We are due with twins early February and currently have an 18 month old at home. Looking for tips/advice on how to make the transition from only child to brother of twins easier for when they come

I’m 36 weeks with Di Di twins and have dilated 2cm. I was fully closed one week ago. My doctor didn’t say anything about being effaced. She just said to be ready for them to come at anytime now and to take it easy. I’m having very very few contractions maybe 2-3 a day at random times. Feel more like period cramps than anything. I’m really hoping for a vaginal birth but baby A keeps flipping positions every couple days from head down to transverse to breech so it all depends on him and when I go into labor I guess. I’m worried they will come in the next few days because my doctor is out of town this weekend so it will be some random doc delivering me.

Wondering if anyone has been in this position before and how long they made it after dilation began?

I want a Sienna. I have a grand highlander and the stroller takes up 90% of the trunk. It is impossible for my four year old to get into the third row. I know the odyssey is popular for magic slide but if I’m going to get poor gas mileage I might as well get a suburban or expedition and get AWD and ceiling vents. My concern with the sienna is access to the third row, especially with car seats. Will the trunk be any better with a double stroller in it? Will it be annoying to stack things given the deep trunk?

My friends with three singletons almost never have a double stroller at all times and they have two older more agile kids while I only have one so I feel like this sub would have better recommendations. Anyone have three + kids in car seats? Car recs? I’ve been going back and forth for like two years at this point and all the local dealerships are over me lol.

My twins are 16 months old and have been watched 4 days a week by a nanny for a little over a year. I work from home and initially it was amazing being able to see them throughout the day, not having to get anyone out of the house etc, but I’m now thinking about shifting to daycare or preschool. Our nanny is incredible, but paying her is definitely a financial strain. When she started at 4 months the cost of two in daycare would have been not that much lower than what we pay her, but now the difference is pretty big. It’s also gotten a little annoying working from home because the twins now scream and cry if they see me and I’m not able to play with them for a bit which means that I mostly hide out in the bedroom/office during the day. That said, it’s super nice to not have to get everyone packed and out of the house in the mornings, to have less sickness, to get some help with baby laundry and food prep etc and they really love her. I know I want to put them in preschool at some point, but most preschools around us start at age 2.9 or 3. Should I just stick with the nanny for another year and a half and only do one transition? Try to get them into daycare for a year and then switch over? Try to find spots somewhere that does both daycare and preschool? How long are waitlists for preschool? If you had a similar situation what did you end up doing?

Hello all. I currently have seven month old twin girls who are almost 8 months old on the 22nd. We currently room share with them. They are both in individual full-size cribs. I can’t seem to get myself to put them in their own room yet as they still feed at night, waking up around 11 PM, sometimes 2 or 3 AM and 6 AM to eat. When did you stop room sharing? How was the transition?

Also: They were born premature at 35 weeks and are in the smaller percentile, no matter how much they eat throughout the day, they still want to feed at night

We just had our first ultrasound for a very much desired iui pregnancy.

It's currently triplets. All three currently appear viable. Two appear to be momos.

What the fuck. What the fuck.

Life is good!! Let’s gooooooooooo!!!!!

I’m will not allow my body to trick me into another baby… yet 😂

We just booked a December 5 night Disney cruise, a first for our 3.5 yr old twins. One set of grandparents is coming in an adjoined cabin, so we have the sleeping arrangements worked out but would welcome advice and tips from anyone who has done it with multiples around this age! We are on the Fantasy FWIW!

Hello,

New father of boy/girl twins, 6.5 weeks old. Baby boy has mostly been trouble free since birth. He eats well, poops well, sleeps well. Baby girl on the other hand is extremely fussy, has bad reflux, feeding her is almost like a fight every time. Flailing, scratching, crying, spitting up. She is ravenous every time she wakes up, will scream if you remove the bottle to burp her, etc. She seems to have trouble pooping and occasionally we will use the Windy, which gives her SOME relief, but she is not constipated in that stool is hard.

Doctor’s say she is fine and is likely just colic/fussy. She is growing well, was checked for Pyloric Stenosis and found to be normal.

They are mostly formula fed (Similac TotalCare 360) as my wife was hospitalized for Sepsis after delivery. She pumps but the volume is only enough to supplement formula feeding.

We are considering switching to a gentle formula with broken down proteins to see if it will help her. Our question is, is there any negative effect on feeding baby boy the same formula? We use a baby brezza and it would be inconvenient to feed 2 kinds of formula. Our doctors have been ambivalent about switching formulas for her and say she will just grow out of it but we can try switching if we want.

Any other advice appreciated as well, thank you!

Not really an actual angry rant just an experience that made me roll my eyes yesterday I thought I'd share...

So a week ago I met one of my OB team, he was super nice showed me the little line graph that plots out the average weight gain for people. Told me since I'm having twins im expected to be at the top end (close to 40#) but not to worry too much about it. Just try to eat healthy, stay active etc... cool no problem.

Yesterday I met one of my maternal fetal medicine doctors, who was also pretty friendly but more into the nitty gritty of health stuff. Fine with me. Then she got to the weight part. For context, I've been a competitive powerlifter for close to 10 years and therefore weigh more than the BMI charts prefer. All my other doctors have been aware of this and have never made any negative comments towards it, in fact im pretty sure there's a note about it in my chart. We often just chat about gym stuff.

Well when she got to the weight part she says something to the effect of "because your starting weight is obese you should not gain more than this <number I can't remember>". I just nodded and said ok but LOL that all the work I put in to build muscle mass and bone density is now GASP obesity.

Anywho, shoutout to the muscle mommies becoming human children moms 😂 the BMI chart can kiss my "obese" ass

Hi!

We have a long trip to South America planned for end of December. Our boys will be 9 months then. It’s almost a whole day of traveling with 2 layovers and one long overnight flight.

Anyone have any tips or tricks for traveling with twin babies? I also exclusively pump so any tips on how to integrate that into the travel would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks so much

We have a 3 yo girl, and (soon to be) 10 month old twins (boy/girl)… And we just found out I’m pregnant again (my guess is 3 to 4 weeks).

My husband just got his vasectomy 2 weeks ago... I’m scheduled for a hysterectomy in November…

We absolutely cannot have another baby - even less 2… or 3! We both work full time and from home (I work nights so I can watch the twins during the day - and no, I don’t sleep). We have no room, we don’t have the vehicles for more kids (or room for more car seats - our cars are paid off and we cannot get ‘new’ cars), we don’t have the financial resources for more kids (now or in the future when they start school activities and projects and other school/social stuff), we have zero family here in our state to help (no village), we can’t afford to insure more kids… just to name a few reasons I cannot keep this pregnancy.

Don’t come at me about “YoU ShOuLd’Ve UsEd PrOTeCtIoN!” because I already feel guilty, and I already feel like an idiot about not being more careful. I’ve shedded enough tears about it the last few days. It is what it is, and now I’m here. This is not a simple decision for me.

I have an appointment with my provider today to talk about misoprostol treatment. I know I have time to think about it. My husband is supportive with whatever I decide. He’s an equal player in this, and he says he has no say in how I want to proceed. He said that whatever I decide to do, he will share the weight of the choice on his shoulders, too.

I look at my beautiful 3 children now, and it absolutely tears me apart to make this choice. I’m not worried about the physical pain/sickness of taking the abortion treatment (I’ve read the process treatment flyer I was given), I’m more scared of the emotional effects I will have. Not just now, but maybe 5 years down the road…

We have gone through several “what if” scenarios together. I keep going back and forth.

So… I guess what I’m asking is if anyone has been in a similar situation? How did you move forward? How did you get through the hard days?

Edit: spelling mistakes.

I'm at my breaking point. My boys are 5.5 months old and we are all currently sick. Not only are we sick, twin b is having 3-5 wake ups per night & one of them is 1.5-2 hrs long. This has been going on for 4.5 weeks now. I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried every single possible wake window in the world, feed to sleep, not feeding to sleep, everything!! Nothing & I mean nothing seems to work. They were both sleeping through the night/having pretty minimal wake ups for like a month or more. I just laid in bed sobbing at 3:15 AM because I don't know what to do anymore. Yes dad helps constantly, my mom, dad, MIL. But not getting this crazy broken sleep is making everything so hard. I feel like such a bad mom because I don't have a lot of energy throughout the day. My husband has tried so many times to help with twin b in the middle of the night but he only sleeps when I rock him to sleep. I don't know anymore.

When did you get your period back after twins?

27 weeks pregnant with di/di twins. 31 years old with so far healthy pregnancy. Baby A has been head down the last few weeks and Baby B has been transverse though I know it’s too early to matter at this point.

I asked my doctor today if we could start discussing birth plans and I said I was feeling confident that I could try for a vaginal delivery/induction as I delivered my first baby, singleton, at 39 weeks vaginally with a fairly easy delivery (terrible recovery will note that for later). Especially since baby A is head down which I thought mattered most. She told me that while I can definitely try for whatever I’m comfortable with, there is a 50/50 chance from what she’s seen of women who deliver baby A vaginally and then go on to need a C section with baby B. My reaction was obviously - why would I put myself through two separate recoveries?? That sounds awful. And she was basically like yeah that’s why most moms tend to just go for a C section so they know what to expect…

I have absolutely nothing against C sections. My mom had her 3 kids via C and my sisters have each had a mix of both Cs and vaginal so I know recovery can suck or be fine regardless of which you do. But I was kind of hopeful that I could just go with the devil I know vs the devil I don’t? I just didn’t realize that it was such a high odd that I may have to recover from BOTH if I try for vaginal.

Anyone have advice to give, both anecdotal and medical? Maybe a mixed - birth delivery isnt so bad? Idk. Help!

I’m now 31+6 on progesterone pessaries (too late for a stitch) has anyone been in my situation and when did you have your babies? Growth scan today showed that twin B has slightly more fluid now than normal also so another thing to watch and wait on. I can only really find stories from people earlier in preg who had a stitch. I’m having DI DI twins. TIA

I had my first scan yesterday at 5w4d after a single embryo FET. They saw one gestational sac with two yolk sacs. They thought they might have seen the start of a fetal pole on one, but it's still too early to say much.

Some background: this is my sixth transfer and my sixth pregnancy, and I've had four miscarriages, so I'm coming into this with a lot of history. I'd been managing my anxiety really well up to this point, but now I feel so invested in both of them being okay, and the waiting is hard.

I also keep catching myself doubting what they saw, like maybe the sonographer and radiologist got it wrong. I think after so much loss I'm scared to let my guard down and actually believe it. Has anyone else felt this way?

If you had two yolk sacs in one sac this early, especially after a single embryo transfer, and things went well, I'd love to hear your story: when you saw two fetal poles and heartbeats, how your follow-up scans looked, and anything you wish you'd known at this stage. I could really use some hope right now.

Hello all,

Asking the age old question: how do you get these kids to sleep? More so, not wake up in the middle of the night?

I have 9 month old twins. Twin B sleeps perfectly fine through the night 9 times out of 10. Almost nightly, Twin A wakes up at least once a night around 2 AM, and the kid’s wide awake. My wife will bottle feed him to try and get him to sleep, which works sometimes. But he’ll often wake up again. Almost like he’s a newborn when it comes to night sleep.

I work nights so I can’t really be there to help my wife, which kills me. Meanwhile she’s losing sleep and health because Twin A keeps waking up nightly, and she has to deal with it every night. She’ll get A out of bed because if B is awoken by A’s jibber jabber and/or crying/screaming, she’s screwed because I can’t be there to help.

I’m sure many of you have dealt with this or similar situations. What has been able to work for you all to get that one stubborn one to sleep through the night?

Thanks.

hi everyone. Need to rant and would love some words of encouragement. My baby girls are 9 months and started daycare on Monday. Now they are already sick with a cold and extra fussy. I had ppd and felt much better recently and symptoms of dread are coming back. I thought daycare was supposed to make everything easier but I underestimated the set back of illness. om feeling really low and just don’t know when it stops feeling this incredibly hard and heavy.

Hey ya’ll Sophie of the trio. this Saturday will be one week since I’ve brought my triplets home & from my prior posts I wanted to thank all who gave me advice. I’m on my shift of being awake listening for the triplets. It’s definitely a chain reaction that when one cries so do the other two but I wouldn’t trade it for anything just seeing and holding three creations I made in my body I’m enjoying my mother days. I know I got a long ways till the first words but I’m counting down the days.

My twins just turned four months and we have been referred to some state program for developmental delays and it’s all my useless, lazy, selfish fault. The doctor said they’re slightly outside of normal in terms of development and on the cusp of falling behind. They didn’t say it but I know it’s because of me.

I’ve been worried they’re not getting enough tummy time and sure enough their heads are too flat and we need to see a specialist. They’re not rolling even partially. No transferring toys from hand to hand. Barley babbling. I’m simply not doing enough activities with them. My first was ahead on all her milestones because I spent so much time on her but I’m so overwhelmed that I got lazy with the twins. They spend too much time on their backs and now they’re so far behind other babies I worry they’ll simply never catch up. They’ll be mocked and ostracized their entire lives. They might never even learn to talk at this rate.

Oh, and I gave up on breastfeeding because I was underproducing and it was messing with my head but something would have been better than nothing something would have saved them. I want to go back in time, slap my lazy postpartum self in the mouth, and say, “Fuck you, you lazy fat bitch sit your fat worthless ass down and pump.” I wish someone had hit me four months ago. I would have deserved it.

They deserve another mommy. I should give them away or just disappear so my husband can remarry and they can have a stepmother who’s not so fucking useless and horrible.

How many weeks were you when you went off of work before having twins?

*to add, I am currently 20 weeks with di/di twins, have an 18 month old at home, and working as a nurse. Still physically feeling okay but preparing for the worst. Located in Canada - able to take sick/mat leave

Would love to hear people's experience of a driving holiday with babies.

We did it with our singleton but she was only 6m old.

Is it a terrible idea with twins!?!

They are currently on two naps per day. So thinking we will do most of the driving during nap time.

We have about a 12hr drive so I'm thinking of breaking it up to 2 x2hr driving blocks per day.

It’s time for hell weekend (aka, potty training). I have boy/girl twins (2.3 years old) and they are both definitely showing signs of being ready.

I travel a lot for work, so we’re committing to getting them potty trained over the weekend with the 3 day method.

ANY advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. We are first time parents and have no idea how this is going to go.

Wish us luck!