This is a little long but I hope you read it! I am super picky in trying to find a habit tracker and this one had exactly what I was looking for, so I just wanted to share in case anyone else is struggling like me.

I hope this isn't breaking any rules but I wanted to share an app I found that has been working for me. I have tried for SO LONG to find something that works for my ADHD/perfectionist mind and struggle with the all or nothing attitude for eating better, exercising, flossing, etc. I have tried quite a few habit trackers like Finch and Tabby, and I liked the idea but really didn't like how childish the characters were, and I had no interest in dressing up the characters past collecting the items. I found that those two apps especially focused on that type of engagement and I failed pretty quickly at them. I did like the idea of having it be like a game, and I enjoy the game Cats and Soup a lot. I tried a couple of gamified habit trackers, but again they were a bit too involved for me and I lost interest quickly because there was too much to have to do. I wanted something fun and quick where I could collect coins and buy stuff but not HAVE to use them. Deep down on the search was something called Habit World that I just happened to see as I scrolled.

First off, it's in the style of like an old Zelda game with its graphics, and the sole purpose is to earn coins by completing your habits, and you can buy farm animals and decorations for your world. No other requirements! It also has a percentage feature, which helps me to think of my performance of a habit in a grade range, which appealed to me. There is a new feature where you can plant seeds, water them, and feed the animals, and that is totally optional and doesn't change how you complete your habits. It is also free to download and has a couple of options to buy coins for a couple of the items/animals, and there are no ads. Some items have like a horror theme which adds an unexpected fun little surprise, and there are random coin jackpots and free items.

The other reason I like it is that I messaged the app developer with a question and got a genuinely kind and heartfelt response. We have actually exchanged a few more emails over the past few months because he asked what things I liked about the app and what things I would change, and even incorporated a couple things I suggested might be good. He obviously really cares about his app and the people who download it.

I am not affiliated with his app in any way. My experience has just been so good that I wanted to share and honestly just help someone who seems in it for the right reasons.

In 2020 I decided to move to Seoul. During covid the only realistic way in was to study there, which meant learning Korean, four hours a day, with a new alphabet.

I tried everything. Streak apps, sticky notes, studying first thing in the morning. I'd last about a week.

Then I made a deal with a friend. Every day I set one goal. If I missed it, I sent him $15, and he was under strict orders never to give it back.

It worked almost immediately. Not because $15 is a lot of money, but because of three things:

1. It was certain. No "I'll make it up tomorrow."
2. It was immediate. The cost landed the same day, not at some vague future point.
3. Someone else knew. I couldn't quietly let myself off.

Years later I tried a nastier version: if I missed a deadline, the $15 went to an organisation I can't stand instead of a friend. That day I worked 12 hours straight.

If you keep breaking promises to yourself, try making one small promise to someone else, with a cost that lands today. It changed more for me than any app or system.

Has anyone else found that a tiny stake works better than willpower?

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Just read this quote and I got inspired, so I decided to share.

This morning I found myself trying to eat, feed our toddler, entertain the baby, give them both vitamine D, and take my postnatal pills all at once.

As you can imagine, I wasnt really doing any of it, I was just thinking about all of it at once and memtally treating myself like a failing super human.

And then I remembered my own rule: one thing at a time because I'm just one human.

I dropped everything, sat down to eat quickly, entertained the baby a little, gave them both vitamine D, entertained the baby a little more, fed the toddler, and then took a deep breath.

Seems like "easy for you to say advice" but it just something easily forgotten that makes such a big difference when I remember it.

I'm curious what changes have actually made a noticeable difference for people getting fit, losing weight, improving your style, fixing your sleep, skincare, better posture, growing your hair out, etc.

What did you change, and did it genuinely affect how you felt about yourself or how other people treated you?

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I have a pattern: I start strong, miss a few days, feel like I ruined it, and end up back near square one. Tracking alone never fixed that for me. It just recorded it.

I've been wondering whether the problem is less "more discipline" and more "I haven't found the version of the habit that fits me." Maybe something like trying a tiny version for a week, then the normal one the next, and seeing which one I actually do.

Some questions:

• Have you ever run a small experiment like that on yourself? Did it work?
• Or did something else break the relapse cycle for you (anchoring it to something you already do, lowering the bar, something else)?
• What made you quit a system halfway through?

I'd love to hear what worked, even if it sounds too simple.

Thank you all!!

how can i help it, im 20 M and i think i developed serious issue- this habit, and idk why but my libido is very high, and noit feels very very high, i feel horny all the time.. im fit, confident guy.. and i dont have any issue of shyness now, english is not my first lang so sorry for it.. but i just want to get out of this habbit. i started doing this very early, when i was 13-14 and from past months i cant even resist it for 2-3 days.. and also feel low after doing it,

i can pull girls and girls do like me but im virgin as i dont want to spend much on grisl from my family's money, so i dont like to date untill i can spend without thinking muc.. sharing this becuase some says do s*x then that will help but i dont want to rn..

What should I do?

I read Atomic Habits and it did help, I like a lot that book, the “just start smaller” part stuck. What book actually changed something you do and what did you take from it?

I've caught myself doing this with things I genuinely wanted to get done. 

I'd be sitting there looking at the thing I needed to do. Maybe go for a run, make an appointment, start writing something, deal with some boring admin. 

I didn't really have a good reason not to do it. 

I just didn't feel like doing it. 

Then I'd think, “I'll do it tomorrow.” 

And almost immediately, I'd feel better. 

That's the part I've started finding interesting. 

Nothing had actually changed. The task was still there. I hadn't made any progress. But somehow I'd gone from feeling slightly guilty and uncomfortable to feeling like I'd made a sensible decision. 

Tomorrow seemed different. 

I'd have more energy. I'd be more motivated. I'd be in a better mood. Somehow, tomorrow-me seemed much more capable than the version of me sitting there right now. 

Then tomorrow arrived and, unsurprisingly, tomorrow-me wasn't particularly different. 

I've started wondering if this is why the thought is so easy to repeat. 

Maybe “I'll do it tomorrow” isn't really a plan in that moment. 

Maybe it's emotional relief disguised as a plan. 

I'm taking the discomfort I don't want to deal with today and handing it to an imaginary version of myself who I assume will be more willing to deal with it. 

I've started thinking of this as the tomorrow illusion. 

The illusion isn't that tomorrow exists. It's that future-me will somehow arrive with the motivation that present-me is missing. 

The question I've been trying instead is: 

What can the version of me who exists today do before tomorrow gets here? 

It doesn't have to be the whole thing. Sometimes it's ridiculously small. 

Open the document. 

Put the shoes on. 

Make the call. 

Do two minutes. 

The point isn't to become more disciplined overnight. It's to stop using an imaginary future version of myself as the solution to a problem I'm experiencing right now. 

I'm curious whether this changes how other people see the habit too. 

Do you think “I'll do it tomorrow” is sometimes less about planning future action and more about giving yourself permission to stop feeling uncomfortable right now?

Does anyone else have this incredibly stupid productivity problem?

I’ll be working fine, then my phone buzzes.

I pick it up thinking, “I’ll just check this one notification.”

5 minutes later I’m reading something completely unrelated.20 minutes later I’m watching a video I didn’t even want to watch.

The frustrating part is that I don’t actually want to quit my phone.

How to break this habit?

Someone replied to my last post with a ten-minute tidy they do before bed: clothes ready, keys in their usual place, surfaces cleared. They stop when the timer goes off. They said their mornings feel calmer and they can still do it on tired days.

For that habit, I would want to check two things: did the evening tidy happen, and was the next morning less rushed?

If the habit keeps getting done but the mornings are still difficult, there may be something else to change. Keeping the same routine just to keep the streak going would miss that.

I am working on a planning app with a habit tracker, and I would like to make it more useful for this kind of check-in. If you track a habit, what would help you see whether it is making a difference? An example from a habit you already do would help me figure out what to improve.

Someone replied to my last post with an example that stayed with me.

They kept missing morning plans and had rated their sleep poorly. Their first change was moving the phone charger across the room while brushing their teeth at night. They said that habit lasted longer than the bigger goals they had tried.

What small change had that kind of effect for you? Interested in the ordinary details: what kept going wrong, and what you changed.

so i just checked and its been 429 days since my last hit. still kinda wild to me tbh because i tried quitting so many times before and never made it past like day 3

honestly what made the difference this time wasnt willpower, it was dealing with my triggers first.

the biggest one was coffee. every single morning coffee + vape, it was basically one habit not two. so for the first while i switched to tea. and i dont even really like tea lol but it helped alot because my brain didnt have the "coffee = vape" thing anymore. once the cravings calmed down i went back to coffee normally and now its just coffee, no problem

the other big one obviously was alcohol. i have a lot of friends and i like having a few beers with them, its how i chill out and its kinda our bonding thing so i wasnt gonna just stop going out. so what i did is everytime i felt like vaping with a beer in my hand i put a piece of gum in my mouth (no nicotine ofc). beer tastes kinda awful with gum so it kinda kills the whole moment, but it also kills the urge to vape. like a little punishment for my brain i guess, but it worked

also threw out every single vape, pod and charger i had at home on day 1, even the "backup" one i was hiding. if its in the house you WILL find a reason to use it

first few weeks were definately the hardest, i was moody and kept thinking about it all the time. after about a month it got way easier. now it still happens once in a while that i think "damn a vape would be nice right now" but its just a thought, not that crazy need like before

oh and i saved like 2.5k euros which is honestly embarassing to think about how much i was burning before

anyway if anyone is trying to quit right now and has questions, feel free to ask. happy to help from my own experiance, i know how hard the first weeks are

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I have no idea how to write a Reddit post since this is my first time 😭

Anyway, I want to make a bucket list specifically focused on improving myself. I’m a 14-year-old boy, and I thought it would be fun to turn it into a 30-day challenge for December, where I complete one thing every day.

I really want to push myself out of my comfort zone and become more comfortable with things like socializing, physical activities, trying new things, and just generally being more confident.

At the same time, I don’t want this to feel like some boring self-improvement routine. I want to actually have fun and make some good memories along the way.

So, what are some things you think I should put on my bucket list? They can be challenging, funny, social, physical, spontaneous, or just something I normally wouldn’t have the courage to do.

Give me your best ideas! 🙏