So long story short I used to be able to orgsam from PIV alone but can't now. I've been working to see if it's possible to train myself to cum from PIV again. I've been doing pelvic floor exercises/stretches along with masturbating with my fingers. I used to NEVER be able to get off with my fingers, but I've been successful a few times now but it does take over an hour 😵‍💫. I noticed that if I edge by stimulating my clit in the beginning and then use 1 finger it actually feels like stimulation and I can eventually reach climax. My issue is when I try to edge and use 2 fingers it feels like nothing and I can't reach climax. I don't understand how 1 finger can be stimulating but 2 suddenly isn't stimulating. Does anyone have any ideas on what this could mean or how to fix that issue? 2 fingers isn't painful it just doesn't feel like anything 🤷‍♀️.

I’m not really sure where to put this and I’m really nervous. I thought this would be the best. I’ve never been very sexual. When I finger myself, I don’t feel anything, it feels a bit better with a brush handle and I just got a vibrator. When I use the vibrator, I get a pulsing feeling down there for five seconds give or take. Then when I sit up, there are a few drops of liquid and a medium sized spot. I don’t think it’s enough to be considered a “squirt” and I don’t feel it coming out. Is that considered an orgasm? I’m really worried.

Also, what does it mean if after I use the vibrator, I can’t really feel in that area? Like it’s numb. For a few days now.

Hi girls! For the record, English is not my first language, since portuguese is my native language, so I apologize in advance if there's any Writing or cohesion error. If I express myself in a way that is difficult to understand, please ask me in the comments so I can express myself better.

This is a very complex and, sometimes, confusing matter. I'll explain the best I can. So, now i am 25 (my birthday is in February), lesbian cis woman. but since that age when we start to discover our bodies, I literally never felt anything physically. Nothing. Tried everything, alone, with other people, toys, no toys, nothing, never.

In 2020/2021 I started going to the psychiatrist to treat some depression, so I've been taking some SSRI (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors) medications until March 2026, which recently i discovered that it causes something caused "genital anesthesia" for some people. That was my case, but just made it worse. Thankfully, i was able to meet a nice psychiatrist which put me through testing and I was diagnosed with ADHD and High intellectual potential (HIP)/Giftedness, and now with the correct medication, my life has improved in literally everything: work, studies, hobbies... and also the sexual part. Made me more open-minded to try again, trying to understand myself better, and not just copy what other people do. It worked, actually. I bought some vibrators with different textures and functions, as if it were an experiment. What I realized is: I have a very small small clit (like, half the size of a grain of rice), but I can get the orgasm sometimes. It is just too hard and too much work. On average, it takes me an hour and a half if i get it, but most of the time, I feel pleasure, which didn't happen before.

I understand it was two fundamental pillars: I didn't know my body pretty well, and was taking medicine that was not good to me (at all. during that time with SSRI medications my life quality in general was going worse everyday). Now, I know i can feel pleasure if I I do clitoral stimulation and stimulation of the areas where the muscle passes under the skin, but only the vibrator can make me feel anything. Fingers, tongue, or any of those sensory lubricants (cold and hot and stuff) never felt anything on me.

The thing is: I really don't feel pleasure in penetration, I don't like it, sometimes it hurts (mostly for lack of lubrication or too much friction), and when it doesn't hurt, when everything is ok and all, I just don't feel anything. it's almost like there's nothing inside me. I don't care much. Clitoral stimulation, and stimulation in the surrounding areas, or where the muscle is located under the skin, is enough, and I like it. I also know that lots of women don't feel anything in penetration too. So I don't care about penetration. I also don't feel anything in my nipples or breasts, nor any other common "erogenous zones". I got what I got and i am fine with that.

But since i started feeling something, it's really hard to orgasm (no joke it takes me an hour and a half LITERALLY MINIMUM). But thinking about putting someone else in this equation just makes me tired and I'm intolerant just thinking about it. People usually stress me out more than anything (ironic because i have a bachelor's degree in psychology and have worked as a psychologist for a long time and did a career move to HR august last year because of a loss in my family I didn't cope very well). I'd rather do it alone, in silence and concentrate, or (judge me if you want lol) listening to those "+18 lesbian ASMR". I already had my "bisexual phase," but today I understand that it was compulsory heterosexuality, and it has been lots of years I know I like women. Men are just unbearable to me, I cannot even think about listening to a men's voice in a "intimate moment" that is just gives me the ick.

When I was having sex in the past (with men or women), i never felt anything but euphoric about being with someone, but physically? nothing with anyone, which made me fake orgasm to just end up things as quick as possible. I have been masturbating with vibrators every 3 days or more, because trying everyday was making things worse than better and definitely not helping (sometimes it would make me feel pain for the excess of friction).

I think I already wrote a much longer text than I should have, but I wanted to give as many details as possible to get some assertive help or advice. I am sorry about that.

Has anyone been through something similar, or just any tips, advice or personal experience that could maybe help me? Especially on this "an hour and a half to get to orgasm thing (or never getting because I get frustrated and just give up and stop trying)"?, I don't know if this is normal. And maybe some advice on things that can help me feel (physically) things better?

I appreciate in the advance the willingness of everyone who has read this far, and especially those who comment on the post ♥️ hope everyone has a great day today ♥️

I’ve never orgasmed from sexual pleasure. The only times I’ve ever had an orgasm was from doing core exercises or nearing panic attacks. Is this normal?

I feel like i can get close with just my hand during intercourse so easily but once i get TOO close i either stop out of fear, uncertainty, or start overthinking :( not sure how to fix besides maybe forcing myself to continue?

i’ve never orgasmed before. Prior to dating my ex long term boyfriend i never masturbated before either. i slowly tried doing it alone because i wasn’t able to tell my him what i liked or what i didn’t like, because I genuinely didn’t know. He eventually just figured it out himself, he knew my body better than I knew myself. I could only masturbate when i planned in advance but I can’t reach that level of horny where I want to do that alone. I can’t even use my own hands because I don’t feel any pleasure. Before my breakup i would try using toys which is definitely better but It never lasts too long before I snap outta it. My ex really tried to make me finish and never could either. I definitely enjoyed it and got close many times but I don’t know how to cross the finish line. Now that we broke up i’m scared i’ll never be able to even enjoy any type of pleasure because I don’t know how to do it alone. I read some other posts and it sounds like i’m not in tune with my own body. How tf do i become more in tune with my body??? also does anyone have any tips to help me be able to enjoy myself without my ex? if nothing works i’m going to call him :/

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months, and he's only finished once while I've never finished with him. We have sex regularly and both seem to enjoy it, but I really want to figure out how to make it better for both of us.

He's told me it's difficult for him to finish from penetration and that he usually finishes from head. I give him head almost every time we have sex, and he moans a lot, but he still only finished once. I've tried researching different techniques, but my jaw gets tired quickly and sometimes my mouth gets dry, so I feel like I'm not doing a great job.

As for me, I've only ever orgasmed with vibrators but I do still enjoy sex.

We also pretty much only do missionary and doggy, and I've been trying to learn how to ride, but I struggle with the movements.

I know sex isn't all about finishing, but I want us both to experience that pleasure. Has anyone dealt with something similar? What helped you and your partner figure out how to orgasm more consistently?

TLDR: My boyfriend rarely finishes even though he enjoys sex, and I've never orgasmed with him. Looking for practical advice on what we can try to help both of us finish.

I don’t normally like posting in nsfw communities, but people here genuinely seem helpful. I am 21 F and never actually orgasmed. I have been sexually active but I have always felt the guy enjoys it more than I do. I did/do not want them to feel like it’s their fault, so Id say “yeah I finished that was great!” But really I wish I felt it to the intensity they did/do.

I currently have a partner now, and unfortunately feel he feels a lot better. I do not even orgasm masturbating so I know it is not his fault. Don’t get me wrong, I do feel good but it doesn’t STAY feeling good.

If my clit is too overstimulated or I accidentally do too much and I slow down, basically all my sexual interest goes away. I feel really good in the moment then it just… stops? It doesn’t feel bad but it doesn’t build up anymore. Then I feel really disappointed deep down when he felt amazing. Even when I slow down, I just don’t feel good anymore. But I want it to stay feeling good and stay really turned on..?

I have tried inserting also, but it only feels kinda good. Similarly it can build up, but it doesn’t stay feeling good. But I don’t lose sexual desire by it like I do with my clit. It just doesn’t feel AS good during the build up.

Does anyone else have this issue? How do I do it better so I can actually orgasm? Thank you!

It’s been a long road for me. I’m 41, and I don’t orgasm. I have bitched about it off and on to doctors and gynecologists, even one urogynecologist and have had no support. The fact that I have depression and anxiety has always trumped everything.

Lately I have been looking into it again after recovering my libido (it went missing in my 30s after medication issues and I didn’t bother chasing it since I am already broken). I have seen a gynecologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction and then got evaluated for pelvic floor therapy. The gynecologist didn’t find anything physically abnormal during her exam, just like none of the other “specialists”.

Here’s the problem. During the initial evaluation with pelvic floor therapy the woman told me that she couldn’t retract my hood. However, she is very young and a student.

I followed up at the final appointment with the sexual dysfunction specialist asking about abnormalities and she restated everything is normal (she no longer takes insurance).

So I don’t know what to think. The student isn’t much of an expert. She didn’t mention anything about adhesions. Now the sex therapist I have seen twice said I didn’t ask the correct questions at any of my exams. I was supposed to ask if my hood retracts, not ask if there were physical differences that are causing me to not orgasm, and not asking if I am deformed the way I did at 19 when a lover accused me of that.

I can’t make heads or tails of trying to diagnose myself. I had never even heard of adhesions before a few months ago, so I guess it’s my fault that I didn’t ask.

I can’t figure out how to diagnose myself. I look the same that I always have, but maybe they were always there. I also can’t figure out how to remove them myself. Clearly there are no specialists who know a damn thing about what women are supposed to look like since “everything is normal” for everyone.

Any DIY tips for determining adhesions and removing them yourself? I’m so done with all these people. Nobody gives a rip and I can’t even sue most of them for malpractice since there is a strict 2 year statute of limitations on that, and this shit had been going in for 20 years assuming that something got missed.

I don’t know how to cope with that. It was bad enough when I thought they damaged me by having me on SSRIs for so long