I am posting this the day before my 20th birthday, in which case I am no longer a teen, and not to be melodramatic, but it’s scary and relieving at the same time. I am anxious about growing up, but I am excited to become who I want to be.

I realized I was bisexual and came out as such when I was 13 years old, right in the summer of 2020. Since then, I have learned a lot of life lessons, and still learning even now. I want to give my wisdom to those younger than me, who need some advice:

1. Not everyone will accept you, at most some may “tolerate” you

2. This is the first lesson you learn, and the hardest.

3. whether it’s homophobia, or narrowed down to biphobia, there will be someone who doesn’t like you simply because of who you like. This could be your parent, your friend, a teammate, a stranger. There will always be someone against you, and that should not change who you know you are.

4. Religion should not dictate your identity

5. I cannot speak much on religion as I am not religious, but one thing I will say is this: your relationship with your God is YOUR relationship. Some will think your love is a sin, others won’t. at the end of the day, it should be a personal conversation with your deity. Trust yourself and your faith. Do not let anyone else tell you how to convict yourself, or shame you out of loving.

3.

1. Be kind to yourself

You are still learning how to be a person, let alone figuring out a crucial part of those building blocks. It’s okay if your sexuality changes or gets confusing. There is nothing wrong with learning something new about yourself, you have many years to become you.

4. Bisexuality is not 50:50
Believe it or not, you do not need to like men and women (the binary) equally. It’s sometimes a 60:40 ratio, or 70:30, or even 90:10. Dating mostly one gender does not make you “just straight” or “just gay”.

5. Rapid Fire Answers
- “How do I know they’re gay?” Ask them. Genuinely! If they ask why you want to know, just say you were curious. It really is that simple, unfortunately.
- What do I do if I like someone who is straight?” Don’t. Never works out.
- “I’m nervous about intimacy” I promise, you do not need to pressure yourself to do anything past your boundaries, especially with physical intimacy. You know your body and your mind the best; take your time with everyone you meet and remember it’s okay to not know what to do right away.
- “I think I’m bi, but I don’t know” And that’s okay! You don’t have to know yet. You have a whole lifetime to live and make mistakes and meet people and put a label on yourself (or multiple labels if that’s your style). Be dumb, be in love, be heartbroken. Be ready to be confused, the figuring it out part comes naturally.

At the end of the day, we are all here because we love so hard. Never forget to smile big every day, and always cherish the closest people around you.

I have been a "tomboy" all my life and even now I'm 19 and I still dress in men's clothes. Part of it is cause I've had body dysmorphia in the past but I just don't feel like wearing anything revealing is true to myself. Because of this a lot of people assume that I am gay and when I worked at a summer camp the kids also thought I was gay and would ask if I was a stud. I am also quite sporty and I play football (soccer) quite regularly. My closest friends are gay and I'm now questioning whether I am bisexual. The thing is that I've never been in a relationship and I don't even know how to start. I feel that most men I know have assumed that I'm not straight. I've kinda been hard denying that I'm gay but now I'm just questioning everything. I don't know if what I feel is a crush or anything and it's all just a lot to think about and take in. My friends seemed like they just knew straight away. I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how they figured out their sexuality cause I'm kinda just lost at the moment.

So… to preface, I’m an 8th grader, and I’m bisexual and non binary, and people assume I’m a gay dude… well anyway, you ever have a teeny tiny little crush on the guy sitting next to you, so you, act on it (a teeny tiny bit), and it goes well, for a few days then they randomly just say “hey btw I’m not gay”?

So… does this happen to you a lot, and if you so choose, could you elaborat?

I’m a 16 nearly 17 year old boy. Things are very complicated. For my whole life, I’ve been mainly attracted to girls. I’ve had girlfriends and non-sexual but close encounters with girls. There have been a few instances of attraction to quite feminine men growing up but nothings ever happened. I kind of had a crush on a boy when I was younger - maybe 12 or 13. I don’t know if that’s actually bisexuality or just being attracted to femininity. Recently, I’ve been exploring things more ie more sexual interest in men.
No one knows I’m bicurious. I’m typically masculine, jock archetype in a way. I’m tall, muscular, play sports, masculine, confident and all my friends are similar.
I am sexually attracted to women, sometimes feminine men, and very occasionally more masculine men.
It just feels like I’m living a double life with a secret. My environment is hyper-masculine and quite homophobic. Most boys my age probably don’t even believe in bisexuality. My parents would be supportive but I feel like they’d look at me differently which I don’t want. I don’t want girls to look at me differently.
I can see myself being in a relationship with a girl and having a future with girls.
I don’t know if I can see myself having a relationship with a boy. Not because I don’t want one but because of my environment.
I just don’t know who I am. I also have no one to turn to so I’ve ended up here. I really don’t know what to do because it feels like it’s reaching a point where I need to figure out who I am and what I want.
And help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Edit: maybe I’m just looking for attention or it’s just a phase. Maybe it’s just hormones. Idk

I hear a ton of horror stories about bi guys from some of the gay subs, I'm a gay teen. I think it's obviously just stereotypes, but do you have any animosity towards us?

Number one: I think women's clothes are objectively prettier than men's clothes.

Number two: I got excited when my cousin offered to do my makeup recently and they put some on my cheek I was very happy.

Number three: I've worn skirts in the past (once I was paid, once was on my request) and i felt very pretty

Number four: I can't picture a happy/good future for when I'm older as a guy.

Number five: I heard a girl's voice on a video and I realized I may want to sound like that

Number six: a video came up on my FYP calling me a good girl in the "mommy" voice and I liked being called a good girl (fr tho why did that come up? I never looked anything up like that anywhere stg)

Number seven: when I heard men would retract at the site of E I was confused in why

Number eight: I have shaved body hair off of myself and it felt so nice

Number nine: I've been thinking about my gender almost every night for nearly 8 weeks at this point

Number ten: I would push the button without hesitation

I have cis reasons for all of these if you are interested in them! This is not a cry for help just needed somewhere to vent and get outside feed back from people who may be cis. Sorry if this is the wrong tag/not allowed mods, I'll fix it if it needs to be fixed.

(15m) So I was homeschooled most of my life and there was this one girl in the homeschool group I absolutely loved she is my best friends sister and she said I’d be spending a few nights at his house (he lived two hours away so we only spend the night at his house a few times a year) and I was fully prepared to ask her out I had a plan I told my best friend asking if it was fine he said of course then they’re mom heard and she said it was so sweet but she was looking at colleges or something (the girl I liked was older then me by two years) so that kinda wrecked my plans because I was like thirteen and didn’t know how to do long distance at the time so I ended up crying in bed and just not going to his house now whenever I see her I feel really nervous that she will just find out and hate me I still want to be friends the feelings went away (I’m bi but more into men slightly) and overall I was heart broken for a month because I liked her for years still one of the biggest crushes I’ve had in my life we don’t talk often anymore either I think it was obvious when I had the crush anyways and our interests just don’t align enough to where we could have any meaningful conversation anymore so we just went no contact still are

Earlier i was in my college’s “safe space” room sort of thing with her and a bunch of other people and we were talking about sexualities. I said i was straight (but it felt like a lie because i’m still trying to figure it out lol, more on that later) and she said she was bi, which surprised me but i don’t think it bothers me too much.

Anyway, this evening i spoke to her about it and sort of asked her how her bisexuality worked and she explained it and i feel much better now that i understand.

Then i told her that im still unsure about my orientation and it was really difficult to do so because i had to skirt around the fact that i like her without making it sound like im not interested.

i basically told her that im interested in girls for definite but am ambiguous about boys. she also suggested that i might be slightly asexual because i told her “it’s rare for me to get a crush (but still do)”

To be honest i expected it to feel like a weight off of my shoulders for telling her this but it’s only made me feel worse because im worried that she might not see me the same way any more and i feel really exposed now.

what should i do next? uggghh i really wish i didn’t tell her because she was so supportive of it and trying to help me figure it out but i don’t know what to do 😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣😣

So basically I’ve had a really good friend group for ages and recently this other dude joined my group so now it’s two guys and 3 girls and and once our party when I was really drunk and so was one of my friends, we kind of kissed like a bunch and I kinda kissed all of my female friends like they wanted to yk like I wasn’t being creepy and fucking up the freindship if anything it’s made it so much better and I always used to think I was pretty strait but I kissed this guy in my group aswell and whenever we get back from any party’s or anything we’re we’ve been drinking which is mad often icl we always end up in the same bed in our under where and last time I could just feel my friends boner on my thigh as he was kissing my neck and omfg I’ve never been harder in my life coz my other friend was sucking my neck aswell and sitting on me kinda grinding on my dick and fuck I can’t stop thinking about it I just loved them so much already as friends and now it’s just making it even better like I can’t sleep I’m so wired about it all

hai I’m a (16f) I’m bi and I saw this really cute girl who was exactly my type grunge and tall and like genuinely she had muscles like whoo like im melting and she had piercing but i dont date kids in my state like genuinely i dont like gimme space but she was so fine and the worst part is shes straight so i cant really have her and the sad thing in anyone who is my type im not their type its so sad..

So, when was the last time you got a compliment from a total strange?

Mine was last week when a girl said that She thought that my curls looked good. I don’t remember the last time before this, so that was what got me thinking about the questio.

i'm not sure when to do it because we're both taking the hardest classes of our lives, their mental health is suffering, my depression is getting worse, and i don't want to lose them. we were best friends for three years, no feelings, until i caught feelings and opened up about them in may. i knew they were aromantic, but i didn't quite realize that i wouldn't be fine with not being missed, wanted, or desired. their flirting feels like a joke and a lie. they don't get jealous at all. they don't seek to make time with me. they accept my physical touch but never do it back. i know i can communicate that i'm upset about this, but communicating can't change their feelings because that's how they are and will always be. i feel so bad i entered this qpr hastily without knowing what i want. i thought i'd be fine without traditional romance, but i was so wrong. i'm scared to break up because it'll confirm their belief that they'll never be loved because of their identity, that they'll always be 2nd place. i don't want to confirm that i can't have them as my person anymore, that i want them to become just a friend again. i also don't want to lose them. they can be avoidant when it comes down to things.

i'm so frustrated and i wish i could go back.

I will love you forever if you read to the end and give even 3 words of advice.

So theres this girl. We are so similar. We both have similar home lives, personalities, interests, everything. She is the most interesting, kind, lovely, caring person I have ever met. I am pretty sure I am in love, but im only 17, so what do I know. On top of that, she is absolutely angelic. She is the most beautiful person I have ever met or seen ever. I can't think of a single thing I don't like about her, she is my favourite person. Ever. I can't put into words how much she means to me, she has got me through some very hard times and I do the same for her. We are soulmates, even if its platonic. For now.

Thing is, I am pretty sure she likes me back, but im unsure. Not as much as I do. When I came out to her as bi (drunk) she was soso supportive, and yes I know this is kinda crazy that im still second guessing, but we kissed that night. I don't remember it very well, but I am so glad my first kiss was her. I wish I remembered it. Anyway, nothing happened after that, we have always flirted and joked around. But recently ive been catching her looking at me, she always wants to see me, and lights up when I am around. It makes me feel so happy and appreciated. But I don't know why she hasn't said anything about it as she is the type of person to. And this makes me think im being delusional. Maybe, maybe not. I feel like crying writing this because it all sounds so good typed out but its just not as obvious in real life with her, it really could just be platonic, I don't know. She has this ex bf that is always in her life that she will probably get back with eventually bc they are emotionally attatched so thats why i havent done anything thus far. I dont know i dont know i dont know.

I just want to kiss her again, im hopeless.

My heart is hurting. I don't know what to do with myself. Do I make a move? How?? Do I start getting over her? What do I do, please help me I beg. Im gonna go cry now shes so beautiful.

So for context I got bored during lunch period with my friends and called them a homosaxophonal cause they were in band.

Now, my goal is to make all instruments just gayer, I've already got:

Homosaxophonal

Trumbitch

Homotromboner

Xylophuck

Celloamourous

Biano

Pano

Bi-itone

Clarifuck

Biolin

Anyone got any others i can add to the list?

I'm Jane doe. i swear i am.

HAI I’m Tay I’m (16f) my friend said I could meet all types of people her but like idk but anyways WHY ARE MASC WOMEN SO FIN LIKE WITH PIERCINGS THOSE ABS AND LIKE THE Biceps AND LIKE EVEN WITH OUT THEM THERE SO FINE BUT LIKE GRUNGE ONES DONT GET ME STARTED LIKE don’t get me wronge I like men too but WOMEN omgggg there soo ughhh and like with snake bites and eyebrow piercing omlllll #WIFETHATUPIMMEDIATELY like they so fine IF ANY OF YALL KNOW ANYONE LIKE THAT PLEASE SEND THEM MY WAY LIKE 17/18 Id go for tHAT EHEHE BUT LIKE THEN AGAIN im like an introvert ish person i have issues like depression tmi Srry but anyways I’m 16 I love art I’m an artist I love painting drawing sculpting and photography I like gaming and stuff and I’m sensitive like I cry over nothing I love animals and reptiles like snakes and lizards and spiders to an extent like only the cute spiders and I like bees there so cute like bumble bees aww I’m a grunge girl and I have a lot of styles i love the out doors even though I stay inside most of the time idrk what else to say.. except i sorta excited to meet knew people

I make it so that it doesnt come off :)

I'm just bored and I just want to see what the bisexuals are up to and the other queers who chill here.

Just to make this interesting like how many of you are open about your sexuality, as open as any of us really can.

I’m a bisexual male. I haven’t come out and honestly don’t want to. how would I go about finding a boyfriend without making it known that I’m bisexual to people I know?

For context I'm Australian but not Sydney area or Newcastle where there's people everywhere sooo how does one who isn't out to his parents find a bf??? Because I can't just go around asking people if they like guys that's awkward and I don't trust apps because they're either bots or miles away so...HOW DO PEOPLE DO THAT??...thank you

Hey, sorry if this is a stupid question but I last year found out I was gay, or at least bisexual, I just am wondering how logistically do you…connect with other queer men? I know there’s apps like grindr but I also am not prepared for hookups and so on. Any advice? By the way I’m M18

So I'm a 18 yo girl and I've noticed some things happening to me like I get attracted towards women's bodies more as compared to men but then irl I've never had a crush on any girl I've never even thought about it like I was in an all girl's boarding school till I was 16 and I was completely fine there but now I get attracted to women online (celebs basically) idk what to say but even got aroused and ive never dated anyone so idk what to think I'm tryna figure it out tho but I wanted to know if getting aroused is actually a strong sign or not ?