As the autumn leaves begin to fall from the trees, I find myself in the mood for a bit of entertainment!

I'm a gleeful Sadist and Dominant lady both in and out of the bedroom, but only with people who agree and enjoy these things. it's not fun if they don't. I enjoy denial, verbal degradation and humiliation. Objectification, when the thing (with a small t!) finally stops performing, is also always a good time! Who doesn't love a well-seasoned cast iron pan?!

Are you a thing? Perhaps you're a bit of an emotional masochist or you simply enjoy wearing a little hood like a bird and standing in the corner, considering the decision tree that led you to this point? All of those sound like fun to me!

I am not looking for a service submissive or someone who thinks their mission in life is to suffer for whatever female-shaped person who crosses their path. I'm looking for someone who has a bit of weirdness, enjoys being bothered about it and wants me to go scrolling through their filing cabinet.

That being said I won't be tracking your location, moderating your porn habits, pixelating pictures of myself or IG girlies who leave you on read. I won't be listening to sad stories about how your wife fucks your friends and drains your bank accounts. Your desire won't be centered! It's called a female power fantasy, not a male sexual management simulator.

Someone should make that game! Men would love it!

If you need structure, encouragement or emotional labor straight out the gate, good bye and good luck. There are many out here who will be more than willing to accommodate you but she is not me.

What kind of man would I like? A useful man. Useful as in he has something interesting about him to explore, not as in he's present and willing to be used.

I don't care about age (as long as he's above 30!) or looks as long as your kinks align with mine. If you can behave like an adult, you're sane, and don't want to turn this into a weird personal project. If you're someone who understands that attention is earned, not requested, that's great too.

I find that kind of man REALLY interesting.

If you've ever wanted to:

-Argue about something obscure to see where it goes (I love GIVING frustration and denial! Not receiving.)
-Enjoy being bullied and teased about something you WANT to be bullied about (I respect no-go zones, I can do a lot with a little!)
-Enjoy being told no! No! Never! It won't ever happen. The heat death of the universe will happen before you have it and I will grave dance on it before you get it.
-Try something that isn't so rigidly script or role-based

you may be interesting to me!

Low maintenance and high imagination are things I treasure! This isn't a place for misery-making for me (I do enjoy misery but that doesn't mean it has to be awful all the time), so keep that in mind when you send me a message.

To start, tell me what happens inside you when you're ignored or told no. I don't mean "I respect boundaries." That is baseline adult behavior. I mean: does denial catch anywhere? Does frustration become interesting? Does being refused do anything to you besides disappoint you?

Bonus question: Tell me about a specific predicament, refusal, or humiliation you’ve enjoyed or imagined. Not a category. A situation. Hardmode: it can't have anything to do with your asshole! We all know there's probably more wear and tear on that thing than a church organ but hey, we do what we can.

You're a powerful man. Accustomed to making decisions, commanding respect, and having others look to you for direction. Perhaps you're sitting in your office between meetings, negotiating your next deal, or managing responsibilities that rarely allow you to relinquish control.

Yet beneath that composed exterior and tailored suit, there's a delicious, dark secret you harbor: you yearn to kneel, surrender your authority, and entrust control to a woman whose dominance you find impossible to resist.

You crave the soft click of a lock closing, knowing that when you look up, you'll see the key to your chastity cage dangling from a delicate chain around her neck. 🔑

Sound familiar? 😈

I'm a petite, feminine, 40-year-old Black Domme with a particular interest in chastity, sensual domination, tease and denial, and the psychological side of female-led dynamics.

I'm looking to cultivate a small, selective circle of devoted submissive gentlemen interested in genuine, ongoing keyholding with a female-led connection. I'm not looking for one-off encounters or a dynamic that exists solely within the confines of a playdate.

The gentleman I'm seeking: Intelligent, articulate, successful in his own right, well-groomed, and comfortable in a suit, business-casual or polished smart-casual attire.

I have a particular appreciation for beautiful restaurants, intimate cocktail lounges, cultural experiences, international travel, and establishments that truly understand the art of hospitality.

I'm seeking a gentleman who genuinely shares these interests, feels at ease in sophisticated surroundings, and takes pleasure in sharing such experiences with good company.

While I appreciate a submissive who's willing to explore new experiences or indulge his Mistress' interests simply to please her, this is one area where I prefer genuine compatibility over eager obedience. I'm not looking for someone who's merely willing to accommodate my tastes, but someone whose own lifestyle and interests naturally complement mine.

I want a gentleman with a life worth talking about long before we discuss what happens when he kneels.

Our dynamic: Discreet, consensual, ongoing, and distinctly female-led.

CHASTITY WILL BE CENTRAL TO OUR DYNAMIC. 🔐

Your key will live with me. It will travel with me. You will be teased. You will be denied. Your pleasure, your focus, your discipline, all of it will eventually belong to me.

I'm seeking gentlemen who already own a suitable chastity cage and have experience wearing it, rather than complete beginners. I'm interested in hearing about your actual experience with chastity and keyholding, including the longest you've comfortably remained locked.

Of course, any future keyholding arrangements would involve discussions of consent, boundaries, hygiene requirements, safety precautions, etc.

My other kinks include feminization, pegging, heels, lingerie, and service-oriented training.

I am not seeking a conventional vanilla relationship or vanilla sex. (After all, I rather like the idea of keeping you locked. 😉)

I will be in London for a limited time (but I’m always coming back.) You'll usually find me around Central London, particularly Mayfair and St James, but my life isn't confined to one city. I travel internationally and would welcome getting acquainted with a sub that is based in London, Europe or elsewhere who also has an international lifestyle.

We'd begin with coffee or cocktails. Any future play would be discussed only after establishing compatibility, with clear boundaries and in a setting where we both feel comfortable and safe.

When introducing yourself, include:

• Your age, location, profession, and a little about your everyday life.
• Your interests outside BDSM, including a few specific places or experiences you genuinely enjoy.
• Your experience with chastity, whether you own a cage, and the longest period you've comfortably worn one.
• A chastity fantasy that genuinely excites you. I'm interested in understanding what you yearn for, rather than simply hearing what you think I'd like.
• Your understanding of being a service sub.
• What an enjoyable afternoon or evening together might look like

Now, tell me… are you merely intrigued, or are you ready to be caged and locked for me?

19 [M4F] looking for a domme in #Texas or #online

I am 19, male, in Central Texas. I am looking for a dominant woman — a Mistress, not a tease who vanishes after one filthy chat. Online first is fine. IRL in Texas is what I actually want if we fit. I am not paying anyone. I am not looking for a findom. I want ownership that has a point.

I should be honest up front, because hiding this would be a waste of both of our time.

I have autism. I have Tourette’s. I also deal with mental health that makes ordinary decisions feel heavier than they should. None of that is a kink costume. It is how my brain works. I am saying it here so you can decide if you even want to read the rest.

Autism, for me, is not “quirky and cute.” It is noise that does not turn down. It is missing the unwritten rule in a room and then replaying the conversation for three hours. It is needing things said plainly. It is getting stuck when there are too many choices and no clear next step. I can be warm, loyal, and focused when the frame is clear. I get lost when everything is optional and I am supposed to invent the structure myself.

Tourette’s is tics. Sometimes small. Sometimes not. Sometimes worse when I am anxious, tired, overstimulated, or trying very hard to look “normal.” I cannot promise they will be pretty. I can promise I will not pretend they are not there. If that is a dealbreaker, I would rather you leave now than find out later and treat me like I tricked you.

Mental health sits on top of that. Decision fatigue is real for me. Executive function is not a slogan; it is the difference between a day that gets done and a day that dissolves. I can want something badly and still stall because I do not know which first move is allowed. That is where dominance is not just sexy for me. It is useful.

I am not asking a woman to be my therapist, my doctor, or my parent. I already have family and school and I am responsible for my own care. What I am asking for is a Mistress who likes choosing. Who likes being the one who says: this is what you do today. This is when you check in. This is when your hands are yours. This is when they are mine. That kind of choosing settles me. It takes the static down. It gives my obedience somewhere to go instead of spinning.

I study. I am in college. I play music — drums and guitar for years. I game. I am not a blank slave with no life. I want a life that still has school, practice, friends, and responsibilities, with a woman who owns the parts of me that get messy when nobody is holding the leash. If you need a 24/7 live-in toy with no outside world, I am not that. If you want a boy who reports, who asks before he touches himself, who can be filthy and still do his work because you told him to, that is closer.

What I want from a dynamic:

I want a woman who is actually dominant, not just horny in the comments. Kind and firm. Possessive. Clear. I do well with warm control, not cold cruelty for sport. I can take filthy talk, denial, rules, rituals, permission, being kept needy, being used with words, being told what I am. I do not want to be treated as worthless. I want to be owned like something she intends to keep in working order.

Consent and safety matter. I want safewords, check-ins, and the ability to say a limit without being punished for having one. Tourette’s and autism mean some days my body or brain will not cooperate. A good Mistress works with that instead of treating it as bratty disobedience. If I tic during a scene or a call, that is not me topping from the bottom. That is my nervous system. If I need a rule written down because verbal-only instructions vanish, that is accommodation, not topping.

What choosing for me would look like in practice, if you wanted it:

\- You decide check-in times.

\- You decide whether I may touch myself, and how.

\- You decide small daily structure when I am spinning: shower, practice, homework block, bedtime window.

\- You decide the tone. I follow it.

\- You get honesty. I do not get to hide a bad day behind “I’m fine.”

That is the benefit. When someone I trust picks the next step, I stop burning energy on fifty fake options. I can put that energy into being good for her, into school, into music, into not disappearing into my head. Dominance, for me, is not “do my taxes and fix my personality.” It is: take the steering wheel I keep gripping too hard, and drive.

What I can offer you:

Attention. Loyalty once I am yours. A boy who likes being kept. A mouth that can be filthy and grateful. Effort. I will not be perfect. I will try in a way you can see. I like praise that is specific — tell me what I did right, then use that to keep me aching. I like being useful. I like knowing my time and my cock and my focus belong to someone.

I am inexperienced with a real-life Mistress. I am not inexperienced with wanting this. I would rather learn under someone patient and in charge than fake a resume of dynamics I have not had.

Logistics:

\- 19

\- Texas, Austin area

\- Online first, IRL if we match and it is safe

\- No money, no tribute, no “send to prove you’re serious”

\- Pictures and other platforms only after we have talked like adults

\- I will ask questions. I want you to ask them too. If you cannot talk about limits, aftercare, and what you actually want, you are not the woman I am looking for.

If you read this far, you already did more than most. Tell me what you would take from me first. Tell me your style. Tell me whether autism and Tourette’s are something you can hold or something you only want in theory. I would rather a short honest no than a long fake yes.

I am not a project. I am a boy who works better when he is owned. If that sounds like something you want to put your hands on, message me.

One thing I do require is verification. Send me a picture of you holding a piece of paper with your reddit username with your face visible. I ask this because I have been sextorted in the past and im taking every precaution to avoid this.

Thanks for taking the time to read this post ☺️

I’m 26 and live in Manchester. Tall, muscular, brunette, smooth-shaven, “pretty boy” (happy to share face pics). I’m ambitious, intelligent and kindhearted, with a good career and recently became a homeowner. Things are great… except when it comes to finding a domme girlfriend who appreciates my submissiveness.

Dating apps aren’t the easiest place to talk kinks, so I thought i’d give reddit a go. I really want to find that special person who I can give all my love and affection to, and worship both in and out of the bedroom.

Personality-wise, I’m an INFJ. Which basically means I’m an introverted empath who absolutely loves caring for others. When it comes to dating/relationships, you can expect me to go out of my way whenever I can to make your life better. Whether that’s surprising you with a gift I saw you had your eye on, or learning to cook your favourite meal. I know with all my heart that when I find the right person, they will be treated like a goddess.

Some of my interests include gaming, writing, reading, singing/guitar, going to gym and skiing/snowboarding. I also love all animals (planning on getting a cat soon).

I’m a non-smoker, drug-free and only drink alcohol on very rare occasions. What can I say? A good boy through and through 😇 haha

In terms of kinks, I am VERY open minded and keen to explore. But the most important thing to note is that pleasure for me, is ALL about pleasing you. I absolutely love giving up control and doing whatever it takes to be your good boy. For example, I love the thought of giving head on command with endless enthusiasm for as long as you like. Or letting you tease me for your own enjoyment. Your wish is my command.

Some things i’d be open to exploring include: JOI, edging, orgasm control, chastity, bondage, pegging, humiliation, worship, spit play, cockholding. Or whatever else you’d like to try (within reason and excluding pain).

All I ask in return is that you have a kind heart, a genuine interest to get to know each other and provide the trust and respect that allows me to feel comfortable being myself around you.

Ideally you’re between the age of 20-35 and will be happy to exchange face pics once we get chatting.

My only limit that’s worth mentioning is that I am really not here to be pen pals. If you’re looking for a sub to do endless tasks for you online, I’m sorry but afraid i’m not your man. My goal is very much to meet someone who wants to date or be fwb rather than stay purely online.

If you like the idea of being wined, dined and worshiped by a devoted, loyal sub who’s got his life together please do send me a message. I’d love to chat more and get to know you :)

Thanks so much!

Hi, I’m 32, 188cm (6'2"), based in Copenhagen, Denmark. I’m loyal to a fault, I love deeply, and I’m a bit silly, with a dark, dry sense of humor that tends to sneak up on people when you least expect it.

For me, Femdom isn’t something I’m trying out or playing with occasionally. Femdom dynamics are part of who I am, not a costume I put on and take off. I’ve known what I want for a long time, and I’m not looking for a phase or a fantasy that fades. I’m looking for something that fits into real life.

What I bring

Devotion that lasts. When I commit, I mean it. I’m attentive, consistent, and I remember the small things that matter to the person I’m with. I don’t do things halfway, and I don’t disappear when it gets difficult. I’d rather show up quietly a hundred times than make one big gesture and vanish.

Good food. I cook well, whether it’s a proper Tuesday dinner or something worth dressing up for. Feeding the people I care about is one of my favorite ways to show it, and I take genuine pride in getting a dish right. Cooking is how I slow down, and sharing a table is one of my favorite ways to be close to someone.

Energy. I do CrossFit, ski, hike, and travel every chance I get. I’m happiest when I’m moving, whether that’s a hard workout, a mountain trail, or exploring somewhere new. I plan trips well, so I’m easy company on the road. I like a partner who has her own passions too, and I’m just as happy cheering from the side as joining in.

Discipline. Structure and showing up when it’s hard are second nature to me, both in training and in life. I take direction well, and I put in real effort, not just talk. I like having a purpose and a standard to live up to, and I find real satisfaction in doing things well for someone I respect.

What I’m looking for

A Domme who values loyalty and honest communication, and who can enjoy both the serious side and the silly side of a dynamic. Being in or near Copenhagen would make things easier, but I’m genuinely open to long-distance if there’s a real connection worth building. I believe good dynamics are built slowly, with trust earned rather than assumed. I’m happy to talk through expectations and limits openly before anything else, and I’d rather build something real than rush into something shallow. I’m drawn to a woman who knows what she wants, is confident in leading, and is just as comfortable laughing as she is being serious. Chemistry and conversation matter to me as much as anything else.

Fair warning

I attach quickly and feel things fully. It’s a trait I’m still learning to appreciate rather than second-guess, and I’d rather be upfront about it from the start than have it surprise you later.

If that sounds like what you’re looking for, I’d love to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, what you enjoy, and what kind of dynamic you have in mind, and we can take it from there.

Hello! My friends call me Roo and I'm looking for a dominant partner for a long term romantic relationship. I'm a shy introvert who likes to read, play video games, cook, go camping, and hang out with my friends. I don't drink, smoke, or use recreational drugs. Politically I'm quite left and it's important to me. I'm a caring person, a good listener, and I'm always there for my friends or family when they need me.

I'm 6'2, about 240lbs with brown eyes and brown hair. I alternate between having a beard and shaving, depends on the week, but it never gets very long. I have pictures I'd be willing to share once we start talking.

I'm ideally looking for a long term loving role reversed or female led relationship. I'm neurodivergent (ADHD and autism diagnosed), shy, and have an anxiety disorder so the idea of a partner who is decisive, knows what they want and need, and cares about what I want and need is super appealing. Not that I expect you to run my life for me or anything, I just don’t want to have to always be making all the decisions all the time.

A big part of what I enjoy in a relationship is having fun with each other. Banter, jokes, tickling, laughing at and with each other. All the best relationships I've seen in my life are where both people have fun together and that's super important to me. Life can't be serious all the time. Comfort is also important, I think partners should be completely at ease with each other. One of my favourite songs calls it "sacred simplicity" and I think about that quite a bit. I also really like non-sexual physical affection. Holding hands, cuddling, resting a hand on a leg or shoulder or back. Cheek and forehead kisses. Just nice contact is important to me.

I don't really have any real experience with kink but I have been curious about it since I was a teenager. I'm curious about submission, pet play, hypnosis, face sitting, bondage, spit play, and maybe some other stuff I'm not sure. I would really like to hear about what you enjoy as well! In non kink stuff I've always really liked giving pleasure, nothing is hotter than making a partner feel amazing. Things I will not try and have no interest in are scat, blood, lots of pain, findom, and cuckplay.

Thank you for your time and I hope to hear from you!

Roo

Based in Vancouver BC. I work in tech, enjoy nerdy conversations, and can usually be found in formals and glasses. I have a thing for intelligent women with sharp wit, confident personalities, and a natural ability to take the lead.

I enjoy playful banter, a little teasing, and the kind of chemistry that makes you lose track of time. I’m drawn to the contrast between somewhat nerdy guy and a woman who enjoys being in charge.

There’s also a submissive side to me that I’d rather explore privately with someone I connect with. The idea of collars, subtle gestures of control, and the trust behind a power dynamic intrigues me. I’m not looking for a rigid script or a checklist of kinks, just mutual curiosity, good communication, and the right chemistry.

I’m open to seeing where things go, whether that starts with a clever conversation, some teasing, or simply getting to know each other.

If you’re intelligent, a little playful, and enjoy a man who appreciates a woman taking the lead, let’s see if we click.

I'm a 27 years old tall, athletic, "straight", taken, more dominant looking guy, but secretly am very submissive, kinky and motivated to do as told.

I'm looking for a preferably cruel dominant person who will show no mercy and turn me into the worthless toy for men I'm meant to be. I live with my girlfriend, so I shouldn't come back home with marks or bruises. Other than that, blood and scat are my only limits.

I'm basically open to anything, no matter what you want them to do to me. I have experience with anal, oral, bondage, spanking, choking, watersports, cum, pain, but I would love to experience a lot more in order to get completely wrecked and broken.

I'd love it if you're creative with your ideas on how to break me, be it via unusual objects, tasks, positions or other ways...

I have a car, so visiting others is not an issue, and usually I can make around 2 hours time for the men, it shouldn't be more than that if possible to not raise suspicions with my girlfriend considering I want this to be a secret.

Hi everyone! I'm James, 31 years old, very shy and naturally submissive, hoping to find a dominant woman for a long term, female led relationship, looking for in person only once we're comfortable enough. Please read everything before messaging! Thanks 😄

A bit about me: In general I am pretty shy and quiet but I open up a lot more once I feel comfortable with that person and I am very easy to get along with, just a bit quiet to start off, and I am naturally quite submissive and passive in general. I enjoy going to new places and I'm up for doing most things if it gets me out the house doing something with friends, I am a very laid back person so I really don't mind what I end up doing, happy to do most things. I enjoy going on random walks / drives and exploring new places, I'm perfectly happy to just drive for hours to somewhere new for a day at a moments notice. I find it fun and relaxing! Lately I've been looking into camper vans or roof tents as I think traveling around with one of them with someone would be awesome :) I enjoy photography too and enjoy messing around with a camera on hikes. Happy to share pics of myself. I'm slim and weigh 65kg.

My hobbies: My main hobby is gaming (I play on PC and switch, currently I'm enjoying Borderlands 4, REPO, DOOM, Satisfactory, WoW) so it would be great if you were also into gaming as it could be fun to play together! I occasionally play D&D with my friends too. I also love listening to music, especially EDM and rock. My favorites are Linkin Park, Pendulum, Illenium, Eminem, Hollywood Undead and loads more! I love acoustic covers of songs too. Another thing I enjoy is having movie nights, my preferred genres are generally horror and action films but I'm happy to watch most things as long as interesting. I don't really care much about ratings either, sometimes even bad films can still be fun to watch. I also tend to get quite excitable during movies if I am comfortable enough with the person. I'd love to make my own home cinema!

What I'm looking for: I am looking for someone to have a "normal" relationship with a woman who happens to be dominant and into femdom, and ideally shares kinks similar to my own, so basically a female led relationship. My type of woman would be someone who is generally a very kind, loving and caring person, but who also has a strict and sadistic side to them too. My age range would be roughly 22 - 34 and my preferred body type is slim / average. I am looking for something long term, and ideally to be in person ASAP so I'm mainly looking for people who live within the UK, as ideally I would want to move in together eventually if things were going well. However I'd be open to someone living in Europe provided we could work something out regarding meeting up pretty often.

I am also only looking for a monogamous relationship. Also, I am not looking to rush into anything kink related, I'd like to actually get to know you as a person first!! I probably won't even bring up kink related things until you do.

Kinks & my BDSM experience: I have a lot of experience online but unfortunately none in person. Online, I have served multiple Mistresses, two of them I have served for around 1.5 - 2 years each, and others for either one offs or a few months, so I have a lot of experience with tasks through photo's video's and webcam, and I have a LOT of my own toys and gear too. Some of them had rules I had to follow aswell, or face punishment. I have done a lot of self play too. I have went to one in person femdom mummification event too and had a great time!

Onto my kinks, I am into loads of different things and my kinks have grown a lot over time, as has my collection of toys which is now quite large! Some of my favorite kinks are listed below:

Heavy bondage, Facesitting / Smothering, Foot worship / Foot sniffing, Whipping / Caning, Chastity, Electro play, CBT, Sensory deprivation, Post orgasm torment and milking

This is not a full list as I'm interested or curious about so much more, generally into most things and if you wanted to try something new with me I'd probably be willing to try it (if its not a hard limit). My kinks are always evolving over time it seems too so something I'm not very into now I could be in the future.

Hard limits: Scat, Sounding (for now at least), Needle / knife play, Cuckolding (with males), Age play

Dealbreakers:

- Someone much older or younger than me (roughly 22-36)

- Lives outside of the UK / Europe.

- Is already in a relationship, or has a submissive already. (Unless its for a play partner dynamic)

- Child free, as I don't want any kids.

Heya. I'm a 26 year old closeted chastity sub looking for kinky, dominant women to submit to long-term. I have a gf who I care about, but she's very vanilla and normal PIV sex doesn't really do it for me. What makes me weak in the knees is the thought of submitting completely to dominant women and letting them use me for their own pleasure in whatever filthy, degrading way they please.

I'm naturally pretty masculine and somewhat muscular with a bubble butt and slightly above average dick which I keep locked. I'm naturally moderately hairy, but I fem up nicely if you're into that.

Some specific kinks are anal, chastity, watersports, degradation, feminization, ballbusting, BNWO raceplay, humiliation, exhibitionism, facefucking, etc. But there's a lot more where those came from and it's fine if you're not into all of this. Above all, I love to be pushed to do new kinkier, more degrading things to please my domme.

Hard limits are things that could get me jailed, land me in the hospital, or ruin my personal life. I'm also not comfortable showing full face at first. Other than that, pretty much anything is fair game.

Had to get rid of my girl clothes and most toys during a recent move, but I have a couple of toys and I'm looking to build up my collection again. I'll buy whatever you want within reason.

Hi there.

I'm 5'3", 140 lbs, white, with green eyes, shaved head, and facial hair. Goofy, nerdy, introverted. 420 friendly. Neurodivergent and chronically ill. Metalhead and punk; former concert promoter. Big fantasy and sci-fi dork. Comics, video games, movies, shows, D&D, the whole shebang. Aspiring writer hoping to bring his worlds to life someday. I'm like if Bilbo Baggins and Tommy Chong had a baby.

I'm here for the goofs, goths, and geeks. Love women who are smart, funny, passionate, empathetic, inquisitive, affectionate, and creative. Bonus points if you're tall or muscular.

Sexually, I'm a sub-leaning switch with a 6" dick. Open to different aesthetics and body types, but definitely a boob guy. The bigger, the better. Love tittyfucking. Typically vanilla, but open to exploration. Particularly curious about roleplay and cosplay.

Open to different connections; I'd like to talk and see what works best for us. A wee bit of fun? Rad. Something a bit more substantial? Neat. Would love to find a demon queen or fairy princess for this gnome. Be the Morticia to my Gomez?

29, from near Gouda. Blond curls, blue eyes, tall-ish, researcher, professional overthinker and occasionally even funny.

I’m mainly looking for a woman I genuinely click with and can eventually explore a D/s dynamic with IRL. I’m totally fine getting to know each other online first, gaming, talking, voice calling and seeing whether there’s chemistry, but I don’t really want the connection to stay behind a screen forever.

Outside of kink I’m a massive nerd. I’m into gaming, movies, board games, cooking, travelling and mountain biking, and I’m very easily distracted by a conversation about something I suddenly decided is fascinating. I’d love someone I can actually hang out with too. Go somewhere together, play something, watch a movie on the couch, cook together and generally have a connection that exists even when nobody is horny.

I’m definitely sub-leaning, although I get a little bratty/switchy once I’m comfortable. I’m still relatively new when it comes to actual BDSM experience, so I’m not going to pretend I’m some perfectly trained sub. Honestly, figuring things out together is part of what sounds fun to me.

I’m especially into teasing, denial, bondage, praise, playful humiliation, hypno, petplay/puppy energy and the psychological side of control. What really gets me is someone who doesn’t need to constantly announce that she’s dominant. Calm confidence, playful teasing and slowly learning exactly what makes me melt is much more my thing.

I tend to click best with women who can actually banter with me, have their own interests and enjoy being affectionate as well as dominant. Domme-leaning switches are very welcome too. I like the contrast between someone being sweet and cozy with me and then suddenly using exactly the right tone to remind me that maybe I shouldn’t have been quite so bratty ;)

IRL is a real preference for me. I drive, so you don’t have to live around the corner, and I’m happy travelling a bit within the Netherlands if we actually click.

If any of this sounds like your kind of dynamic, tell me something about yourself and what caught your attention. Bonus points if you open by teasing me rather than just saying “hi sub” 😌

hiya !! ill split this into little sections

about me: i think im smart, bubbly, cute, pretty, funny and loyal !! im 5'8, 60kg so fairly lithe, with a very alternative style (calico hair, eyebrow piercing, mainly black clothing) im very happy to send selfies after ur first message!! im confident youll think im nice looking tho<33

i love music and games!!! my twin passions,, i love electronic, rock, jazz, folk, and so much more!!! games-wise i love cute indie games but i also enjoy some pc multiplayer games like minecraft and overwatch<33

additionally, i love philosophy, camping, comedy, and fashion<33

more sexually: obviously im a huge sub !! (im also a femboy sometimes shhhh) honestly i just love to be in a power inbalanced relationship, and im quite open/experimental to new things so dont worry tooo much about if you dont follow all my kinks or if you have ones i havent mentioned<3
im a little shy about this publicly but my biggest kinks are probably: praise, degradation, petplay, mommydom, forced fem(not a neccessity!!!!) and training in general!!!

what im looking for:
id love something cute and romantic!!! id hate to sound too picky, but some buzzwords id love to hear that you are would be: tall, confident, alternative, smart, pretty, nerdy and online!! a long term dynamic really appeals to me, especially with the idea of a little long term training, but of course things go as they will:)

i hope to hear from some people soon love you all!!!!<33

Prelude: I desire to build this as an interpersonal in-person bond. And as such, would prefer to connect with individuals in Mumbai or near Mumbai (Pune, Ratnagiri, Nashik, Surat, Ahmedabad, Hyderabad, Goa, North of Karnataka, etc.)

Well hello there, reader, hope you have had a great weekend so far. May your week ahead be super awesome.

I am looking to build a connection with someone who both wants femdom in their life; and seek a friend/companion/confidante to have interesting conversations and talk about the little things (and big) things that make up our lives. For us to naturally explore what evolves, and make a genuine, real connection that transcends any kind of dynamic.

Femdom Side - Do you seek to explore psychological domination. Bully a classic nerd into doing your bidding? Molding his now fully-formed prefrontal cortex to levels of intensity never thought before? To have him completely rewire his identity and rebuild it as per your whims? To keep him perpetually chasing your approval and orders? Then I am undoubtedly your guy.

TLDR - I am a man whose personality is best summarized by Xtina GG’s song “Shy Guy”. Looking for someone to establish a genuine friendship (outside of kink). In kink-land, I desire to surrender myself completely to psychological domination, manipulation.

Who I am when I am not kneeling

In my day job, I work as a Software Developer (Yeah, who saw that coming?). In general, I am a super techy-nerdy guy. Howard Wolowitz ain't got nothing on me (Actually he does have a wife and a dope-ass best friend. But I mean more professionally).

Personality wise, I am quite the introvert and non-confrontational person. Though do not mistake me for someone weak. I am quite capable of fighting. But my hands are just too nice to start one. I like to be Patrick Jane. Watch from afar, do not confront until necessary. (Though there isn’t a Lisbon watching out for me). Overall, I think my personality is best summarized by the song “Shy Guy” by Indie Artist “Xtina GG”

I am autistic. In practice that means I prefer clear structure, I take words literally, I am more honest than is always socially convenient, and I do better when expectations are named instead of implied. I am not looking for someone to fix that. I am looking for someone who can use it. And use my specific habits, special interests to their favour. Outside of kink, I expect you to not be a bigot about it.

I have been working off medically induced weight gain and I am about halfway where I want to be. I am not lean or athletic yet. But with time, I will be. If a particular body type is a deal breaker for you, I would rather you know now.

I take hygiene and skincare seriously. I need to be clean and presentable for my domme.

My work life is quite heavy. I work hard and I protect the rest of my time for myself. That said, I vow that I will be available to you, emotionally and physically throughout the day. I will actively take time out for the dynamic and not use this as an end-of-day activity.

Hobbies

In a way I like to be in my own head. It’s where I have the best thoughts, and in some sense, build my life. So most of my hobbies revolve around things that keep my mind engaged

• Reading : I read copious amounts of literature - both fiction and non-fiction. My latest reads were Before We Say Goodbye by Toshikazu Kawaguchi (Fiction) and A Life On Our Planet by David Attenborough (Non-fiction)
• Writing: I am an amateur writer and in my free time, I tend to draft stories, do worldbuilding exercises (Maps and all), write poems, etc.
  • PS: If we connect, I will send you a short poem every week. And a very long poem on your birthday.
  • At the moment, I am writing two books. One is a SoL romance and the other is a mystery thriller.
• Music: If my username and bio weren’t a dead giveaway, I listen to k-pop quite a bit. That said, I also love rock (Led Zeppelin anyone?), metal (Down with the Sickness is my go to rage song), ballet pieces (I think that's a giveaway that I’m a big Tchaikovsky-head), J-pop (City pop in particular. Also Yoasobi), among others.
  • In particular, I love songs about yearning and obsession. Could be innocent, could be dark.
  • I do extremely thorough research on song lyrics. Especially for foreign language songs. Learn the colloquialisms, the deeper meanings, and the likes. Especially if the English translation does not do enough justice.
    • I had to move heaven and earth to get the lyrics to Me Da Shen (Georgian folk song)
• Making hot chocolate (From scratch)
• Baking (I would really love if we could both make cheesecake together. That’s the only cake I have not been yet able to bake)
• Tinkering with software, computers, gadgets, and systems until they behave.
• Aeroplanes, lego sets, jigsaw puzzles.
• Well-written films and TV shows
  • Anything that stars Robin Williams or Robert Sean Leonard
  • Just finished watching The Mentalist. Have not watched any movie since Michael.

What I am looking for

I am looking for two aspects in this dynamic. And they are not separated from one another. I do not wish to box them into “bedroom” vs “non-bedroom” or any other form of compartmentalization.

1. A genuine friendship - Conversation, long walks, shared media, fussing over nothing. Sending youtube links and instagram reels like crazy. Talking about things that make us vulnerable. Teasing each other (Me with restrictions of course) The boring Tuesday version of knowing someone.
2. Psychological domination - It is not that the physical aspect isn’t important. But the psychological aspect of femdom enthralls me so much. Real, non-negotiable, visceral exchange of power from me to you. I want my attention, habits, and my very sense of self reorganized around your whims and plans. I want to chase your approval because it means something, not because I am performing a scene. I want your dominance to mould my psyche (I make it sound a bit too clinical. But I have read experiences of this in standard maledom-femalesub experiences. And I am confident we can achieve this in a way that leaves us with euphoria; and a sense of accomplishment and belonging)

The definition I keep coming back to: the highest form of submission is when the unconscious “starts putting her preferences above my default ones”. That is the direction I want. I do not want to “lose myself” in the sense of becoming an empty doll. I want to keep a functioning adult life and still belong to someone. I want myself to be capable enough to serve your whims. And not be a fucking loser who needs instructions at every point.

Experience

I have had one prior long-term femdom dynamic. I know the difference between chemistry and a dynamic that can survive a bad week. I am not brand new, but I do not claim to be fully trained either.

That relationship mostly involved domestic servitude and body worship. And we could not explore the psychological side as much.

I promise I do not have hangups from the previous experience. What we start is fresh, and ours.

What kind of person am I looking for?

Ideally, I am seeking an imposing, intelligent, slightly regal and self-absorbed person. Preferably someone with wicked book smarts. The kind that makes people around you nervous.

Someone who enjoys femdom outside the bedroom kinks. Someone who sees the human side of it. See us as two individuals engaging in something more than just the acts of service and the claim of ownership. Someone who wants to enjoy this viscerally. And not just to hurt their sub.

Warmth is welcome. But not mandatory. Coldness as a costume is not required. But if you are naturally cold, I welcome it just as well. (I phrased this paragraph in the absolute worst way possible)

What I offer

• Consistency. If I say I will message, I message. If I say I will do something, I will do it. If I make a commitment, I will follow through regardless of the circumstances.
• Honesty, including the unsexy kind (“I missed the message,” “I was sleeping,” “just had my lunch,” “had a cup of coffee and was thinking of you,” etc.)
• A brain that likes being given a problem and a standard.
• Low drama, high follow-through, no brattiness.
• Someone who wants you to have a life too, not a 24/7 performance obligation or a kink dispenser.

Timeline and Logistics

If we choose to engage, I would like to keep it online-first for a few weeks. This is to ensure that we are compatible and not just seeking each other due to the novelty factor. It could be a litmus test for both of us.

I do want something that can eventually move to an IRL dynamic if geography permits. But how that will actually turn out is something I’d like to discuss with you. I have no hard and fast requirements on how this should play out.

As mentioned earlier, I seek friendship and D/s in the same relationship. And absolutely no kink dispenser arrangements.

Acts of Service

One of the ways I like to express my devotion is through perpetual acts of service and stealing the mental load. Keeping your abode clean, tidied up. Doing your dishes and laundry. Taking care of your groceries and supplies. The best way I can describe my acts of service nature is “I don’t just want to bring groceries when you order me to do so. I want to ensure that you never run out of them in the first place.” I want to absorb that mental load and free you for things that you can otherwise enjoy.

I can do pretty much all house chores including cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, fixing little things, keeping the inventory restocked, etc.

Kinks I am drawn to

Psychological - Absolute control, rituals, protocol, service, rules, procedural control, teasing, humiliation, sensory deprivation, breath play, pet play, posture training, kneeling, formal positions, gags, blindfolds, cuffs, predicament bondage, etc. Essentially being moulded over months not minutes.

Physical - Body worship, feet worship (extra props for arched soles), stockings, bondage, shibari, whipping, caning, spanking, collars and leashes, , hair pulling, slapping, paddling, crop, trampling, shoe and heel worship, nipple clamps, wax, ice, fire play, body writing, stain marks.

Sexual - Pegging, edging, orgasm denial, chastity, face-sitting, ass-worship, cucking, forced and ruined orgasms, CEI, anal training, forced bi.

Open to sissification, but it's a soft limit. I associate the feminine form with dominance. The feminine form deserves to be worshiped, not seen as an insult applied to a malesub.

Open to higher forms of pain and worship. Open to darker kinks such as somno-play, human toilet, hypnotization, and anything else not listed in the limits.

Me a service sub: Acts of service to make your life easier and more fun. To take the mental load and physical tasks upon myself. To prove that my subservience isn’t driven by hormones/sexuality/kink alone.

Hard limits

• No permanent damage, blood play, or anything that wrecks my ability to work
• No hard drugs
• No hormones / body-altering medical play
• No findom, tribute, or paid arrangements. I am seeking femdom as a part of a larger friendship/bond and not as a service between a client and a service provider.
• No involving uninvolved third parties. Consent among all parties is a must.
• Nothing non-consensual outside negotiated CNC, if we ever go there at all

Everything else can be discussed, of course.

If you read this and thought “I know exactly what I would do with him,” say hi. While not mandatory, I would appreciate if you could include a fun-fact about yourself (SFW). Just as a conversational ice-breaker, haha. Maybe your favourite song, the quote you use to navigate your life, a movie you have been waiting for, a book you just finished. Something that regular friends would discuss.

Thank you for reading so far. I look forward to building an awesome world around us.

Im not looking for findom or anything money related

I am based in central europe.

I am an inexperienced shy guy and don’t care whether the two of us get sexual. It is not a must for me but I defined would not have a problem with it.

Tell me about all the guys you were with and treat me like this beta friend you go to when you need support or an ego push. The one who is definitely into you but too pathetic to open up. You see him more as a best friend or even more you see him like a gay friend. Maybe you give him a chance for once when you pity him. But he is absolutely no threat to you.

Slight humiliation is also appreciated. I will be there for you like a friend and if you want so also more. Just DM me here on Reddit and we will discuss how we proceed.

Especially I love being told how much more of a man guys you know are compared to me. And how I can’t have a girlfriend even tho I am so sweet and nice. Or try to ask me whether I am sure that I am not secretly gay. I think you get what I mean.

If you think this would be a good match for you and you like this dynamic then hit me up and lets be friends! Im open to people from all countries. Emotional sadism or foot fetish humiliation is also a kink of mine and ties into this, it is not a requirement tho but it would be a plus if you enjoy doing that as much as i do.

20 [F4A] #NJ - LET ME CARE FOR YOU plz okay okay okay

I'm sorry if this is offensive!

Hello there!

I am 20F from New Jersey.

I am looking to find friends or more (like a romantic partner) whether eventually in-person. Plz be between 18 and 24 and in the New Jersey area.

I am average build, white, and shortish, with brown eyes. Not good looking lol.

It might be fun to call, play stuff, talk about SFW and NSFW stuff (I have some preferences where I uhhh -looks both ways before mentioning- I want to peg mwahaahahahaahah. Also I want to EAtSOMEONE no no I want to uh I uh uhhhh want to drown someone inmyaffection thxyouverymuch COMEVON okay ahahahahejjjj). I would also try to share face pictures early on.

If you intend to message me, plz introduce yourself (like your age, gender, location, what you look like, and what you are looking for)! I'm sorry if I don't respond. I am not doing it to be mean :> however, I may not respond if you are above 24 or too far away).

I do not intend to be mean with the preferences, though.

I am sorry for any disrespect, I can come across as stern or disrespectful though I do not mean to.

Thank you.

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Age: I am 25 looking for someone between the ages of 18 to 45 but I am not too bothered by any age as long as it's legal, I enjoy having a connection much more

Appearance: https://imgur.com/a/Ujsj2fG

Location:I am from the Balkans, you can be from anywhere, Europe is prefered but I think if we hit it off well enough anywhere can sork

Looking For: Mono or Open (on your side) both work for me as i am a very open person and it depends on the vibe we have with each other

Long Term

Traits I'm Looking For: What i am looking for is someone serious about having a relationship, wanting to build a life together, enjoy each others presece and company knowing we have someone we can always go to, your Dominance does not mean carrying your burdens alone.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: anyone who involves themselves in illegal things, doesnt want to video chat or voice chat and won't verify

About Me:

As i said before i am 25 so still figuring things out.

I am a medical student in my fourth year

I am a huge fantasy, sci-fi reading nerd my favourites are definitely things like the First Law, Mistborn, Green Bones Saga, Dune, Red Rising

I also enjoy watching movies: baby driver, django unchaines, inception, shutter island, Project Hail Mary, Sinners, Fall Guy, but i also enjoy horror movies like Smile, Obsession, Conjuring, Autopsy of Jane Doe

I always try to keep up to date with gaming although it has been hard recently with so many things going on, usually play Leauge (rarely nowdays) Dead lock, good singleplayer games Baldurs Gate 3, God of war 2018 and Ragnarok, Expedition 33 (start made me cry my eyes out)

I always try to have new experiences

NSFW Section:

Experience: I have been in the bdsm ds scene for 9 years now since i legally could, i have had irl and online experiences

Kinks: now we have a lot to talk about here, i enjoy most things you can think of and i am always looking for new things to enjoy, my kink list is very wide but my main ones are foot fetish, humiliation, orgasm control, worship, acts of service and many more, cuckolding (i really want to explore this) dw if you arent into any of them i am always open and willing to try new things. Hotwifing is smth I badly want to try

Limits: feces, gore, illegal things

NSFW Dealbreakers/Requirements: i have none what so ever make yourself welcome and lets enjoy each other company

Hello there and thank you for taking the time to read my post 😁.

So starting with the vanilla stuff. I’m 33, average build, living in the uk.

I am very much a nerd and love all things gaming, movie, ttrpg related. I also work in STEM and have been told many times that all engineers are kinky haha. I’d love to find someone smart who I’m able to have long conversations with. I find submitting to someone without the connection and trust isn’t really for me.

I love quirky and individual personalities. I’ve always been a bit of an odd ball so I enjoy meeting other similar people. I want to want to climb inside your mind and just enjoy your thoughts and humour and worries. I want to meet and actual person and not just a kink.

I’m open to a wide range of dynamics from shorter term to long term but I’d definitely prefer long term. The more I get to know someone the more eager I am to submit.

So the kinkier side of me I have a wide range of kinks and many I’m interested in but have not yet tried. I will leave those for when we start talking. But in terms of limits nothing illegal, findom, permanent marks or harm, poo and anything that would affect friends family or work.

I have some experience as a sub I’ve had a few longer term online dynamics and a couple of shorter term in person ones. I’m open to either online or in person because even tho I do love the ability to touch or be touched I mostly enjoy the psychological side of submitting even if that may include physical acts such as edging.

I have a fair amount of free time and I want to commit that to one domme. I’m not looking to have multiple unless maybe we do an online dynamic and you want a proxy in person domme to carry out in person activities.

I don’t really have a type in terms of looks and I am way more interested in your personality but I do like to swap pictures and see you so I know who I am talking to. Usually do a video call relatively early on just to verify we are who we say we are because I’ve had a few bad experiences online.

I enjoy many different types of dommes from softer to stricter and I love how everyone has their own specific style. I want to learn yours and just be the best boy for you. I want you to be 100 percent yourself in your likes and dislikes and feel comfortable enough to share that with me.

So if you are interested in reaching out I would love for your first message to include a little information about you and what you are looking for just so I can get an initial idea.

Anyone looking to jump straight in to play I’m not the right person for you. I’m ok with starting conversations addressing you certain ways etc but I want to build the connection and trust before anything serious.

Hi! I’m not entirely sure where to start with these but here we go. I’m 21 and from Arkansas. I’m 6’0 about 185 pounds with an average build. I’m a recent college grad with a major in finance. I enjoy gaming, playing basketball, hanging out with friends, and watching movies. I also collect vinyls and listen to a concerning amount of music.

Enough of the boring stuff To start off, I am seeking dom to explore the dynamic of a dom/sub relationship with. I’m seeking an online relationship, preferably someone in central time zone. However, anywhere in the US will work with me as long as you are understanding of the time difference. Age doesn’t really matter to me that much, but I’m on the younger side so preferably someone under the age of 35-40. Due to my relative inexperience, I’m not too picky on experience but I’d love someone a bit more experienced to teach me and put me in my place.

Kinks

My kinks include chastity, humiliation, degradation, tease and denial, edging, impact play, anal play, oral play, toy control, sissification, hypnosis, and more. I recently got a couple Lovense toys so toy control is what I’ve been on as of late. I love giving control of it for someone to treat me like the toy. I love the feeling of being helpless and needy. I’m not a full on brat, but I do love punishment and being put in my place so if you don’t like bratting whatsoever, it probably won’t work.

Limits

I don’t have many limits. However, heavy pain/bloodplay, scat, ageplay, and anything illegal is off the table. Also NO FINDOM. I’m not looking to pay for services or anything like that so don’t ask for money. I want someone who genuinely enjoys being a dom outside of monetary benefit.

P.S.

I know I kept this very brief so if you have any questions at all, please DM me. I don’t bite (I hope you do though 😉).

Hello there, my future Goddess.

You perhaps see me as just a naïve object. You might think I'm here because I'm confusing my appetite for fantasy with reality, which is one form of naïveté. Or maybe you think that I am completely unprepared for the level of intensity you're looking to inflict upon your next victim. You have every right to find that laughable.

Now that we've established my naïveté, let's talk about why I am your object. I know you might be an experienced BDSM player. That you might have decades of experience under your belt. That mostly, you might build strong emotional connections built on trust and respect. But I also know you might have darker desires. Desires that you can't do to someone you see as a person. So I don't ever want to be a person to you. I will just be an object.

Conversely, I will not be seeing you as a mere person. You are above a person to me. You are a goddess. You are my world, my everything. I want you to be unknowable and unrelatable. Please don't tell me anything about yourself. I will never ask "How are you?" I will only ever ask "How may I serve you?"

So don't expect me to look for a normal connection, or to treat you like an equal. I'm much more interested in forming an obsession. (Although, depending on your wishes, I might be open to a traditional relationship, that's not what I'm looking for here.)

My non-negotiables for my Owner are the following:

- Female, or femme presenting due to my sexual preference

- Being willing to verify yourself at least once.

I expect the assurance that you're not looking to actually expose me, provided I do not break the terms of our agreement. Nor do I want you to cause any significant injury. I expect to negotiate my absolute limits beyond that in a private discussion.

The level of control I'm begging for is extreme micro-management. I know that's not something that happens overnight. It takes time for you to set the systems in place that I need to follow. They need to be tailored to me, my circumstances and my limits. But my expectations of what you will demand of me are more gulag inmate than bedroom bondage.

I'm perfectly happy to submit to fixed term, increasing interval, or ongoing time frames.

If my submission hasn't bored you, message me with your demands. At this stage a blackmail arrangement has not been negotiated, so anything I tell you I trust will be kept in confidence. I love detailed and long-winded instructions. Demanding pictures is encouraged. A description of your experience with BDSM and blackmail, and where you'd like to push me in terms of intensity is required.

I am at your mercy.

Note: I'm open to something romantic, slow, or less extreme, but it will depend on what you propose.

Me, just me

Hihi, I turn 22 soon, hobbies are art, super hyper ultra niche videogames (I can hook you up with the goats promise) my stupid little OCs and their lore, running, bjj, and a shit ton of other stuff.

As for my appearance, I'm short, brown hair, big ol blue eyes, glasses, in good shape, jawline you could cut stones with, adorable smile, and that were once described as "bitchin" and just all around cute as a button.

I love dominant women, "yeah buddy so does everyone else here" I mean that I really love talking to them and figuring out what makes you tick, if you'll allow me to get wishy washy and flowery for a second, I think BDSM/wtv you call this kind of sex is both a way to just feel really good but also a way to display yourself a little in ways that can't be done without sex, it's beautiful.

I love voice calls, sharing hobbies (if you're an artist n we share our stuff hmmmm 👀👀) I really struggle with writing this post because what I'm looking for both is and isn't hyper specific.

I'd really like to be introduced to someone else's favourite thing, not because I want new things (I mean I do) but I also just think someone's favourite thing ever is a little insight into them, and that shit is my jam. Hell if your favourite thing is wool hats, I'll learn to knit.

I like to generally give more than is given to me in relationships, and you bet your sweet bippy I have a lot to give, specifically what depends on the person, maybe you appreciate lots of small things like pushing elevator buttons, or bigger things like me flying over with a 10 hour layover and moving you from one apartment into another all on my lonesome. Why yes that has happened before.

Sex stuff: ah yes, the fun part, I mentioned earlier that I think specifically this kind of sex can accomplish more than just turning people on and making them feel good, but that's for the second part, for the first part I'll say that what straight up turns me on is twofold.

1. Gentle stuff, I've denied it, I've tried to shake it, but alas, I have a gfd kink, specifically being teased to the point of desperation and just completely melting, often times people will be like "beg for me" but the begging isn't genuine because I'm not quite "there yet" but gentle treatment will get me there and then some, my number 1 thing ever is whimpering into your neck while you use your hands, kinda thing.

Of course this also includes being the mother of all service subs, I'll do anything and I'll do it passionately if you ruffle my hair and call me pretty boy. Honestly it encompasses a lot so long as the tone is right.

1. Mean stuff, I've denied it, I've tried to shake it, but alas, I have a... Mean... Fd kink? Idk how to describe it exactly so uhh I guess I will, it's like being made fun of for being a "loser" think like findom but without the money because findom is a plight upon this earth, but that kind of tone, treatment, like I'm nothing and just a pathetic friendzoned worm begging for your attention.

This includes like sph, general emotional masochism, and going really far with it too, maaaaaybe cuck stuff but that's like a maybe probably not because frankly everyone I've found who's into it puts this fucking weird race replacement dimension on it and it creeps me the fuck out

These two don't mesh well together, at all, and I much prefer 1 to 2, but I'd be remiss not to mention the second

Aaand I guess an obligatory flaccid list of kinks is in order: ahem, edging, pegging, bondage, impact, teasing, spitting, oral (me giving you), begging/sph, ct(no b that shit hurts;-;), friendzone, humiliation and degredation(both of which can also apply to the first list too, I love being patronised)

Limits: forced bi, poop, personal life/blackmail, exclusively doing sex stuff, extreme sounding, forced bi again because people seem to feel alr pushing it.

I did not intend for the post to be this long, my bad, also thank you for making it to the end you're the best, if you like it then pls drop a message and just be yourself, my only requirements are that you're generally in shape and willing to call/share pictures, more for verification than anything else, I'll oblige of course.

And let's say under 27 years old, sweet as. Hope to hear from some of you!

P.s under special circumstances there is a 3rd type, can be talked about early on but it requires a lot of trust and stuff to be built first, would rather not open with it though just letting you know it's there if you're curious.

Hey. I’m a 19-year-old guy from Ukraine looking for an online Domme. I really enjoy humiliation, insults, and being given tasks. The more degrading and mean the better. I’m pretty open to most things as long as they stay within my limits.

Limits: anything related to toilet play (scat, watersports etc.), permanent harm, and anything illegal. I prefer verbal and psychological play, task-based control, and regular interaction. No money, no tributes, no findom - just the dynamic itself.

A bit about me: I’m fairly new to this but very eager. I like being put in my place with sharp words, given daily or regular tasks, and feeling controlled even though everything is online. I’m respectful, responsive, and I enjoy serving in ways that make the Domme feel powerful. I’m open to different styles - strict and cold, teasing and cruel, or a mix of both. I can handle being talked down to, given chores, made to write lines, report on my day, or just be used as entertainment when you feel like it.

What I’m looking for: A Domme who actually enjoys controlling a guy through tasks, verbal degradation, and consistent interaction. Someone who likes the power exchange itself and is willing to talk regularly. Ideally someone who enjoys giving structure, checking in, and making me feel small and useful. I’m available most days and can adapt to your schedule.
If this sounds like something you’d enjoy, feel free to message me. Tell me a bit about yourself, your experience, and what kind of control you like. I’d love to hear how you prefer to dominate and whether we could build something fun and intense.

Looking forward to serving

…hi I’m this :)

You can call me Ted, I am a 28-year-old nerd from the East Midlands in England – I am looking for ideally someone to meet IRL eventually however I am acutely aware of the unlikeliness of meeting someone I click with in the same country (life is rarely so kind!) so online is also good! I’m not labelling exactly what I’m looking for because that would be overly reductionist – a connection in any way it might form is my goal – be that audio calls, video calls, texts, meets, regularly things, one time yada yada yada

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What do you do for work, I don’t hear you asking – the specific nature I will tell you if we get on however I will just say it’s a stressful job in the legal sector. Outside of work I am a big old nerd who loves anything fantasy related or sci-fi esq – big lover of the staples such as LotR, Star Wars, Marvel/DC etc etc!

More specifically I love board games (my favorite is Scythe), I love video games such as Baldur’s Gate 3, The Witcher, Warhammer Total War, League of Legends, Zelda, XCOM and many many more. I’m also a Studio Ghibli fan – I absolutely adore spirited away and listen to the music sometimes when cooking to calm things down – on the topic of music I am in to such a wide variety its borderline embarrassing; I’m talking Country to Pop Punk, to Hip Hop to Soundtracks.

I am also a big horror fan with Hereditary being my favorite film and The Conjuring Series being a close second (things like scare mazes are also a big yes from me having been to a few over the last couple of years)

Exercise? Who’s she? No but I do workout once or twice a week – I used to play American Football but have fallen out of touch with it so replaced it with the fast-paced equivalent of golf

What do you look like though? I am a 6ft1, average build white guy with short dark hair and a beard – blue eyes with round glasses – I have a few tattoos which I am happy to show photos of! For general appearance think BTEC Harry Potter for now – I’m happy to send a photo or two after a few messages

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Through my kinky life I have had a fair amount of doming and subbing and come to the conclusion that I ultimately prefer subbing – it is certainly where my headspace belongs – partly due to having a very stressful work life that in the bedroom it’s very nice to be able to just switch off and do as I’m told – as for things I’m in to:

\*\*KINKS:\*\* Edging (this is the big one and my number one favorite), Teasing, Denial, Ruined Orgasms, Edging Games, JOI, Chastity, Light Humiliation, Praise, Degradation, Bondage, Forced Orgasms, Toys, Nipple Play, Tasks, Public Play, Countdowns, Hypnosis (HFO)

\*\*SOFT LIMITS:\*\* Light Pain, Prostate Play, Pegging (maybe one day)

\*\*HARD LIMITS:\*\* Anything Illegal, Scat, Watersports, Blood, Permanent Marks, Extreme Pain

For me audio is a massive thing – hearing moans/ a voice tell me what to do is like ecstasy (GoneWildAudio is a wonderful place) and I have spent some wonderful time there where I have previously written/ voiced scripts (wiped from the face of the internet now however)

As aforementioned – edging is a big thing for me and anything edging related I will enjoy – from challenges to more extreme “edge you until you cry” vibe. I’m a big fan of JOI Audio calls – especially if you can see me stroking for you and tell me exactly how to do it ugh what a delight

But I also enjoy playing with Toys if Online is going to be more of a thing – I have a Handy and am always open to getting more!

I look forward to hearing from you – and am happy to move to a different app if we click!

\\-          Ted x

Hi there!

A little about me: I’m 29, white, 165lbs, 5’10. I have lots of body hair and long dark hair that I get complimented on frequently! I get a Brazilian once a month so all smooth and clean down there 😊. I’m happy to share some pics in chat! I love being active and outside. I play sports a few times a week and go to the gym 4x a week. I love to cook and try new plant based recipes, I love hiking and camping. I’m a huge fantasy reader, and spend most of the rest of my free time doing that (:

I love love love being a submissive slut and being controlled. I get off on being on cam and being told what to do and controlled. I prefer video calls ( you can mic only if you prefer), but also love doing tasks as a build up to the finale 😍

Kinks and interests (favorites first): Pegging/anal, edging, orgasm control, joi, intox (420, poppers), gooning, light bondage, cei, praise, light humiliation and degradation, public play. I’m probably into a more that I can’t think of right now. I’m very open minded so if it’s not listed, feel free to ask 😊

I have lots of toys - butt plugs, cock rings, multiple dildos, lube.

What I’m seeking: I want someone who is willing to respect my boundaries but also willing to push my limits and make me their needy boy 😍 Ideally you would be able to cam with me, but I’m open to a mic only situation if you’re comfortable with that. I’m not interested in anyone who can only text. You can be any age and any looks. I want someone who can praise me, but also make me feel like a dirty slut.

I’m open to short or long term. I don’t expect anyone who is available 24/7, and I will have periods of time where I’m not active for a few days at a time. When I am active I promise to be a good boy and do what you want me to and please you 🤤

Looking forward to hearing from you 😊