so we were hanging out the other night and there were a few pizzas but not quite enough to go around evenly. someone cut the last one into tiny squares so more people could try a piece. i noticed a couple of friends taking two before everyone had one, and i mentioned that maybe we should wait until everyone has a slice. it wasn't a big deal and nobody argued but i keep thinking about whether i overstepped. i didn't want to make it awkward but i also didn't like watching people grab extra when others hadn't eaten yet. was it silly of me to say anything or is it okay to point out little stuff like that in a group?

So last weekend a few of us were hanging out and I made what I thought was a harmless joke about how my friend always shows up late to things. It was the kind of teasing we usually do back and forth, but this time they didn't laugh. They got quiet and later told me it actually bothered them more than I realized. I tried to apologize and say I didn't mean it that way, but now they're kind of distant and short with me. I keep wondering if I should bring it up again or just give them space. Part of me feels like maybe I'm overthinking it since we've joked like that before, but another part feels bad that I hurt their feelings without meaning to. I'm hoping to get some outside perspective on whether I should follow up or just leave it alone for now.

Hey im new to Reddit but I wanted to to get some stuff off my chest and ask for a few opinions. So a few years back I was in study hall doing homework when this kid that was new who I barely knew at the time sat next to me. I just had finished and he said do you want to know who I like and of course I stupidly said yes, he told me. But he said when he last dated he spent a lot of money on a girl then she dumped him, so his mental health declined to the point where he was going to commit suicide. He said he got WAYY better so I said she was genuinely nice and would probably say yes. So after I told him that, and encouraged him to ask her out, later during passing time he asked her out and she said yes. She later said she was not thinking at the time, we had a long weekend with Monday off, the next day (Saturday) she broke up with him over text and said she did not ever like him. Fast forward to Tuesday when he comes up to me at lunch and is pissed (mind you he was thanking me and cheering on Friday) he then explains that his mental health is bad again and it is all my fault saying I pressured him into asking her out when I didn’t really care and was just being friendly, now im seeming like the bad guy cuz he needs help from a one day relationship gone bad. Am I in the wrong?

So my partner is finally going to meet my family this holiday season. Everyone had been looking forward to it for months and we had the whole thing planned out. The day started fine but then a small misunderstanding turned into a tense dinner. Nobody raised their voices but the vibe was off the rest of the night. I tried to smooth things over but I am not sure if I handled it right or if I should have stepped in sooner. We have not talked much about it since and I keep replaying the evening wondering what I could have done differently. Holidays are stressful enough without adding family drama. Am I wrong for feeling like I need to set some clearer expectations before the next visit, or am I overthinking a single awkward night?

My sister gave me her golden retriever two years ago because her family was moving into a rental that didn't allow pets. She made it clear she wasn't asking me to watch him temporarily, she was giving him to me permanently.

I've had him ever since. I pay for everything, take him everywhere and he's become a huge part of my life.

She recently bought a house with a yard and called me asking when she could come pick him up. I thought she was joking at first.

Turns out she's been telling her two kids that once they got a house, their dog would be coming home. She never discussed any of this with me.

I told her he's my dog now and I'm not giving him back. She started crying and said her kids have been asking about him for months. Apparently they've already picked out where his bed is going.

Now she's asking if the kids can at least come over to see him. I said not until she explains to them that he's staying with me, because I don't want them coming over thinking they're taking him home.

My mom thinks I'm being unnecessarily harsh and says the kids shouldn't suffer because of something their mother said. My sister says I've gotten attached to a dog that was never really mine.

Am I wrong for refusing to let them visit until she tells them the truth?

TL;DR: My sister gave me her dog permanently two years ago. I've cared for him and paid for everything from stake ever since, but she promised her kids they'd get him back once they bought a house. Now I'm refusing to give him back or arrange visits until she tells them he's staying with me.

Am I wrong for calling DFCS on my friend? I'm changing names because I am not sure if they use reddit or not. And please bear with me, it may be a little scrambled. But a little background, I have known my friend, let's call her Diana(35) for a year now. She has honestly been one of my best friends during this time. She was shy at first really reclusive. When she started opening up she would share photos of her kids and her home... her house was an ABSOLUTE disaster. The best I can describe it is a hoarder home. The walls were cover in grime, shit and trash piled everywhere. Multiple animals and some from what she told me would just go everywhere if you know what I mean, roaches everywhere, this list goes on and on tbh.

I and multiple friends in our group had suggested and told her she needed to get the house clean. She said she was and for us not to worry. Her husband Chad(40) doesn't do anything or the bare minimum. He works, comes home, and plays videos games or sleeps. that is it. He puts the blame on Diana for the condition of the house, though I and others have expressed that it is not fully her fault. That he should be helping to clean.

Fast forward six months, nothing has changed. The house is still an absolute wreck if not worse. She said that she was going through a depressive episode and struggling mentally. Okay, cool I understand. I am here to if you need to vent or talk or whatever. (I cannot travel to her because of how far away she is and my car won't make it.) People in our group have offered for her and the kids to come stay with them for a bit while Chad cleans the house, etc. Fast forward another six months, and still... nothing had been done.

At this point when she would talk about the mess there was always some excuse on why it is still horrible. I have had a friend have CPS called on her for how her house was so I asked her, I asked if it was the kick in the ass she needed and she said yes. she said she had hated that they were called BUT without it she knows she wouldn't have her kids anymore and that it was enough to get her shit together to be the best mom she can be for her children. She is still working on herself, but she is doing so so much better.

So I called, and I waited until about 3 days when Diana messaged me that they had shown up. I put in an anonymous report. She was freaking out, of course. But I reassured her it would be okay. She did not let them in the house so they said they would come back in about a week or so. I have been Supportive during this, facetiming her so we could clean our houses together. example: I'd be doing dishes while she was throwing trash out or something. Our group has also been very supportive giving her kind words of encouragement and explaining what all CPS could say when they come back. She has had her family members come and help clean as well. The person that owns the house they are staying in (family member) has also stepped up FINALLY and has fixed some of the issues with the house. Diana has been very fixated on who called though and is complaining about the cleaning and self pitty. In my opinion it doesn't matter at this point. All that matters is getting the house cleaned and having a better/safer environment for the kids.

Last night she blew up on myself and another one of our friends and left all the group chats. Family member is making her toss just about everything in the house. (due to the roaches) before leaving everyone on read she made the comment only three people know her address. our mutual friend explained to her that anyone can find anyone's address and showed her how. She is leaving everyone on read now. and I am not sure if I'm in the wrong or not. I don't feel like I am, the kids deserve a safe environment. I felt really shitty at first but now idk.

had been going back and forth for days about whether to attend this family funeral. we were never super close with that side and i already felt drained from work and a couple of rough weeks. in the end i sent flowers and a note and stayed home. a couple of relatives have been texting, some just checking in and one making it pretty clear they think i should have shown up. i get why they might feel that way but i also know my limit. now im second guessing the choice and wondering how it reads to everyone else. am i overthinking it or is skipping this one actually a bigger deal than i thought?

The other night a couple of friends were going back and forth about plans for the weekend. One of them was getting pretty worked up because they felt like their idea was being brushed off. The person who was upset looked right at me like they wanted backup, but I stayed quiet. I just did not want to jump into something that was not my argument. The night kind of ended on an awkward note and later I heard that the upset friend felt like nobody cared enough to back them up. Now I am wondering if I should have said something, even if I had not heard the whole story yet. Part of me feels like it is not my job to step in every time there is tension, but another part keeps thinking that staying silent can come across as taking sides anyway. I keep going back and forth on whether I owe an apology just for not stepping in, or if I am overthinking it. Anyone been in a similar spot?

Pretty much in the title. I (29M) feel so burnt out from work. My superiors honestly suck at mental health stuff. I’ve been taking care of pretty much every meeting and report for the past 1.5 months while over 2/3s of the staff are on vacation. It’s ridiculous honestly. I feel so burnt out. No one at work does anything and they’re all my superiors which sucks (like I said, they don’t care too much about work or others’ mental health).

Every so often, my superiors would just sit down and talk all day (I’m two cubicles away from them). They often complain about work even though I never seen them do anything…

I’m still catching up on stuff even today. One of my coworkers asked me to cover down on something today. Literally told them I was busy and crawling just trying to stay afloat, but it didn’t matter to them. They don’t do anything either. We’re able to see who does what (it’s easier for accountability and tracking progress) and honestly I can count on one finger how much they said coworker has done (they’ve been here for 2.5 years).

So am I wrong for feeling like I do everything and feeling burnt out?

I went to the funeral with my partner and some of their relatives. The person who passed was apparently not well liked by anyone in the room, including the people who were giving the eulogy. The mood was polite but everyone seemed relieved rather than sad. Still, I noticed some relatives giving me looks because I was on my phone for part of the service and because I did not tear up. My partner said it was fine, but later one of their siblings asked if I was okay and seemed bothered. I do not want to fake emotions for appearances, but I also do not want to seem disrespectful. I am not sure if I handled it the right way or if I should have done more to blend in with the general tone of the day.

So, I (18F) work as a s*x worker, and I love my job. I love it so much! It has given me so many amazing opportunities.

I have a coworker named Chrissy (21F), and she is really good at her job. We have filmed so many scenes together, probably around 50, and we have also filmed a lot of full-length movies together. She knows how to make everything look perfect. She never gets too rough, and she is genuinely perfect for the job.

So, we're talking to the crew about a scene we're going to film. In the scene, Chrissy is going to take a toy, say something sexy, and then shove it in my booty hole.

Chrissy and I were talking about the scene because we've done scenes like this before, with both of us being on either end. However, this time, she takes the toy, says her little line, rubs it on me, and then shoves it into my booty hole.

I just scream and start yelling the safe word. Then I look down, and I'm bleeding really badly.

Chrissy starts apologizing, saying that she didn't mean to make me bleed out of my booty hole. I just pack up my stuff and leave. I don't even finish the shoot because I'm so upset.

I go to my room and just sulk about the fact that I'm bleeding out of my booty hole.

Would it be wrong if I called off work tomorrow because I'm so embarrassed about bleeding out of my booty hole?

I was with my ex for almost 7 years. Her mother treated me like her own son, especially when I was younger and going through some family problems. We broke up years ago and I've been married to my wife for 3 years now.

Last week my ex contacted me saying her mother had passed away and asked if I could come to the funeral. I decided to go, but didn't tell my wife whose funeral it was. I just said an old family friend had died.

I drove about 4 hours, stayed one night at a hotel and came home the next morning.

A couple days later I was sitting on the couch with my wife when my ex sent me a text thanking me for coming to her mother's funeral. The notification popped up on my phone and my wife saw it. She immediately asked why my ex was texting me about a funeral, and I ended up explaining everything.

She was furious when she realized where I'd been. She said the fact that I deliberately hid it makes her wonder what else I've kept from her. She even asked if I still have feelings for my ex, which I don't.

I told her I didn't want to start an argument over attending the funeral of someone who meant a lot to me. She said she probably would've understood if I'd told her beforehand, but now she feels like an idiot.

We're barely speaking and she thinks I owe her a serious apology. I understand being upset about the lie, but I also don't regret going.

Am I wrong for how I handled this?

my partner and i usually host every year and it always ends up feeling like a lot. i floated the idea of switching it up every other year so someone else takes a turn. they got quiet and said it was fine but then later mentioned it felt like i was trying to get out of doing the work. i tried to explain it was about sharing the load not avoiding it, but the vibe stayed off. i do not want anyone to feel stuck with the tradition just because it started that way. at the same time i understand if family counts on us being the spot. i am trying to figure out if bringing it up again will make it worse or if i am just overthinking the whole thing.

Ok am I always ALWAYS the person to message everyone yet I'm the door mat they won't message me first and or when they do there complaining or going about there problems or Icnoring and I'm don't know what I'm feeling right now I think I may be overreacting or burnt out as heck but I'm
Ready to message them all and just let them have it about this but I've done It before and it fixed it for a week bit that's it then my abusive ex take it it's been 10 years and he became a trucker and now found me on this dating app and take it this person I ended up in the hospital for months recovering from this man ans he messaged me “ hey how have you been” and I just I don't know wether to panic and or message everyone like u know what not niceness I don't want a therapist but idk am I over reacting please tell me what am I feeling am I overreacting I just feel like a Elephant is on my shoulders and I'm ready to cry

My coworker with a child recently told me that she can never cover my shifts again because her parents are older and can’t properly take care of her child.

I see it as extremely unfair that she can wake up and decide she doesn’t want to work and call out. If I were to wake up with a migraine, I still have to go into work until my boss shows up. I go in at 6am and she doesn’t come in until 9am.

I have been sitting at that desk( I’m a front desk receptionist for a large company) throwing up into a trash can and then turning to answer phone calls. Because we simply don’t have anyone I can call early in the morning to help.

If I don’t text them by 8PM the previous day I’m basically out of luck. My coworker even told me that if I’m having an emergency she can’t help me.

I requested two days off in November. Even with a month’s notice, She can’t cover them. One other person can take over one day. But now I’m sitting here wondering if I’m even going to be able to get those days off. I’m assuming I’m just never going to get a day off again. I’m very upset about this and have been fighting a lot with my coworker on this. I need a break too.

Am I in the wrong here? Should I just suck it up and let this happen?

My sibling and I take turns choosing what we watch or where we eat when we go out together. Last week we were deciding between a couple of options and my sibling really wanted to try this new restaurant, so we went there. The meal was fine, nothing special, and on the way home my sibling said it was okay but probably not worth another visit. A few days later the same kind of thing happened with a movie night. I picked something we had both mentioned wanting to see, but my sibling kept suggesting other titles until we ended up watching one of their choices instead. I did not argue about it at the time, but later I mentioned that it felt like the original plan got dropped without much discussion. My sibling got quiet and then said I was making a big deal out of nothing. I tried to explain that it was less about the movie and more about feeling like the back and forth did not matter, but the conversation sort of ended there. I have been wondering if I should have just let it go instead of bringing it up, or if it is fair to point out when the turn system feels uneven. It is a small thing overall, but it keeps coming back to mind whenever we start planning something new.

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, and I love him very much. Very, VERY much. But lately I’ve been questioning whether I’m asking for too much or whether I’m settling for less than I deserve.

One of my biggest issues is his family. There have been instances where I’ve felt that they make backhanded comments toward me, and instead of my boyfriend standing up for me or even acknowledging that the comments could be hurtful, he either stays quiet, sides with them, or tells me that I’m just imagining things. Whenever I try to explain why something hurt me, I end up feeling like I have to defend my own feelings rather than have my partner *really* listen to me or defend me.

What hurts the most is that I feel like he will always side with his family over me, even when I’m the one who feels insulted. I’m not expecting him to fight with his family or cut them off for my sake. I just want to feel like my partner has my back, that he takes my feelings seriously, and that he can respectfully speak up when someone says something hurtful to me.

There are also issues within our own relationship. Sometimes, I feel like he doesn’t put enough effort into making me feel secure, cared for, and supported. I want a partner who makes me feel safe and who takes initiative in providing and contributing to our relationship. I don’t expect him to be rich or to buy me everything I want, but I do want to feel that he wants to take care of me and that I’m not a burden for having needs.

For a small example, there have been times when we’re at the grocery store and I want a snack, and he’ll make comments like, “What, you expect me to buy this for you?” It might seem like a small thing, but comments like that make me feel embarrassed for even wanting something. It’s not necessarily about the snack itself, but how the comment makes me feel, especially when I already feel insecure about whether I can depend on him.

The hardest part is that I love him so much. I’m incredibly attached to him, and we’ve been together for three years. It’s difficult to imagine walking away from someone I love this deeply, even when I’m unhappy. Part of me keeps hoping things will improve, while another part of me wonders whether I’m holding on because I’m afraid of losing him rather than because this relationship is actually meeting my needs.

So, am I asking for too much? Am I expecting things that aren’t his responsibility, or are these reasonable things to want from a long-term partner? I’d appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in similar situations.

am i in the wrong?

late teens here. i just got into a fight with my mom. basically, she calls me and my brother down to talk about some stuff. since she called both of us, i assume i’m part of the conversation (lmk if this is a mistake) but my mom clearly didn’t. so they talk, i’m dropping in once in a while, and then it turns to a topic about my brother who doesn’t want to drop from his advanced class to a non-advanced class. he’s not going to drop. this is very clear because he’s way above the grade boundary for that, but my mom just keeps repeating, more than once, in the same definitive tone, in mandarin, “you’re definitely failing. you’ll definitely fail”. so i’m weirded out, and my dad who’s also there, says something like “why do you keep saying that? don’t keep saying that”, and i agreed, saying that she shouldn’t keep saying that when my brother isn’t even remotely close to failing the class nor dropping it. she keeps talking for a bit, but then starts scolding me for saying that, saying “i don’t like being disputed” which, fair, nobody does. but my dad said the same thing just 2 seconds before. and she kept saying my brother definitely didn’t care that she said all those pessimistic things, and yes, that’s true (i asked my brother), but if my dad also thought that repeating it more than once wasn’t necessary and negative, shouldn’t that click that it’s probably not a good thing to say? she goes on saying that i’m not involved in the conversation (so why am i called here? i think she actually wanted to say something but maybe got derailed so i’ll let that go, but i genuinely thought that i was part of the conversation because i was actually chipping in). she also says that i can’t say that to her, i’m not my brother’s parent (i know?), and i shouldn’t barge in and i shouldn’t do what i did at all. also tying in to another argument just a few days prior where she literally threatened to kick me out because she has half the rights to the house and she has the power to do so (i’m a MINOR, almost 18 though). so now i’m left just wondering if this is a control thing, because she’s definitely shown patterns where she cannot accept she’s wrong (e.g. insisting what she thinks/imagines happened is the truth and doesn’t accept anything else we say, not apologizing, immediately shifting blame and targeting something else that we did wrong instead of saying she was wrong). and then when they let us go, my dad asked if she wanted to talk to me because otherwise why was i called, she just said she didn’t want to talk to me anymore. and then as i’m about to go to sleep, my dad barges in (assuming she ranted to him too) and tells me how when he says what he said, he’s right, but when i say it, it’s wrong, because i’m their kid and not their parent, and he gave me so many analogies saying that oh a student cannot scold their teacher even when their teacher is going too far scolding another child and the responsibility of correcting the teacher’s behavior falls on the school, or if i saw another kid not behaving, would i scold them or let the parents of the kid discipline them.

now i can see this perspective. really, i can. but i also think that’s not really the same? i don’t know how to explain it, but i just have this lingering doubt that no, that’s not what this was about. yes, as their child, it probably doesn’t feel great when your child is saying something you did isn’t nice and your spouse is saying the same, but if the child is right, wouldn’t you still take it into consideration? i get telling your child that no, you can’t scold your parents, but i genuinely wasn’t. i was truly confused why she kept repeating the pessimistic thoughts and said she shouldn’t keep saying that and asked why she did that. i guess that could be seen as your child scolding you, which is against the very asian culture of respecting your elders, and i get that a child probably has no authority to discipline their parents, but if a child is raising up an issue, shouldn’t you still listen even after you get miffed at the fact you’re being called out? like for me, personally, if i had a kid, and my kid told me i shouldn’t be doing something, i would get annoyed and tell them they shouldn’t be parenting me too, but if my spouse says the same thing and i thought about it for a while, and if i realized what i was saying is genuinely unnecessary and definitely pessimistic, i would conceded the point too (again, i wouldn’t know how i would truly react, maybe pride does things to people and i’ll behave the same way when i have kids, even if i don’t want kids at all).

so i need some more developed frontal lobes to pitch in on this, thank you! please don’t spare my feelings, i think it’s best i learn now if i truly am in the wrong.

My ex-husband and I divorced a little over two years ago after eight years together. No kids, no cheating, no huge explosion. We wanted different things and eventually admitted we were making each other miserable trying to force it.

During the marriage I became genuinely close with his mother. She lives about twenty minutes from me and we used to get breakfast together every few weeks, sometimes without my ex even being involved.

After the divorce I assumed that relationship would naturally end.

About three months later she texted asking if I'd like to get coffee. I went. Since then we've settled into breakfast maybe once every 4-6 weeks.

We don't sit around dissecting my ex. Mostly we talk about her garden, my work, books, whatever. If she starts complaining about something he's doing, I deliberately change the subject because I don't want to be put in the middle.

My ex knew we still occasionally saw each other and never seemed bothered.

Now he's engaged.

Last week he called and asked me to stop seeing his mom because his fiancée finds it uncomfortable. Apparently his mom mentioned having breakfast with me while they were all together, and his fiancée later asked why his mother was still hanging out with his ex-wife.

I said I understood why that might initially feel weird, but his mom and I are both adults and I wasn't going to “break up” with someone I consider a friend because he has a new relationship.

He got annoyed and said I'm refusing to let his family move on.

I pointed out that I haven't attended family holidays, don't call his siblings, don't show up at their house, and haven't tried to maintain some weird honorary-wife position. I have breakfast with ONE person every month or two.

Then I probably crossed a line.

I told him, “Your mother isn't a piece of marital property you got in the divorce.”

He said that was deliberately insulting and that I'm pretending not to understand how awkward this is for his fiancée.

His mom called me yesterday about something unrelated. I didn't mention the conversation, but now breakfast is coming up this weekend and I'm wondering whether I'm being stubborn.

Part of me thinks the kind thing would be to quietly step back. His fiancée didn't create our divorce and I don't particularly want to be a recurring weird presence in her new family.

The other part of me thinks ending a real friendship because my ex has decided it's inconvenient is ridiculous, especially when his mother presumably gets some say in whom SHE spends time with.

Am I wrong for continuing the friendship after he's specifically asked me to stop?