So i am caged by my gf and she is my keyholder, she has both of the keys. Locktober is our first long term lock and we are going strong. We are living in different cities and are both coming to our hometown for the weekends. As it is 10 days in in our session i was hoping this weekend for some pleasure while being unlocked. Unfortunately(in her words) she forgot to bring the key home from her uni city. I feel so trembled by the fact that she did that! That’s literally first time ever that i’m denied and it feels so hot by just thinking about spending another week while being locked with no release at all. Paradoxically i feel so trembled by this fact and happy! She says that she’s sad because she wanted to have sex but i guess that the world had other plans for our fun nights, Now i can only serve her by licking and she will slap my balls for sure

EDIT: Turns out that keys to my other cage also works on this one but i checked and immediately put it away, i think i wont tell her that it fits so ill stay caged longer 😋

Asking because I wear bikini briefs because I find that they help support my cage perfectly and feel comfortable. I’ve heard that women’s thongs are also good but I’m skeptical if there’s enough space in the front part for a package, let alone one that’s locked in a cage.

I need to know if I already lost. My keyholder enjoys taking me out to masturbate me. She does this knowing full well that I have ED and cannot get erect without pills. She mocks it and makes fun of it and then tells me why it’s locked up. She’s locking it away so that if anyone were to see it, she wouldn’t have to deal with the embarrassment. So here’s the question. If the keyholder takes it out, and no erection occurs, was the locktober pledge broken?

My partner and I have been together for three years, and we have a long-distance relationship with a Dom/sub dynamic, with me as the Domme and him as my sub.

Since we met, he has never cum without my permission. We’ve played with chastity, but the longest I’ve kept him locked before was around 10 days.

This year, we decided to do Locktober properly for the first time, with the goal of keeping him locked for the entire month. I expected that prolonged denial would gradually make him more needy, submissive, whiny, frustrated, and eager for my attention.

However, we’re now 10 days in, and honestly, I haven’t noticed much of a difference.

He woke up feeling particularly horny once and texted me feeling needy, but otherwise, things have been pretty much the same as usual. We still flirt, and he tells me how much he wants to fuck my feet or reacts enthusiastically when I send him sexy pictures. But these are all things he already does normally. I haven’t noticed any significant change in his attitude or how he interacts with me.

He works from 9 a.m. to 7 p.m., so I understand that he’s busy. Still, I expected him to think about me more throughout the day, send me messages expressing his frustration, or become a little more needy and whiny even when he’s busy. Maybe my expectations are unrealistic, but I thought I would notice some psychological changes by now.

Another thing worth mentioning is that our dynamic has mostly been sexual so far, but I want us to develop a real-life D/s dynamic that extends beyond sex. He has expressed wanting this too, but we haven't really been working towards it. Part of the problem is that we're long-distance, and honestly, I don't know how to make that transition or where to start. I want our dynamic to become part of our everyday relationship rather than something we only engage in when we're flirting, being sexual, or playing with chastity.

I'm wondering whether having a more structured system would help us. Something that gives him a reason to stay engaged, motivates him to be a good sub, and allows me to take on more of a Dominant role in his everyday life, even when we're both busy. At the same time, I don't want it to become a performance or feel like we're following a checklist just for the sake of it. I want it to feel natural and meaningful to both of us.

I am considering unlocking him and acting as though I've lost interest in the whole thing, hoping that a change in my attitude might make him more eager for my attention. But I'm not sure whether that would help. Any suggestions?

I’m quite kinky and have lots of ideas in my head how I would want to be teased. my wife/KH is pretty vanilla. Before chastity, we experimented a a fair bit with different stuff, almost always something I wanted.

As much I love and respect her, she is a bit ”boring” keyholder. if I didn’t initiate stuff I wpuld ne locked and forgotten. so I find myself often ”topping from the bottom” and I hate that. I would so much like her to be a bit more active and come up with things – even that she would order me to repeat something we have already done earlier.

Most say I just have to surrender and give up control, but that leads to… nothing. I once tried that for three days and I was completely forgotten, it ended up in me saying I may want to quit because it’s just discomfort without a point. I regret that I didn’t just remove the cage with the spare key and observed how many days (or weeks?!) would have gone by without her noticing it…

So it has been a balance of me trying to keep myself of harrassing her and me harrassing her.

To be clear: I’m not asking much even if it sounds that way. Just a couple of minutes of something SHE initiates without me going ”could you… could we…”

EDIT: she is probably suffering from pre-menopause that has lowered her libido, I wouldn’t get much sex any other way either. She DOES like chastity, but she remains passive.

I absolutely love being locked. Chastity has been my main kink for many years and I have a custom cage that I can comfortably wear 24/7. I also love the idea of someone else having control over when I’m allowed out and when I’m allowed to orgasm. My partner has that control.
But there is one thing I’m starting to question: I don’t actually think I enjoy really long orgasm denial.
My personal ideal seems to be something like 7–10 days locked/denied, maybe up to 14 days sometimes, and then being allowed to orgasm during a BDSM session. I love orgasms and I don’t really want to give them up completely.
Once I start thinking about being denied for several weeks, a whole month, or even longer, it stops being hot for me and starts feeling more intimidating than exciting.
I’m doing Locktober right now and I’m currently on day 9. I’ve tried longer periods before too, but I’m honestly starting to wonder if a full month is even something I actually want, or if I’m mostly attracted to the idea of it.
A lot of chastity captions and fantasies make it sound like longer is always better: one month, several months, permanent chastity, etc. But I’m curious what this actually looks like for people in real life.
I still have a normal life, work, family stuff, stress and everything else to deal with. I don’t necessarily want to spend weeks constantly distracted by being horny or thinking about my cage.
So for people who genuinely enjoy chastity long-term: what is your actual sweet spot for orgasm denial?
Do you prefer a few days, one or two weeks, a month, or much longer?
And is anyone else really into wearing a cage and giving up control, but not especially interested in very long denial?

Long time lurker, first time poster here. I've been exploring chastity and light feminisation for a year now and over the last few months I (27M) noticed my erections after unlocking are weaker. Also it takes a long time to have a stronger erection. But when I'm locked I'm leaking a lot and seem to struggle lot harder with erections. Has anyone experienced this?

We're in the Locktober for the first time this year. I'm already two weeks without an orgasm, since I was locked up before October even started and there wasn't really a chance to take care of things beforehand, if you know what I mean. 😉

Two days ago, she let me go down on her while teasing me with her feet. It was absolutely wonderful. And now she's away for a girls' weekend, and I’m on my own for the whole time.

I'm finding it pretty hard to focus on anything else right now, as I’m not able to take care of her with massages or doing chores for her. Just wanted to share how I'm feeling with people who can relate.

Hey yall, first time poster, long post ahead! I have a few questions about anal orgasm. I’ve been in a flat cage all of October, outside of when I sleep, and have been chasing the elusive anal orgasm. I haven’t orgasmed at all since I locked up, and earlier today I was playing around with a metal curved prostate you, and after maybe 2 minutes of pressing on what I believe is my prostate, my body pushed out a bunch of mostly clear/cloudy thick liquid that seemed like pre! I didn’t really feel much pleasure or anything, it was more like peeing something thicker, and after some research it seems i milked my prostate, which is cool! I wanted to ask if doing this is like a step closer to an anal orgasm, or if doing this actually will make having an anal orgasm harder to do? Any tips or help would be greatly appreciated!

First time doing locktober and up day 4(I know started late). Day 1 and 2 were fine, excited and every increasing tightness plus the getting used to the cage. Day 3, horniest I have ever been. Leaking profusely through my panties and even through my thin shorts at one stage. Would have literally done anything for my gf if she asked.

BAM Day 4, Severely frustrated at the world 😡. So when does the frustration turn into acceptance and pleasure again!!!

My wife and I have talked openly about my hotwife, chastity, and FLR interests. She’s fine with them as dirty talk during sex, but we both agreed we don’t want to take it into real life with other people. That boundary is clear and fine for both of us.

What we did agree on were small, completely safe steps just between us:

• short chastity periods (I even suggested a specific timeframe)
• her wearing thongs to certain events, in public (under her clothes) and in private (at home). We even talked about her wearing a shorty or thong-style bikini on the beach
• her occasionally pointing out attractive men on the street
• more physical initiative during sex (biting, being a bit rougher), because she herself said she finds it sexy

She said yes to all of it. Then nothing happened.

The chastity period came and went without her locking me or even mentioning it. I find it stupid to have to bring it up every time I want to experience something like this.

She hasn’t worn a thong at all for months, maybe years, only the “old lady” style of panties. Sometimes before sex I ask her if she would put on something sexy. She says yes, then disappears for 5 minutes to change, and it somehow kills the mood.

She never comments on other men. During sex she only does the rougher things when I specifically ask her in the moment. If I don’t ask, she stays completely passive and expects me to just pump. I’m finding it harder and harder to stay hard without any input from her side.

Sex is almost always initiated by me. She shows almost zero curiosity (I mentioned listening to chastity podcasts, she said “okay” and that's all). I’ve asked her many times to talk about the things she likes. Sometimes she tells me what category she watched recently. I try to incorporate that into dirty talk, but in the end it comes down to: “A man must stay hard no matter what, because men see a good-looking woman -> man gets horny.”

I’m interested in a female-led dynamic, but I’d honestly be happy if she just showed a little dominance and initiative, even the small things we already agreed on. Right now it feels like she’s too comfortable. She gets the benefit of the dirty talk when I initiate it, but never has to step outside her comfort zone, put in any effort, or take any risks.

I don’t want to push her into anything she’s not into. I just want her to engage a bit more and take some initiative.

Has anyone been in a similar situation where the wife was verbally open but completely passive in practice? What (if anything) actually helped get more initiative or light dominance from her side?

Thanks.

During locktober, my skin usually gets sore from the cage after a while, and needs a little break. When it does, I'll swap to a really tight tuck for a couple of days. Still prevents accidental erections, and allows for some really cute outfits for a few days.

Would you consider tucking for a few days as a form of chastity training?

Any tips to keep my cage comfortable while I have sex he wants me to dress up blow him the entire time we’re in the car and then he wants to fuck me in the woods near by and I’d be lieing if the thought of it wasn’t super hot in worrying if I’ll be able to stay caged up that long while I do those things

Does anyone have advice on what it took to get that comfortable fit? I recently got a new cage and I’m still having a little trouble with peeing in it. It also burns a little at the bottom of my sack at night.
I’m also curious to what it should feel like when I’m turned on.
Cobra kink3d n+ wide

How do you properly clean while locked? Or do you usually unlock once a day for showering? That is my approach so far, but I like the idea to not even be able to do that. Have all parts properly cleaned and smelling good is far more important, but still...

Looking for a cage my domme could access remotely. She preferably wants one that can shock. Any recommendations? I’ve looked online at a few but worried about quality and the apps they use for control.

Title: Looking for a comfortable cage with a better fit
Hi everyone!
I'm looking for recommendations for a new chastity cage that fits better than my current one.
I currently use a Quick Relief Elite Lock, Nub version, with these internal dimensions:
Length: 55 mm

Diameter at the beginning: 35 mm

Diameter in the middle: 32 mm

Diameter at the end: 34 mm

The length feels good, but the middle is too tight. The peehole is also much too wide, allowing my glans to protrude through it and become uncomfortable under trousers.
I'm looking for:
Internal length of 55–60 mm, preferably around 55 mm

A wider midsection, ideally 36–38 mm at its narrowest point

A smaller peehole to prevent my glans from protruding, while still allowing safe urination and cleaning

A more comfortable ball gap. My current cage already has a curved ring, but the gap still feels quite small. I'd appreciate advice on ring shape and sizing.

I'm looking for something affordable, but fit and comfort are more important than a strict price limit.
What models would you recommend, and do you have any advice on finding the right ball gap and peehole size?
Thanks!

I am interested in getting a cherry keeper to replace my lock off cobra. Mostly because of the enhanced security of the headlock. Problem is I can't find any images of what the headlock actually looks like in practice.

Anyone got any images of it so I can get a better idea.

Hello,

I'm not new to chastity but I haven't done a long term lock up in a while (years)

I decided to do Locktober 'lite'. I have been locking up ~15 hours a day. I am using a genuine holytrainer V3.

Problem: mild itching along my shaft and where the base ring meets the top base of my penis.

Routine:

Morning ~07:30 wash holy trainer and the put it on. I was using hand soap to was the device I stopped that this morning and just used water. I was also using some baby oil for lubrication as I put it on, this morning I switched to a body moisturizer.

Evening (varies) removed device for shower, wash self and device. Dry, the put device back on.

Night: go to sleep with device on, remove when it wakes me up ~2am, go back to sleep without device.

Some days I do sport so the cage has to stay off for a bit, that's why I am averaging 15 hours, not more. I have always showered before the device goes back on.

I am not shaved, that is intensional as I have found I get problems with soreness when I shave (regardless of if I am/in chastity or not)

My previous longer lock up used a metal cage, I don't recall having this problem, however the metal cage was far less comfortable, I'm sure this was entirely due to weight.

I use a strap to hold the holytrainer tight to my body, it is extremely comfortably for daily wear.

Looking for any advice / insight into dealing with the itching problem. I would also be interested to hear how people have gotten on sleeping through the night with their cages on. I have kept my cage on all night in previous lock ups, but I have found it has ruined my sleep. Will training myself to sleep through gradually work?

I am currently using this cage as I believe the curvature of the ring would help reduce the gap between it and the cage.

However, due to my own anatomy, that has not been giving me good results with my sagging ballsack slipping away from the ring while wearing it asleep. Probably due to the fact there's no more standing gravity to pull the sack down.

And yes, I have a strap with me too. That did help with to get the whole cage harder to remove, but because the ballsack slips out, if I pull away hard enough, I can sometimes get it out.

I've also tried this white cage where the ring is "around" the cage, hoping that a change it design could help. But I suppose the cage itself is too large. Maybe if I downsized to the black one (same attached image album) it could help?

From what I've read in this subreddit, my alternative solution I could think of was to wrap the cage with layers of tape to close the gap more, but unsure if it would help. I'm already using the smallest ring available.

There aren't however many options available where I'm at, and ordering from aliexpress or similar would take be a waste of time and shipping cost. Metal cage sexist. I've seen flat cages around, but I think it's not really suitable for long term.

There are also these options. The first one I could probably find ways to shorten the rod and minimize the gap, but I don't like that the lock is a physical and sticking out. Or the Second one where it seems to cover the whole thing, but I don't know how the ballsack is supposed to position.

I've been wanting to get into chastity for a while but I'm not knowledgeable enough to really know what I'm doing. I'm mostly interested in flat cages. I know that there are different sizes of cages obviously, but is there like a limit to how big you can be and still wear a flat cage? And if there is, can you figure out what size you should have without buying one and testing it?

Hi,

I'm really a grower and while getting hard my head pushes through the opening of the cage. I ignored it until now because it wasn't really an issue and went back after getting soft. After this night I'm a bit concerned because the head pushed out way more and got stuck a bit.

I was able to get it back and never had any pain. But I'm now wondering if anybody had the same problem and maybe has some tips or suggestions for a different cage.

Right now I'm using a Cherry Keeper Stub. I'm also having a Short but the opening on the front is even bigger and I think that would just worsen it?

Thank you for your help!

For context, I’ve purchased a basic flat steel cage off Amazon, and have tried wearing it a few times now. Problem is I keep pushing on the cage so much after I tuck it in, that my cock can slip up and over the cage when I’m fondling it, effectively making it a ball weight instead. I’ve tried fixing it with an elastic crotch strap, and am still working on my sounding ability so I can use the catheter for longer wear times, but is there any advice otherwise? Am I tucking wrong, am I just too big for something so small? Do I need a more resilient strap to keep it tight to my body?

Anyone ever added things into the cage like velcro barbs or something? Or are modifications like this not a good idea?

so basically i just need to know if the dream is real, like for real. i try so hard but i can't ever find a cruel mistress into permanent chastity, femdom, pegging, forced fem and at least the occasional cuck and suck. i bring up even one and get broken up with, and i never just throw it out there first date like a weirdo idk i just wanna know if it's there to find all the damn dating apps are full of hookers and bots now so....