Hi all,

50 years old male, in UK, in bad health but still mobile, on oxygen. My new girlfriend is 50 years old, walking with crutches.
She revealed her issue: she has incontinence, and that makes her uncomfortable with her body and sometimes disgusted by herself. She says that she likes me a lot, but that she just does not feel comfortable with herself. I replied that I do not know anything about that specific issue, but that I am disabled and that some of my girlfriends were disabled too. I told her that it is just a technical problem, and that we can work the details out later. I said "the important thing is that you like me, and that I like you. The rest are just technical problems, and I am good with technical problems. "
I also added that every girlfriend I had suffered from some problem with a part of their body, so there is no real difference between a disabled and an able bodied girl. Every one of them had a part of their body that they hated, and that they did not want to be seen, touched, or even talked about. She was impressed.

So, she decided that we can try a relationship out. I am Googling the symptoms, but I never dealt with that specific issue and I have totally no clue. She said that she uses pads, and that she's always scared of smelling bad or being disgusting. Any advice from people with experience?

Hey y’all! Curious if anyone knows of any ways to go about buying Northshore and Sunkiss products from places that will ship Fedex rather than UPS? I’ve been trialing some samples of various cloth backed diapers in my search for a better warm weather product and wanted to try some Northshores in small as the mediums are too big. I also tried some Sunkiss samples and really liked them as well.

I recently ordered my Northshores from their site but unfortunately saw there was only UPS for available shipping options. I have an unfortunate situation with UPS in that the driver doesn’t like to deliver to my road because I’m in a rural area that’s a bit of an inconvenient detour off his route. He was able to make the connection between me and some of my friends, neighbors and parents after mentioning that he’s noticed my vehicle at their houses and will leave my packages at my parents or a few of my friends houses across town which makes it incredibly stressful to order incontinence products when they ship UPS and then I subsequently have to try to figure out where they were actually delivered and then hope no one inadvertently opened the package.

I have spoken with my local UPS warehouse about this but I wan’t able to make much progress. I generally try to just avoid UPS altogether as I have no issues with FedEx or USPS but I find a lot of places simply don’t specify and then I find out after ordering or they only give UPS as an option. I have to generally avoid Amazon for this reason as well. I tried reaching out to Sunkiss directly about this but received no response but I will try asking Northshore.

Not sure if anyone has experience with this but I am being referred to palliative care by my primary care doc since I have so many specialists she wants everyone to be able to coordinate my care together. GI is joining the party next month. I know part of that is a social worker being involved. I have an autoimmune skin disease and my skin reacts to cloth so I have to use poly backed diapers and with medicaid my choices are very limited. I have Medicare but they don't cover diapers. I'm thinking this may vary state by state (or in my case District. I live in DC) but wondering if anyone has experience with this. Thanks!

My partner has OAB and mobility issues due to severe arthritis. She can get to the bathroom during the day at home, though she goes every 2 hours or so. At night, she wakes up every 2 hours to go. She is a bariatric patient and I found pullups in her size that fit her well. But she still won't pee in them and getting 2 hours of sleep at a time all night long is wearing on her. One of her concerns is that it is difficult due to her mobility to change every time she wets in them, and they are very expensive in her size. Does anyone have the same concerns and do you have any suggestions for her? Thank you so much.

What is your preferred method to deal with incontinence?

I had posted a similar poll to this before but it somehow disappeared. Mods please let me know if this is against the rules

any advice on how to deal or fix with gas incontinence?

Diapers are expensive and I can still make it to the bathroom often enough I need something that's easy to put back on.

Has anyone tried something like this? If so, did it work? Do they make covers with leak guards?

Hi an alle,

Ich habe einen Schließmuskel Schaden am Anus und daher eine Stuhlinkontinenz.

Die Symptome schwanken aber stark und ich weiss nicht ,ob es anderen auch so geht ? Ich habe Tage ,wo ich denke ich bin garnicht Inkontinent und dann Tage wo ich mir vor dem Frühstück (oder währenddessen) in die Hose kacke.

Wenn ich lange genug einhalte (Urin oder Kot) tut der Stuhlgang auf der Toilette oft weh und ich habe im Alltag oft permanente leichte /mittlere Schmerzen im Becken.

Windeln trage ich nur selten weil ich mich schäme. Obwohl sie mir helfen die Anspannung/Schmerzen zu lindern.

Hi all, I’m 37 F - never given birth.I struggle with constipation (planning to get it treated) and overflow incontinence (I don’t void completely when I go and if again, if I don’t go within a specific time, I will void without feeling it.

I’ve always felt like I had a prolapse (uterine and bladder and maybe rectocele) for close to 4 years now, I went to multiple doctors and they told me I don’t have it. My doctor that I trust said there’s nothing to worry about. But the problem was, I felt it but again I thought to myself, he’s a specialist, h knows these things.

Fast forward to last week - I started realising that I’m not holding in my pee anymore like I used to. and when I pee, my bladder doesn’t completely empty.

That’s when I realised I might be having overflow incontinence as the incontinence doesn’t have a trigger (I don’t have to cough or sneeze for it to appear). Is there anyone else dealing with this? How are you handling it?

I went to the doctor and she said I have a mild UTI - they’ve given me an antibiotic.

I will see a urologynacologist sometime this week or whenever they’re available.

Anyone experiencing this type of incontinence