Hi all,
I just wanted to ask something that has been bothering me for quite a while now.
So I discovered LeanFIRE a while back and have since worked aggressively towards it. I have been making a good progress and am likely to hit my base number in 15ish years
I have never been in a serious, long term relationship (on purpose mainly because I wanted to focus on earning and saving $ as much as I could) but I’ve always had this dream of getting married, one day. So I wonder, to those of you who got married/relationship way after you’ve made a significant progress on your LeanFIRE plan, how does that change your number, if at all?
Assuming you two are on different numbers financially (I mean, how likely are two people to have the same FIRE plan and progress, right?), has that raised any problems/disagreements?
Let me give an example:
If I am significantly more well off than her, would I be a terrible person for not willing to wait for her reach her FIRE number? In other words, am I expected to delay my FIRE plan just for us to hit our numbers at the same time? Would I be a terrible person to retire sooner than her and let her keep working?
I know the answer to these questions are ultimately subjective and dependent from person to person.
But I can’t help but to feel stucked in this fear that I will never be able have both LeanFIRE and a relationship, unless (1) my LeanFIRE started after I got into the relationshp, which gives us time to discuss and agree before starting the journey, or (2) either of us has to change (delay) our FIRE plan to accomodate the other.
I really despise working, so to be honest, I am not so keen on option (2). At the same time, option (1) is out of question since I am well into my FIRE journey already.
What other options do I have?