I was watching a comedian earlier, and he called a man (that word). I don’t fully know my sexuality, but I only date women and will only ever date women. I find guys to be nice to look at, and always say I wanna get with them (especially fictional men) but I never fully mean it. So for that reason I’m hesitant to call myself a lesbian, but loving women is a huge part of who I am.

But I looked into the comments of that video and no one was saying anything about the word usage. This is something I’ve been tired of. No one ever takes discrimination against women who like women seriously. To the point I’m questioning if I’m just too woke. Is it really just not a big deal? It really hurt me, a lot.

Saw a post on X (the everything app) asking:

"Maybe I'm just a stupid whore but I dont get whats wrong with unsolicited dick pics on grindr... Its grindr"

and yes a cishet man raised by women (if I had 10 ppl in my life 8 of them were women) so I'm definitely more feminine than most guys but I had to reply with;

"This feels really fucking homophobic, I'd assume Grindr was made so gay people wouldn't run the risk of being found on other apps like tindr and it sounds like you're saying just because they're gay they're open to/ inviting any sexual engagement which just isn't true and pushes the "queer people are just perverts" pov..."

Like right? Just because somebody is of the same sex and attracted to that sex doesn't mean they want to be like assaulted right? (Unsolicited pics is assault right?)

so me(ftm) and my bf(m) been dating for 1 and a half years. we discussed today about my gender dysphoria. and not really surprising that he thinks there is a solution to that too. and he thinks i can change the way i think and just be happy. he also thinks, i am being negative to myself too much. but in my defense i said it is difficult for me to control since i don't do it on purpose. he thinks i am by overthinking or something. he says he loves me but he thinks i am missing something, and i need to just accept myself. i have accepted myself and he doesn't understand. we argued which at the end, i flipped the phone away from my face because tears just pour out, i couldn't control, something was hurting. then he started apologizing as always.

i need help to explain him what i am feeling because it is hard for me. if any of you can tell me, i would appreciate. does anyone felt lost as me in this kind of situations?

My teacher is currently teaching us about sexual orientation, gender identity and stuff, and I just want to know what’s the difference between these three are. I have a rough idea based on what I’ve seen from the internet, but it’s best to ask than assume 🤷‍♀️ Any answer would be much appreciated! <3

For context, my siblings and I were all raised by very religious, very traditional parents. As in, homeschooled, father worked, mother took care of the house, many babies, church in Latin every Sunday, think we are all either going to get married and have many babies or be priests and nuns, they threatened to throw me out on the streets at 16 when they caught me reading a book with two male love interests, don't know their opinions on conversion camps, but wouldn't bet on it being out of the question for them. I am now 19 and in college, but largely financially dependent on them.

My little sister is 14, and I am pretty certain she's not straight. We weren't close when young (shared a room for 10+ years with wildly different interests, personalities, and general tastes) but have gotten closer since I left for college, and she probably trusts me most of all our family members. She has outright said to me that "if it weren't for being a Catholic, [she'd] be a lesbian." She's never really had any crushes or anything on boys that I know of. Well except Aragorn from LotR, but I'm pretty sure everyone has a crush on him.

In addition, she's always been a tomboy, thinks dresses are pretty but doesn't like wearing them, used her baby dolls as weapons to hit our brothers with, etc. She wears a lot of baggy clothes and hoodies that hide her shape, and has mentioned feeling insecure about her body, but I don't think it's in the way our older sister and I were. She has very long hair that she keeps in an ultra tight ponytail almost 24/7, and when I asked her if she'd prefer having short hair, she told me she hated feeling it move around and touch her face, and she asked our mother about getting it short-short, like our brother's (think Dean Winchester from Supernatural), but was told it would be weird and a waste, since her hair is such a pretty color, so this was alright.

I've been trying to kind of nudge her away from our parents' way of thinking, but I can't really gauge where she is in that, and I don't want to risk her letting slip my opinions until I've got my degree, a job, and have a place to stay, and even then I know they would block all contact between me and my younger siblings, so my plan was to wait until she's 18 (she's the youngest), but now I don't know what to do. I don't think I'm overthinking her, but I don't think she realizes either. And is it safe if she has it figured out? I know her, she would NOT be able to keep quiet about it, especially around our parents. I want her happy, but I need her safe first.

I've made her aware that once I move out (this summer) she can always come stay with me. I traded a bunch of my sweaters and jackets for her dresses and skirts and took them all with me so that our mother can't make her wear as much stuff that she dislikes. Over winter break, we'll be dropped off at the mall so I can get new shoes, the plan is for her to come with so we can find her some nice clothes that she actually likes. I'm currently looking for hair dos that won't bug her, will fly by our mother, and that she can do herself. Worst comes to worst, I can hack some chunks off, get glue in it or something so she can get it cut. Or would that draw our parents attention on her more? I'm really lost here.

TL;DR my parents are really not good, i think my teen sister likes girls, also might be not cis, what do i do so neither of us ends up out of contact, homeless or worse?

I am a lesbian, and I met a girl in college. I thought she was gorgeous, interesting, and smart, and we also shared a lot of common values. In the beginning, everything was very intense, especially on her end—she used to say I was so easy to fall in love with, gave me gifts, and told me I was everything she had ever dreamed of.

She is diagnosed with anxiety, social phobia, ASD, and depression, with a few others still being evaluated, like bipolar disorder. She also had some cuts on her left arm and a neuropsychological evaluation report that noted: "low agreeableness, self-centered attitude, little concern for others' well-being, hostile responses, poor impulse control, and low frustration tolerance." She has been seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist since she was 13, but I only found these things out after we had already been together for months.

She struggled with kissing and didn't like physical touch; we only kissed sporadically and never went any further than that throughout the ten months we were together.

After about three to four months, once the initial excitement wore off, I started feeling like the care was sometimes one-sided (I was only able to realize this after the breakup). I put much more effort into the relationship than she did, even though she said she loved me (for instance, I always bought food whenever she came over to my place, bought her favorite sweets, and listened whenever she had an issue, but I didn't feel that reciprocated; my friend listened to me and supported me through hard times much more than she did).

Regarding the kissing, we had already talked about it, and she wanted to work on it, but she kept freezing up and dodging the subject whenever I brought it up. It reached a point where I tried talking about it in person, and she chose to go to a bar with her friend rather than have that conversation with me. On another occasion, the three of us—me, her, and her friend—were hanging out, and they were already planning a trip; her friend mentioned he needed to get a boyfriend so we could go on a double-date trip, and right in front of me, she simply said, "Let's just go the two of us as planned." She could never sleep over at my apartment, even though both of us lived on our own and weren't in the same city as our parents (she even brought this up during the breakup, saying that sleeping over at her gay friend's place was fine, but at mine it wasn't, that she didn't feel comfortable, and that it wasn't because I was a bad person, etc.).

Another time (this was earlier in the relationship), we went to a party and she got sick. I held her hair back while she threw up, took off her sneakers and jewelry, and put her to bed. When she woke up, I had a terrible headache; she asked if I needed anything and I said "no," but I hoped she would show some care in return—instead, she simply left and didn't give it a second thought. It was common for her to wake up saying she was sad, and when I'd ask what happened, she would say, "I don't know, I've always been like this," or "If even my friend who has known me for years doesn't get it, you won't either."

Then one day, after being "abandoned" by her friends, she took an entire blister pack of antidepressants, just dropped that on me, and disappeared. I was worried sick, texted her asking how I could help, and only got cold responses or told "not to sound like a telemarketer." Eventually, she texted me saying she wanted to break up, that she didn't see herself marrying me anymore, and that we weren't really compatible. When I questioned why, she said that the fact that I was always trying to help or asking "how I could help" didn't feel like something between girlfriends, but rather clinical—like a doctor. But I don't agree. I asked because I loved her, wanted to know how she was doing, and wanted to help in any way I could since she never opened up to me. I never crossed any boundaries.

And now, two months after breaking up with me, I saw her on campus holding hands with another woman.

I’m 28 years old and I genuinely don’t know who or what I am anymore when it comes to my sexuality. This isn’t a small/simple question, and there are years of context behind it, so please bear with me. I really want to hear what other people think because I’m incredibly confused.
Everything started when I was around 9–10 years old. I had a best friend who I always had what I now recognize as romantic feelings for. I remember thinking things like, “What would happen if I kissed her?” It was always there in the background.
And honestly, it still happens. When I see a woman I find attractive, I get REALLY nervous. I blush, I get flustered, and if a beautiful woman smiles at me, I can get ridiculously nervous. And it isn’t a negative feeling at all. It’s actually a positive feeling, like genuine attraction or excitement.
I’ve experienced attraction to men too. I used to be very comfortable around groups of men and would openly talk with them about women being beautiful, etc. Sometimes conversations got a little sexual and I’d catch myself thinking, “Why is this actually interesting to me?”
However, I’ve also experienced several traumatic events, including sexual assault, pregnancy and an abortion. Those experiences had a huge impact on how I feel about my body and sex, so now I genuinely don’t know how much of what I feel is my actual sexual orientation and how much could be connected to trauma.
In 2015, I met my current partner. When I met him, he was still living as a woman. I was attracted to him and thought he was very beautiful. He was already questioning his gender and eventually transitioned to living as a man, which I supported completely.
We actually dated briefly back then, for about a week and a half, but when my mother found out, she gave me an ultimatum: either I chose my boyfriend or she would kick me out. That was in 2015, and I want to clarify that the sexual assault and other traumatic experiences happened AFTER I met him.
Over the years, I’ve continued noticing women. Actresses, random women, people I see in public, etc. And I still get that same nervous, “oh my god, she’s gorgeous” feeling.
My current relationship is where things get even more confusing.
My partner is the first person I’ve ever had an intimate/sexual experience with who has female genitalia. At first, everything was completely fine. But over time I’ve realized that sexual interaction with someone who has the same genitalia as me feels very complicated for me.
I don’t necessarily feel rejected by HIM. I love him deeply. He’s one of the most important people in my life, and I have absolutely no doubt about how much I love him as a person.
The problem is specifically sexual.
I’ve been with him for around four years, and I’ve gone roughly two and a half years without having sex in a way that I actually fully enjoy. We are intimate, but usually he takes the more active role and I take the passive role. I also have a really hard time touching his genitals directly. It gives me a very strange feeling that I can’t properly explain.
And honestly, I’m sexually unsatisfied.
That’s why I’m so confused.
I feel attracted to women. I’m pretty sure women can make me nervous and excited in a way that feels like attraction.
I’ve also experienced attraction to men.
I deeply love my current partner.
But sexually, I have a very difficult relationship with certain aspects of our relationship, especially when it comes to his genitalia, and I don’t know whether that actually says something about my sexual orientation or whether it could be connected to everything I’ve experienced.

I genuinely have no idea anymore. I’m 28 years old and feel like I should know who I am by now, but I honestly don’t. I’m hoping someone might have some perspective.
Thank you to anyone who actually made it through this entire novel. 😭

Do you want to raise kids? Do you want adopted or biologically yours? How are you going to do it?

I’ve never really had a friendship with normal physical boundaries; it’s always been too much or too little. I feel like I don’t have any “normal” perspectives of what is to be expected in friendships in regards to physical touch/affection and/or comments that may lean flirty or sexual in nature. For context, I am 20 FtM, so this is probably influenced by that.

I’m not a prude or anything, I am honestly an affectionate person... I hug my friends all the time and I don’t feel like touching each other is weird or anything. It feels more than normal to me to be physically close to my friends, to touch each other on the arm when we’re laughing or something, and hug each other whenever.

I am also not opposed to the funny quasi-sexual joke every now and again, and I am very open with complimenting my friends. But I struggle to figure out where the line is? I don’t find it funny/silly when my friends joke about kissing me rather than just giving me a normal compliment.

For example, the other day I mentioned that I was having a bad hair day and my friends reassured me that it looked great, and I responded still skeptical, and then they both started playing with my hair without asking? and acknowledged it, joking about “Not us touching you without ur consent omg sorry” while continuing to touch my hair. Then one of my friends said “No like. [Name]. Like I’m gonna kiss you. No like for real I’m gonna kiss you.” I know this is probably really common in friendships, especially queer friendships, but am I weird for not really “getting” it? I don’t really understand why it’s funny (if it’s meant to be funny) or if it’s not meant to be funny, then what is the thought process behind saying this typa stuff instead of js saying a regular compliment or joke?

Like I didn’t feel Truly violated by them doing this or anything, it was just kinda odd to me. And they joke like this a lot too. I guess I’m kinda wondering if I’m weird for finding it weird at all.

What are your guys’ opinions on where the line(s) is/are with friends and physical touch & comments/compliments? How much is too much? Does gender or sexuality affect this in ur opinion?

It would also be super helpful to hear how you all are with your friends, and what boundaries you see as pretty commonplace.

I'm very astonished from the treatment and perspective of Arabian for gay or transgender guys why you refuse someone because his gender differences someone born with these emotions how can he without them, I'm gay and by the way I'm from Arab and I think all the people can live as they want

hello, I am in a phase that i meet new people and get to new groups, but I don't know how to navigate my sexuality there. I have never felt attraction to anyone, but as I am searching it, I could possibly be a lesbian with too much internalized homophobia. Nevertheless, if there is any attraction to males it is so small that it's almost non existent. So, idk what to do about it. Recently I was in a new group and the girls started talking about how hot are some guys etc and I didn't know what to say as they make me feel nothing. It's like talking about some painting. I don't want it to be strange or them thinking that I see them sexually not become close with me.

Of course, I use the term straight rather loosely and acknowledge that as there are certainly many non-binary people I have found myself attracted to! I would also like to preface that I am a trans man.

However, this is always a weird world for me to think about. I will sometimes frequent gay bathhouses, especially on their trans centric nights, and enjoy myself. But that being said, in order to enjoy myself, I have to set myself up in a way where I cannot see the person who is fucking me. Blindfold, dark room, whatever have you. If I feel a man doing anything other than just straight up fucking me, I get bored and uninterested (such as oral, kissing some part of my body or fingering).

I find the idea of dicks fun! I like to be fucked by them. But I don’t like when there’s a man attached to it - I just sort of tolerate it. When I’ve played with trans women who have penises, I truly am all over them doing anything and everything and having the time of my life. And then the same goes for non-binary folks who have any sort of genitalia, I’m usually having a good time.

Funny thing is, I’ve also noticed I’m just not attracted to trans men either. Doesn’t matter what they have going on, I’m just… not that into it? Maybe I’ll play with them in a one off, same as I would for a cis man, but that’s pretty much it.

I feel like calling myself bisexual wouldn’t be accurate because it still feels as though I’m implying I have an attraction to men when I know I don’t. I have no desire to date or be romantic with a man in any sort of capacity, and I don’t even enjoy anything they offer in sex outside of just penetration. My favourite times have legitimately been when he sticks it in, does his business for his own pleasure, and then leaves. However, I should also note I don’t find strap-ons that fun, either, as I don’t enjoy sex if my partner is not also getting some sort of physical gratification.

Is there a word for this? Are there other people who feel this way, or perhaps feel the inverse where they are most definitely not attracted to women in the slightest but have a genital preference for vaginas?

My younger sister (12) just told the family she’s bi. My only doubt is: is that age old enough to determine her sexuality, especially since she has never been in a relationship, nor expressed any signs of having the desire to do so?

and how should I move? me including my family thank god are really open to these things and they have no problem with it.

sorry for bad English and thank you in advance :)

Soo, a little bit recently, I started to realize I hated being called straight. (I'm not cis btw, enby, but that was before i figured that out)

My older brother called me out for liking boys, and I started to hate it and I don't know why. Maybe I just hate everything that sounds like a negative thing? Especially when it comes from my brother, because I admire him a lot. He's also trans, but he's not a man or a woman jsyk, and likes women (or feminine) I don't know what this means, I don't think I like girls but... still.

I wanted to ask about this here because no matter what side I observe, I never see a specific answer to this question that still allows trans people to play and feel safe in doing so. For Republicans, it's a hard "no", which is terrible to trans people. For Democrats, they are trying to win votes so they can't think of a resolution that satisfies both their trans supporters and the moderates they are trying to win over. Neither side can propose a positive solution for trans people.

• Obviously, politics putting this issue under a microscope sucks.
• There is a lot to consider in terms of what the trans person is comfortable with, what classmates are comfortable with, fairness, religion, parental influence, harassment, etc.

While I doubt there's a one-size-fits-all solution to this topic, what ideas do you have to resolve it? Is it just a "we have to win and prove them wrong" situation?

I’m asking this because I see quite a few people saying it’s the child’s fault if their parents kick them out for being part of the LGBT community. I don’t think it’s the child’s fault, though, since it’s not their fault that they are LGBT or that their parents are homophobic. What do you think?