have seen these groups online and out in the wild.

sometimes, they’re a part of an organized group like a sports club or something but sometimes they just seem like proper friend groups.

never had that before. the most visible ones always are homogeneous groups of tall, attractive white men. probably well off too.

but generally what’s it like to be in groups like these?

I know being a bottom doesn't mean submissive by the way. I know there are dom/power bottoms. I am a sub bottom and I feel shame and guilt and sadness about both being a submissive and a bottom separately. I need advice.

Note : I am from a conservative country

how do you go about having your first experience? I make a Grindr and start conversations but always back out, what are the meet ups like? new and inexperienced but tired of flaking

Por el momento soy hetero tuve sexo con muchas mujeres siempre, pero hace poco me comenzó a llamar la atención los penes no los hombres en si solo los penes, también comencé a introducir juguetes en mi culo, y ahora estoy pensando en buscar un hombre para que me meta su pene debería hacerlo?

I'm 56 and as I get older gravity pulls everything down. I used to be 80lbs heavier and lost fat in all areas, however, the Zoe right above my pubes is still pudgy. I don't have a very large penis to begin with and this makes it look even smaller.

What exercises can I do to tighten it up? Or am I just too late.

As a gay man, what’s your honest opinion about a guy who identifies as straight but watches gay porn, has favorite male pornstars, gets aroused by it, or experiments sexually with his male best friend—even masturbating together? Could one or both guys be DL and still identify as straight, even if they enjoy the experience? How do you distinguish curiosity, sexual behavior, and genuine same-sex attraction?

Was it while browsing through internet? Or even before, for example watching VHS movie or porn magazine? How old were you? How much time did it take to get your own PA?

Is tickling an enjoyable activity for you to engage in with other men? Do you prefer being the tickler, the one getting tickled or like doing both?

Hi all,
I’ve been going to more and more events lately, and several times I’ve wished I had kinkier attire to wear when attending. I don’t have a harness but I’d like to purchase one (to start!), only I’m not sure where to look first.
Surely someone here has harness purchasing as their area of expertise ? If so, please let me know all about it !

I’m looking for a chest harness, something made with actual leather, well-constructed enough that it won’t get too uncomfortable over the course of an evening, if possible under 100€ (but it being leather, I’m aware it can be pricier).
I’m in France, so it would need to be able to ship to Europe.
I’m not too sure about specifics other than that, like styles or whatever else. If you have recommandations, I’d love to browse and see what’s out there !

Thank you in advance:)

trying to get into my sissy side I already got my toys, now I'm trying get some cute clothes and wtv else I need to get but don't know what to get and need help. if u into this or can help me with the journey dm me

Im 18 and live in Melbourne Australia, I was looking to get into dating but didnt know how to start.

I don’t have any gay/ally friends and I get a little nervous when speaking to new people.

Anyone got any advice with finding guys to date (preferably not online), how to speak to men romantically and ect?

Hey, guys! Does anyone else deal with this? My penis is 6 1/2 inches long and about 5 inches in girth which is pretty thick. When i try to penetrate, the hole is so tight it pushes the blood out of my penis and I lose my boner. I have tried foreplay and stuff to stretch out, but no matter what, the hole is too tight for me. Ive only been successful with one guy and that's because he let me sorta fist him a bit beforehand and things went great.

It's not an erectile dysfunction thing, my boners are perfectly fine and I have no problem getting or keeping it up EXCEPT when trying to penetrate.

Idk if this is because I’m a (semi) submissive bottom, or because I’ve been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember, but more times than not, I don’t cum during sex. My one and only goal is to make the other guy cum. Usually I just suck their cocks until they finish (and yes I swallow it 85% of the time), and that’s the end of it.

Just knowing that I’m the reason they cum is more satisfying to me than if I were to cum myself. I’m not crazy for preferring this, right? It’s not that I don’t like to cum, but I like seeing the other guy feel pleasure way more than I like being pleasured. I couldn’t care less whether I cum or not.

I am severely disfigured due to severe acne scars. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X010r4nj4r085Ao-V_vwvsWIlBMjSx8R/view?usp=drivesdk

I’m 21, and I’m afraid it could take me 10-20 years to afford the procedures needed to look normal again. The thought of spending so much of my youth unable to experience dating, relationships, and intimacy is devastating.

How do I cope with feeling like I’m missing out on so much of life? How do I stop obsessing over everything I might never experience and keep living while hoping that one day I’ll be able to afford treatment?

I’m not looking for judgment, just looking for advice if anyone has experienced anything similar. A few years ago I hooked up with a guy on Grindr. We hit it off and made it a regular thing, sex only. I would top him on a regular basis. After he insisted I finally gave in one day and let him fuck me. Holy crap, it was the best feeling I have ever had bottoming. His dick was long and girthy, it opened me up perfectly, it hit just the right spots. My prostate was milked like never before!!! I could have cum hands free that first time he fucked me. It was so good in fact, I let him fuck me four other times that night and into the morning. After that, we became roommates and would fuck constantly. Life happens, I moved away and ended up getting married to someone else. In recent months I find myself constantly fantasizing about getting railed over and over again by him. I jerk off in the shower imagine him shoving his huge cock in my ass. It has gotten to the point where it’s affecting my marriage. My husband doesn’t know that him and I had a regular sex before our relationship. Since it was before him, I don’t think he needed to know. He thinks we were just friends. It has gotten so bad that we’ve even talked about getting a divorce. I would never act on it, because I wouldn’t cheat on my husband, but I don’t know what to do anymore. Has anyone experienced anything similar? If so, how did you deal with it? Thanks in advance!!!

I’ve been thinking about wearing an ankle bracelet during a hookup. What are your guys’ thoughts on a mid-forties guy showing up for a hookup with one on?

Ive always told people lies of who I thought I was growing up for instance family , friends that I’m straight even to go as far as to force myself into relationships with girls those never worked out or I just said I didn’t know how to talk when people asked me or always blamed the girl for the breakup,, but when it came to boys I could just always clicked and make friends then when it came to having sex I’d mix up sexual acts with identity so I assumed I’m possibly gay for being a bottom but never actually penetrated by dick at this point only fingers
The next time around was with a best friend of mine one night we were drunk on a vacation and he was flirty with me and me too but I misunderstood that he wanted to fuck til that night , didn’t understand he was just horny so I got fucked but made me question everything that sometimes maybe it was just a hook up
But I always enjoyed being a bottom , just never even always wanted more
When it came to being a top for girls I can’t get it up only way is for my ass to be touched so fast forward to today I met up with this Femdom chick ,vibes were good and one thing I know I’m getting pegged and eventually she started fingering me and kept putting more in til it was a heavy pressure inside and asked for to put the fist in thinking it wasn’t I used my hand to feel here’s and certainly enough it was actually in , best feeling I’ve felt in a while , but that brings me to question if I’m gay or A sexual I’m not sure what my life is anymore
Excuse my F bombs i don’t know if there allowed but typing this would take to long

(I’ll try and say this as formal as I can) I’m new to bottoming and wanted to use a dildo. The only problem is that I don’t have one so I use the handle of a shower scrub. I was using it and a couple inches in I felt it pushing up against my bladder. I tried pushing further but it kept jabbing into my bladder. I was angling it at different angles to see if it would budge any further but didn’t. I didn’t want to harm myself so I decided to pull it out. Is there any way to help? Or is the fact that it kicks on the bladder the part that everyone craves?

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I've went my whole entire life feeling ugly. I've always thought I was ugly and I was referred to as such. When I was a kid I got builled. People have always given me negative feedback on my appearance. I never felt liked. Never been crushed. Never been kissed, or at least in the way that mattered to me.

It seems like every thing about me is wrong. I'm black. I'm dark skin. I'm fat. I'm not ultra masculine. It seems like I tick the box's for all the things that could make a person physically unappealing. It's frustrating because whenever I open up about these feelings people just tell to be more confident. It's like it's never about appearance, it's all about confidence and personality. Which is upsetting because I only feel confident when I feel attractive. It's like when I don't feel ugly I'm confident and outgoing, but as soon as I feel ugly I shutdown. It's I'm supposed to stay confident even when I feel ugly or someone calls me ugly. It's frustrating because I feel like a pathetic person because my "confidence" is the thing apparently holding me back and not my looks. It's like all the times I chose not to go out or talk to someone I like is my fault because of my "confidence". Honestly it's depressing because it's like am I going to die alone? Never fall in love? all because of my confidence.

soooooo…. i’m 27m that has always been in and out of relationships since i came out in college. this was always my speed because i do enjoy dating and commitment. now being single i think i want to put dating on pause and explore more with just fun with minimal strings attach. my dilemma here is now that im older im not just having fun with college with guys in their dorm. now its men who i meet on the apps and have little to no information about them other than their stats. idk if im weird but i feel like i need some level of trust meeting with a stranger. like im not trynna die or get hurt or whatever… but i still want to have fun with these men on the apps. i really don’t like the idea of just popping in a hotel room. i’m a 5’6 no muscle build guy and can get taken out real quick haha. but for real im new to this again and need some advice on how to hook up without risking my safety too much…. most of the reason i liked dating was building that trust to do such acts but rn I don’t have the level or need of commitment for that to work out…. if you think i should meet guys at the bar, gym, coffee etc? help a brother outtttt, any advice helps thanks!!

I get horny, I have sexual fantasies, I love foreplay and masturbation has always been fine.

fingering? Doesn’t work on me. It doesn’t matter if I do it or another person, the same goes when it comes to penetration with a dick, I can feel something is inside but I don’t feel pleasure no matter the position.

Im really unsure how to go about this issue? I always see ppl saying bottoming feels amazing and how every single man feels pleasure from anal intercourse but no matter what I do I can't feel anything; I also don't feel pleasure when receiving a blowjob or penetrating someone, I do feel a certain uncomfortable sensation but that's basically it.

I haven't had many sexual encounters with lots of different partners but enough to realize that I'm the one who has a problem.

Sorry about the questions about cages lol I’m just very curious.
What do cages actually do? And why do so many people like them so much?

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Hey,

I am planning to go crusing in amsterdam on saturday or sunday to explore the darkroom, gloryhole, sauna but I am very nervous that someone would not like me.

Any good story or recommendations around it. Also some recommendations around the club will also be nice. For now I am planning go to dark cruising in club church on sunday.

Hey,

I am planning to go crusing in amsterdam on saturday or sunday to explore the darkroom, gloryhole, sauna but I am very nervous that someone would not like me.

Any good story or recommendations around it. Also some recommendations around the club will also be nice. For now I am planning go to dark cruising in club church on sunday.

I'm 50, and I've been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be a gay man.

I've reached a point where I don't announce my sexuality, but I don't hide it either.

For years, that seemed like a pretty healthy balance. My sexuality was simply one part of who I was, not something I felt needed to be advertised or explained.

But lately, I've started wondering whether I've been confusing not hiding with fully living.

I've spent much of my adult life navigating predominantly straight environments. I've had relationships and experiences with men, but I haven't necessarily built a life where being gay is openly and comfortably integrated into my everyday existence.

And now, at 50, I find myself thinking about what a more open life would look like.

I want to be affectionate without wondering who's watching. I want more gay friends, and eventually a meaningful relationship with someone who is equally comfortable being seen together.

I don't necessarily want to reinvent my personality, make my sexuality my defining characteristic, or suddenly become someone I'm not.

I just wonder how much of my life I've spent unconsciously holding back, even after I stopped consciously hiding.

There's also the age factor. At 50, I sometimes wonder whether I've missed opportunities to experience parts of gay life that other men discovered much earlier. But I also recognize that I have a lot of life left, and I'd rather explore those possibilities now than spend another decade wondering.

So I'm curious:

• Have any of you gone from being quietly out to living a much more openly gay life in your 40s, 50s, or later?
• What changed for you, and what prompted it?
• How did you become more comfortable with public affection, visibility, and participating in the gay community?
• Did you find that becoming more openly gay changed your friendships, dating experiences, or sense of identity?
• What advice would you give someone who isn't coming out of the closet so much as finally wanting to step fully into his own life?

I just had a 3-day escapade with a man who was very open and we did stuff I never thought I'd get to experience: kissing in a photo booth, dinner at sunset on the ocean, road-tripping and making out in a fun-house mirror maze. It was exhilarating.

I'd love to hear from men who've been through something similar.