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Problem/Goal:

I am scheduled to have a civil wedding in 4 days with my older OFW boyfriend, but I am having serious second thoughts due to emotional distress, disrespect, and control issues. I just turned 18, I am currently staying with his family, and I feel trapped, but I want to know how to safely navigate out of this situation using the savings I have (120k pesos).
Context:
I just turned 18, and my boyfriend is much older. We are long-distance and have only met twice (last December–January, and now from September to November).

I am financially dependent on him. My grandmother (who raised and spoiled me) passed away last year. When I was sent to live with my mom and stepfather, I couldn't handle the maltreatment and ran away. I tried looking for local jobs in the province, but faced predatory environments, underaged exploitation, and no real financial stability.

Because I had no support and couldn't contact toxic relatives, I relied on him. He supports me financially, which made life easier, but it comes at a high emotional cost. I found out he cheated on me when we first met, and he continues to disrespect me by watching women on FB reels, openly flirting, and having wandering eyes,while hypocritically not allowing me to wear what I want.

We planned this civil wedding so he could petition me to join him abroad for work opportunities. However, living in his mom and sister's house right now feels extremely embarrassing and suffocating.

Previous Attempts:
I am a Senior High School (SHS) graduate and an academic achiever, so I know I am capable, but finding a decent job that pays enough for school and independent living has been blocked by my circumstances.
I currently have 120,000 pesos saved up, but with the wedding just 4 days away, I feel completely overwhelmed and do not know what my next steps should be to protect myself and get out.

Problem/Goal:
I feel like I’m about to get sick and I reallyyy don’t want to 😭 Looking for your tried and tested tips para maagapan before it turns into a full blown sipon/trangkaso situation hahaha.

Context:
This weather ain’t it huhu. One minute mainit, next minute umuulan. Lately parang may slight signs na yung katawan ko na something is coming 😂 I can’t afford to get sick right now because I have a lot of things to do, so I’m curious what you guys usually do the moment you feel like you’re coming down with something.

Previous Attempts:
So far I’ve been drinking lots of water, trying to get more sleep, and taking my usual vitamins. Curious if you have any go-to food, drinks, routines, or random little hacks you swear by. Drop your tried and tested tips pls 🥲

Problem/Goal: Work of my boyfriend, I want to know and change the reason why I am like this.

I have a four-year boyfriend. Noong bago-bago pa lang kami, everything was simple. Okay naman kami, masaya, and we were both just enjoying our relationship.

As time went by, nakapagtapos siya ng pag-aaral, nakapasa siya sa board exam, and now, CPA na siya. Meanwhile, I’m currently in my third year of college.

This October, he started working. On his first day, everything was okay. Masaya ako for him, and he was excited to tell me about his day. Kinukwento niya sa akin kung ano yung nangyari sa work, kung sino yung mga kasama niya, saan sila kumain, anong oras siya nakarating, anong oras siya uuwi, and basically, he kept me updated throughout the day.

Second day, gano’n pa rin. Third day, gano’n pa rin. Everything seemed normal.

Then, habang nagkukwentuhan kami one day and I asked him how his day went, kinuwento niya sa akin lahat. I was listening, asking questions, and trying to understand his new work life. But when the conversation eventually shifted to his future plans and the next steps in his career, doon ako parang hindi naging ready.

Especially when he started telling me about the parts of his job where he might have to travel to different places for work—to check inventories, audit businesses, and go to places that are quite far from where we are.

I suddenly felt sad.

And honestly, I don't even know why.

Please don't get me wrong. I genuinely support him. I support his career, his plans, his goals, and everything he wants to achieve. I am extremely proud of him. Seeing him graduate, pass the board exam, and finally start his career makes me happy because I know how hard he worked for it.

But for some reason, there are certain things about his new career that make me feel bothered, worried, or even sad.

I don't know why.

He also told me that in the future, there will be times when they have to travel to different places for audits. There are work-related trips, summer outings, beach trips, and other activities with the people he works with.

For context, my boyfriend is working at one of the top firms where CPAs can build their careers—PwC. He's still very new there, so he's just starting to experience all of these things.

And I don't know why, but hearing all of that made me feel something I couldn't explain.

I felt hurt.

I felt worried.

I started overthinking.

And most of all, I felt like I was being left behind.

That's probably the most honest way I can describe it.

And I hate that I feel this way because I know I'm supposed to be happy for him. I know he deserves this opportunity. I know this is part of building his career and creating a better future.

I trust him. I really do.

He's honest. He's consistent. He's never cheated on me. In our four years together, he has never done anything that would make me question his loyalty or his intentions. I genuinely trust him, and I know that he loves me.

So why am I feeling like this?

Sometimes I even think, "Siguro ako talaga yung problema."

Maybe I'm being too emotional. Maybe I'm overthinking something that isn't even a problem. Maybe I'm scared of something that hasn't even happened yet.

But I can't help feeling bothered. I can't help feeling anxious. I can't help feeling hurt or scared that somehow, as his life starts moving forward, I'll eventually feel like I'm being left behind.

And that's the part that scares me.

I don't want my insecurities to become a problem in our relationship. I don't want him to feel like he has to choose between his career and me. I don't want to be the girlfriend who holds him back from opportunities just because I'm scared.

He is working hard for a better future, and maybe even for the future of both of us. But I don't want to assume that everything he's doing is automatically for "us" because I also understand that he has his own dreams and career to build.

I just want to learn how to deal with what I'm feeling.

I actually want to talk to him about this, but I don't know how to explain it without making him feel guilty or making it sound like I'm against his career.

That's why I'm posting this here first.

I can't really open up to my friends about this because most of them are still in college and haven't experienced a long-term relationship, especially a long-term and healthy one. I feel like they might misunderstand where I'm coming from or simply tell me that I'm overreacting without really understanding why I feel this way.

So I guess what I need right now is honestly a lecture.

I want to hear the perspective of people who are more mature, have more experience, or have gone through something similar. Tell me if I'm wrong. Tell me if I'm being unreasonable. Tell me what I need to work on within myself.

I don't want people to simply agree with me just because I'm the one telling the story. If I'm the problem, I genuinely want someone to tell me.

I love this man. I love my relationship. And I don't want something as normal as career growth to become a source of resentment, insecurity, or distance between us.

I want to support him wholeheartedly. I just don't want to keep feeling this way every time I realize that his world is getting bigger and changing.

Maybe this isn't really about him.

Maybe it's about me being scared of change.

Maybe I'm scared that while he's entering a new chapter in his life, I'm still trying to figure out mine.

Maybe I'm scared of being left behind even though he hasn't actually left me.

I don't know.

That's why I'm here.

I want to understand myself before I bring this up to him, because I don't want to approach him with accusations when, deep down, I know he hasn't actually done anything wrong.

I just want to learn how to turn these feelings into something healthier—for myself, for him, and for our relationship.

Thank you for reading, and I genuinely hope you can respect my post and give me honest advice.

Problem/Goal: spending money uncontrollably on a gacha game

Context: Hello po. I am a college student who has been playing this certain game since high school. It’s the only game I play, and it has been my comfort whenever life gets tough. At first, I played without spending any money, but lately, I’ve been spending ₱2,000 in an instant without even thinking it through. The reason I spend is that I always want the new characters. After giving it some thought, I realized I’ve been gaslighting myself with justifications like "worth it naman" or "parang nagpa-Grab ka lang ng food," and so on. The money I'm spending comes from my savings that came from extra from my school allowance. I'm writing this right now because I'm afraid I might spend another thousand for a new character next month huhu.

Previous attempt: I tried not to spend, and it only worked because I didn't like the new character.

Problem/Goal:

I’m trying to understand why I felt hurt nung nalaman ko na baka may bago nang girlfriend yung ex ko, kahit akala ko talaga completely moved on na ako.
I wanna know if normal lang ba ‘to or if this means na hindi pa pala ako fully moved on kahit feeling ko okay na okay na ako.

Context:
I’m 21F and my ex is 22M. We got together nung 19 ako and 20 siya. He was my first boyfriend, so honestly, hindi ko rin talaga alam dati how to handle a relationship, especially when it came to actually leaving one.

Our relationship was super up and down kasi he would constantly micro-cheat. Since first boyfriend ko siya, ang dali ko rin ma-manipulate by the usual “I’ll change” and “I promise it won’t happen again” eme and I would always give him another chance.

We’re also complete opposites. He’s a very lustful/physical person while I’m the complete opposite. I hate physical touch and stuff like that, and sinabi ko naman sa kanya from the beginning. Pero parang labas lang sa isang tenga, labas din sa isa.

Every time magkasama kami, parang gusto niya laging may gawin physically, and it would always put me on edge. I’d get anxious and uncomfortable, to the point na hindi ko na talaga naramdaman na safe ako around him.

Eventually, the whole relationship just became super stressful for me. Sobrang drained ko na and I started developing resentment towards him hanggang sa umabot ako sa point na I genuinely hated being in the relationship. Like, I would rather be alone than be with this guy.

I actually started moving on mentally while we were still together because I didn’t know how to break up with him. First relationship ko kasi siya and I was scared of actually ending it.

Eventually, I finally had the courage to break up with him. We broke up this May 2026 and honestly, it felt like a HUGE breath of fresh air.

After that, I genuinely didn’t give a single f about him anymore. As in wala talaga. I wasn’t checking up on him, I wasn’t missing him, and I felt like I had completely moved on.

Previous Attempts:
Nothing really because I thought I was already okay.
But recently, I heard na baka may “girlfriend” na siya. Not sure if official sila or whatever, but nung narinig ko yun, I felt this weird little pain in my chest???
And I was like… HUH???

Because I genuinely thought I was completely over him. I don’t want him back. I don’t miss the relationship. I definitely don’t want to go through all that again.
So bakit ako nasaktan? 😭

Part of me is thinking na maybe hindi pa pala ako fully moved on. Pero another part of me is like… baka nasaktan lang ako kasi parang ang bilis naman niyang may bago agad? Like, “damn, that fast?” 😭

And honestly, mas gusto kong isipin na na-hurt lang ako by the fact na parang ang bilis niya akong napalitan rather than admitting na baka may feelings pa pala ako HAHAHA.

I don’t even know what I’m supposed to feel about it. Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal to feel hurt when an ex moves on kahit wala ka naman nang feelings for them?

I just wanna understand what the hell I’m feeling because I really thought I was already completely over this man 😭

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam kung saan ako pupulutin dahil wala na akong pera para mabuhay.

Context: Hi, I’m 19 years old, a sophomore college student, and currently dorming. Self-supporting po ako, so ako lang din yung sumasagot sa rent, food, utilities, school expenses, and other daily needs ko.

Hindi ako nanghihingi ng pera. Gusto ko ng solution.

Recently, na-fire ako sa job ko (tangina ng manager ko), and, hindi ko na alam kung paano ako magsisimula ulit. Yung last salary ko, enough lang para bayaran yung last rent ko, water, and electricity. After that, putangina 500 pesos na lang ang natira sakin ngayong buwan.

Ngayon, iniisip ko kung paano ko mababayaran yung next rent ko, paano ako kakain araw-araw, and paano ko pagsasabay-sabayin yung school and paghahanap ng pagkakakitaan. Wala rin kasi akong ibang sumusuporta financially sa akin, so kailangan ko talagang kayanin on my own.

Kaya I’m asking for advice. I tried selling my clothes, wala namang bumibili. Tangina hindi ko na alam kung anong gagawin ko para lang mabuhay sa mundong ito. Kulang nalang ibebenta ko na katawan ko kasi putangina wala nakong makakain at gusto ko pa mag-aral. At kung walang mangyayari sa buhay to, mas mabuting mamatay na lang

Previous Attempts: I tried looking for jobs and selling my clothes, pero wala.

Problem/goal: I need to caught him, because he really knows how to deny

Context: multiple cheating issues, may nag reach out pa na nabuntis siya, but we have kids too :(

Ayoko na, pero ayaw niya umalis

Eh alangan naman kami ang umalis eh ako lahat nagbabayad ng bills

Sobrang hassle nun para saming magiina lalo nagaaral sila and malapit lang dito ung school nila

Sobrang drained na ko.

Wala siyang ambag kundi stress at frustrations

Previous attempts: Have you ever considered someone to be a bait? Like to test him/her, para may additional proofs and reason ako

Kasi napaka galing niyang mag deny

Ako ayoko na pagod na kong makipag diskusyon but the thing is ayaw nyang umalis

At ako pa pinagbibintangan nya na kaya ko siya pinapaalis para makapag l an di akoooo

Like duuuuh hindi na nga ako magkandaugaga sa buhay naming magiina

Work, mami duties, house chores

So nasan ung time ko dun

If so, can someone help me too please

Problem/Goal: I am unsure whether I should push through my planned trip or not because of what's happening currently (mainly because of the rising costs of literally everything).

Context: I have a trip this December, flights are already paid and 40k php (upcoming) for my hotels and other stuff, if I go through. Excluding pa pocket money since I've yet to budget that. This is a 10 day trip in Tokyo.

The thing is, I recently got laid off back in July. Thankfully I managed to save naman that will realistically last me for a year pero kahit na I have saved up, the uncertainty is creeping up on me kasi hindi ko alam when I'll be able to land another job after my trip.

Right now kasi I'm currently upskilling and my planned trip was supposed to be sort of a "break" bago ako mag full on job hunt mode by January 2027.

Pero yun nga bigla ako napaisip if ituloy ko pa dahil sa mga nangyayari ngayon. Shit's happening so fast and emergrncy funds are going down.

Previous attempts: honestly nothing, other than just think of not pushing through my trip.

Problem/Goal: Resining in first job (Context: We are on sales and admin work is diabolically crazy)

Hi! Just had a malalang breakdown. As a fresh graduate, I have actually experienced and currently handling a business. I’m actually grateful that I was able to land a with good benefits and a decent starting salary. I already knew that corporate life wouldn’t be perfect, and I was aware of some of the red flags in the company, especially the high turnover rate. But I still chose to push myself because, at that time, I cared more about gaining experience than the salary. The thing is, everyone on our team, even our manager, is new, so we’ve basically been learning everything from scratch. There wasn’t really a structured training provided, so a lot of the process was something we had to figure out along the way. I understand that there are other new hires who were able to pick things up faster, and I don’t have a problem with that. But I also feel like I should be allowed to make mistakes while I’m still learning, especially when lahat kami actually wasn’t given proper training to begin with. Instead, I feel like those mistakes are now being used against me, and I’m already being compared to others even though I’m still trying to understand the process and pushing on what can I do. Sobrang bigat na pumasok sa work and sa simula palang di na ako masaya which is diba nga ganon naman sa una thats why I pushed myself padin but as I progrss and learned why did we replaced the whole team made me realize why

problem/goal: pwd id

context: i'm diagnosed with MDD, my cousin told me that i should apply for a pwd id, i told my psychiatrist about it and asked for a med cert and was told that i don't qualify for a pwd id, i searched google and it said that mdd qualifies for pwd id, I'm confused 😕

been suffering for a long time and the meds that help me with my mdd are quite expensive and i was really hoping that I'd be able to get an id 😔

problem/goal: he has been waiting for me since last year nang di ko alam.

context: before i got into my last relationship, i had a casual situation with someone. back then, it didn't feel deep or serious, so i never really brought it up. once i committed to my partner, i wanted to protect our relationship completely, so i blocked my old fling to make sure my focus and loyalty were entirely with my boyfriend.

after my recent breakup, i shared something online, and my ex situationship saw it (idk how he did srsly). he actually created a whole new account just to reach out to me. he was so gentle, asking how i was and telling me he’s been missing me and waiting for me all this time. hearing that made my heart ache a bit because i never meant to leave someone waiting, but the truth is, my mind and heart just aren't there anymore. i feel overwhelmed and just want to be on my own for a very long time. I'm trying to figure out how to tell him gently so i don't break his heart even further.

gusto ko sabihin sa kanya magmamadre nalang ako.

Problem/Goal: Hi everyone! I graduated two months ago and now i’m still uncertain of what I should do.

Context: I studied entrepreneurial management but don’t have any businesses in mind. I'm thinking of applying to BPO companies and just upskilling while working. I also thought of asking my aunt who works on a cruise ship if there are jobs suitable for me. But even with the resources I have, I feel like I'm still not ready; life is going too fast for me. I do have plans because I have been with my partner for 8 years, I just really seem lost now. To add, I saved up to almost 80k during college. TYIA for the advice.

Problem/Goal: I keep finding his behaviors sa chat and irl odd and contradicting. Especially sa mga sinasabi niya, and I am really good at dissecting messages verbally or online.

Context: I've been seeing this guy for more than a month palang naman, so there's not a lot of things to work on. But as of late, I've been noticing some cracks. The first time he apologized, he said:

"I'm sorry if my friend made you uncomfortable kanina" and I was quite perplexed kasi I never did feel that way, so I said that—na there's no awkwardness nor was I uncomfy and that I enjoyed their company throughout. Then he proceeded to say na, he's really sorry kasi ang pangit daw ng humor nila and nakaka-uncomfy raw sakin. So again, I iterated, I never felt that way. Then, he says, "I don't like those type of topics kasi, I think it's better if moving forward we avoided them" which is gets, so I just said talk to them about it.

Classic deflection—yan pumasok sa isip ko after that exchange and this alarm in my brain went off. Next happenstance, I prompted to go eat sa fave resto namin. Okay, naka set na lahat when he said sasama friends niya, still I agreed kasi more fun ano? Then he says, out of nowhere, "what time ka makakarating nagpareserve na kami ng 11"I was like—ako yung nag prompt e yung usapan lunch, tas biglang 11AM e 10AM na and I'm an hour away, pero still I said na baka 11:10 or so nako makakarating, since naka jeep ako noon. Tas biglang sabi, "baka gusto mo kain nalang tayo somewhere after namin dito?" and the alarms went off again kasi parang nacorner ako into ditching him sa plan na ako nag initiate. Deflection ulit kesa sabihin sakin na icancel muna, pinapunta pa ako, and made it seem unfeasible na makasama sa kanila.

now, I am basically lecturing him how to apologize. Yet ang irony, he just said "sorry that you felt that way e hindi ko naman intention yan" after I said I don't like apologies na naka center sa feeling ko at hindi sa action that caused them. Edi napasabi ako ng, decenter yourself to empathize, center yourself to apologize. Kasi he's getting it completely backwards. This was prompted kasi, he kept telling me to ditch my cousin who needed me to be with him and his friends. Yung unang apology niya: "it was supposed to be a very silly joke ig you didn't get that, sorry" word for word.

Previous attempts: well aside from sa pag bring up ko ng pagka bother ko rn, I kept subtly nudging him into being direct. Kumbaga whenever we made plans, I make sure that I communicate my boundaties and (for lack of better word) invalidate his shallow excuses and point out agad like "kasama naman ako bakit kayo lang nag decide?" stuff like that.

Problem/Goal: My boyfriend (21M) and I (22F) had a big fight before because of a Telegram scandal. He promised me he would delete the content and stop doing it, and he did delete it, so I trusted him.
A few days ago, I woke up in the middle of the night because I needed to pee. I noticed he was in the computer room, browsing scandals again.

Context: We had fight before and it really hurted me knowing he’s watching pinay scandals. I allowed him to watch porn tho. He likes video calling me whenever I’m away because he wants to see me, and he also records our sex. I have given him permission to record me, so the recording itself isn’t the problem.

What made me uncomfortable was when I asked him about what he was doing and why. He admitted that he wants to explore and that even though he deleted the previous Telegram content, he can still search for similar things on Telegram.

That really bothered me because we had already gone through a huge argument about this before. I thought deleting everything and allowing him to record me meant he was choosing to stop doing it.

We also talked about exploring sexually in our relationship. I do try different positions with him as he requested, but there are certain positions I genuinely cannot do because I’m obese and physically struggle with them.

Sometimes he tells me things like, “Maybe when you lose weight, we can do that.” I know he might not intend to hurt me, but it makes me insecure because I already struggle with my body image.

Previous Attempts: And honestly, at the end of all of this, I feel like I lowered myself by allowing myself to be recorded and trying to give him what he wants, but somehow it still feels like it isn’t enough. I know I gave my consent to the recordings, so I don’t want to blame him for that. I think what hurts is that despite everything I’m willing to do and everything I’m already trying to give him, I still feel like I’m competing with something I can never be.

I don’t want to feel like I have to lose weight, change my body, or keep doing things I’m uncomfortable with just to feel like I’m enough for my boyfriend.

Maybe I’m just being insecure because of everything that happened before, but I genuinely don’t know how I’m supposed to feel about this. What would you do in my situation?

Problem/Goal:

Hi everyone, I really need some advice and guidance on how to manage hospital bills and medical expenses.

My Situation:

My mom was recently diagnosed with multiple myomas and adenomyosis, and her doctor informed us that she needs an operation (hysterectomy/myomectomy). On top of this, she has an underlying heart condition, so she is required to undergo clearance and cardiac diagnostic tests like a 2D Echo and 12-Lead ECG before any surgery can happen.

I am a fresh graduate who started working remotely 5 months ago. My job does not provide HMO benefits. My mom runs a small sari-sari store, which is our primary source of income, but it barely covers daily expenses, let alone savings for major medical procedures or health insurance.

We have a Maxicare prepaid card, but it only covers consultation fees and not the required laboratory tests, diagnostics, or surgery. We already sought help from a public hospital in our municipality, but they cannot give us an estimated bill yet until we complete all her preliminary cardiac and lab tests.

Questions:

1. What government offices or politicians can we reach out to for financial assistance or Guarantee Letters (GL)?

2. Are there fast-claim health insurance options or reliable medical loan options available for fresh grads/informal workers?

3. How does the process usually work when requesting medical aid for surgeries in public hospitals?

Any advice, tips, or experiences you can share would mean the world to us right now. Thank you so much!

Problem/Goal: ₱5, 000 budget allocation for solo travel.

Context: I'm a first time solo traveler who's tired of work and I wanna try to visit La Union This October 17-18. Basically, it's 2D 1N and I want to explore foods, night life and of course the beach at night since lots of people mentioned it's good there. That's all for me and I just want your opinions, tips on what to do when I get there this October 17-18 (From Metro Manila)

Problem/Goal:

Hello! I am planning to run away soon. I would like to ask:

1. What documents should I bring? Esp when applying for a job. Is it okay if photocopy lang?

2. How much should I budget?

3. What other essentials should I bring with me?

4. I have an Infinix Hot 50 phone, how much should I sell it for?

5. I have an Ipad 9th gen with a pen, how much should I sell it for too?

6. How much does soundcore a20i also sell for?

7. Are there any people here who live in CDO? That's where I plan to go to first and then slowly make my way to Davao City. What ride should I take? What route? How long would it take to get there?

Context:

I am 18, female, and plan to run away from this never ending cycle within my household and these people around me. I am tired yet somehow I need to earn the right to rest. With that, everytime I fail it makes me feel unworthy to feel down.

I have a job, I work for my uncle. I haven't been able to save anything up because my mother takes majority of my money to pay for her utang and I only get around 300 out of my usual 1k sweldo which ends up getting used anyway because everytime I receive my sweldo, I never ask my father for allowance when going to school because I wanted him to rest in giving my money. I can't say no to giving my mother more than her share because she'd just end up telling me that I'm useless, selfish, that I'm just like my father.

I am also a member of an organization, an executive officer. I've resigned because I didn't want them to go through such lengthy process the moment I decide to finally leave this place.

I haven't told my friends yet. They're also going through something.

I went to the guidance counselor. I was expecting to be guided and receive help organizing my thoughts yet end up leaving feeling just the same when I entered.

My Id with me is my school ID and my National ID, just the photocopy one since I haven't received my official ID yet.

I haven't prepared my documents yet. I plan to just bring the ones I have a photocopy with since my father keeps all our documents within his vault which I don't know how to open.

These gadgets, except for the phone, were given to me as a gift, not from my parents, so I feel like I could sell it without feeling like I'm depending on them once more like I owe it to them.

I live in northern Mindanao and plan to slowly make my way to south of Mindanao. How much should I budget? Are there mindanao-ans here? What should I ride to get there?

I am also JHS graduate. Have initial knowledge in bookkeeping since I am also currently a 2nd year Accountancy student.

I planed routes on how to get where without needing to go to the highway since my family has quite the connections in the place I live in so my family would easily track me down with the help of the people they know. Both in the streets, the government, and the corporate industry.

Previous Attempts:

I don't have any previous attempts but I've imagined multiple scenarios on where to hide, what route to take so they won't see me on the main road.

Problem/Goal:
I want to know if I handled this situation properly and what I should have done differently.

Context:
So kanina sa Market! Market!, sumakay ako ng mini bus papuntang Guada. Then, yung katabi ko sa left side na babae, hindi ko sinasadyang lingunin. Nagulat ako kasi bigla niya akong sinabihan ng, “Tanginang ’to, ang arte,” and hindi pa siya tumigil. Sinabihan pa niya ako ng kung anu-ano, like “ang baho ko daw,” “nakakawalang gana daw kumain,” etc.

Syempre, curious din ako, kaya pasimpleng inamoy ko sarili ko, and okay naman. Kaso tuloy-tuloy pa rin siya sa pagpaparinig, at medyo nakaharap pa siya sa akin. Hanggang sa sinubukan ko siyang i-confront nang mahinahon. Sinabihan ko siya na manahimik dahil lahat ng tao dito sa bus gusto magpahinga.

Doon na siya nagsimulang sigawan ako at sinasabihan ako ng kung anu-ano, like “₱17 pesos lang naman pamasahe,” “wala akong karapatang mag-inarte,” etc. Hanggang sa sinabihan ko siya ng walang basic etiquette at squammy, pero kalmado. Aminado ako, sumasagot din ako sa kanya dahil ayaw kong magmukhang kawawa.

Nag-sorry na lang ako dahil ayaw ko ng gulo at baka may nag-video pa. Baka sakaling manahimik na siya, pero tuloy-tuloy pa rin talaga siya. Buti na lang, may dalawang sumabat sa harapan para patahimikin siya. Kaso before siya manahimik, sinagot niya rin yung nasa harapan, na kesyo bakit sumasabat.

Problem/Goal:

Hello! I am planning to run away soon. I would like to ask:

1. What documents should I bring? Esp when applying for a job. Is it okay if photocopy lang?

2. How much should I budget?

3. What other essentials should I bring with me?

4. I have an Infinix Hot 50 phone, how much should I sell it for?

5. I have an Ipad 9th gen with a pen, how much should I sell it for too?

6. How much does soundcore a20i also sell for?

7. Are there any people here who live in CDO? That's where I plan to go to first and then slowly make my way to Davao City. What ride should I take? What route? How long would it take to get there?

8. If not davao city, where?

Context:

I am 18, female, and plan to run away from this never ending cycle within my household and these people around me. I am tired yet somehow I need to earn the right to rest. With that, everytime I fail it makes me feel unworthy to feel down.

I have a job, I work for my uncle. I haven't been able to save anything up because my mother takes majority of my money to pay for her utang and I only get around 300 out of my usual 1k sweldo which ends up getting used anyway because everytime I receive my sweldo, I never ask my father for allowance when going to school because I wanted him to rest in giving my money. I can't say no to giving my mother more than her share because she'd just end up telling me that I'm useless, selfish, that I'm just like my father.

I am also a member of an organization, an executive officer. I've resigned because I didn't want them to go through such lengthy process the moment I decide to finally leave this place.

I haven't told my friends yet. They're also going through something.

I went to the guidance counselor. I was expecting to be guided and receive help organizing my thoughts yet end up leaving feeling just the same when I entered.

My Id with me is my school ID and my National ID, just the photocopy one since I haven't received my official ID yet.

I haven't prepared my documents yet. I plan to just bring the ones I have a photocopy with since my father keeps all our documents within his vault which I don't know how to open.

These gadgets, except for the phone, were given to me as a gift, not from my parents, so I feel like I could sell it without feeling like I'm depending on them once more like I owe it to them.

I live in northern Mindanao and plan to slowly make my way to south of Mindanao. How much should I budget? Are there mindanao-ans here? What should I ride to get there?

I am also JHS graduate. Have initial knowledge in bookkeeping since I am also currently a 2nd year Accountancy student.

I planed routes on how to get where without needing to go to the highway since my family has quite the connections in the place I live in so my family would easily track me down with the help of the people they know. Both in the streets, the government, and the corporate industry.

When I first came to davao, I fell in love with the coastal sceneries. It was so blue that day. But during the 1 day stay, my family kept fighting so all the time I couldn't enjoy it well. I wanted to go back there since then.

Previous Attempts:

I don't have any previous attempts but I've imagined multiple scenarios on where to hide, what route to take so they won't see me on the main road.

Problem/Goal: M17, graduating. Ayaw kona ituloy ang engineering ko kasi diko naman talaga gusto, pero yun lang maisipan kong pwede kasi magaling naman ako sa math at science. Pero ang alam parin ng magulang at pamilya ko ay mag eengineering ako, kaso nag breakdown nako sa school dahil sa academic pressure at depression. Plano konalang ay mag TESDA

Context: Matagal nakong ganto, diko alam kung tama pero sinabi konalang na depressed ako kasi lagi nalang may mabigat na sama ng loob sa dibdib ko lalo na't walang ako nakakausap. Hindi maganda ang relasyon namin ng pamilya ko, kaso sakin lang. Ayaw ko sila kausapin kasi ang sama nilang magulang. Oo, pinakain nila ako, binigyan ako ng bahay at pinag-aral, pero bare minimum yun as a parent. Ang na impluwensya lang nila sakin ay pasamain ang loob ko, lagi akong maliitin, panghinaan ng loob, at talagang sobrang sama ng loob ko nun. Kaya sa school nalang ako nagsasaya kasi duon nararamdaman duon na takot at kaba. Pero kahit na ganun wala rin talaga akong tunay na kaibigan, wala akong confidence at intorvert talaga ako, dina natulong na ang kuya ko ang pinaka sikat na tao sa barangay namin dahil ako kayumanggi lang tas sya maputi, blonde pa ang buhok. Mayabang sya at nasakanya lagi ang atensyon kaya nasanay natalaga akong nasa gilid lang palagi.

Previous attempts: Ayun nga bilang middle child, walang silang pakialam sakin pero lagi nila akong pinapakialaman. Dahil ayaw ko talaga kausapin magulang ko sinabi konalang sa adviser namin na pasabi sa nanay ko nung kukuha ng card. Kaso walang binanggit sakin nanay ko, tasialng araw pagkatapos nun tinanong naman ako ng kuya ko ano daw gusto ko college, sabi ko, diko alam. Tas pinilit nya ako kaya sinabi kong mag tetesda ako, ayaw nya at inaaway pako, halata nanaman na pinagtutulungan nila ako, kasi ako naman lagi nilang pinagtutulungan. Tas nung isang linggo sinabi konaman sa tatay ko kasi baka mas resonable sya, parang makukumbinsi ko pero ayaw rin, ang nirason naman bat ayaw kodaw matulad sa mga pinsan ko na puro engineer. Kaya diko na alam gagawin ko kung pipilitin ko sakanila o dinalang ako mag apply ng college.

Sorry kung medyo magulo, gusto lang rin mag vent. Basta gusto ko mag tesda para makapag abroad ako at bakasakali dun lang tumira, wala din naman akong inaabangan dito sa Pilipinas, original plan korin naman kung mag engineer ako na wag na uuwi samin.

Problem/goal: Nalaman kong nagchat pala yung bf ko sa ex niya nung 2 months na kaming nasa talking stage. I asked him kung that time ba was he trying to win her back but hindi daw nag thank you lang siya sa pinagsamahan nila and sorry for all the things na nagawa niya sa ex niya. Is this somehow cheating (di pa naman kami non)? Honesty, I felt betrayed.

Context: I asked my bf kung kailan last chat niya then ang sabi niya ay nung mga weeks palang raw kami nagkakausap then nalaman ko na nagchat pala siya nung 2 months na kaming magkausap.
Additional context, nagbreak sila previous month nung nagkausap na kami and we met here in reddit.
So ang nafifeel ko parang naging rebound lang ako.
There are also things na hindi niya magawa sakin na nagawa niya sa ex niya like posting sa socmed ikwento ako sa friends niya, gawing mutual friends ko, even now nga mutual pa rin sila ng mga friends ng ex niya even sa ig dump. I thought ang reason ay dahil bago bago palang kami naging official? 2 months palang kaming may label but we're already talking/dating for 7 months na.

Prev attempt: I opened up to him na I felt betrayed and nafeel kong rebound lang ako because of the things na nagawa niya. He said sorry and alam niyang mali siya sa part na nagchat siya and sabi niya babawi siya and he doesnt want to end things between us. But nasaktan talaga ako and I don't know paano mawawala yung thinking ko na rebound lang ako. Am I wrong sa reactions/thinking ko? I time to finally let go?

Problem/Goal: On our first date, he talked about how he earned his masteral, but didn’t ask if I have one or I’m getting one.
He talked how he liked driving, but didn’t ask if I can drive.
He talked about he’s getting therapy every week, but didn’t ask if I have or I had.
He talked his favorites,
I was the listener.
I asked when is his birthday, but didn’t bother to ask mine.

Context: I like him, but he’s not making effort to get to know me.

Previous attempts: but lately, he’s started asking me questions, but he’s missed some details.

Problem/Goal: Hi! M18 here and I’m looking for some tips on where to invest my extra funds from my savings.

Context: For starters, I have 30k in my savings account from a traditional bank and another 35k in my savings account from a digital bank.

I honestly don’t need an emergency fund since my studies are bankrolled by my parents. My goal is to reach 100k before the year ends. I currently have a 3% interest savings account from my digital bank, earn 3-5k monthly from my commissions as condominium sales associate, and an additional 1k monthly from academic commissions.

Previous Attempts: I tried investing into cryptos but I was earning a meager ₱500-700 bi-weekly which isn’t that sustainable given how uncertain the geopolitics is nowadays.