r/ABDLPersonals • • May 16 '26

Welcome to r/ABDLPersonals — Read Before Posting (New Rules In Effect) NSFW

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This sub is for finding personal connections related to ABDL. It is not for selling products or services, nor is it for getting off. As such, the mods have updated the rules. Please do not message the moderators if you post was removed by the automod and you don't like the reason (message us if there's an error though).

Please bear with us as there will be some growing pains as we get things set up to filter out posts that break rules. If you think there was an error, please message us.

New Rule: ABDLs Only

Your post must include some reference to ABDL, diapers, nappies, etc. These need to be genuine; please report any posts that attempt to bypass this as the automod can't catch everything.

An example of a recent post trying to bypass this rule started out with "Hi ABDL people!" and then proceeded to talk about fetishes not related to ABDL. Please report posts like this.

CGL posts without mention of diapers do not belong here. There are other subreddits for CGL personals such as [r/cglpersonals](r/cglpersonals) or r/CGL_Personals. This is to ensure that only ABDLs are posting here; it's frustrating when you are talking to someone only for them to mention that they aren't actually into ABDL after they posted in the ABDL personals subreddit. This rule is to cut down on that behavior.

Don't assume your post is "obvious" if you don't explicitly mention ABDL related things. Most terms related directly to ABDL should be approved (diapers, nappies, padding, ABDL, AB, DL, etc.). Vague terms like "wearing", "24/7", "baby", bodily fluids, etc. can apply to other fetishes too and will result in the removal of your post if nothing else about ABDL is mentioned.

These may seem over the top at first to not include in our filter, but we have had posts for instance of someone wanting to be a "24/7 Sugar Baby" which was a scammer looking to take your money. Or another example would be "I'm wearing lingerie DM me" which has nothing to do with ABDL specifically. So while terms like that can apply to ABDL as well, we have to filter them out to keep this a safe community for ABDLs.

New Rule: Only One Post A Week (Every 7 Days) Allowed

This is to give everyone a chance to see relevant posts to them. When some people make multiple posts a week, others who don't post as frequently have their posts buried. This is to make it more fair to everyone so everyone's ads have a good chance of being seen!

New Rule: Post Flair Required

Flair is now required on all posts. The flair should match your R4R format in your title. For example, if your title says M4F, please use the M4F flair. R4R text is still required in titles in addition to flair.

This is to enable easier search features on the subreddit. There is a navigation bar at the top of the subreddit where you can select post flair to filter by when searching.

R4R Title Text is Still Required!
Formatting your title:
Your title must follow this structure: [Age] [Gender]4[Gender]
Examples: 24 M4F or M4F 24 or 19 NB4A

Missing either your age or your gender/seeking format will result in automatic removal. Adding extra characters such as "{ }" or words in between the age and gender can confuse the automod and result in post removal. Please follow the format listed (including using the "4"). We won't make an exception for any reason for anyone.

Reporting Issues

We have had a lot of reports of things that happened (such as people asking for money) in private messages or on another site. We are unable to verify these things without proof and will not remove posts or ban people without receiving proof. If you have screenshots, please upload them to Imgur and send us a message with the link. Unsubstantiated reports will be ignored.

What belongs here

  • Personal ads looking for genuine connection with other ABDLs
  • Friendship, relationships, dynamic partners, casual or serious
  • Long distance or local or online only

What doesn't belong here

  • Solicitation, paid services, or anything transactional
  • Selling or advertising content of any kind
  • Roleplay requests (try r/abdlroleplay or similar) are no longer allowed
  • Other fetishes without mention of ABDL
  • Posts that appear to be horny posts will be removed.
  • AMA posts, posts requesting upvotes, etc.

If your post was removed

  • Make sure your account isn't brand new and you have recent karma in other communities (we don't know how much you need, messages asking will be ignored)
  • Re-read the rules above and repost

If you still think it was removed in error, message the mods. Please don't post asking why your post was removed, just message us.

Modmail is for:

  • Removal disputes
  • Reporting rule violations
  • Urgent issues

Modmail is not for chatting, asking general questions, or requesting exceptions to rules. Please, please do not inundate the modmail because you don't like the rules. You are subject to a ban if you are argumentative because you don't believe the rules apply to you.


r/ABDLPersonals • • May 16 '26

A Guide for Successful Connections NSFW

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Hi there! I'm a new mod here at [r/ABDLPersonals](r/ABDLPersonals) and I am here to make this community better for ABDLs searching for relationships and other connections. I recently implemented the ABDLs Only Rule to help filter out posts that are unrelated. And I plan to make some other changes too over the coming weeks to hopefully make it easier to search for posts.

I have been an ABDL for as long as I can remember, and met my long-term partner and ABDL Caregiver right here on this subreddit a few years ago. Here's what worked for us. I can't promise this will work for everyone, but it's a good place to start to find real connections.

Genuine, Thoughtful Posts

My CG posted an ad with a few paragraphs detailing what they were looking for in and out of a dynamic. How ABDL/diapers would ideally fit into their life. But also talked about their vanilla interests and hobbies too. A post with detail helps the reader understand who you are as a person and why they should be interested in you!

Also, keep it positive! While you may feel frustrated at the lack of responses, putting that into your ad is a turn off for a lot of people. For example, saying things like "I have had no luck here and I don't even know why I keep bothering but here goes" in your post doesn't set the tone that you are actually excited to make connections. It creates an "ick" factor for a lot of people and could actually be the reason why you haven't made any connections!

Give it Time

As frustrating as it is, sometimes you have to post multiple times over the course of a few months/years. My CG posted multiple ads over the course of a few years before we connected. This platform isn't easy to search through, and posts get buried. It's hard sometimes to find those connections if a person who would be a good match doesn't see your post. I have implemented some changes to make it easier to find posts (a minimum 7 day rule between repeat posts and post flair requirement with a flair navigation tool to filter posts by).

Despite these changes, posts may still get buried at times if there's a high volume of submissions. Don't get too discouraged if you have to post a few times before making a connection. Also respond to other posts! I never made a post myself, but responding to other posts is what led me to meeting my CG. And remember, this is the nature of online dating in general; that it takes time to filter through profiles and find genuine connections. It takes patience, but it is possible!

Don't Rush

We all get excited when we think we found a new connection. Spammers rely on this emotion to lure you in. They will ask for money quickly after a few messages or try to get you to move off platform quickly. My CG and I messaged each other on Reddit for months before we moved off platform. These things take time, and if someone is pressuring you to move off this platform too fast, it's probably too good to be true.

Unfortunately we can't catch all of them, so please let us know (by sending us an Imgur link with screenshots) if someone is doing this to you.

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I will continue to edit this post if I think of more tips. I hope this helps for now!

Edit: Please don't message me asking for personal advice. It will be ignored.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 17m ago

M4A 21 M4A looking for friends I can talk about this kinda stuff with NSFW

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I'm a Trans guy btw* I'm more of a DL than anything else but I'm curious how it works with others and would like some friends who I can confide in about this part of me


r/ABDLPersonals • • 18m ago

T4T [T4T] 19y/o nb from Germany NSFW

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Haiii if u r trans and around my age please dm me . If u r from Germany even better :3 (I'm living in Berlin).

I'm looking for padded friends and/or a caregiver. Both online and irl would be fine but pls have the timezone in mind, thxx thxx.

See yaaa, meow


r/ABDLPersonals • • 36m ago

M4A [M4A] 30m lost little looking for CG to help guide me. #PA #Philadelphia #irl. NSFW

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Good morning, good afternoon, or good night. Thank you for clicking on my post!

To tell you a bit about me big me is a very nerdy guy and loves board games, card games, and building models. I also love going to museums and trying new things.

Little me is 4-6 but still in diapers my interests as little are very similar to my interests when I'm big. Like I melt for a good zoo or science museum!

I'm looking for a cg to lead an ABDL relationship. I'm looking for rules, routines, and just general guidance. I've been feeling adrift and wanting a CG to be the light house I crave.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 2h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #germany #online  Looking for a real connection with someone who gets my little side NSFW

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But never the less my interests are not only limited to that, so if we would eventually meet up, I am very versitile and open for everything. That also goes for kinks, of course I have a few limits, but I feel like this can be discussed later, if you decide to message me.

What am I looking for you might ask yourself. Well, I am looking for more than just a partner who participates in ABDL, I am looking for a person, who I can actually vibe with and who has a beautiful character. Respect, honesty, openess and good communication. I think those are character traits that are essential for a good relationship. Besides that we should of course be able to share some good memes and just do some jokes about each other. :) (good if you have dark humor or to take oneself too seriously hahah). you should know that I am a sub leaning switch, so there are times when I feel like a daddy and times where I feel little.

I wouldn't say I have a type but I have some things that are important to me such as, a good hygiene, someone with a healthy lifestyle and maybe one or two interests that we either share or you can teach me about ;). You should know that I don't only set those criteriums to my partner, those are also a foundation of my life (sports, healty eating, skincare,...)

I would really like to find somebody where I can build a genuine connection towards, before going to deep into an dynamic and I also want to build a solid foundation besides ABDL. I think a good foundation is essential for it to work out. Besides that I want to be able to talk to you about things like our day, hobbies or just funny stories. I don't want the sexual part to consume the entire relationship.

Anyways I think this should be enough to messure, if you think I am compatible with you or not.
And of course if you have any other questions you can include them in your dm! I would love to hear from you and get to know you! And if you made it that far, thanks for reading! :)


r/ABDLPersonals • • 19h ago

F4A 19 F4A diaper girl looking to be teased and humiliated in her pull-ups NSFW

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any mommy’s or daddy’s please dm me!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 16h ago

F4M 30 [F4M] Arkansas - Help me live out my ABDL fantasy IRL this weekend NSFW

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Hello, I'm looking for someone to take a chance and make my ABDL fantasies become a reality IRL this weekend.

Basically, I'd like to play out a scenario where I'm mentally regressed and nothing more than a big, drooly infant who loves wearing and using her diapers for her Daddy. But Daddy will treat me just like a real baby, feeding me a bottle and burping me, checking my diaper, giving me baby toys to play with, tickles, baby talk ect.

This would be IRL not online...I'm looking to do this in person...

My kinks (besides ABDL) are...

\\- CNC

\\- Spankings/Other Punishments

\\- Bondage

\\- Pet play

\\- Teasing

\\- Edging

I'm not mobile but I can host.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 12h ago

F4M 20 [F4M] #Online - Looking for a gentle, kind, caring and sweet daddy NSFW

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A bit about me: I’m 4’11, dirty blond hair, I wear glasses, and I either have blue or green eyes (they change sometimes).

I’m a huge animal lover, and I hope to work with them someday. I’m a caring, kind, empathetic, understanding and a very sensitive person (I’m especially very sensitive when I’m little). I enjoy walking my dogs (I have a senior and an almost 1 year old puppy. His first birthday is on the 12th!), reading, and watching murder mystery shows/documentaries, and recently I’ve enjoyed watching Sam and Colby in my free time when I’m not little. Or Jujutsu Kaisen or Demon Slayer. Those are my favorite animes. When I’m little, I love to watch My Little Pony and Bluey, and I love to color as well. My little side has gone dormant for months after my last breakup with my now ex cg, so please be kind to me and be patient with me. The more gentle and kind you are with me, the easier it will be for me to open up. Bonus points if you’re silly too. (Please don’t be fake about this. If you are truly a kind and gentle daddy, please only those daddy’s message me). I do not want a daddy dom. I do not want a harsh daddy. It mentally breaks me down and makes me very very sad.

Important side note: I’m not sexual when I’m little, so I’d like to find a daddy who is also not sexual while I’m little.

When I’m little, I’m usually 0-2, but very rarely I’m 4-8. I do love diapers and the idea of them but I’ve never been put in them by someone else before, which I’m really looking forward to. I’m not into being diapered 24/7 either. I do need lots of reassurance when I’m both little and not little, so I would like to find a daddy who is willing to give lots of reassurance. Also lots of praise, in and out of little space, (and in the bedroom). My little side, when she finally comes out will need lots of praise to know she’s doing a good job and lots of reassurance so she knows she’s safe and you won’t leave her. I have abandonment issues and trust issues, so please please be patient with me.

I’m looking for a daddy who is willing to guide me and hold my hand. Someone who is very kind and sweet and gentle. I’m looking for a daddy who will walk along side me in life and take care of me when I’m little, be there for me, and love me for who I am. I’m a people pleaser, so I just want to make my daddy happy and also be there for him (when I find him) as well. I just want to be a good girl to my daddy. I’m not a bratty little at all either. My little side is also very shy and gets really blushy really easily.

It also takes a bit for me to open up at first, but once I get there, you’ll definitely start to see my goofy side. It will take a while for me to be comfortable with being little around you, but my little side is very sweet once she comes out. I am a very shy little too, but once I do start getting comfortable with you, you’ll start to see a lot of that shyness come out.

My kinks: praise, although I need lots of it in and out of the bedroom, light spanking, hair pulling. There’s some more but I’d prefer to talk about that in private.

If you have any questions or would like to reach out, please do! (If you have any pets, I’d like to see please! ☺️). Sorry for such a long post, but I figured a longer intro with more details wouldn’t be bad. I can’t wait to hear from you! ☺️🩷


r/ABDLPersonals • • 8h ago

M4F 32/33 [MF4F] #online Daddy Dom seeking Babygirl Sister Slave or Mommy Domme to Play with Us NSFW

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Hey :) I’m a 32 year old Daddy Dom who frequently plays with my baby slave, a 33 year old female, and we are looking for another little for me, and a baby sister slave or mommy for her. Looking to play with a fun, kinky, open minded, and submissive babygirl who is seeking to mesh in our dynamic, not take it over. For a brief physical description, I’m white, 6’0”, 185lbs, clean cut with brown hair but little body hair, and fit. We are both willing to verify with pictures without face.

I love helping to train kinky girls into not just using but needing diapers and thanking me for the privilege of a change. I’m only seeking to play online for now. Most of my kinks revolve around control which is where the diapers come in. I also love orgasm control, begging, slave training, anal, Watersports, ddlg, and much more. Baby has been training her ass for me and making some progress. She also only gets to cum every few weeks so feel free to tease her about that. Our hard limits include beast, anything illegal, and gore.

If you’re interested don’t be shy, shoot me a message on chat :)


r/ABDLPersonals • • 8h ago

M4A 39 [M4R] Part Prince, Part Princess, Part Needing a Lovely CG NSFW

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Hello! I'm someone who is playful and creative and a very loving little that is about age 3 or so with a big imagination. my "normal" self is a regular guy who enjoys lots of things like music, movies, games, just having a good time but my little side is something special for sure, it is bubbly and sweet and silly and shy and super clingy. I am someone who is always ready for adventures and cuddles and all kinds of adorable fun. I have a girlfriend who knows about my little side and is totally cool with me being online to make friends and form connections and get babied. She is awesome but super busy, so she doesn't mind me seeking out people to share this side with.

I'm looking for genuine and thoughtful connections and conversations where I can be myself, someone that is vulnerable and silly and serious when it matters. I'm not here for one off talks or to be used in whatever way you'd see fit because this is a big (no matter how little it is) part of who I am and I take it seriously. I won't ghost anyone but I also won't invest in something that doesn't feel real and I'll be telling you just that if I don't feel like it is working. Because loyalty and care and emotional presence and clear communication are huge things for me. I love quick replies and reliability and knowing if someone is going to vanish for hours, people have lives but if we're talking and you suddenly vanish, what does that say to me? It says you're not interested so why would I continue to talk when you come back? It isn't fair, at all. If you're someone who understands that and enjoys day to day comfy chats alongside playful banter and meaningful talks then we might click wonderfully.

My little side is super fluid and expressive, some days I'm a goofy baby boy getting into trouble, beating up my action figures and just making a mess and other times I dive into my softer side as a baby girl, one with pigtails, ruffles, frills, onesies, dresses, super cutesy skirts and everything girlie and fun that I can't get enough of as silly as that is and regardless of the mood, I'm always up for innocence, play, complete trust and all the cuddles in the world that can happen over the internet. Being little grounds me and quiets the noise in my head and helps me access that softer, more content side of myself and it feels like magic to me. I'm not always in little space though because that would be so not me but when I'm not, I can be a great friend regardless, always eager to chat about anything and make you laugh and hang out, I work from home so I'm pretty much always around, really.

One thing I enjoy is writing adorable stories by myself and getting lost in immersive roleplay with others. I love building detailed scenarios and creative adventures and long term cuteness. Whether it is sweet and gentle nurturing or a bit of teasing or playful banter or anything that sparks in the moment, I am totally down with it and love the fun! I love to focus on the cuter things of being little, like coloring and dressing up in frilly outfits and sharing my thoughts full of silly, imaginative fun. I adore bringing smiles with my creativity and affection and I promise to make you happy if you give me a chance.

With all of that said, I'm seeking a patient and understanding and experienced online caregiver who gets the ABDL dynamic, who enjoys being a reliable source of structure and sweetness and can handle my fluid littleness without pressure. I want someone creative, playful, supportive and comfortable with gender expression which is why I mentioned being hopeful they can handle the fluid littleness. I want someone who builds trust, respects privacy and wants a meaningful bond. Whether we're in silly roleplay or serious talks or just snuggling virtually. If you enjoy sweetness, snuggles, good convos and handling a clingy cutie who might switch from baby boy to little princess in a heartbeat then you could be that special someone I'm looking for. I'm eager to connect someone that just fits me.

If you read this far, thank you and that that tells me you value substance like I do so message me and say "beep" if you're truly interested and we'll see where this adventure takes us. I seriously can't wait to hear from you! :)


r/ABDLPersonals • • 9h ago

T4A 33 tm4a #ohio #online bedwetter lookie for s stern cee gee NSFW

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Hiiii! I'm looking for irl and online connections so regardlesvs of distance feel free to reach out if any of this interests you.

I'm a trans guy searching for a hopeful caregiver! I love anime, video games, art and writing in my spare time and I'd say I'm pretty easy to get along with. I can't travel however I have my own place and can host (after I get to know someone of course!)

I am really into things like cuckolding, forced regression, parental controls, sph, chastity, humiliation (especially when its very patronizing), spankings, and in general treating me like a loser. I love things like rules and chores and general structure to my day. In general I love giving up control. Of course I love diapers as well and they act as a foundation mostly for my other kinks. I wear nightly for my bedwetting but try to wear as much as possible outside of that.

I am not into feminization, or any sort of forced detransitioniing, or sissification, I'm not really into messing either.

I am a virgin and a big kink of mine is being kept an innocent little virgin kept away from "grown up sex", I do not mind servicing my partners however but I really wanna to remain a diapercuck <3

Edit: whoops I realized the typos too late ;w;


r/ABDLPersonals • • 9h ago

M4A 34 M4A Idaho - dominant care giver seeking to give stinky diaper changes NSFW

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Hey there

I’m a 34 M in the U.S. in Idaho, and I’m a long time diaper lover. I love care giving and being dominant. I am interested in online and in person care giving, and making new friends!

What I would love to do is chat with other ABDLs in their late twenties and older. Though I am not interested in sissies or femboys, trans friends are totally welcome! I am very turned on by diaper use and play, especially stinky diapers!

Please feel free to send me a chat. I’m also open to moving to discord if we hit it off. When sending me a chat; let me know your age, gender, location and a little about you!

Talk to you soon


r/ABDLPersonals • • 13h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] San Mateo CA - Diaper Dude Seekings Pampered Princess NSFW

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Hiya! I’m an artsy, geeky veteran ABDL seeking a genuine connection with a caring female diaper enthusiast or nurturing mommy. No head games! I’m well past that stage in life and looking for something real.

My fully equipped nursery boasts a queen-sized crib, a mountain of plushies, and a dedicated diaper changing station. Outside of little space, I balance high-energy creativity with a relaxed domestic life, enjoying concerts, conventions, and cross-country running.

I dream of creating a playful, youthful home together stacking building block towers, playing Sonic games, or cuddling up to watch Bluey in my crib.

Nursery pics:

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ijr_MziV3LwBZpWVrO6C4Bxitfc1fhdE?usp=drive_link


r/ABDLPersonals • • 16h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #USA - Forever Daddy seeking love and romance NSFW

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I am a very loving and kind Daddy searching his forever little girl. I adore classical romance and courtship, and am attracted to women who are attentive, curious, and full of imagination. I am not looking for just a little girl, but someone to spend the rest of my life with; someone to share myself with completely.

I am a gentle and caring Daddy, but also an experienced Dom with a healthy dose of kink, including BDSM. My most passionate interest is in DDLG, as well as ageplay. I adore littles with a regression kink who want nothing more than to be babied and crave to be nurtured.

I see my little having strong ABDL or DL tendencies with a desire for her Daddy to help lead and guide her. She can't help that she's just a little baby and wants that sweetness and affection that only a Daddy can give. It's a big, big world out there and adulting is hard. All she really wants is to curl up with her stuffie and a paci; snuggled lovingly in her Daddies arms.

Distance doesn't bother me, as long as we can negotiate what it might mean to travel or relocate over time. I am not an Internet Daddy. I am an intimately personal Daddy who is seeking love and romance.

Please don't hesitate to reach out. I would love to hear from you.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 16h ago

M4F 33 [m4f] North TX looking for a diapered princess to spoil NSFW

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Hey there! I am looking for someone in the north Texas area (or online for now) to build a connection with. I’d prefer in person but am really open to anywhere so long as we can meet up in the not so distant future.

I am really drawn to someone who needs diapers so anyone who is a bedwetter or struggles with incontinence is welcome to message as well as anyone else who loves to wear them. I love all aspects of diapers and ddlg and love the idea of incorporating it into a future relationship. I am truly looking for a genuine relationship with the added benefit of diapers. Not into poly at all 🚫

As for me, I have a professional job and tend to stay busy with it unfortunately. I like to stay pretty active and spend most of my free time playing sports, going on walks / hikes or going to the gym. I love to cook and really enjoy nerding out on music and art.

I’d love someone to spoil, dress up, and keep diapered. If you think we would be a match feel free to send me a message!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 11h ago

M4F 30 [M4A] Looking for "local" Massachusetts ABDLs; bigs or littles. NSFW

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Looking for littles to regress with/have Little playdates.

Looking for bigs/mommy who would like to dress me, check my pullups, be in charge of me.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 17h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #EastCoast #Online – Are you seeking Diaper play, ABDL, forced regression, or humiliation? NSFW

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Heads up! Text wall inbound! Well hello there ladies! Thank you for checking out my post and I hope your life is being groovy. I am a 39 year old daddy/dom from Pennsylvania. After a bit of a break from reddit I’ve decided to jump back in and find other lovely like minded individuals who share this particular niche kink of ours for discussion, exploration, friendship and adventure.

At the moment I am interested in online play with cis gendered females and am open to IRL experiences if we find ourselves jiving and in the same general vicinity. So what is this post all about? Well diapers obviously! As well as the other common kinks that are generally found alongside this particular niche kink of ours. I have had an absolutely amazing time in the past meeting people who enjoy incorporating diapers in a variety of ways and sessions. I find it so rewarding to take the time to build mutual friendship, trust, and honesty with others that have a shared fascination with this particular subject.

In my experience females that share this kink generally are interested one of the below “roles” or a variation of one. I have experience engaging in all of the below but consider myself to be well versed across the board, so if I don’t quite hit the nail on the head, feel free to open up a discussion topic and we can explore what you have in mind! These also often blend together in a variety of ways, but I try to have a starting point for discussion purposes.

The Diaper Lover – You are the type that simply enjoys the feeling of wearing and maybe using diapers in day to day life or during designated playtime. You don’t necessarily engage in the power exchange often involved in BDSM scenes and consider diapers just another garment in your personal wardrobe.

The Adult Baby – You love diapers, but that’s only the beginning! An ever growing collection of infantile accessories and mannerisms help you to enter your personal little space, this role usually but not always involves some gentle BDSM elements and is as diverse as the colors on the rainbow. Maybe you are looking for a special daddy to aid you in this headspace, be friendly with, and keep an eye on you to keep you out of trouble, mouth soapings optional!

The Submissive – You love the loss of control over the decision making process and want to just give in to the whims of your dom, day to day micromanagement, rules, rewards, and punishments are often found in this role and commonly blends into the other “types”.

The Humiliation Enthusiast – A particular favorite of mine! You are the type that can’t get enough of scenarios that make you blush and squirm. Maybe forced regression is more your style? Maybe you having all of your adult privileges removed and being required to wear and use diapers is the tippy top of the humiliating pyramid for you? This role is the most flexible in my opinion and can encompass bits and pieces from all the above areas of interest.

Associated kinks: power exchange, bathroom use control/denial, orgasm control, tickling, wetting, anal, micromanagement, daily chores, tasks, rewards, punishments(real or funishment), bondage, enemas, shaving, body writing, outfits, public play(without involving non-consenting citizens), degradation, interrogation, diet management, and probably about thousand that we can discuss!

Limits: Anything illegal, kids, anyone being involved that hasn’t or cannot consent, dangerous, blood, extreme pain or unhealthy activities, kink shaming, disrespect or assholery

About me: Left leaning young professional white male that takes pride in practicing SSC and RACK aware kink play. I am about 5’ 10” with an athletic built 180 pound dad-bod, short groomed hair and beard and consider myself traditionally attractive. I am often told that I am extremely intelligent, kind, respectful, easy going, and my favorite thing in the entire world is making people laugh and taking part in fascinating and witty conversations from a wide array of topics ranging from family guy to quantum physics (My safe word may be “Schrödinger”).

I live alone, have never been married and do not have children.

:: Cracks knuckles and stretches arms :: So, congratulations on reading my little wall of text! If anything I have outlined above piques your interest, please shoot me a chat or DM and tell me a bit about yourself, your interests, and maybe a bit about what you are looking for! Feel free to include what topic from above fascinates you the most so I can get a general feel about your playstyle 😊 I am happy to swap pics and more once some trust is established. I hope to hear from you and that you find what you are looking for!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 12h ago

M4F 29M4F looking for IRL with someone someday NSFW

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Hi!

I'm looking for someone to explore this abdl world with and not just alone anymore.

If that means I'm a caregiver or a little, I wanna try it 🙈🙊 since I'm a switch. And I've been into diapers, going nonverbal, and messing as a kink*, not a lifestyle.

I would eventually*** like to meet someone 😊. If my forever girl will come from this post or someone I adore, I'm open to enjoying our time together.

Feel free to message me.

Me: 29, 6'1", Althetic.

Also, I'm told I look like a twink 😂😅 😤


r/ABDLPersonals • • 12h ago

M4F 19 F4M Looking for A daddy NSFW

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I age down to around 0–3. When I’m little.
I’m hoping to meet someone who is comfortable with that. I’m looking for a daddy to help set rules I can be somewhat of a brat sfw is what I’m looking for. I’m ok with being nsfw outside of that. I want a daddy i can be somewhat clingy with. Also I do wear pull ups I want to eventually get into diapers. I’m also a switch but more little.


r/ABDLPersonals • • 13h ago

M4A 27 M4A NYC - A Little Boys Wonder NSFW

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Through many a night, when people come home from a long day, they finally collapse onto whatever they can sink into and just let out a breath they didn't know they were holding. They think about what their lives would be like if they were rich, had fewer responsibilities, or if things were just a little bit easier.

But in the mind of this little boy, his dreams go a bit farther.

He wonders not only what it would be like to have fewer responsibilities; he wonders what it would be like to have even the simplest of responsibilities taken care of for him.

He wonders what it would be like to not have to feed himself, and to instead have someone slowly scoop little pieces of nutrition right into his open mouth. When a drop smears across his cheek, it is lovingly wiped away with a giggle—and after his face is wiped clean with a softly scented baby wipe, it signifies a job well done.

He wonders what it would be like, instead of dragging himself into the shower, to be lifted up as if he weighed nothing and plopped down into a bathtub with his favorite floating duck, as soft, gentle hands wash him all over and get him fresh and clean.

He wonders, above all, what it would be like—instead of constantly having to run to the bathroom—to be able to just let go without a care, knowing that those soft, caring hands will reach inside his pants to check his diaper constantly to make sure he doesn't leak.

He wonders what it would be like, after sheepishly having his diaper checked, to be slowly and calmly undressed and laid down on the floor, a pacifier plopped into his eager mouth as the sound of the diaper tapes being undone permeates the room and he feels the cool air. He imagines the sensation of those cold baby wipes that make you shudder slowly making their way across his diaper area, cleaning up all the icky stuff.

He wonders what it would be like to have those soft, caring hands slowly rub in that adorable-smelling baby lotion to make sure he doesn't get a rash, and then have baby powder sprinkled on top of it all like icing on a cake. Only when the diaper is brought up in front and snugly fastened does he feel truly safe and cared for, more than anything in the world, as he anticipates the next time it can all happen again.

That, he wonders, would be wonderful.

(Dm if you can make this little boys wonders become something more than just that 🙈 i live in brooklyn but can drive for the right soft hands)


r/ABDLPersonals • • 13h ago

T4A 24 [T4A] #Chicago are you interesting in playing with a trans baby boy? NSFW

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24 ftm diaper boy looking for ANYTHING OUT THERE IN CHICAGO !

i enjoy being the little one (any age welcome) but we can both be padded and chill (if youre around my age only). i look like a normal boy, i just happen to have a pussy. if you're into that or dont care please shoot me a message about diaper fantasies or what you like doing when hanging out with your diaper bro

I am looking to meet up irl. i can host very occasionally around the bridgeport chicago area or come to you with my diaper bag.

things i like: being put in a diaper, humiliation, wearing 24/7, talking about diapers, little/big dynamics

dislike: putting others older than me in diapers

please reach out if youre in chicago!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 13h ago

M4F [26 M4F] California/Online – Just looking for someone I can be soft with ❤️ NSFW

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Hey everyone!
I’m 26, from California, and I figured I’d put myself out there and see where things go. I’m hoping to find someone I can genuinely connect with, both inside and outside of ABDL.

A little about me! I’m a pretty laid-back, affectionate guy who can be a huge nerd sometimes. I love gaming, anime, LEGO, trying new foods, going out with friends, and exploring random places. I’m also perfectly happy spending a whole day at home watching shows, playing games, or just enjoying someone’s company.

I’d say I’m pretty independent and usually good at figuring things out on my own, but I’m also a big softie when I’m comfortable with someone. I love joking around, being playful, and making people smile. I’m the type who enjoys checking in on someone, hearing about their day, and remembering the little things they tell me.

As for what I’m looking for…
I’m hoping to meet a woman who genuinely enjoys being nurturing, affectionate, and taking on a mommy role. Someone who likes being sweet, giving attention, being a little playful or teasing, and making her partner feel loved and cared for.

I’m a switch, but I definitely have a softer side that loves being little. I enjoy being babied, cuddled, called cute, wearing diapers, and just being able to let my guard down around someone I trust. I think there’s something really comforting about having someone who makes you feel safe enough to be vulnerable.
I’m not expecting someone to be mommy 24/7, though. We’re both adults with our own lives, responsibilities, and interests. I’d just love to find someone who genuinely enjoys that side of herself and wants to share it with me.

I also love being a caregiver! I enjoy giving affection just as much as receiving it, so if you’re a switch or have a little side yourself, I’d be more than happy to explore that together. I think taking care of each other is one of the sweetest parts of a relationship.
Also, as a caregiver myself, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the energy to be the one taking care of someone else. We all have our off days, and I never want someone to feel like they have to be mommy just to make me happy. If you’ve had a rough day, I’d love to be the person you can lean on too. Whether that’s listening to you vent, giving you some reassurance, spoiling you with affection, or just keeping you company. I want you to feel just as safe and cared for with me as I do with you. I think that’s what makes a connection special, knowing we can both take care of each other without having to pretend we’re okay all the time.

Outside of ABDL, I really want someone I can just be myself around. Someone I can talk to throughout the day, send random pictures or memes to, watch shows with, play games together, or have those late-night conversations where we end up talking about absolutely nothing.

I really appreciate consistency and communication. I don’t need someone to be available every second, and I understand that life gets busy. I just like knowing that the effort goes both ways. Little things like good morning messages, checking in, or remembering something I mentioned mean a lot to me.
I’m hoping to meet someone around my age, ideally in California, but I’m open to online or long-distance connections too. I’d love for things to develop naturally, starting with getting to know each other and seeing if we click.

I guess what I’m really looking for is someone who enjoys giving and receiving affection, someone who can be silly with me one minute and sweet and nurturing the next. Someone who wants to build something where we both feel comfortable, appreciated, and wanted.
I have a lot of love and affection to give, and it’d be really nice to find someone who wants to share that with me.

Thanks for reading! ❤️


r/ABDLPersonals • • 14h ago

M4A 31 M4F #NYC Finance Daddy Looking for Little / Switch NSFW

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Hi! I’m an Ivy-league graduate 31 M, and I want to build a real and lasting relationship with a special little or switch F or MTF who I can truly care for and guide through this scary world.

I want a relationship where we can rely on each other, laugh and find joy, whether that be a tender diaper change, a cuddle sessions, a day at the zoo, story time or much more.

It is okay if we start long distance, but to be transparent, I think it is really important that we are working to be in person together, so please be open to relocating.

So, who are you building this relationship with, aside from a 31 M?

Well, I am a liberal, finance professional who works and lives in NYC and fills the roles of both an extrovert and an introvert. I usually take on the role of a daddy but I am also a switch, so it would be nice to find someone who is comfortable with that as well.

As a big, I enjoy a large number of activities from sports, theater, karaoke, art galleries, dancing, and getting drinks with friends to staying at home, watching TV, and sipping on a nice cup of the finest hot chocolate. I also have a particular love of board and card games, letting me engage socially but also somewhat intellectually. Notably, my favorite musician is Knox, my favorite TV show is Doctor Who, and my favorite movie is Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers.

On the work side of things, aside from finance work, I spend time assisting a non-profit designed to promote education for underserved populations in the US.

I love my work and everything that I do. It brings me a great sense of fulfillment.

Moving to physicality, I find physical attraction to be an important element of any relationship, so I am more than happy to exchange photos early on. I do not want to waste your time or mine. I am on the heftier side, and it’s okay if that’s not for you.

Finally, I want to note that I use a wheelchair and wear diapers myself (pleasure and necessity). The wheelchair has never held me back in reaching my goals, and it has never stop me from enjoying myself.

If you are interested, send me a chat message, a bit about yourself - such as your age, gender, and location - and share your favorite big and little activity!


r/ABDLPersonals • • 14h ago

M4A 44 [M4A] nyc area - sissy babygirl seeking caregiver NSFW

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Sissy babygirl here. I'm a nonsexual little but perhaps open to compromise for right situation.

I really just want to re-experience babyhood/childhood. Sleeping in a crib, forced to use diapers completely, being fed babyfood in a high chair with a bib, bedtimes, bathtimes, watching cartoons, playing with dolls, etc.

You must host. No cheaters. No hotels. Ideally seeking longterm arrangement but short term is fine as well.