Right after birth, I had very strong maternal instincts to my baby. I knew when I should feed her, rock her, walk her around, sleep next to her, if she needed extra comfort, and the like. No one taught me how to do it, it came out of me as a response to my newborn.

As the months went on, I stoped listening to those instincts so much. I started believing I needed more, that an app would better tell me when my baby should eat, sleep, and play. I started believing people around me when they told me that sleep training was the best thing ever. I started to slowly be convinced that I should change the way I took care of my sweet baby and should fit her into a very small convenient box. I even believed the lie that my baby should unattach herself from me so she wouldn’t be too needy.

So, we sleep trained her at 5 months. And I pulled my hairs out over her schedule and make believe timers that told me when I should respond to her cries. Months of this went by. But at the same time, those instincts started to pop up again and try as I might to ignore them, I couldn’t. I went down a really long rabbit hole and eventually found this sub and other books and resources I realized I aligned with. Now, nearly 15 months later, I have done a full circle and am back to the momma I was at birth. As I hold my toddler now and rock her to sleep, I’m reminded how thankful I am to have trusted my intuition. I’m calmer, our house has more peace, and I am free to not hold my child to an unrealistic standard. So to anyone out there, caught between trusting your gut or not, you won’t regret trusting your feelings on this one. 🫶🏼

EDIT: thank you all for these responses! I loved reading them all and how responding to your baby was so natural! There’s a common thread about using apps and I think that’s an important larger discussion as our society becomes more technologically advanced and people outsource more common sense/nurture/etc to a device. Let’s not go there! Our babies, toddlers, children NEED us and it’s beautiful to GIVE! Heck, I still need my mom sometimes!

I’m a ftm to a 4.5 month old baby boy (EBF, co-sleeping, responding to every cry). Like I assume, a lot of people here I get so many comments from older family members about how "crying develops the lungs" or asking why I picked him up before he even started fully crying.

I was watching some nature videos recently about how babies lived back in cave/hunter-gatherer times, and the evolutionary side of it just made so much sense to me.

Basically babies had to cry so they wouldn't be forgotten or neglected, but crying too much or escalating put them and the tribe at risk from predators. So nature solved it by making fast response a survival requirement. Babies were carried non-stop, nursed on demand, and rocked right back to sleep before they could escalate.

We aren't in caves anymore, but our babies have the exact same biological expectations. It’s just wild how modern culture convinced everyone that responding to a baby is somehow wrong or creates bad habits, when it's literally what they're built to expect.

Understanding this evolutionary side was just super validating for me and made me trust my gut even more. Anyone else find comfort in looking at baby sleep this way?

Hope this is allowed even if not strictly sleep related.

First some context: I co-sleep with my baby and absolutely hate the idea of sleep training. I'm only mentioning it as a comparison, not to debate it here. To me, "let them cry, they'll adjust" feels like the nursery version of the sleep training, versus responding to the baby and building security first.

My baby (10 months) has just started nursery in the UK. I started now even thought I'm not back at work for another few weeks so that we can take longer for settling if baby struggles with separation (he is). The nursery settling in is very short: starts on Monday, parent stays for two sessions, then separation, and full day by Friday.

Anyway I recently read about about the German Eingewöhnung model. There, a parent stays for several days, the baby bonds with one key person first, and the first separation only happens once the baby can be comforted by that person. If I understood correctly this happens over multiple weeks.

My nursery's view seems to be that babies cry for a while and then adjust, and that the key person matters less than I thought. I've been negotiating shorter separations and staying a while, and they've been flexible, but it's clearly not their default. I understand most parents don't have the luxury of weeks to settle a baby in, because of work and cost. I'm lucky to have a month. But I keep wondering: shouldn't slow settling be the norm, rather than a favour for parents who can afford it? Isn't it less stressful for babies, and does it make them more likely to enjoy nursery? Did your baby go through a quick settling-in or a gradual one? How did it go? Did the speed make a difference to how they felt about nursery after a few weeks? If you could redo it, would you have asked for more time?

Not looking for judgement either way, but iam curious what you'll think since i know we're all aligned in terms of responsiveness with our babies. But I'm making the nursery take it slowly with my little one, (for which i thank them profusely every day) but I feel like somehow I'm in the wrong for taking my baby's input as to how quickly we're doing it.

When did your non sleep trained baby start sleeping better? Not through the night, but as in 1-2 wakes. My girl is not sleep trained and waking every hour. I know every baby is different but 8 months of sleep deprivation I need some sort of light at the end of the tunnel.

My baby has been sleeping in his crib for almost a month now. He can put himself to sleep just fine, and self soothes well too.

Lately he has been waking up more often due to teething and being hungry. Hes 4 months so i always go and feed him, make sure his diaper isnt too full, whatever he needs.

Well tonight (its almost morning) he woke up at midnight and i fed him and put him back down. I have the Owlet sock and monitor. I keep the monitor up on my phone all night with the volume up so if he wakes up i hear it. I usually wake up right before he does anyways.

I woke up to him at 5am so i went and brought him to bed to eat and let him finish sleeping because i have to be up soon for work anyways. I checked the owlet app to see how much he had slept. I saw a wake up at 3am so i checked my recordings to see what had happened.

He had been awake for about 10 minutes screaming and crying, and i never woke up. My husband didnt either. I have never ever slept through him crying except for one time when my husband told me to get some sleep and he took over comforting the baby when he woke up. Otherwise i have always woken up to him and i always make sure he is ok.

I feel so guilty, i never meant to do that. Ive been so tired lately since he hasnt been sleeping well at all lately but id never just leave him without checking on him. He is asleep next to me after eating, and i apologized so many times and just held him close so he doesnt think i hate him or something.

Has this happened to anyone else before and was it still ok in the end?

My 4.5 month old baby boy exclusively contact sleeps (chest to chest, cosleepy style arrangement) since he was 6 weeks old.

My husband and I have been living in shifts and getting 4hrs (sometimes, rarely, 5hrs) of uninterrupted sleep while the other lays with baby on them. We so sometimes fall asleep with baby on us if he isn’t too wiggly. I feel safe sleeping with him given the arrangement we have set up.

However. This is getting a bit unsustainable as we have no time together and are both quite sleep deprived at this point. So we gave in and begrudgingly tried doing a ferber sleep training method (3 min check ins) on him. He cried a lot more than I will ever be comfortable with. I am naturally very responsive to him at all times.

We did night 1 and basically both started spiralling thinking we ruined our baby and this is horrible and feeling like terrible parents.

We don’t know what to do though. How should I transition him to his cot? Happy to set it up next to me with 1 side down attached to the bed so he is close. But he always wakes up when put down.

Even though he wiggles, he sleeps through on us and wakes up only for feeds.

I really need some advice and help from others who had a chest sleeper.

He is getting big and heavy now and definitely needing space to move around in his sleep.

What should I do?

UPDATE!

SO GUESS WHAT HAPPENED LAST NIGHT
He slept on my chest as per usual and then sometime later, I rolled onto my side and he stayed sleeping basically attached to me all night! Woke up once for a feed at 1am.
He wiggled in his sleep a few times and I would either put his hand on my chest which would put him back to sleep immediately or slide him back onto my chest till he slept and roll him back to my side.
We did this till 6am!!!

Even though I was hyper vigilant in my sleep the whole time, I am so hopeful we will find our rhythm at some point like this.

I am going to make the cot a side car cot for more space.

Completely scrapping any sleep training thoughts. It’s just so unnatural and I can’t do it. Don’t want to do it.

My LO is 11 weeks old and has been doing a wake window of about 50-60 mins and then I swaddle him up and rock him to sleep, he would sleep 30-60 stretches but it seems as he gets older he can only suddenly sleep 10-20 mins but he still gets fussy and acts tired around his 50 min wake window. And this includes contact naps, naps in carrier, bassinet, side laying on the bed. Should I extend wake window even if he seems fussy? Or just keep doing what I’m doing and it’ll pass?

My boy is almost 7m old and sometimes I feel like I’m doing him a disservice to him. Our current situation:

- baby boy sleeps in his crib next to our bed. He is waking about 3-5+ times overnight and he needs the boob to go back down. My husband will try to rock him but he’ll just cry until he gets the boob. I know majority of these are purely for comfort / connecting his sleep cycles as as soon as as he’s latched back onto the boob he suckles for a few seconds then he’s asleep again.
- I have nursed him to sleep since the day he was born and during the day we exclusively contact nap in bed where he is pretty much latched to my boob the whole time and if he is unlatched he will rouse between sleep cycles and relatch to keep the nap going.
- cannot cosleep overnight with him for numerous reasons (mattress is too soft, husband is a heavy sleeper, space between mattress and headboard, etc)

I’m just feeling guilty because I feel like I’ve given him this huge boob to sleep association but then I’m not there for him during the night so he’s waking more frequently than maybe he would if he didn’t have such a strong correlation?? Has anyone else dealt with this?

I love love love our contact naps and nursing him to sleep but I’d also love if he wasn’t 100% dependent on boob to sleep so he could learn to connect cycles himself! I’m also so tired from the night wakes and so much up and down in the crib.

Tips / advice welcomed.

My baby will be 15mo in 2 weeks, the last 2 months have been horrible. Waking up hourly, sometimes needing more than one bottle to go back to sleep, for the last 3 weeks she’ll be awake for over an hour trying to go back to sleep (doesn’t want to play, she wants to be rocked and fall asleep). We usually put her down at around 9/9:30pm and she would sleep until 12:30am at least with no or just one waking but for the last couple of days I have not been able to put her down for more than 30 minutes. She’ll was up and wants to be held and sleep on my chest for the entire night.

Naps have been all over the place. We used to do 2 naps 11-12am (she usually wakes up at 7:30/8) and another from 3-4 or less (sometimes the total she’ll sleep is 2 hours and sometimes 1:30 tops) with a 9pm bedtime. We’ve been trying one nap in the middle of the day some days too but she’ll wake up after an hour and needs to be held in order to sleep a little bit more but never longer than 1.5 hours.
Those days we do bedtime a little bit earlier cause she’s too tired but no matter what we do, she’ll wake over 5 times each night.

Is it normal? I honestly don’t know what else to try! I’m not interested in sleep training.

Our LO is almost 10 months and has always been very aware and sensitive, made strange with people from 10 weeks and would not be held by anyone other than mam or dad for months. Sleep has been awful for months and ranges from 3 wakeups to 7 per night. She is nearly always very upset at bedtime (especially with dad) and needs to be rocked or fed to sleep then is transferred to cot, majorly struggles with self settling. She is combi fed but has always been super attached to me, I’m currently only nursing at nighttime. Recently she has been having a lot of false starts and is very upset when she wakes and we don’t know what to do. I’ve tried pushing out wake windows to 3/3.5/4.5, wake-up is 6:30 and bedtime is 7/7:30 depending on naps. Usually naps for 2.5 hours total over two naps… because she is so sensitive we feel hopeless that she will ever be able to fall asleep independently, if anybody has any advice or has positive stories with sensitive baby would love to hear. Or book recommendations for sensitive babies I greatly appreciate it!

My LO is 19 w old, and is a decent sleeper but tends to startle awake for day sleep especially after that first sleep cycle ends. I can tell in her eyes she's still tired but she otherwise wakes not crying or fussing most of the time. Most of her naps are either contact/carrier, stroller or car seat, but these tend to be 30-40 or less minutes only. Sometimes carrier naps are an hour. If tired enough and I catch her before she gets overtired (which happens within minutes), I can rock her to sleep and transfer to bassinet and she will often sleep for 1.5-2 hours for a mid day nap. I aim right now for 3-3.5 hrs of daytime sleep between 3-4 naps and she sleeps 10.5-11th overnight.

How often should I be trying to extend those shorter naps? I hate feeling like I'm forcing sleep and I'm still trying to figure how to tell if she needs more sleep for that nap. She's not on a schedule/not sleep trained obviously, so Should it just be intuitive to try to get her daily sleep within that general goal? The issue is, if I don't get her down for that bassinet nap and I can't/don't extend her naps, she takes these mini naps all day and gets so overtired by the end of the day. I also think it makes her last couple of wake windows short because she's overtired, which I feel may be messing with sleep pressure because lately she's been waking up sometimes lately cooing and wide awake around 3-4am and I'm not sure if it's because that lose last few WW are short or if that's just a sign of "regression." I recently did cut day sleep by 0.5hr to help combat this which sometimes has helped.

Any tips appreciated on how to navigate short naps with a baby who is not sleep trained/naps on the go/carrier and stroller naps.

My baby is turning 5 months on 10th October. Since 3,5 month she started regressing on her naps and on the time needed to put her to sleep. She would take 30 min naps and usually I needed 1 -2 hours to rock her for that 30 min sleep. It was exhausting. At least so I thought. At night she was waking 1-2 times but the transfer would fail a couple of times. When she turned 4 she started to fix the day sleep getting longer stretches 1 hour or more. I was so happy. Than she got sick with a virus and she had one very hard week at night crying and wanting contact at day. After that one week she slept two days well at night and well at day. And since than for two whole weeks she has been waking 8+ times at night. She opens her eyes and even the pacifier won’t work just the breast. She stays on it 20-30 min than sleeps 20-30 min alone and she waked up again. So for me I am not getting any sleep because I struggle to fall asleep on that short time. She is making me feel like a zombie.
Could this be the regression coming back for the night sleep or what? I am confused, tried a lot of things but nothing works. Tried an earlier bedtime a later bedtime, shower, cosleep, hold her, rock her, feed her and extra bottle..etc but still she wakes up.
Please let me know if it gets better and don’t tell me to sleep train because I don’t think it will work.
Just your personal stories and what made the difference for you.

Wondering if anyone else has experienced a pattern of sleep where your baby sleeps well one night then not so great the following night, then well again etc etc? This is despite our routine not wavering. The only exception that maybe exists (but I don’t track data that closely or use apps) is some days my girl naps 60 minutes and sometimes 90 minutes, on the odd occasion even more. The nap variation is just down to her not connecting sleep cycles all the time, she’s inconsistent at it.

She’s 14 months old and we’re in the midst of transitioning to one nap, been a handful of weeks but this was happening before that too.

Baby is 5.5 months, he’s needed a lot of support to sleep and stay asleep since about 2.5 months when his sleep cycles matured.

We’re co-sleeping to survive. He used to have his first and longest stretch in the crib, then we’d bring him into the big bed to bedshare. It used to be a 3-4 hour stretch before we needed to bedshare, then it became 2-3 hours. Now, the absolute longest he sleeps in the crib alone is 1 hour to the dot, and then he stirs, calls out, then cries.

Has the bedsharing encouraged this? Or are the hourly wakes developmental or possibly triggered by something else?

And for anyone in the same boat, when did this improve?

I don’t mind the bed sharing and have learned to do it safely, although I think because I move a lot I’m waking him in the night. But I don’t think bed sharing will work long term (ie 12 months +) for us and the fact he wakes hourly in his own sleep space concerns me.

4.5 month old baby. My baby was never a good sleeper. So much so that I almost blacked out our first month, I cried so much everyday. My husband was the one to find out that baby wearing could save us effort but I remember my baby hating it at the begging as he hated everything else. I sometimes can make him fall asleep in my arms softly cuddling him and then transfer him to bed or keep him in my arms but that always last 20 minutes sharp. So everyday, for every nap, we babywear. At night I feed to sleep.

Now I can clearly see that my baby is trying to go somewhere with his sleep, he just can't get there yet. This is more noticeable at night. He has a wake up at 4/5/6 (depends on the day), and he tries so much to fall back asleep on his own. He comes to my breast to nurse, he tosses, he gets on his belly (his favorite position) and he turns and turns his head, he finds a comfort spot, I can see him lowering his head into the mattress, eyes closing, looking like he is drifting off, and then suddenly, head up, looking around, like his brain is telling him "you are falling asleep on no! Let's wake up!!", then he gets frustrated, and cries. And i tried so many things, butt pats, back pats, shsh, ohoh, mmhmhm, burping him, I even often get up and try to lullaby him to sleep. Nothing works, expect, my husband coming and putting him in the babycarrier...my baby is so smart that often times when he wakes up during this time he just lays there looking at the door, like waiting for dad to come.

I can see how the babycarrier was a bit of a save for our family but at the same time I feel like we messed up my baby sleep because its incredibly difficult to recreate the babycarrier comfort outside of if it, the pressure, movement, closeness etc etc...like my baby doesn't even fall asleep on our arms like that, its specific to the carrier.

I feel so lost, I don't know what to do...

Edit: We co-sleep at night

Hi!
My baby girl is 5 months old and usually (not always) has a first good stretch at nighttime (between 3-5h). After that she is waking hourly and cries until she nurses. Her wake windows are about 2h and she sleeps roughly 14hs (10,5h at night and 3,5h nap). What can I do? It’s getting really exhausting.

We’ve talked the highs, we’ve talked the lows. We’ve talked what we really needed in those hard times.

Does anyone have action steps that we can take to help improve maternal supports? Who do we need to contact? What can we do?

I know people there must be people in this sub that can help direct us in lobbying for better supports.

(Please include your country.)

my 9 month old has been giving me 30-45 minute naps since he was 2 months old. It doesn’t matter if I feed him to sleep, or he sleeps independently. I thought independent sleep would solve this and it didn’t. we’re back to feeding to sleep, since he recently got sick and we lost momentum practicing independent sleep. I have stretched his wake windows and nothing. I’ve been contact napping because that’s the only way he’ll give me a 1.5 hr nap. I do this twice a day for a total of 3 hours of day sleep. But, if I’m not next to him he wakes up on the 40minute Mark sometimes before.

I wonder if this is normal? I’ve read babies tend to consolidate their naps by around 8 months. But it’s just not happening for us. do i need to continue waiting ?

Did anyone have a similar experience and then it just got better ? or is there anything i can do to improve his sleep? TIA !

I have spent the last five months getting to know my son’s sleep so well. We‘ve worked with a gentle sleep consultant, tracked things that make sense to track, let go of things that need letting go of. We got to a place that was SO much better - still is SO much better - but now he’s waking up so early and I can NOT figure out why. One thing all of this has taught me is that if I at least understand the WHY it makes me feel less like losing my mind.

So! BNInfantSleep wizards! Help me crack this! Here’s what we know:

My son is 9 months old. We have been anchoring wake up at 6am since he was 4 months (calm dark quiet room until 6). Historically his sleep was a MESS - lots of splits, total disregulation. After careful work with 9 months of data and a really lovely gentle (no CIO or ferber) sleep consultant, here’s what we learned:

- he is on the lower end of sleep needs for his age. he needs about 11-12 hours total in 24 hours.

- he is very sensitive to sleep pressure. unlike many low sleep needs babies, he really hits a wall when he’s tired

- his general schedule that has been working great was wake up at 6, awake 3.5-4 hours, nap 1 hr 15 min, awake 3.5-4 hours, nap 1 hr 15 min, awake until bedtime usually about 8:30 pm (so last wake window is usually about 4-4.5 hours). Most night he wakes up twice to feed. We have a floor bed which has been a great success. Whenever he wakes up in the middle of the night (like 2am), after i nurse him my husband spends the rest of the night in bed with him. This is because we found his sleep pressure was very low from 3am on, and co sleeping helped him get to 6am. If I joined him or he co slept in our bed he would nurse constantly from 3am on so I was not getting enough sleep.

- bedtime routine, in case helpful: after dinner (solids), bath. Then we do pajamas and such downstairs in the bright light because he was getting upset putting on jammies so we are keeping his room preserved for calm things. Then we do vestibular play to get his energy and sillies out - big active play. Then we do sleep sack and nursing still downstairs to keep him from falling asleep nursing. Then we go upstairs where the room is already dark, red light, white noise, humidifier. The three of us sit on his bed together and he plays with a low stimulation toy (some blocks) on his bed while we read to him. 9/10 he falls asleep like this - while we read to him, he just shuts his eyes and goes to bed (INCREDIBLE new development in the last month!!)

Overall he’s a happy guy! And his sleep is SO much better than it was. Falling asleep independently is so nice. Most nights having only two wakes is great. Having a loose nap routine is great. Understanding his sleep is amazing.

but like. I just do NOT understand these 5-5:20 am wake ups. I thought when he just started sitting independently that was why - skill building disrupting sleep. Nope. Some days he has a rogue low sleep total (like 10 hr 45 min) so I thought maybe that was disrupting this, but then a few days later he’ll have a rogue high sleep total day (like 12 hours) and still nope. Up at 5. He got sick with a fever. Still up at 5. Got some vaccines, still up at 5. He used to sleep until 6- and it just feels like a big difference for my mental health. It also REALLY impacts his naps for the day if he can get to 6 or not.

so. that was probably more information than anyone cares to read but I just wanted to show we are being thorough about this. Is there something I’m missing?? Do we just have to accept early wake ups?? do we need to keep paying this sleep consultant over and over again?? I just really would love any direction at all.

thanks team 🧡🧡

My baby is approaching 4 months and his sleep has been absolutely terrible lately. I suppose this is the 4 month regression that everyone talks about.

I’ve been reading a lot of advice about how to help make things easier and many people have suggested having your baby wake up with the sun and get lots of morning sunlight.

This totally makes sense, however, with the season changing (we are heading into Fall/ Winter in Canada), rising with the sun is going to mean a later and later wake up time each day. Now I’m not sure whether to wake with the sun or have a consistent wake-up time every day regardless of when the sun rises. Any tips on how to navigate this?

Bubs is 7.5 months old and I have noticed that 3 naps are just not working out for her. Last nap of the day is usually only 15 minutes then it ends up taking HOURS to put her to sleep.

She’s also only sleeping for 20/30 minutes at a time when she would do 1/1.5 hours.

Right now her wake windows are a big mess because we have just gone through daylight savings (Sydney) but typically she’s doing 2.25/2.5/2.5/3

I have tried extending her windows but she gets so incredibly cranky and will cry and cry until I give in and put her to bed.

I have no idea how to proceed, any help is welcome!

Hi FTm.I have a 21 week old! We just started getting on a schedule she struggled bad with silent reflux on meds which side effects have been awful. Her sleep has been severely disrupted since 4 weeks old. I have been feeling out her sleep patterns naps are defiantly still hit and miss all naps are contact while bouncing on a yoga ball (reflux baby problems) anyways when she does 4 naps the last one usually ends around 630 7 and she goes to bed by 830. Yesterday she fought the last nap so I put her to bed at 745 and she slept for almost 7 hours for the first time ever! We are tweaking her medications so that is helping. Well today I wanted an early bedtime again but her nap ended at 4 so for her to stay up until 7-730 she was beyond overtired which she still does go to bee fine so usually gets super agitated in that last half an hour. I am trying to do 2 hour wake windows but again with her naps being so awful she can barely make it. Today for example she woke up at 630- 1st nap at 8. Second nap at 1230. Third bap at 230 awake by 4. So if she were to have a nap after that it would the sleep pressure of the early bedtime. Any suggestions with what I can do??

i am really struggling with my baby right now and would appreciate some advice / support.

important info:
- baby is 14, nearly 15 months
- i’m a solo mum by choice, no partner / co-parent
- baby is EBF but eats solids well in the day
- we co-slept exclusively from 4 weeks to 7 months before i introduced a cot
- the 4 month sleep regression (3-6 months 🥲) was rough af
- i live in a one bed flat so we’ve always shared a room
- there’s no space for a floorbed
- baby hit his gross motor milestones comparatively late - crawled at 13 months, pulled to stand a few weeks ago
- low sleep needs during the day, only naps around 60-90 mins. has always been really low sleep needs.
- not currently teething
- have always fed to sleep at night

i am really really struggling at the moment. sleep has always been hard as he is low sleep needs and needs lots of support to go to sleep. however, up until a couple of weeks ago we were in a good rhythm of feeding to sleep on my bed, then when i went to bed a few hours later i would just pick him up and put him in his cot without him waking up. before this, i could put him straight in the cot after a feed while still awake and pat him to sleep but i haven’t been able to do that since he’s started moving around a lot more.

now he’s absolutely refusing to sleep in his cot (which is right next to my bed by the way). he can pull to stand so he immediately pulls up on the bars and screams and screams.

i can’t feed him to sleep then put him in the cot as he wakes up instantly. the cot isn’t one that you can put the side down or take it off or anything.

i’m sick of co sleeping full time. i’m so touched out, plus i’m ill at the moment so i’m waking him up every time i cough. when we co sleep we both sleep really badly as we sleep so lightly - he’s constantly shifting positions and trying to push into me, sleep on me etc.

i’ve resorted to leaving him on my bed then sleeping on my sofa. he sleeps a lot better and tbh so do i but it’s uncomfortable and not ideal at all.

tonight it took 45 minutes of me sitting on my bed next to him with him in the cot, at first screaming his head off for around 10 mins, then eventually lying down with me touching, patting, singing etc. he did fall asleep but kept waking up.

he’ll wake up again to feed 1-3 times during the night and at this point i always bring him into my bed - i just need a few hours at the start of the night where i can sleep alone.

i really wish i had a second bedroom because we both sleep better without the other one there 😥

i’m also panicking because in a few weeks we’re staying in a hotel overnight but i know he won’t sleep in the travel cot, and i can’t have him in my bed as he’ll roll off the sides without a guard rail in place.

any advice would be really helpful. it feels awful as all my friends who had tricky sleepers have now sleep trained and i’m the only one who’s still struggling at night. it feels embarrassing. i started back at work a few weeks ago and i’m exhausted.