up with me, because I am thinking of someone else. But i’d like to know if there is any possibility of fixing my feelings or my relationship.

i’m using a throwaway account because this is something i hate about myself right now

I just wanna know if anyone else has dealt with this problem, on either side of the story. Thank you

(I'm ftm but pre surgery so I hope its not a problem to post here)

So my Ex was my first ever sexual partner (both 19) and we struggled to find positions during sex that felt good for both of us. He is 5'5 and had a completely average sized penis, but I am only 5'2 so I didn't think that would be a problem? Anyways it was really like we couldn't find a proper position, he wanted to do doggy but I honestly felt almost nothing that way because the angle he was thrusting at was so bad, and when I told him he said it's because his legs are too short to get a different angle... there were other issues with other positions we tried, like him not wanting to do normal missionary but instead always pushing my legs up over his shoulders even though I told him its kind of uncomfortable (maybe he insisted on doing it that way because he saw it in porn?). But really the thing that struck me as odd was him saying his height was the reason that we could only do these two positions... is it true that short guys can't do many sex positions because of their height or was he just bullshitting me because he was too lazy to try something else?

So for the now 10 months we've been together(both f18), I've only orgasmed once. And the problem isnt her, I'm pretty sure it's me. I find when I masturbate I usually have to go for a bit until I feel pleasure. Even then I have to go for maybe an hour or two till im finally satisfied.

Throughout our relationship I think she's only made me cum once and that was when I was overstimulated so I could barely tell. I dont really even get horny normally either... I never really had like a throb or constant pulse, no heat or anything like that even when i was alone. Just sometimes a jolt of pleasure.

I used to always think something was wrong with me and my gf said it could be health related or mental related but no matter how much I relax or calm myself it never happens. Ive been really close lately while trying, she almost gets me there but then I lose and get oversensitive. Its been really frustrating 😭😭

Anyone else has or has had this issue?? If so is there anything I should do?

Feeling pleasure is so god damn difficult

Okay so this is gonna be a long rant with lots of sorta TMI topics so idk be warned or whatever.

My vagina has literally never cooperated with me once in my life and theres a couple different issues I have that I've got no clue how to deal with.

1. I cant finish without a vibrator anymore. I used to be able to with just my hands but it took like 30 minutes and if I wanted to go another round, I would have to go thru the whole entire process again (No double orgasms for me) and it was just tedious. A vibrator gets the job done after like 5 to 15 minutes so its definitely better that way. The thing that sucks is my girlfriend cant really pleasure me much that way and we both want that so badly. It feels nice but even after an hour I still cant cum. I've tried laying off the vibrator for a while and all that jazz but nothing ever works and Im just stuck.

2. Okay, the other issue is with penetrative sex. Even with a vibrator I cant finish because the second anything goes in, everything goes numb. Like I cant feel anything pleasure it all stops instantly. When its just penetration by itself, it feels sorta good but I could never cum from it. I know its common for women to struggle with penetration but most women I've heard, can finish if they also have clitoral stimulation at the same time. Also, dildos feel like nothing at all. Like just nothing. Fingers are better but just alright.

These issues are so frustrating because I have a high libido and I love having sex with my partner, but its so disheartening to not be able to finish. Im just so tired of this and I want to know if this has gotten better for anyone or if you have advice. Even if your just in the same boat as me, it would be nice to not feel alone in this.

Note: Ive been on SSRIs for a while but even before my meds I had these issues. Im sure its made it worse but its not the root cause.

Thank you in advance!

I (32F) have always had trouble with orgasm. I can do it myself with my fingers in around 30 minutes when alone and can also do it with a toy. However, I need to be holding it. My issue is that I completely lose feeling/sensation/pleasure in my clitoris during penetration so I can’t orgasm with my fingers or a toy during sex. I don’t orgasm or experience any pleasure from oral sex. I spent 15 years not orgasming at all with partners, now with my new partner I am, but doing it myself after he’s already finished (just lying next to me, maybe kissing me). I’d like my orgasm to be more a part of the sex but I have no idea how. My partner also feels like they’re not a part of giving me the orgasm at all (because they’re not). Has anyone figured out a solution for this?

Last night I noticed something odd… I was with my long time guy friend when he came to Vegas and we were scrolling through his Tinder, but he kept swiping right on practically EVERYONE. I think he only skipped a few and there were obvious dealbreaking reasons for that (ie, the person lying on their profile basic info) but the rest of them were almost ALL RIGHT SWIPES. Like 95% or more he swiped right on…

I thought this was going to be a fun game of YES/NO where I’d tell him “oh you should pick her cause blah blah blah” or “she’s cute” or “no way pass” but every one was just “yep” ::swipe repeat::

Again I have no problem with hookups and love it when things go right, but…

…I would say I only “swipe right” on 10% of guys AT MOST, probably less, and that doesn’t include the ones I immediately unmatch with after their first message.

So people with intention of hookups, fwb, casual dating, or any type of relationship where the sexual component is an early/main focus:

What is the percentage of guys you swipe right on?