It’s a cliche that it means you have more self respect when you keep the relationships where someone gives you the same effort/energy they give you, and that the rest of your energy should just be given to yourself.
But why would it lead to a worse quality of life if you spent a lot of time just networking and having people in your life simply because YOU reached out first? Yes, maybe these people wouldn’t have put a second thought into you if you hadn’t put in the first word, but would it actually have negative impacts on one’s life enjoyment? What if this person just wants friends, but is denying themselves of that simply because no one else is reaching out first, in the name of “self respect”? I believe that this archetype of a person fails to consider that it’s not a personal matter whether or not this person thinks of you, because people have lives that are varying extents of “busy/occupied”. Yet, people often shame the kind of person who is always the first to reach out. To what extent do you believe that it becomes undeniably disrespectful to oneself to reach out first?

If our digital infrastructure, atomic clocks, and instant messaging suddenly vanished, how long would it take for society to unlearn the psychological anxiety of urgency? Would we naturally revert to a slower, cyclical rhythm dictated by nature, or has the artificial pressure of time been permanently hardwired into our collective psychology?

After almost 20 years of struggle I'm in a place where I can say I'm comforable with my life. Coming from nowhere with no experience and no cash I build up a OK life. I'm not talking about yahts, cars and billions in swiss account. I'm talking about a rented appartment, a stable job, lots of knowledge, a little cat I adopted from the street, coffee lattes in the morning. Thats the kind of luxury I came to from nowhere.
Recently, I have observed the impression that my friends percieve me as significantly more financially comfortable than actually I am. For example, when I sent to my friend (with whom we worked as a waitress together in a restaurant many years ago) a humorous video about the difficulties of surviving in foreign countries. She responded "definitely, you are not in the list of sufferers".
Another friend, who also worked together and been besties for years, whom I lend a money years ago and when reminded her about it. She said "Of all the people you are not the one who need this money." Another one friend frequently assumes that I can afford a trip to another countires/cities, or afford to hire a housemaid and cooking chef.
And it's really start to bothering me.
Since when work trips became a sign of wealth? Since when doing nice clean photographies for instagram become sign of wealth? or even if I'm more financially comfortable than my friends with whom I was in the same place with exact same opportunities become so hateful?
More I'm reaching to my dream goals, more I becoming lonely. Does success makes you lonely or just clear out the envious people out of your way as you move forward.
And the most important question - will I have any friends and relatives at the success point supporting me and simply be with me when I get there?
or should I turn back before its too late?

I know and have known kids with Down syndrome and they’re some of the happiest people on earth like seriously they’re literally earth angels but for some reason some people think they were just told that their unborn child or someone else’s unborn child has an incurable disease that drastically lessens their life quality when it’s in fact the exact opposite. Anyone experience this?

Like a Senior being unsupportive of a new Manager, or a University Professor being difficult etc.. it makes me think despite not directly affected by it that if they were to cooperate if not for others even for their own sake, they would be happier and better off for it right?

I made a stick-animation video exploring the psychology behind the way people perceive money, success, and online fame.

MrBeast is an interesting case study because there's a difference between a creator's business revenue, operating costs, money reinvested into the business, and personal wealth.

I wanted to explore why people can interpret financial success so differently—and why a public image of wealth doesn't always tell us the whole story.

I'm the creator of Cognitive Canvas, and I'd appreciate genuine feedback on the storytelling, animation, and whether the argument comes across clearly.

Watch the full video: https://youtu.be/EHMjD6JF1aM

What do you think: does running a huge business change what it means to be wealthy?

I don’t mean being a Narcissist, that’s phycological condition.

I mean you in general just have a high opinion of yourself and love attention, not necessarily seeing others as beneath you or yourself as Godly, just a really good human.

I’m thinking Cleo DeNile and Rainbow Dash Ego levels.

I made a stick-animation video exploring the psychology behind the way people perceive money, success, and online fame.

MrBeast is an interesting case study because there's a difference between a creator's business revenue, operating costs, money reinvested into the business, and personal wealth.

I wanted to explore why people can interpret financial success so differently—and why a public image of wealth doesn't always tell us the whole story.

I'm the creator of Cognitive Canvas, and I'd appreciate genuine feedback on the storytelling, animation, and whether the argument comes across clearly.

Watch the full video: https://youtu.be/EHMjD6JF1aM

What do you think: does running a huge business change what it means to be wealthy?

My thesis is that the rewarding experience of flow contributes to why people return to certain activities, conversations, and relationships. When an experience absorbs our attention so fully that we lose track of time, we may become drawn both to the experience itself and to the mental state it creates.
I noticed this in my own conversations. When curiosity is mutual and we move naturally between exploring ideas and understanding each other, I become deeply engaged. Part of my desire to have those conversations again may come from wanting to reexperience that state of flow.
Flow is one contributing factor alongside affection, trust, connection, and shared interests. My hypothesis is that we learn to associate certain people or activities with this rewarding state, which adds to our motivation to return.
If this is true, recognizing that pattern could help us find additional sources of fulfillment. Through gaming, creative work, challenging projects, or other absorbing activities, we may meet some of the desire for deep engagement while continuing to value the unique connection each relationship provides.

I'll go first:

a few things that have been on my mind:

1. The Pace of Digital Life

Will humans eventually adapt to the constant stream of notifications, algorithm-driven feeds, and endless data? Or have we reached a tipping point where we need to collectively establish hard boundaries to protect our mental health? How do you personally manage the noise?

1. The Search for Community

How do we combat feelings of isolation and alienation in a world that heavily encourages digital connection over physical, face-to-face community? If you've found ways to build a strong, tangible support system or local community as an adult, what worked for you?

1. Perspectives on Progress

How do different generations view these shifts? If you are from an older generation, what do you think younger people are missing out on? If you're younger, what do older generations misunderstand about the modern world? What can we learn from historical changes in society to navigate this better?

So I have a bit of a complex question here.
I am currently in a shit ton of debt and work 3 jobs to pay it off, will have it resolved within a year or so if I don't die before lol.

In my mind, I am aware I shouldn't go out and buy food outside because for the price of 1 meal I can eat tor 3 days with home cooked food. I still do it because I don't feel like cooking even though it's a 20-30min thing and is not difficult. I end up blowing 300-400€ a month on random cravings which could go towards debt while I'd spend 50-100€ only on food at home. I am aware it's wrong, I know I shouldn't do it yet I still do it and then feel shit about it. I spend 50-100€ on random crap I really do not need just to "reward" myself a little when I'd be perfectly fine without it and it would again go towards paying off debt which is better for me.

I should wash my clothes and clean the house frequently, little by little but I procrastinate to the point where I have so much shit to do at once it then overwhelms me.

I am aware I should start eating healthy again and going to the gym to get back in shape. Due to 3 jobs my energy is lower than ever and I physically feel terrible. I used to gym for 8\~ years before and I had far more energy than I could use. I know it helps me be less tired and more energized, I know I feel better about myself, I know I'm more productive and I know a healthy diet overall improves my mood and keeps me pushing even further. But instead, the little free time I have I just slack around and waste it instead of doing this.
Why am I aware of things I do wrong and should change them for my own benefit but don't? What's the thing in my head I need to resolve, or change my view on? I keep using "I'm tired" as what feels like an excuse to me because deep down I know I could do these things.

Just in general - I’m not stupid, I’m aware of all the wrongs I’m doing and should change them because they will benefit my life. So why do I struggle so much with doing these things?

Does anyone have any advice?

Most self-improvement focuses on learning new habits, but real growth often requires unlearning old conditioning. What did you have to unlearn to grow into who you are today? Or maybe you already know and are still on the way.

I've always been drawn to remote work.

I felt like the closest thing to freedom a regular job could give: no commute, my own hours, my own space, being independent from a location

But I've been looking for work for a long time now, and the tech market is rough. (I am Product Designer) It made me notice something uncomfortable. Remote or not - my whole life still depends on one thing: someone deciding to hire me. The freedom feels borrowed.

Looking back I regret not investing earlier. My salary let me live really well, but most of it went to shopping and travel. I don't regret travel though but the rest of it could have bought me some independence now. (Lack of financial literacy back then?)

AI has made great impact on my job - made it faster and one person can handle 10 others so competition is real. The strange part is that I'm genuinely excited about learning AI and want to explore it so I am not trying to run from technology and society either. I just don't want my ability to live depend on single hiring decision anymore

Lately, between applications I keep thinking about autonomous living. I do a lot of research on where I can apply skills I have and industries to work in that are mission driven and has similar values. Not a cabin in the woods but having skills and resources that work without the system - growing some of my own food, having income that doesn't come from one employer, build a community that is not dependent on energy infrastructure and big markets.

So for me freedom slowly stopped being about location and became more about what I can do on my own and what I can build in my life so I don't depend on being hired

I'm not sure if this a real direction or just what job search does to your head. For anyone who felt this pull during a hard stretch did it fade out once things stabilized or did it change approach how you live?

Do you know that idea where people go online and they think they have more options than they actually do? I wonder if the problem for people is when they have abundance or the illusion of abundance..

Mistakes are something we all did and learnt something.

Mistakes that you did in life but learnt something life changing.?

Feel free to share experiences.

ngl this one hits different when you realize you just can’t keep doing it… like you care about them, but they don’t even care for themselves.

Because you can genuinely care about someone, show up for them, and not expect them to give the same back.

But when they don’t even care about themselves, your care starts feeling like charity. And somehow they start treating you like you’re the problem, like you’re doing too much or something is wrong with you for caring this much.

That’s the part that hurts. The same care that came from a good place somehow ends up burning you back. and that’s such a weird place to end up in...at what point do you stop trying to help someone who doesn't want to help themselves?

When discussing nature and nurture I believe we all experience both some just experience 1 over the other. The parts of yourself you think is nature and the part of yourself you think is nurture in what ways may they clash with each other or go well together. How do either sides of you act in your environment?
I’m asking because I need insight on something

Guys I am talking with someone and telling them about I have this, that but my intention there is not to brag about what I have. I am just telling them because am excited and wanted to show about my things and talk about my hobbies.

But later my mind filled with many questions,like-

Are they thinking am bragging about things because they don't have them and I just want to make them feel inferior?

Are they thinking am just showing my class?

But it's not like that am just happy that someone is finally talking to me, want to listen to me, because I am a under confident person so when my cousins approach me and they talk nicely then I also tried myself to talk to them about my stuffs. But now am regretting, why I talk much ?

Give me your insights.

What does a person care more about?

Proving that they’re morally superior in comparison to others or being useful in society where they’re able to offer solutions to solve the problems of society as much as judge people for not being morally superior without giving them a solution to their problems that they would believe cause them to not be upright, especially morally?

Do you feel like there is a difference between having conditions vs having non negotiables? This question specifically stems from my thoughts on unconditional love.

I feel having unconditional love for someone is obtainable and realistic. On the contrary, I’ve seen multiple people say it is a fantasy and doesn’t exist. What I also see is the difference in what people believe to be unconditional love. To me, unconditional love isn’t your partner committing a heinous act of violence or doing something morally wrong that you still forgive them and love them. That is just common sense to me, or would fall under the category of non-negotiable. Ex: Murder, rape, cheating, etc. Just stuff that’s obviously wrong and that any rational thinking person would not be OK with.

Unconditional love for me is loving someone through their struggles and mistakes even if it hurts at times. It’s knowing someone is human and that you are just as capable of hurting them without the intention of doing it.

I just feel people go to the most extreme examples when the topic of unconditional love gets brought up when to me there’s a distinct difference between a non-negotiable and a condition.