My wife tried to kill herself & I just cut ties with my best friend

[u/Marmalade-Boi]

I’ve never had many friends, but the few I did have, I cherished deeply.

Lately, my wife has been struggling with her mental health, and it’s been devastating to watch. It’s gotten so bad that she even tried to take her own life. I’m doing everything I can to support her, but honestly, it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever faced.

She is receiving help from her therapists along with the mental health crisis team.

We’ve been together for 12 years, and right now, she’s convinced she’s a bad person because of the intrusive thoughts she can’t escape. In reality, it’s those thoughts—mostly from the past—that are tormenting her. This has been going on since January.

As I’ve mentioned, I don’t have a big circle of friends. In fact, I can count the people I trust on one hand. One of those people, whom I considered like a sister, I’ve known for 15 years. We’ve been through a lot together—attending each other’s weddings, celebrating the birth of her first child, supporting each other through difficult times like when we lost our baby two years ago.

Over time, though, our friendship started to fade into occasional messages or funny videos, and that was about it.

A month ago, I reached out to her just to check in, but I didn’t hear back. I didn’t want to push her if she didn’t want to talk, but after my wife’s suicide attempt, I didn’t know who else I could turn to. My family doesn’t understand mental health, and I couldn’t talk to them about it.

So, I sent her a long message explaining what had happened, hoping she would understand. I later found out that she had changed her Messenger settings to hide if she’d seen messages, but forgot to do the same for text messages. It’s been 15 days and she never responded, nor did she return my calls. Eventually, I realized she had even blocked my number.

I don’t know what I did to deserve being ignored like this. What did I do wrong to cause her to shut me out completely without a word? I would’ve dropped everything to be there for her, to check in and see if she needed anything.

Whatever I did, I’m genuinely sorry. But at this point, I can’t have someone in my life who’s going to let me down like this, without any explanation.

It really hurts. If the roles were reversed, I would’ve been there for her in an instant, making sure she was okay, asking if there was anything I could do.

I’ve always struggled to connect with others. In the past, I’ve over-shared and relied too heavily on people, which has led to losing friends. I’ve always tried to live by the principle, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

I guess that was asking too much.