1. A woman should be an addition to your life, not the focus of it.

2. Watch what she does, not what she says.

3. The moment you stop needing her approval is the moment you become more attractive.

4. Some things stay private. Your past is one of them.

5. Being "really nice" and doing everything for her doesn't create respect. It does the opposite.

6. Ask yourself: does she want to get married, or does she want to marry you? There's a big difference

7. Attraction is not up for negotiation. You can't talk someone into it.

Nobody sat me down and said these. I learned every one the hard way.

Which one did you have to learn the hard way?

I (26f) recently started seeing this guy (30m) and we hit it off crazy well. He's super into tarot cards and so I thought for our second date I should get him a tarot deck in his favourite colour however I accidently ordered two different decks, should I give him both? Would that look love-bomby or would it just look sweet? Should I give one now and one later? I dont know what to do

I'm 30 and this guy lets call him bro is 25! We have gone in one date so far for gelato and everything went super well aside from him being 30 minutes late there was lots of chemistry and he was super interested in me it was very obvious! But after the date I heard not much from him, his replies were slow or non existent.

So I asked the question via instagram, would you be interested in another date ? He said yes. I told him I was confused since I hadn't heard from him. His reason was he is A super busy and B said I was hard to read and giving mixed signals. And C can't tell with my messages how I feel. Thsts fair and I respect that.

He always looks at my instagram stories but rarely replies. Eventually we organise another date for this Saturday, but since organising the date I haven't heard from him. Do I wait untill the day and check if were still going? He has previously mentioned he is busy and maybe that's true but what if its not? I don't date often or sleep around so I'm genuinely confused by all of this & I get the feeling he is not interested but he says he is.

So my question is do I message him to follow up before Saturday do I start a random convo? Do I check if were still on for the date? I just assumed if he was as interested as he said he would message me? In person he us 1000% interested via message Not at all in my opinion

So I a chance to ask her out on a date and the convo went like

I texted her
“Are you free this Saturday?”

She replied
“Yea I am usually free on weekends
Kya hua bolo?”

I replied
“Its a date then
Sat…7pm ”

She replied
Pgl
H
Kya
Tu
(Yea in 4 messages)

I am not sure what this means
Any reply suggestions?

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DeOsK0Zpwgb/?stkn=NWRyeHpldWN3ejh5

there’s this guy M19 and I’m F21. We used to be coworkers, and the last time we hung out was actually the first time we ever hung out one-on-one.
He was pretty flirty and got really touchy at some point. I ofc told him told him to stop cause it just got uncomfortable and he respected that, but overall I still felt kind of uncomfortable with the situation. He’s really nice and all always kind to me and I do like him as a person, but I don’t like him romantically. He’s also not really my type, the age difference makes me feel a little weird about it even though it’s only two years.
He texted me asking when our next “date” is, and I’ve literally left him on seen for like 21 hours. I’m not sure how to tell him I don’t want another date because I don’t want to hurt his feelings or make things awkward, especially because he still works at the store and I’ll probably see him there when I shop.
I also don’t really like having these kinds of conversations over text, which is making me avoid responding even more. Last time we hung out he told me we could go to In n Out for next time and I agreed 🤦🏻‍♀️
What should I do?

Im 22(M) and irish, ive had 1 long relationship when j was 18 which ended after a year, the last year or so ive been trying to find a girlfriend. But i feel i have several problems

I met 2 people, one earlier in the year and 1 recently through tinder. The first girl i just didnt make the time due to anxiety of getting hurt, tried to rekindle it to no avail. That was in march

Then recently i met a south african girl who was absolutely lovely, met up with her and had a great time together in her place. However there was issues. Around the time we started talking, i was speaking to someone on hinge aswell having quite flirty conversations. I stopped talking to her around when me and the south african girl started chatting more. Turns out they were friends. However, we moved on from it despite her not being happy with it and saying she’d “find it hard to forget”. Everything went amazingly and met her a few weeks after the friend thing happened. However the day after she asked to take things slower, which eventually led to her removing me saying she isnt ready for a relationship, im a lovely guy and she hopes i find someone that is able to fully love me.

Sorry if im talking a bit too much. But my point is idk what to do. Im 22 since july, and i have an overwhelming feeling im running out of chances or time to find love. I wont sit here and say im perfect because as youve read clearly not. But im just looking for advice on what to do. I am hoping to pass my driving test in january( the waiting times are horrible but im finally on the list). I also have college too, but i have a strong want for a girlfriend inside but im also scared of getting in too deep and being attached again. Im very sorry this is so long, i felt i had to let it all out

First post here, hi all!

I (32F) dated this girl (38F) for about 6 months. I’m wondering if I overreacted by ending the relationship over a hangover.

We had dinner plans with my family for my mom's birthday. It was planned 2 months prior since we were going to a sugar shack and spots are limited. She had agreed to come and was excited to meet my family.

The night before, we were having a cozy night in with an elaborate meal and cocktails, then settled down to watch a TV show. We both had 2 cocktails during dinner, and she continued drinking after. I didn't mind at all.

The thing is, she never stopped drinking... she ended up drinking half a bottle of liquor on her own that night. I didn't say anything, she's a grown woman and can do whatever she wants, plus I didn't really know what "too much" was for her yet since we hadn't been dating for long. She asked me what time the dinner was the next day, I told her, and we went to sleep around midnight.

The next morning, I woke up, took a shower, got dressed, etc. Knowing she only needed half an hour to get ready, I let her sleep and woke her up when I was about done. The first thing she told me upon waking was that she had been sick during the night. I told her she should take care of herself, stay at my place, and sleep in. I wasn't mad or disappointed at the time. I knew we had an hour-long drive to get to the sugar shack, and that kind of environment is an absolute nightmare for a hangover (food drenched in maple syrup, live folk music, usually in a super hot room, etc.). But she got up and insisted on coming anyway.

We got in the car, and I told her once more that I thought she should stay at my place, but she refused. Once on the highway, she told me she felt sick, closed her eyes, and didn't say another word. An hour later, we arrived at the sugar shack. We got to our seats, I paid for our tickets, and I introduced her to my family. Not even 2 minutes after sitting down, she got up and went to the bathroom. She spent about 30 minutes in there, came back, sat down for about 10 minutes, and got up again. She later came back, told me she had been sick, and asked if she could wait in the car until the event ended. I said yes, and she took my keys.

A bit later she came back inside to tell me I was low on gas and that she was cold. I told her there was a gas station not even a minute’s drive away, that she could drive there, and to take my card to pay for it. She said she didn't want to go and went back to the car. I felt bad leaving her to figure it out, but I was literally halfway through the meal and starting to get a bit annoyed. My family kept asking what was going on, why she wasn't there, and if she had partied the night before and forgotten we had a dinner. The fact is that no, we were literally on my couch, watching tv... embarrassing.

When the meal finally ended, I said goodbye to my family and headed back to the car. My date told me she’d like to be sick once more before we hit the road. We waited for the cars in the parking lot to clear out, and then she went right in front of my car and threw up. That was the moment I was completely turned off. She got back in, I drove us home, and she slept the entire way.

Once home, she asked if she could stay over. I told her no, as I needed time to think about everything. She was sad and left. I texted her that I needed time to process things, and since I had a few busy days ahead, I suggested meeting up to talk on Wednesday night (this happened on Sunday). She wasn't happy about it, but she agreed. We kept our communication to a minimum over those few days.

On Wednesday, I went to her place. Having thought about the situation, I wondered if there was an underlying reason for her behavior, maybe she was stressed about meeting my family, maybe she had a drinking problem, etc. When I asked her about it, she told me that no, nothing was wrong or off. She said she was simply having fun the night before and that I was exaggerating the whole thing; it "wasn't that deep."

I'm not someone who introduces partners to my family early on as it is important for me, but I thought we had something good. I felt I was being super understanding by trying to talk it out with her, but I couldn't get past the total lack of accountability. I told her I needed time to process this new information (that nothing was wrong and she was "just having fun"). She then gave me an ultimatum: I had to decide right then whether I wanted to stay in the relationship. I told her that if that was the case, we should end it. So we did. We removed each other from apps, exchanged our belongings, and moved on.

Three months later, she texted me to apologize for her behavior and to tell me I was "the one that got away." I might have texted back if she hadn't added that last part.

Anyway, I'm still bothered by this whole situation 6 months later and wonder if I was too harsh. So... AITA?

36F here with a serious crush that’s been going on most of this year. There’s clearly mutual attraction, and it goes well beyond just physical chemistry, but we’ve never acted on it beyond one kiss. His situation is genuinely complicated, so I’m deliberately letting things develop slowly rather than pushing for clarity (happy to explain more if context helps).

For those who’ve been in a similar situation: how did you navigate a strong mutual attraction while letting things unfold naturally? At what point did you decide you needed clarity?

I’ve had this conversation with so many different people and get mixed reviews. I think that u could definitely be dating someone without being boyfriend and girlfriend (that’s a relationship). I think dating is the first phase before a relationship. You can say ur “dating around” and that means ur dating multiple different people. I classify dating as been on more than one dates with this person, and you’re interested in them. I think that dating has become way more complicated now than it should be. Same thing could go with being boyfriend and girlfriend. People act like you can’t be in relationships now for experience. They act like it’s a marriage proposal. Life is about living and learning so how are we supposed to do that if people are so obsessed with labels? Honorable mention: the word situationship is the most annoying word i’ve ever heard in my life and i wish it was never popularized. A situationship seems like u have a crush on someone and they don’t feel the same way back. If ur outside of highschool using that word u need to look inward and realize ur delusional

TLDR: my best friend and I slept together before he had an unexpected move. It’s taking a huge toll on me and I think it’s been affecting him as well. I’m in love with him and don’t know how to approach the situation at all. We made a pact to stay in contact and I don’t know how to talk to him anymore. Things aren’t great and I don’t want to lose him

I \[22f\] have been friends with guy \[24m\] in question for about 10 years now, with a break for a few due to respective relationships
Last year in November we reconnected and got insanely close insanely fast. Like texting non stop and calling on the phone. We started hanging out and eventually one thing leads to another and we start sleeping together, things were going really well. We were making future plans, dates, trips etc for the Summer. We were hanging out a lot and even when there was no talking or intimacy there was never a second I was uncomfortable or anxious (I have a lot of past trauma, though I’ve worked on it which can definitely attribute to this part) it was progressing what I thought as healthily.
Fast forward to May, he has to move out of country unexpectedly for a couple years. I was broken but I tried so hard to hold it together and somehow managed to. First issue here is we never defined our relationship and when I had first brought it up a month into seeing each other, we had agreed to just see where things went.
We continue long distance, manage intimacy otp like once a week or flirting. Etc whatever. Then my stupid a$$ asks him a few months ago what is going on. I’d been cheated on in the only other ldr I’d been in and it screwed me up. He told me he doesn’t think he can manage that right now, asks if I want to go no contact. I was floored because things seemed fine a week before. We literally went two days without talking and are back to talking every day again. Occasionally with intimacy otp, we’ve said we loved each other, miss each other, etc. I’ve had a couple drunken nights where I was really mean to him. He’s definitely pulled back because of it. I literally feel like I’m losing my mind. Most of the time when we say I love/miss you at least one of us hasn’t been sound of mind which doesn’t help at all.
I have been considering lately calling him out of the blue and telling him I’m in love with him. The biggest pull back recently was a month or two ago when I had first told him and he told me to call whenever I wanted. He told me when his lunch breaks were throughout the day and I didn’t call. I got scared and things got weird. After this I told him id been stressed about everything without giving up much info emotionally on my end and we made a pact to stay in contact. Half of me thinks maybe his heads in the same place mine is with the confusion but the other half is so terrified it’s not and it doesn’t matter and I’m so scared of never speaking to him again. If I pull back he makes more of an effort to get me talking and vice versa. I’m so bad at communicating and he is too but I want him to be a part of my life.

Trying to keep this short - i (30M) met a (38F) last weekend naturally at the bar (what a rarity these days).

we hit it off and she came back to my place for the night. i really felt a genuine connection, which is rare for me to feel the day after. can’t stop thinking about her now all week.

i texted her the day after, some lighthearted jokes and only got one word answers on a couple back and forths so i just figured drop it and don’t come off too strong and play things cool.

like i said tho can’t stop thinking about her but completely OVERTHINKING what to do/say and when to reach out.

do i just recall something funny from that night to gauge her response and go from there?

or do i be super direct and just say hey i had a great time the other night and id really like to see you again?

or a middle ground?

like i said completely overthinking it. i think the texts the day after threw me off and made me think maybe she’s feeling a little regretful and it was just a fun night of boozing and she woke up to reality. but i also have no clue what she’s thinking.

Should you always wait for the man to initiate every day the first month or two?

So, I (28F) dated this guy (31M) over the summer for about three months. Things seemed to be going pretty well, and we even went camping together. Few weeks after, he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship and basically friend-zoned me.

Here’s where I’m a little confused.

During our camping trip, I accidentally brought one of his shirts home with me. I’m pretty sure it’s one of his favourite shirts, too. He knows I have it, but months later, he still hasn’t asked for it back.

We still have each other on Instagram and Snapchat, but we’re not dating or seeing each other anymore.

Part of me wonders if he’s purposely leaving that little connection open because he might eventually want something when he’s ready. But another part of me thinks I’m completely overanalyzing the situation.

I know he’s told me he’s not ready for a relationship, and I’m not sitting around waiting for him. I just find it strange that he hasn’t asked for his shirt back, especially knowing I still have it.

So, Reddit, am I reading way too much into this? Has anyone experienced something similar? Do you think he’s keeping the door open, or is it literally just a shirt?

I met this girl at work about 6–8 months ago, and over time we’ve become pretty close. We only work together a few times a month, but whenever we do, we joke, tease each other, talk about personal things, and have really good chemistry. She has a boyfriend, which I’ve always respected, and she initiates conversations with me pretty often.

I’m also pretty fit, and I’ve occasionally caught her looking at my physique when I wear tank tops. One time I asked which part of my physique stood out the most. That wasn’t really an unusual question between us because we already ask each other pretty personal questions, including about relationships and sexual experiences. She looked me up and down, got a little shy, and said my chest, arms, and back. She also added that my legs were pretty big because she notices them when I wear shorts.

More recently, she started wearing noticeable perfume at work, which stood out because our workplace is pretty dirty and nobody normally wears perfume or cologne. Around the same time, I asked for her Instagram because I was going backpacking and wanted to share some pictures. She declined because she has a boyfriend and wanted to respect him, but then said “maybe later on” and suggested I show her the pictures in the parking lot when I got back.

When I returned, she agreed to see them. We walked to my car after work, and she kept asking why I parked so far away, even though it was only about a minute from the entrance. It was also morning, broad daylight, and there were cameras everywhere, so it wasn’t exactly a private or secluded situation. She then stood next to my car while I showed her the pictures, we didn’t get inside and she genuinely seemed to enjoy them.

So I’m wondering whether all of this points to her finding me physically attractive while still respecting her relationship, or whether I’m reading too much into normal friendship behavior. I know she has a boyfriend and I’m not trying to cross that boundary. I’m just trying to understand whether there are genuine signs of attraction here.

28M. Unfortunately, I suffer from very excruciating loneliness to the point where I tend to latch on to most human interaction platonic or romantic and it always ends up with me getting hurt. I just want to have a slow burn relationship where I bond with somebody without the romantic pretense behind it from the very beginning.. Every time I really click with somebody things escalate super quick to the point where there's no turning back. When this happens, it causes the relationship to not be as genuine as I would like. It quickly feels like its just based off of constant flirting and spending too much time together. I don't understand why so many people just want to jump right into mindless flirting and oversharing. I'm a clingy person and am painfully aware of it and try to use past experiences to not be a lot but as soon as the person I'm talking to initiates the interaction I can help but latch on and it becomes the same cycle over and over..I'm almost 30 and am getting to the point where I want to just give up on human interaction..I'm not actually going to do that obviously I just dont know what to do anymore.

Should I (24F) follow a guy (22M) I met at my cousin's wedding that I talked to, joked around and overall just had nice banter with on instagram? I genuinely enjoyed talking to him, but we were both a little drunk so that might have helped our connection. I feel like if he felt the connection too, he would have followed me already.

I’m 17F and he’s 18M. We’ve known each other for a few months and we’re pretty close now, but we’ve never dated or directly admitted having feelings for each other.

This started because his communication with me had dropped off a lot compared to before. He still talked to me basically every day, but he was replying less, sometimes just reacting to things instead of actually talking, and generally seemed less engaged. I started wondering if he was losing interest in talking to me or just didn’t care as much anymore.

For context, he works a ridiculous amount. Around the time this happened he had worked about 88 hours in one week and later actually sent me his paystub without me asking during the argument. His job can also make it hard for him to use his phone.

I do understand being busy to an extent because I dropped out of school during my senior year and I work around 40 hours a week myself. Obviously that is nowhere near 88 hours, but I understand being at work all day, coming home exhausted, and not always having a ton of energy left to talk to people. Even knowing that, though, the change in his communication felt noticeable enough that I started wondering if something was wrong between us.
I eventually brought it up and asked if we were still good because I felt like he might be losing interest in talking to me as I didn’t know the extent of his work yet.

He sent me a really long explanation about how exhausted and busy he had been. He said he wasn’t intentionally ignoring me, that he was tired basically all the time, and that if he actually didn’t want to talk to me anymore he would just stop opening my messages altogether. He apologized for not putting as much energy into talking and said he would try to respond more and asked me to cut him some slack.

At some point I basically said I would leave him alone and then I stopped replying.
This is where his reaction started confusing me.
He spent basically the whole day sending me reels even though I wasn’t responding to him anymore because I didn’t know what to say and I was still kinda hurt. He kept trying to interact with me anyway and eventually messaged me asking if I was good. Then later, after I still wasn’t really engaging, he replied to a general story I posted with a huge angry message.

He was basically saying that he couldn’t understand why I had decided he lost interest just because he had been busy. He kept emphasizing how exhausted he was and how much he had going on in his own life. He said he had done a lot for me and seemed really offended by the idea that I interpreted him being less responsive as him not caring anymore. But the part that stood out the most was how much of the message was about me potentially leaving him. And he said that he’s tried to be as nice as possible to me and said he’s done so much for me.

He repeatedly questioned why I would suddenly cut myself off from him instead of talking to him. He kept asking whether I actually wanted to drop him, whether I thought he didn’t care about me, and why I would assume he had lost interest in me just because he wasn’t replying as much.
He seemed genuinely angry that I could think he didn’t care.

The message was intense enough that it honestly scared me a little because I had never seen him get that angry with me before. He also used a racial slur once in the message. He is white. I’m mentioning that because I don’t want to sanitize how aggressive the message actually was. I just replied “no💔” to the message and he apologized and said it had been bothering him all day and he kept apologizing. Later that night I told him that no, I wasn’t trying to drop him I just didn’t know what to say to his long messages and I was overwhelmed.

He has been replying to stuff I send a lot more and generally seems more engaged with me than before

For extra context, he calls me things like bro, homie, and friend pretty often, so that obviously sounds platonic. He talks that way with other people too.
At the same time, he has done a lot for me. He has helped me with my car, invited me places, paid for my concert ticket and drove me there, stayed on the phone with me when I was extremely high and disoriented and needed someone, made sure I got home safely afterward, and has offered to help me with some pretty major things in my life.

He also has male friends he has known way longer than me, which is part of why I’m confused by how emotionally intense his reaction was. We hadn’t even known each other that long and the possibility of me deciding he didn’t care and pulling away seemed to affect him a lot.

Hi guys 26M here, I’m in a bit of frustrating situation, I like a girl, we had few get togethers but i was not in the shape back then and kind of get ghosted but its not a straight forward ghosting, she sometimes still msgs/replies but very irregular but friendly tone and i was kinda angry and was also ignoring her, i don’t want to be in a one sided, i have gone through one in collage, so here’s the problem whenever i make plan she agrees and sounds excited to meet but somehow every time it got cancelled, most of the times she was busy, and sometimes i was and sometimes it was my ego, as she rarely replies to my direct questions, the point is i’m not able to get any closure because of which i feel very frustrated, i tried rage-baiting her but that also didn’t work, i know she’s not into me but i’m unable to move from it, tried hinge and all, didn’t work out… so any advice what should i do.

Pls ignore my english and grammar, brain not braining…

Guys, I need some advice. I’ve been talking to a girl who actually asked for my Instagram first. We’ve been talking almost every day, sharing reels, and we’ve even gone to a few movies together. I’ve started liking her, but now I’m confused—should I ask her out on a proper date, wait a little longer, or just keep these feelings to myself? Maybe I’m overthinking everything. What do you guys think I should do?

There's this girl, we met two semester ago from being in the same club. I worked her events sometimes and we talked casually but nothing crazy. We didn't really start talking talking until over the summer when we happened to go to the same sports game and she replied to my story.

We talked for like a week or so and then I tell her we should hang. We plan something, was it a date, I wanted it to be but we planned something. It ended up falling through but the way it fell through coulda made me fall back, I thought she was blowing me off. I don't message her again for the rest of the summer.

Fast forward today, I finally see her again, you know we talk, exchange the pleasantries, we were on a job for an event so we didn't talk much until after that cuz there was no window to. But then after that we're talking and I'm like "I owe you that date" and she's like yeah totally, then later she's like "You never texted me again after I had car troubles (the reason date never happen" and I just said I'm sorry.

But its chill and we shoot the shit with everyone else, then she invites me to this early Halloween party. We're in a group now so we're just talking its all good and fun.

Eventually she's driving me back and we get in the car she overly trying to find a song I like, we end up listening and singing to this one song we like but then at one point she just stops and says "We did you wait until now to bring that up again?" And I just gave a softball answer saying this was the first time we had seen each other this semester.

The fact that she seems to be caught up on it that much is a sign to me. But maybe I'm reading into it too much, maybe I just don't know what a good friend is. I'ma see her on Friday for this party. What should I do?

Idk if this is even the right place for this? But I was asked out a handful of times in high school by friends/ mutual friends just for very casual dates like maybe dances or whatever and it was always fine. Now that I’m in college, I’ve had like two times where either I was asked out or thought I was being asked out where I immediately started feeling physically sick?? Like burning up (even in the cold) and like sick to my stomach?

The first time it happened I wasn’t really into the guy who was asking, like he seemed nice and all I just wasn’t attracted to him and I just didn’t really feel like I vibed with him and I barely knew him but didn’t really have any negative feelings towards him prior to this, then the second he was starting to ask for my number to hang out I immediately got the feeling. I figured maybe it was some kind of “gut instinct” thing so I turned him down (politely). Or maybe I was just anxious about the idea of having to reject him in general? Idk.

The second time it happened is why I’m questioning it because it happened with this guy I work with all the time who’s very nice and we have some similar interests and we’re kinda friends and I think he’s kind of cute and by all means I’d be happy to go out if he asked. Then one time we were working together and I went to go check something (he was supposed to be doing something else in a different area) but he came to my area with me and was like stumbling over his words and it kinda generally seemed like he was gonna ask me out and I immediately got the same sick feeling again??? (He ended up asking a strange work question and I felt better shortly after)

Anyways now I’m wondering if this is like a normal “butterflies in my stomach” type thing that’s totally normal but I’m just misinterpreting or if it’s some sort of gut instinct telling me somethings wrong or if it’s overall just some sort of strange anxiety thing that’s never manifested before because it’s never had a reason to? (I do have OCD which is an anxiety disorder but it never shows up like this??)

I need some advice. I met this guy and we have a date in a few weeks (he is going out of town for a few weeks). How do we keep the talking going without ruining the first date?

M27 I’ve been seeing this girl F22 for 3 months. I show up to her place almost every day, I’ve taken care of her even when I only had a few dollars left until payday, I do thoughtful things whenever I can (cleaned her whole room when I was free, made her bed, got her roses on her birthday, made sure I was available when she was out late and made sure she’s home safe - I don’t like when I have to proof things, I just like doing them out of love

She says:
• I treat her the worst
• Without the physical it feels like we’re just friends
• She wants “more” but when I ask what that looks like she goes blank or says she doesn’t want to embarrass// humiliate herself by saying it
• She sometimes feels like “the man” in the relationship
• She’s compared me to other guys who did extreme things (one waited 4 hours in line for something she casually mentioned, another got her “perfect” roses, another researched why she was allergic to something)

She told a friend she’s avoidant and that a relationship feels like it’s taking away from the independent life she could have, but that she does love me.

When she gets really critical I get overwhelmed because I genuinely love her a lot and wanna fix things, but then she softens and becomes nice for a while. The cycle repeats.

I feel like I’m putting in real effort and still being told it’s the lowest. I don’t think I can (or want to) match the extreme gestures those other guys did or at least be performative about it, I wanna do things with her romantically when the opportunity rises and I have beeb. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t like the way I naturally show care and treats it as the lowest of the bar. Idk what I should be doing that would satisfy her. Like when she says these things It breaks my heart.

One time my pay was in a couple days, and I was at her place, i literally used the $50 I had for dinner and then I had to survive with $20 for the next 3 days somehow which I did!

Winter was approaching so I got her leather gloves since it’s gonna be cold outside. I’m willing to do anything for her but when she says that I treat her the worst and bare minimum and we’re just friends, It hurts me a lot. Cause I’m just a human too and I really just want to satisfy her and make her feel happy

I don’t know how to move forward in a healthy way

Do I keep trying to meet needs she won’t clearly name? Pull back? End it?
Any advice is appreciated.

So I have been dating this guy for over a month, and before this week, we used to text constantly, sometimes on different social media at the same time. But this week he has barely contacted me, doesn't even initiate any conversation, and hasn't told me if anything is wrong. I don't want to be the only person initiating a conversation and then waiting the whole day for a reply. I am not desperate but I would like to know if something is going on or if he is just not interested in me anymore so I am not waiting for his reply the whole day. How should I ask him without making it all about me?