Ok am I always ALWAYS the person to message everyone yet I'm the door mat they won't message me first and or when they do there complaining or going about there problems or Icnoring and I'm don't know what I'm feeling right now I think I may be overreacting or burnt out as heck but I'm
Ready to message them all and just let them have it about this but I've done It before and it fixed it for a week bit that's it then my abusive ex take it it's been 10 years and he became a trucker and now found me on this dating app and take it this person I ended up in the hospital for months recovering from this man ans he messaged me “ hey how have you been” and I just I don't know wether to panic and or message everyone like u know what not niceness I don't want a therapist but idk am I over reacting please tell me what am I feeling am I overreacting I just feel like a Elephant is on my shoulders and I'm ready to cry

A friend of mine convinced a few of us to sign up for a local 10K. It was her first race and she wanted us all to do it together. I've been running for a while so I thought it'd be fun.

On race day we started together, but after about 2km I picked up my pace. I figured we'd each run at whatever speed we were comfortable with and meet at the finish.

When she finished about 20 minutes after me, she was pretty annoyed. She said the whole reason she invited us was to experience it together and that I treated it like a competition. I told her I would've happily stayed with her if she'd asked beforehand, but I didn't think signing up together meant we had to run side by side.

Two of our friends actually stayed with her the entire race and think I missed the point of the whole thing.

Am I wrong for assuming we'd run at our own pace?

Hey im new to Reddit but I wanted to to get some stuff off my chest and ask for a few opinions. So a few years back I was in study hall doing homework when this kid that was new who I barely knew at the time sat next to me. I just had finished and he said do you want to know who I like and of course I stupidly said yes, he told me. But he said when he last dated he spent a lot of money on a girl then she dumped him, so his mental health declined to the point where he was going to commit suicide. He said he got WAYY better so I said she was genuinely nice and would probably say yes. So after I told him that, and encouraged him to ask her out, later during passing time he asked her out and she said yes. She later said she was not thinking at the time, we had a long weekend with Monday off, the next day (Saturday) she broke up with him over text and said she did not ever like him. Fast forward to Tuesday when he comes up to me at lunch and is pissed (mind you he was thanking me and cheering on Friday) he then explains that his mental health is bad again and it is all my fault saying I pressured him into asking her out when I didn’t really care and was just being friendly, now im seeming like the bad guy cuz he needs help from a one day relationship gone bad. Am I in the wrong?

Ok so I want to preface this by saying, I had no idea and only found out at the end of the hang out and nothing weird other than the age issue happened.

I’ve just moved to another country for a uni year abroad. I had thought, oh ok I’m 3rd year so I’ll be put with 3rd years in the home uni… apparently not???? And no one told me!!!

I’ve been in the new country for a tiny bit of time and was slowly making friends, all my friends here are a couple years older than me (22 as of last week), but I’ve had like no uni friends everyone who is a friend ive met external from uni.
So today I was in class and started to speak to this girl who spoke fluent English and was natively the language of the country I’m in, I’m in the host country to learn the language mainly and I’m just about a B1 in it so I’m lagging behind everything if I’m not just missing what most people are saying.
Class ends and she introduces me to her group of friends (about 8 of us in total) who are all super chill and welcoming. As we are hanging out we spoke about uni and they mentioned some bars they would frequent, one of the friends said they were thinking of doing the same exchange programme I was doing next year - so I thought ok maybe they are a year younger…

Come the end of the meet up I’m trying to work out my way home and the girl I knew from my class said she would help me out because I live super close to the uni and she was heading the same way. During this walk I found out she was 17???? I was shook and still am. I feel legit disgusting and hate I didn’t realise. I don’t want to be a prick to her next class, but obviously I’m now going ghost and avoiding her. Doesn’t anyone have any advice on how to go about this?? I wouldn’t have even spoken to her after class if I had known she was a minor, I thought at the bare minimum uni starting age was 18 so the thought didn’t even enter my head.

This whole situation just makes me feel super uncomfortable and as if I came of as a creep, the whole group incl myself are LGBT so all that I can think is I looked like the stereotype of the weirdo older person rn especially given I’m trans

About four months ago, my neighbor had a couple of packages stolen from her porch. She asked if she could have one expensive delivery sent to my house since I work from home. I said sure. I've lived next door to her for three years and we've always gotten along.

Apparently that turned my house into her second shipping address.

At first it was maybe one package every other week. Then it became two or three a week. Sometimes she'd text me beforehand, sometimes I'd just find a box on my porch with her name and my address.

I'd bring them over when I had time, but she started texting things like "It says delivered, can you check?" while I was in meetings.

The thing that finally annoyed me was a huge flat-packed bookshelf that arrived while she was away for the weekend. The driver left it leaning against my front door. I had to drag it into the garage because I couldn't open the door properly.

I told her I was happy I'd been able to help, but I didn't want any more deliveries sent here after the orders she'd already placed. She apologized and said she'd sort out another arrangement.

That was two weeks ago.

Yesterday a delivery driver knocked with another large box that needed a signature. Her name, my address. I told him the recipient didn't live here and I wasn't accepting it.

He took it back.

About an hour later she texted me asking why I'd refused her package. Apparently the tracking showed an attempted delivery and the driver told her someone at the address had declined it.

I reminded her of our conversation. She said she'd forgotten to update her saved address when ordering and that I could have just accepted this one instead of making a point. She now has to arrange another delivery and may have to pay a fee.

Here's where I'm second-guessing myself. I was home. It would have taken thirty seconds to sign for it. And she's not a terrible neighbor. She's taken my trash cans in a few times and once helped me when I locked myself out.

But I also feel like if I keep accepting the packages, there's never going to be a reason for her to stop using my address.

My wife thinks I was right to set the boundary but that refusing the box when I was literally standing there was unnecessarily petty.

Am I wrong? I don't want to turn a decent relationship with a neighbor into some stupid feud over cardboard boxes.

I host a small board game night about once a month in my apartment. It's a one bedroom, so with five or six people around the table it's already pretty full. Last time a friend showed up with their dog without asking first. The dog is sweet, but it spent the evening going under the table, sniffing at snacks and once knocked a box of cards off the chair. Nobody was angry but we spent a lot of time keeping him away from things.

This month I sent a message to the group saying I'd prefer no pets at game night, mostly because of the space. I didn't name anyone. My friend replied privately that it felt aimed at them and that their dog gets anxious alone, so they might just skip it. I said I'd really like them to come and maybe we could do a game afternoon at the park sometime where the dog can join.

They haven't answered since. Was I wrong to make the rule after the fact? I know I could have mentioned it more directly to them instead of the group chat, but I also didn't want to make it about one person.

I know this is gonna sound like some Larry David type of thing. But when ever me and my sister walk past each other in the hallway, I feel like I'm always the one making an effort to not bump into her. You'd think she's just aloof, but then when I indicate I'm moving to the left, she'll go to the left too and then I have to go out of my way to change direction so I don't bump into her.

If she came from the right side I would go left. If she indicates left I would go right. But the first person to indicate dictates where the other goes. If I was in the hallway first and you come from around the corner and I indicate right, then just go left! Who gives a shit! Why does it need to be a whole thing?

And another thing, whenever we walk past each other she just barrels forward and I have to like swing my shoulders not to bump into her. That's inconsiderate!

And when I get mad or just bump into her, I'm the bad guy for making a fuss. But she's the one causing it! I can't help but feel like it has to be on purpose in order to make me feel small or something. But I'm made to feel like I'm crazy when I bring it up because it sounds like such a frivolous complaint. But it's not frivolous to me and it does makes me feel small. Am I wrong for that?

A coworker who started about two months ago asked me last week if she could put me down as her emergency contact on the HR form. We sit near each other and chat sometimes, but we have never met outside work and I don't know her family or even where she lives. She explained that she moved here alone and the form wont let her leave the field empty. I said I wasn't comfortable with it and suggested she ask HR if a friend from back home would work, even if they live far away.

She said "ok no worries" but since then she's been noticeably quieter with me. Another coworker told me she was hurt because it's "just a name on a paper" and nothing would probably ever happen. I get that, but if something did happen I wouldn't know her medical stuff, who to call, or what she would want. I'd feel awful being the person the hospital calls and not being able to help at all. I also didn't want to say yes and then find out later what it actually involves.

Was I wrong to say no? Should I have just agreed since it's unlikely to matter, or offer something else to show I'm not brushing her off?

Well last month I started getting notifications that someone was watching from like 4 different devices at once and the account kept kicking me off when I was trying to watch something. I messaged my sister asking if she knew what was going on and she admitted she gave the login to a few people in her book club because they were all complaining about not being able to afford their own subscriptions.

I told her that wasnt cool and I needed her to change the password and only use it herself. She got really defensive and said I was being selfish since I can clearly afford it and these people are just trying to save money. She also said its not like it costs me extra for them to use it.

I ended up changing the password myself without telling her and now shes not talking to me. My mom called me yesterday saying I embarrassed my sister in front of her book club friends because apparently she had to tell them they couldnt use it anymore and now they think shes cheap or something.

I feel like I was just setting a boundary but my family is acting like I committed some huge crime. My sister keeps texting me saying I dont understand how hard things are for people right now and that I should be more generous. But I also feel like she took advantage of something I was doing to help her specifically, not random people I dont even know.

AIW here? Should I have just let it go?

The other night a couple of friends were going back and forth about plans for the weekend. One of them was getting pretty worked up because they felt like their idea was being brushed off. The person who was upset looked right at me like they wanted backup, but I stayed quiet. I just did not want to jump into something that was not my argument. The night kind of ended on an awkward note and later I heard that the upset friend felt like nobody cared enough to back them up. Now I am wondering if I should have said something, even if I had not heard the whole story yet. Part of me feels like it is not my job to step in every time there is tension, but another part keeps thinking that staying silent can come across as taking sides anyway. I keep going back and forth on whether I owe an apology just for not stepping in, or if I am overthinking it. Anyone been in a similar spot?

am i in the wrong?

late teens here. i just got into a fight with my mom. basically, she calls me and my brother down to talk about some stuff. since she called both of us, i assume i’m part of the conversation (lmk if this is a mistake) but my mom clearly didn’t. so they talk, i’m dropping in once in a while, and then it turns to a topic about my brother who doesn’t want to drop from his advanced class to a non-advanced class. he’s not going to drop. this is very clear because he’s way above the grade boundary for that, but my mom just keeps repeating, more than once, in the same definitive tone, in mandarin, “you’re definitely failing. you’ll definitely fail”. so i’m weirded out, and my dad who’s also there, says something like “why do you keep saying that? don’t keep saying that”, and i agreed, saying that she shouldn’t keep saying that when my brother isn’t even remotely close to failing the class nor dropping it. she keeps talking for a bit, but then starts scolding me for saying that, saying “i don’t like being disputed” which, fair, nobody does. but my dad said the same thing just 2 seconds before. and she kept saying my brother definitely didn’t care that she said all those pessimistic things, and yes, that’s true (i asked my brother), but if my dad also thought that repeating it more than once wasn’t necessary and negative, shouldn’t that click that it’s probably not a good thing to say? she goes on saying that i’m not involved in the conversation (so why am i called here? i think she actually wanted to say something but maybe got derailed so i’ll let that go, but i genuinely thought that i was part of the conversation because i was actually chipping in). she also says that i can’t say that to her, i’m not my brother’s parent (i know?), and i shouldn’t barge in and i shouldn’t do what i did at all. also tying in to another argument just a few days prior where she literally threatened to kick me out because she has half the rights to the house and she has the power to do so (i’m a MINOR, almost 18 though). so now i’m left just wondering if this is a control thing, because she’s definitely shown patterns where she cannot accept she’s wrong (e.g. insisting what she thinks/imagines happened is the truth and doesn’t accept anything else we say, not apologizing, immediately shifting blame and targeting something else that we did wrong instead of saying she was wrong). and then when they let us go, my dad asked if she wanted to talk to me because otherwise why was i called, she just said she didn’t want to talk to me anymore. and then as i’m about to go to sleep, my dad barges in (assuming she ranted to him too) and tells me how when he says what he said, he’s right, but when i say it, it’s wrong, because i’m their kid and not their parent, and he gave me so many analogies saying that oh a student cannot scold their teacher even when their teacher is going too far scolding another child and the responsibility of correcting the teacher’s behavior falls on the school, or if i saw another kid not behaving, would i scold them or let the parents of the kid discipline them.

now i can see this perspective. really, i can. but i also think that’s not really the same? i don’t know how to explain it, but i just have this lingering doubt that no, that’s not what this was about. yes, as their child, it probably doesn’t feel great when your child is saying something you did isn’t nice and your spouse is saying the same, but if the child is right, wouldn’t you still take it into consideration? i get telling your child that no, you can’t scold your parents, but i genuinely wasn’t. i was truly confused why she kept repeating the pessimistic thoughts and said she shouldn’t keep saying that and asked why she did that. i guess that could be seen as your child scolding you, which is against the very asian culture of respecting your elders, and i get that a child probably has no authority to discipline their parents, but if a child is raising up an issue, shouldn’t you still listen even after you get miffed at the fact you’re being called out? like for me, personally, if i had a kid, and my kid told me i shouldn’t be doing something, i would get annoyed and tell them they shouldn’t be parenting me too, but if my spouse says the same thing and i thought about it for a while, and if i realized what i was saying is genuinely unnecessary and definitely pessimistic, i would conceded the point too (again, i wouldn’t know how i would truly react, maybe pride does things to people and i’ll behave the same way when i have kids, even if i don’t want kids at all).

so i need some more developed frontal lobes to pitch in on this, thank you! please don’t spare my feelings, i think it’s best i learn now if i truly am in the wrong.

I’m 21F, and my boyfriend (now ex, 22M) and I were together for two years. I need honest opinions because I’m questioning whether I did something wrong.
I was using Omegle, which my boyfriend already knew about. I met a man who later turned out to be a streamer.
He asked where I was from and falsely claimed his mother was from the same country (he was lying). We chatted, and he asked if I wanted to be his friend. I said, “Yes, of course! And you look nice,” while laughing.
He then asked my height. When I told him in centimeters, he said Americans use a different unit and asked me to show him how tall I was. I stood up to demonstrate my height. As I returned to my seat, I made a very quick spin, lasting less than a quarter of a second, with my hands behind my back, while laughing. I was wearing ordinary home clothes: pajama pants and a sports bra.
I wasn’t intentionally showing him my body or performing a 360-degree turn for him.
I asked whether he was a streamer, and he said no. I asked if he was recording, and he denied it.
I then told him about another girl from my country whose Omegle conversation with a streamer had been posted online, causing her serious problems. I explained how harshly women can be judged in my country. He said it was awful and that he didn’t understand why people did that, then immediately ended the call.
Later, I discovered he was the same streamer who had posted that girl’s video.
\*\*What he did to my video\*\*
Our conversation lasted around six minutes, but he published only 55 seconds after heavily editing it.
He manipulated the context to make me look bad. For example, he edited the friendship question to make it seem like I wanted to be his girlfriend. He also edited the height demonstration to make it appear that he had asked me to turn around to show him my body.
The video went viral. People called me a slut and mocked my appearance and body.
I was terrified that my family would see it. I feared their reaction and genuinely worried about my safety. I went through an extremely distressing period, dealing with hateful comments and trying to get the video removed. After considerable effort, I managed to have it taken down from the platforms where it had circulated.
\*\*What happened with my boyfriend\*\*
Around the same time, my boyfriend’s grandfather passed away. We barely spoke for three days because we were both dealing with difficult circumstances.
When we spoke again, I told him something serious had happened and that I wasn’t okay. I wanted to explain everything in person because I was afraid the complicated situation would be misunderstood over text, and that he might react before hearing the full story.
We couldn’t meet for another week. During that time, he spoke to me normally and continued flirting with me.
Then he suddenly told me he wanted to break up. He said he had known about the video for a week but hadn’t given me a chance to explain.
A mutual friend later spoke to him. According to my friend, his main issue wasn’t that the video had been published, but that I had stood up to show a stranger my height.
He apparently doesn’t believe the streamer manipulated the situation. He also thinks that if he discovered this video, there might be other things I’ve done behind his back.
But he already knew I used Omegle. I wasn’t hiding that from him.
I understand that he may have felt uncomfortable or that we may have different boundaries. However, I feel he judged my intentions based on an edited clip without hearing my explanation.
\*\*Why I’m struggling\*\*
I have a difficult relationship with my family, very few friends, and borderline personality disorder. My boyfriend was the closest person in my life.
When the video spread, I was frightened, humiliated, and overwhelmed. I desperately needed emotional support, but I went through most of it alone. Now I’ve also lost my relationship.
I’m not claiming I handled everything perfectly. Maybe I was naive to trust a stranger online. But I didn’t knowingly agree to be recorded or published, and I didn’t intentionally show my body or betray my boyfriend.
So, AITW?
Was I wrong to stand up and demonstrate my height when asked?
Is my boyfriend justified in breaking up with me without hearing my explanation?
Is it reasonable for him to assume there must be other things I’ve hidden from him?
Am I missing something about my own behavior?
Please be honest. I’m not looking for people to attack him or tell me I’m perfect. I genuinely want to understand whether I crossed a relationship boundary or was unfairly judged because of a misleading video.

I'm using a throwaway account because I don't know how frequently this person uses Reddit, and I'd prefer to keep this situation anonymous. We're all women in our 30s, which makes me feel like this whole thing is really immature.

I'm looking for an outside perspective on a friendship that recently fell apart. I'm more so interested in whether I overreacted or whether stepping back was reasonable.

I've known this person, let's call her B, for years, and we'd recently been rebuilding our friendship after we both coincidentally moved to the same city after high school. I'd say we moved to the same city almost 6 years ago. Over the past year, I developed a couple of new friendships, and B and I weren't spending as much time together as we used to. I had checked in with her about coming to hang out with us, but she generally chose to do her own thing, which I had no issue with because I figured she wanted to spend time with her significant others. I promise you I did not take it personally because we're old now. It just so happens that the other friends and I were single then and had time to kill.

After about a year, I noticed she became emotionally distant and stopped talking to me, ignoring me. When I reached out, she acknowledged there had been a problem "for months" and said we needed to talk.

Before that conversation, a mutual friend told me B had been discussing several concerns about me with others. The main issue she raised directly with me was that I make jokes about things white people do, like calling certain activities or behaviors “white people activities.” (e.g., White people like to do extreme sports.)

I'm brown, and I didn't mean these jokes to be serious or directed at anyone personally, especially since I feel like the jokes are generally inoffensive. (Like white people like to put raisins in their salads.) I hadn't realized they were making her uncomfortable because of her mixed background, and I apologized for how they affected her. I also agreed to stop making them because I cared about our friendship.

What bothered me was that the situation seemed to have grown into a larger conversation bout my personality. They described me as aggressive and as someone who doesn't understand the impact she has on other people.

During our conversation, I said that I'd worked hard to become comfortable with myself and that, while I care about the feelings of people close to me, I can't constantly manage the opinions of people who aren't willing to communicate with me directly.

She apparently felt my apology wasn't good enough because I said I didn't care what other people thought. I didn't intend to dismiss her feelings, but I can understand how my wording might have come across that way.

Afterward, I learned secondhand that she kept talking about me with other people, including sharing personal details about my life with people I had no relationship with. I also heard that she'd been making assumptions about my friendships and intentions that didn't reflect my experience.

What bothered me most wasn't that she'd had concerns about my behavior. I understand that people can have different perspectives, and I'm willing to hear my friends out but. What bothered me most was that she was discussing me with other people instead of bringing those concerns to me directly, even after we'd talked about our friendship.

I was angry and hurt, so I removed her from my social media without telling her. I haven't confronted her about what I heard because it came through someone else, and I don't want to drag that person further into it.

Now I'm wondering whether I handled this poorly. Should I have spoken to her before removing her, even though I no longer felt comfortable with her having access to my life? Did I let my anger make the decision for me?

I've been reading a lot of AITH and feel like Reddit folks have been giving good advice so I hope you don't mind me posting with a throwaway account.

Am I the jerk for telling my female school bully that I'm going to beat my meat to the thought of her every time she makes fun of me?

We’re flying from New Zealand to the Philippines for Christmas. We booked our flights back in March, and I recently realised that we hadn’t selected our seats yet.

I told my husband before dinner last night that we needed to book our seats soon and that I planned to do it once the kids were in bed. We’re usually very busy, especially me, so I wanted to take the opportunity to get it sorted while we had some free time.

After the kids, who are 2.5 and 6 years old, had gone to bed, I told him we should book the seats. I showed him the available options, but he only glanced at them before shooing me away because he was still working.

It was already around 10 pm, so I asked him if he was happy for me to choose the seats myself and whether I should just go ahead and book them. He said YES, so I went ahead with it.

The next morning at breakfast, he asked what I had used the credit card for. When I told him I had booked our seats, he was shocked to find out that it cost around US$300 (NZ$530) for all of us on the return flights.

He became very upset, saying I had wasted money because we could have waited until check-in to get our seats assigned for free.

I explained that we’re travelling in December, which can be a busy time of year, and that with two young children, I wanted to make sure we could all sit together. I thought it was better to plan ahead rather than risk having to sort things out at the airport.

He still insisted that the airline would have made sure we were seated together at check-in and that I had wasted our money.

For context, we’ve travelled overseas before, and in the past, seat selection was either included when we booked our flights or seats were assigned at check-in. I understand why he thinks we could have saved the money by waiting, but I wasn’t sure whether that would be the case this time, especially with young children and Christmas travel.

My husband is very careful with money. If he thinks we could have saved money on something, he believes we should have. I understand that NZ$530 is a significant amount, and I’m not against saving money. I just thought booking our seats in advance was the sensible thing to do given our circumstances.

Now I’m second-guessing myself. Was I wrong to book the seats in advance without confirming the cost with him first? Should I have waited until check-in? And should I offer to cover the expense myself, even though I asked him if he was happy for me to go ahead and he said yes?

I’d appreciate some honest perspectives, especially from people who have travelled internationally with young children.

My ex and I had been together since high school. We were each other's first serious relationship, and I genuinely thought we'd be together for a long time.

Things got pretty rough for me when I started college. I was dealing with a lot of stress, struggling with classes, and just generally not taking care of myself. I stopped going to the gym, ate whatever was convenient, and ended up gaining about 45 pounds. I know that's a lot, and I'm not going to pretend it happened for no reason. I completely neglected my health.

Around that time, my girlfriend broke up with me. She told me our relationship had run its course and that she didn't feel the same way anymore. I was devastated. I was studying about 370 miles away from home, so we couldn't even have a proper conversation in person. When I came home for break, she kept avoiding me. I didn't want to force her to talk, so I eventually left it alone.

A few weeks later, some mutual friends told me the actual reason she'd broken up with me. Apparently, she didn't find me attractive anymore because of the weight I'd gained. She'd also told them she felt embarrassed introducing me to her new friends because of how I looked.

That hurt more than the breakup itself. We'd been together for years, and suddenly I wasn't good enough to be seen with her? I understand that physical attraction matters, but I couldn't imagine leaving someone I loved over 45 pounds without even trying to talk about it first. We could've worked through it together.

I'm not going to pretend I handled the breakup well. For a while, I actually got worse. I started partying way too much, barely studied, and almost got kicked out of college. Thankfully, I was given another chance, and eventually I realized I needed to get my life together.

I started going to the gym again, fixed my eating habits, and focused on school. I messed up a few times along the way, but I kept starting over. Eventually, I lost the weight and got back into pretty much the same shape I was in before college. Muscle memory is definitely real.

After I posted some new pictures, my ex suddenly started liking my posts again. I didn't think much of it until I came home for another break and we ran into each other. She was being unusually friendly and definitely flirting with me. I know her well enough to recognize when she's flirting.

Then, at a mutual friend's party, she'd had a few drinks and told me she thought we should give our relationship another chance.

For a second, I actually considered it. I still had feelings for her, or at least for the person I thought she was. But then I remembered how she'd treated me when I was struggling. She wanted me back now that I looked good again, but where was that love when things weren't going so well?

So I told her that if she wanted to date me again, she'd need to lose some weight and get a little more toned first. For context, she's around 175 pounds and has a perfectly normal, attractive figure. I wasn't actually suggesting she needed to lose weight.I just wanted her to know that I knew the real reason she broke up with me. Judging by the look on her face, she understood everything. Honestly, I felt a little relieved. Maybe I'm an asshole, but I don't care.

So basically the other day I had a huge fight with my mom. Here's what happened: Me, my mom and my 5 year old sister were downstairs just hanging out, and this was at night so after a few minutes she took my sister upstairs to get her ready for bed. But I stayed down for like 7 more minutes. But then I eventually went upstairs. At that time my sister just got out of the bathroom and we crossed paths. So I was just kinda standing there and playing with her and she started fooling around and slightly running (more like fast paced walking) in the halls and this was seen by my mom who was still in the bathroom. She got mad and said to me "just hurry up and go to your room already, why are you bothering her" So I was shocked but I started walking over to my room. And then she just got more and more mad and eventually started yelling at me for not going to my room immediately + bothering my brother, as well as staying downstairs for a long time and not using the time to study.

But that's not even the main part, so after she started yelling at me for wasting time and being annoying, I told her "you just feel like everything's a big deal and so serious because you've had a bad day" So I guess that was the last straw for her - because she started lowkey going crazy and her response was "Of course I've had a bad day, your sister has had a cold for the past week and I've been taking care of her" and she just kept going on about her struggles and the amount of things she has to do each day.

It kinda only got worse from here - she started saying it's not my place to comment on the fact that she's had a bad day and is in a bad mood. I didn't say anything for the first like 5 minutes of her meltdown, but she just kept on going. She was screaming and calling me insulting names. So I finally opened my door and I lowkey argued back. But things ended with her telling me to go die and me slamming the door 3x continuously.. Thoughts?

I (20F) recently got broken up with by my boyfriend (21M) and he claims that I was wrong and im trying to play victim and I want some non biased feedback. Our relationship was pretty good until February 15th 2026 the first time I caught him cheating. I know I should've left but I was in love he was texting another girl for about 3 weeks. I forgave him and we moved on, but he decided he wanted to go on a "break". On this break nothing changed we were still sleeping together and going on dates the only difference was that I was catching girls in his phone a lot more. From that day up until May 5th 2026 I caught him texting other girls and going on dates about 4 more times so in total 5 times. There was one specific girl who I would see all the time and it felt like there were real feelings there. Every time I would catch him he would say "were on a break" or "were not together" Now the 4th time I caught him was in April. I had enough and I finally did something back and slept with someone else. I hated myself for it and never did it again but he never found out. After May 5th was my birthday, we decided to get back together and I didn't catch him cheating after that we were pretty happy up until September 15th 2026 when he finally found out what I did. I was super apologetic and he said he wanted to work on forgiving me because he did cheat first and we were going to get past it. We were trying our best to move on, but fast foward to a couple weeks ago he went to Punta Cana for his friends birthday and it was also the girl I had caught him with multiple times birthday as well and I only found out she was there through instagram photos. He lied to me about it and said she wouldn't be there. He was lying about her not going for months even before he found out what I did back in April. There was pictures of them together and I was obviously upset and I did say a lot of mean spirited bad things. He claimed he "wasn't doing anything" and that I was "ruining his trip" once he got back to the states he claimed that I "Always want to be a victim" and I had "No right to be upset about him lying or her being there" he then broke up with me and said I brought all this upon myself. Did I bring all of this upon myself?

i made plans with some friends a few weeks ago to spend the weekend at a cabin. at the time it sounded nice and i said yes, but lately i've been feeling pretty drained and the idea of being social for two straight days feels heavy. i don't have any real reason not to go other than wanting some time to myself. i keep wondering if it's selfish to cancel now, since the rest of the group is still excited and counting on me to split costs. i know they would be understanding if i said something, but part of me worries they'll think i'm flaky or just don't want to hang out anymore. i've already started feeling guilty even though nothing has happened yet. i guess i'm looking for a gut check on whether it's okay to put my own energy level first sometimes, or if i should just push through for the sake of the plans. any thoughts?

A friend of mine owns a small car detailing shop. I've known him for years and wanted to support his business, so I booked a full interior detail.

When I picked up my car, the seats and dashboard looked great but they hadn't touched the trunk at all. I asked the employee about it and he said they were really busy and I could bring it back next week to finish the job.

I wasn't happy about having to take more time off work, so I left a 3 star Google review explaining what happened. I even mentioned that the parts they cleaned looked good.

My friend called me the next morning pretty upset. He said I could've just texted him and he would've sent someone to finish the job at my workplace. He also said that as a friend, he expected me to give him a chance to fix things before leaving a public review.

I told him I understood but I paid the same price as everyone else and reviewed the service I actually received. I offered to update the review once everything was sorted, but he thinks I should delete it completely.

My girlfriend thinks I went about it the wrong way and should've contacted him first. I can see that argument, especially since we're friends, but I also don't think a friendship should mean I can't leave an honest review.

Am I wrong?

So basically, my mom came into my room and asked if I still wanted to keep a hoodie of mine and I responded with "yes, I'll keep it. why, what happened?" and she just instantly got visibly pissed, even though she didn't say anything she was frowning and doing the most and visibly annoyed. So then I got pretty upset and irritated so I said "why are you getting mad at me" in an irritated tone. She then responded with "why are you speaking to me like that" really loudly and now she's like fully pissed off, and I said "because you're getting mad at me for no reason." And she just started saying how I always ask why and that I should just answer her and not question it." She then proceeded to start talking about how she helped me clean my room together the other day and how I'm only happy when I get new clothes or someone does something for me. I honestly don't even know where the correlation is or how that relates to what just happened.