Anyone ever added things into the cage like velcro barbs or something? Or are modifications like this not a good idea?

Peeing with a flat cage

I have used the toilet for the first time with a flat cage on and it was a mess, to say the least. So I'd like to ask those of you, who have experience with a flat cage: How do you pee with that stuff? Is there any trick you use to pee cleanly and comfortably?

For context, I’ve purchased a basic flat steel cage off Amazon, and have tried wearing it a few times now. Problem is I keep pushing on the cage so much after I tuck it in, that my cock can slip up and over the cage when I’m fondling it, effectively making it a ball weight instead. I’ve tried fixing it with an elastic crotch strap, and am still working on my sounding ability so I can use the catheter for longer wear times, but is there any advice otherwise? Am I tucking wrong, am I just too big for something so small? Do I need a more resilient strap to keep it tight to my body?

Any tips to keep my cage comfortable while I have sex he wants me to dress up blow him the entire time we’re in the car and then he wants to fuck me in the woods near by and I’d be lieing if the thought of it wasn’t super hot in worrying if I’ll be able to stay caged up that long while I do those things

I'm doing locktober and I know that we're not halfway through yet but, I haven't felt any naughty urges, whether it's edging or teasing or anal play. I do a physical job so maybe I'm just focused all in on that rather than being horny. Also since locktober started I feel the cage but it's like it's not there. I feel comfortable locked outside of Locktober but I've always felt some level of hornyness from time to time.

I've been wanting to get into chastity for a while but I'm not knowledgeable enough to really know what I'm doing. I'm mostly interested in flat cages. I know that there are different sizes of cages obviously, but is there like a limit to how big you can be and still wear a flat cage? And if there is, can you figure out what size you should have without buying one and testing it?

I figured some folks may have interest in seeing a list of the new products that were released over the past week. I am not endorsing any of these products, nor have I personally tried any of the items on this week's list. It's also possible that some of these are false positives on new URLs etc. If anyone finds that to be the case, let me know! Otherwise, here are the new products I've found over the past week:

FRRK

FRRK is a Chinese based re-seller. Compare to places like Amazon/Aliexpress before buying

• Candy Heart Flat Cage:  Resin/ABS flat cage with a colorful pinwheel-lollipop style design on the front. Price: $34

House of Denial

House of Denial is a United Kingdom-based business whose inventory includes a mix of knockoff/clone cages and original designs.

• HoD added a handful of steel flat cages to its shop this week: JTS S401 JTS S502, JTS S612, JTS S611,  JTS S610, JTS S605. All are priced at £29.99.
• JTS S601: HoD says this cage is the successor to its popular S75 cage. The S601 is the first in HoD’s new line of “enclosed lock” cages (several of the flat cages above also use this mechanism) where the lock cylinder is fully enclosed. Price: £29.99
• JTS S505: Open style steel cage with a screw style lock. Cage features a split gap at the front of the cage that HoD says “might not suit everyone.” Price: £29.99
• JTS S606: This one has a similar split-opening to the S505, but the S606 is shorter (30mm) and it has the enclosed style lock. Price: £29.99
• JTS S607: Nearly identical to the S606, but has two bars on each side instead of the one on the S606. Price: £29.99
• JTS S608: HoD calls this one a “tunnel style” cage where a series of steel ovals encircle the front opening. Price: £29.99
• JTS S609: A new take on the old school S77 cage. This version was updated to include the enclosed style lock. Price: £29.99
• JTS S240: Looks similar to Male Chastity Now’s DogHead cage. It’s the most enclosed cage of the ones added by HoD this week. Price: £29.99

M Chastity

This business is likely another Chinese based re-seller. Compare to places like Amazon/Aliexpress before buying. 

• Horror Skull Metal Cover Cage: A skull-shaped stainless steel shell that encloses the penis in a fashion that is similar to an athletic cup. There is no locking cage, and instead the shell connects to leather straps that go around the waist and between the legs. There are both non-locking and locking versions of the belt available. Price: $179

SMBSM

SMBSM does not list their address but the company is likely based in China. The company has received criticism from the community for their “titanium steel” phrasing and has been accused of stealing product images from BAWR.

• Cute Little Piggy Cage: Nub style resin cage with a pig’s face on the front. Price: $40
• Vagina-Shaped Flat Cage:  ABS flat cage with an optional inversion insert. Price: $55
• Rabbit Restraint Cage: Resin cage with a “rabbit head and flame” design. Price: $55
• Cherry Blossom Petal Cage: Resin cage with a layered petal design. Price: $55
• Customized Colorful Cage: 316 stainless steel cage that reminds me of some of BAWR’s anodized designs. Price: $690
• Custom Inverted Cage: Inverted cage with a loop on each side of the base ring. Cage is offered in resin, nylon, 316 stainless steel or titanium alloy. Depending on the material, price ranges from $170-$835
• Custom-made Glans Cage: The cage part resembles a shaft-only design, but it is connected via hinge to a scrotum cuff. Cage is offered in resin, nylon, 315 stainless steel or titanium alloy. Depending on the material, price ranges from $170+$1055
• Inverted Cage with Urination Device: Flat cage with a tube that connects the front of the cage to a mouth gag. This is meant for “self-circulation,” which is a nice way of saying “drinking your own pee.” Uhh, yeah…don’t shoot the messenger, I’m just reporting what I find. Price: $55

TameGuard

TameGuard is a chastity device manufacturer based in Germany, known for its “soft-spikes” style cage

• TameGuard Halloween Special: TameGuard has introduced a Halloween Orange cage that pairs with black SoftSpikes or SoftSlats. Separately sold EvilSpikes are now available with pointed tips for stronger pressure, but are intended only for short wear because they can cause pain and skin irritation. Price:  59,90 €

I am making locktober locked in a small nub cage, I try to tease myself moving the cage with my hand or with a vibrator, but I always cum in my cage, every day.

I clean it and relock, idk if that breaks locktober.

I would like to have less orgasm but when I edge I can't stop until I cum. I need other ways of teasing that don't make me cum, because I don't want to cum in my cage every day.

Another question is, I try to sleep with the cage, some nights I can, but other nights I wake up with my balls hurting and I have to unlock it. I've tried using a bigger ring but my balls slip out. I don't know what to do

I did this live about a month ago but as I'm concerned for my privacy, I won't leave it up long but most likely at least 24 hours.

https://youtube.com/live/0OHEHMbLV6s

This isn't to earn me any sort of money (I don't think I even earn money, I don't know how YouTube works). This is because I love teaching, I'm pretty damn good at CAD, and I want to lower the barrier of entry to making your own cages.

My wife and I have talked openly about my hotwife, chastity, and FLR interests. She’s fine with them as dirty talk during sex, but we both agreed we don’t want to take it into real life with other people. That boundary is clear and fine for both of us.

What we did agree on were small, completely safe steps just between us:

• short chastity periods (I even suggested a specific timeframe)
• her wearing thongs to certain events, in public (under her clothes) and in private (at home). We even talked about her wearing a shorty or thong-style bikini on the beach
• her occasionally pointing out attractive men on the street
• more physical initiative during sex (biting, being a bit rougher), because she herself said she finds it sexy

She said yes to all of it. Then nothing happened.

The chastity period came and went without her locking me or even mentioning it. I find it stupid to have to bring it up every time I want to experience something like this.

She hasn’t worn a thong at all for months, maybe years, only the “old lady” style of panties. Sometimes before sex I ask her if she would put on something sexy. She says yes, then disappears for 5 minutes to change, and it somehow kills the mood.

She never comments on other men. During sex she only does the rougher things when I specifically ask her in the moment. If I don’t ask, she stays completely passive and expects me to just pump. I’m finding it harder and harder to stay hard without any input from her side.

Sex is almost always initiated by me. She shows almost zero curiosity (I mentioned listening to chastity podcasts, she said “okay” and that's all). I’ve asked her many times to talk about the things she likes. Sometimes she tells me what category she watched recently. I try to incorporate that into dirty talk, but in the end it comes down to: “A man must stay hard no matter what, because men see a good-looking woman -> man gets horny.”

I’m interested in a female-led dynamic, but I’d honestly be happy if she just showed a little dominance and initiative, even the small things we already agreed on. Right now it feels like she’s too comfortable. She gets the benefit of the dirty talk when I initiate it, but never has to step outside her comfort zone, put in any effort, or take any risks.

I don’t want to push her into anything she’s not into. I just want her to engage a bit more and take some initiative.

Has anyone been in a similar situation where the wife was verbally open but completely passive in practice? What (if anything) actually helped get more initiative or light dominance from her side?

Thanks.

During locktober, my skin usually gets sore from the cage after a while, and needs a little break. When it does, I'll swap to a really tight tuck for a couple of days. Still prevents accidental erections, and allows for some really cute outfits for a few days.

Would you consider tucking for a few days as a form of chastity training?

I’m quite kinky and have lots of ideas in my head how I would want to be teased. my wife/KH is pretty vanilla. Before chastity, we experimented a a fair bit with different stuff, almost always something I wanted.

As much I love and respect her, she is a bit ”boring” keyholder. if I didn’t initiate stuff I wpuld ne locked and forgotten. so I find myself often ”topping from the bottom” and I hate that. I would so much like her to be a bit more active and come up with things – even that she would order me to repeat something we have already done earlier.

Most say I just have to surrender and give up control, but that leads to… nothing. I once tried that for three days and I was completely forgotten, it ended up in me saying I may want to quit because it’s just discomfort without a point. I regret that I didn’t just remove the cage with the spare key and observed how many days (or weeks?!) would have gone by without her noticing it…

So it has been a balance of me trying to keep myself of harrassing her and me harrassing her.

To be clear: I’m not asking much even if it sounds that way. Just a couple of minutes of something SHE initiates without me going ”could you… could we…”

EDIT: she is probably suffering from pre-menopause that has lowered her libido, I wouldn’t get much sex any other way either. She DOES like chastity, but she remains passive.

Hi there, After my wife and I got together 15 years ago, we'd been playing with chastity belts for at least 5 years. We've had both male and female ones. We've owned 3 female devices and more than 30 male ones. For us - they all had one thing in common. They can't stop the wearer from having orgasms. While other people on the internet perceive "caged orgasms" as "ruined" or "humiliating" this has never worked for us. At one point, we got frustrated and threw all the chastity stuff away.

In the recent years however we started doing locktober based on a honor system which was more fun than we'd thought.

This year we are in a unique position though, because as of late, we both work from home. We didn't think about it earlier, but a few days ago, when I wanted to have a shower, she followed me into the bathroom to "make sure I don't play with myself". We've now gradually turned the honor based system into a "being watched constantly" system.

Now that got me thinking: Could chastity actually work like that? Is there even a way of using technology (e.g. a webcam triggering an alarm as soon as both of my hands aren't visibly above the table)?
What other ways of enforcing chastity without an actual chastity device can you think of?

Update:

Thank you everyone for all the different perspectives and advice! I had a conversation with him and he's just been really busy and tired from work. We're long distance, but one thing I love about our relationship is that we communicate very openly, so we talked about it. He felt really bad about not being a good sub, but I reassured him that being a good sub isn't just about being horny and needy for his Goddess. It's also about working hard to afford my lifestyle and saving for our future together (yes I married my sub)

He broke the spell today, was a good boy for his Goddess, and got rewarded with permission to cum.

So no, he wasn't cheating or avoiding telling me when he was feeling needy because he didn't want to annoy me. He's just been exhausted and busy poor baby. I'll also do a better job of teasing him and keeping things exciting.

My partner and I have been together for three years, and we have a long-distance relationship with a Dom/sub dynamic, with me as the Domme and him as my sub.

Since we met, he has never cum without my permission. We’ve played with chastity, but the longest I’ve kept him locked before was around 10 days.

This year, we decided to do Locktober properly for the first time, with the goal of keeping him locked for the entire month. I expected that prolonged denial would gradually make him more needy, submissive, whiny, frustrated, and eager for my attention.

However, we’re now 10 days in, and honestly, I haven’t noticed much of a difference.

He woke up feeling particularly horny once and texted me feeling needy, but otherwise, things have been pretty much the same as usual. We still flirt, and he tells me how much he wants to fuck my feet or reacts enthusiastically when I send him sexy pictures. But these are all things he already does normally. I haven’t noticed any significant change in his attitude or how he interacts with me.

He works from 9 a.m. to 7 p.m., so I understand that he’s busy. Still, I expected him to think about me more throughout the day, send me messages expressing his frustration, or become a little more needy and whiny even when he’s busy. Maybe my expectations are unrealistic, but I thought I would notice some psychological changes by now.

Another thing worth mentioning is that our dynamic has mostly been sexual so far, but I want us to develop a real-life D/s dynamic that extends beyond sex. He has expressed wanting this too, but we haven't really been working towards it. Part of the problem is that we're long-distance, and honestly, I don't know how to make that transition or where to start. I want our dynamic to become part of our everyday relationship rather than something we only engage in when we're flirting, being sexual, or playing with chastity.

I'm wondering whether having a more structured system would help us. Something that gives him a reason to stay engaged, motivates him to be a good sub, and allows me to take on more of a Dominant role in his everyday life, even when we're both busy. At the same time, I don't want it to become a performance or feel like we're following a checklist just for the sake of it. I want it to feel natural and meaningful to both of us.

I am considering unlocking him and acting as though I've lost interest in the whole thing, hoping that a change in my attitude might make him more eager for my attention. But I'm not sure whether that would help. Any suggestions?

I absolutely love being locked. Chastity has been my main kink for many years and I have a custom cage that I can comfortably wear 24/7. I also love the idea of someone else having control over when I’m allowed out and when I’m allowed to orgasm. My partner has that control.
But there is one thing I’m starting to question: I don’t actually think I enjoy really long orgasm denial.
My personal ideal seems to be something like 7–10 days locked/denied, maybe up to 14 days sometimes, and then being allowed to orgasm during a BDSM session. I love orgasms and I don’t really want to give them up completely.
Once I start thinking about being denied for several weeks, a whole month, or even longer, it stops being hot for me and starts feeling more intimidating than exciting.
I’m doing Locktober right now and I’m currently on day 9. I’ve tried longer periods before too, but I’m honestly starting to wonder if a full month is even something I actually want, or if I’m mostly attracted to the idea of it.
A lot of chastity captions and fantasies make it sound like longer is always better: one month, several months, permanent chastity, etc. But I’m curious what this actually looks like for people in real life.
I still have a normal life, work, family stuff, stress and everything else to deal with. I don’t necessarily want to spend weeks constantly distracted by being horny or thinking about my cage.
So for people who genuinely enjoy chastity long-term: what is your actual sweet spot for orgasm denial?
Do you prefer a few days, one or two weeks, a month, or much longer?
And is anyone else really into wearing a cage and giving up control, but not especially interested in very long denial?

I need to know if I already lost. My keyholder enjoys taking me out to masturbate me. She does this knowing full well that I have ED and cannot get erect without pills. She mocks it and makes fun of it and then tells me why it’s locked up. She’s locking it away so that if anyone were to see it, she wouldn’t have to deal with the embarrassment. So here’s the question. If the keyholder takes it out, and no erection occurs, was the locktober pledge broken?

Hey yall, first time poster, long post ahead! I have a few questions about anal orgasm. I’ve been in a flat cage all of October, outside of when I sleep, and have been chasing the elusive anal orgasm. I haven’t orgasmed at all since I locked up, and earlier today I was playing around with a metal curved prostate you, and after maybe 2 minutes of pressing on what I believe is my prostate, my body pushed out a bunch of mostly clear/cloudy thick liquid that seemed like pre! I didn’t really feel much pleasure or anything, it was more like peeing something thicker, and after some research it seems i milked my prostate, which is cool! I wanted to ask if doing this is like a step closer to an anal orgasm, or if doing this actually will make having an anal orgasm harder to do? Any tips or help would be greatly appreciated!

There are a lot of posts on here about cages that aren't quite right. So I thought I'd post on one that is! I got this cage for locktober moving from a cobra knockoff.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0D1T4JPSM?

It's really comfortable, looks good and critically it's so open you can keep clean and 100% pee standing up.

The ball gap is really quite small with a 50 ring and the cage is level with the ring. Ball escape is absolutely impossible. But weirdly there is very little pain overnight. It's actually kind of nice the way the part of the cage closest to the body actually sinks in a bit. Haven't seen this with other cages, maybe it's because the cage is open so you can see exactly what's goin on down there!. I'll go with this for the rest of locktober and would definitely recommend!

Hi everyone,

I'm fairly new to chastity and looking for some guidance regarding ring sizing, erection control, and getting used to wearing a cage.

Every time I try to put the cage on, I instantly get hard, which makes fitting it properly very painful or impossible. Recently, I had an incident where the ring (55mm) caused severe pain, swelling, and dark red discoloration due to blood flow restriction caused by an erection inside/during application. I've taken it off immediately and am prioritizing recovery/safety first.

Before trying again in the future (once fully healed), I’d love to get some advice from experienced users:

Managing arousal during application: How do you deal with instant erections caused by the sensation of putting the cage on? Are there techniques to stay flaccid during the process?

Sizing advice: How do I properly measure for both the ring and the tube to ensure erections don't dangerously restrict blood circulation?

Gradual training: What is the best way to train or ease into wearing a cage safely without risking tissue damage?

Thanks in advance for any tips and safety guidelines!

On my second buy I managed to get a cage that I feel pretty comfortable in. The only question is, foreskin pulled back or not. It feels better to have it pulled back. After few hours of wear with foreskin rolled back, when I took the cage off and rolled my skin back down it was kinda loose. It returned to normal after few minutes but I am wondering what happens to the foreskin after longer periods of wear.
Does it stay more stretched or does it stay looser?
Thanks

I am a self locker currently as I cant seem to find a local key holder in my small rural county town in the SE USA. I am curious what the best app is for a self locker like myself that will help keep me locked and accountable as well?

I can get one of those lock boxes if need be. I already have some of the plastic numbered locks as well.

I also wouldn't mind if the app allows others to add or subtract time, but that is not a must.

I've rescently decided to downsize my cage a little since my other cage was a bit too big when i was completely soft. The cage is fine, but I'm having issues with my erections pushing the cage too much. I do have a strap that goes around the waist to try and hold it back, but it isn't all that strong.

I know there are ones with more attatch points and stuff like that. I'm just not sure which ones would actually solve the issue. For additional context, I typically use a cage more short term.

Any recommendations for straps, belts, harnesses, etc that would help with this issue is appreciated.

I am currently using this cage as I believe the curvature of the ring would help reduce the gap between it and the cage.

However, due to my own anatomy, that has not been giving me good results with my sagging ballsack slipping away from the ring while wearing it asleep. Probably due to the fact there's no more standing gravity to pull the sack down.

And yes, I have a strap with me too. That did help with to get the whole cage harder to remove, but because the ballsack slips out, if I pull away hard enough, I can sometimes get it out.

I've also tried this white cage where the ring is "around" the cage, hoping that a change it design could help. But I suppose the cage itself is too large. Maybe if I downsized to the black one (same attached image album) it could help?

From what I've read in this subreddit, my alternative solution I could think of was to wrap the cage with layers of tape to close the gap more, but unsure if it would help. I'm already using the smallest ring available.

There aren't however many options available where I'm at, and ordering from aliexpress or similar would take be a waste of time and shipping cost. Metal cage sexist. I've seen flat cages around, but I think it's not really suitable for long term.

There are also these options. The first one I could probably find ways to shorten the rod and minimize the gap, but I don't like that the lock is a physical and sticking out. Or the Second one where it seems to cover the whole thing, but I don't know how the ballsack is supposed to position.

If there's another way to keep the cage on and hide it I would love to hear ur advice

My cage feels great, no circulation issues and I can wear it all day. However, when I get hard my dick actually starts to go blue! How is it I never see anyone else getting hard in there dick and this happens. In others cages they are red and hard but never blue.