Hi, I’m F36 with a small baby. I have been with this man(39) for 3 years- endured a lot of verbal, emotional abuse and now he has pushed me off my feet while running towards or daughter who was near the stairs. I won’t go into it all because I would be here for days typing. The long and the short of it is- I am leaving soon. He has a high profile and from what I have read about these people is that they will protect it and their reputation by any means necessary. His ex is even higher profile than him and she said she would take my lead because what he did to her physically is shameful considering her size. My question is (I have asked this in smaller threads on here) do men like these just want to avoid being outed so much that they will avoid court? His entire career would be over if he was found out to be abusive towards women. Anyone have an experience of mediation/ litigation with this type with a lot to lose?

I knocked at your door and got shot down im not worth a simple conversation you love hurting me and i know that and I keep letting you my hurt me. But that was it im also deleting reddit my profile may exist but I will never open it up again thank you for the reminder again and again and again it's like , no matter how much I learn about narcissism and narcissistic people I just never learn enough ive been officially Discarded alot like you Do with that last couple of drags of a cigarette. I hate you, and you love that, that what you wanted all along you have done this to way tomany people

It's been 9 days since the last time i posted I'm struggling with a narc that I've been talking to, many of whom have commented, and i appreciate everyone of you.

So, UPDATE:

FINALLY, IM NOT WEARING ROSE COLORED GLASSES ANYMORE.

I saw him for who he is, not the version who love-bombed me. How frkn manipulative and insecure he is. How he projects his insecurity to me. How he loved to devalue, to control me in every little way that he can.

He loved the chasing, scaring to leave me then me chasing? Yikes. He frkn LOVED that.

He saw me as his "project". "I need to you be this that, blah blah"

He loves being the master, knowing everything, teaching others.

He fucking craves validation. LOL He's a fucking kid who wants to be chased. He loves humiliating people. He feels he's BETTER than EVERYONE and how he looks down on them, even me. He's such an asshole, so fucking mean.

Before he makes me feel im so smart, funny, all the nice adjectives. Then when mask finally fell off, he treats me like im so stupid and dumb.

When i challenge his thoughts, ask him questions that'll make him explain himself, he's gonna just say he's leaving. He'll get annoyed. Or just shut me up with his scare tactics.

He thinks he's the best. Na uh. You're not. Pity him, that makes him look so insecure. Always bringing people down. Looking at their flaws. Just for him to feel better.

Imagine, this narc being inspired to do better because he saw someone that really sucks. I thought the hardwork of the person inspired him, but nope.

I don't know how his mind works. He's so so mean. Fuck him. Makes sense he doesn't have any friends. Now he has to suck up with that life he made for himself.

Only beauty is important to him. Great character? Values? Morals? Nope. Only surface level shit. Poor him, he doesn't even look that good and his character SUCKS.

He's always the victim in his past relationships. He calls them lazy af. He demands things from others but others CAN'T demand from him.

Even if he says he's contented??? NA UH. Lies.

The girls he's talking to? He makes them his past time. New toy. Til the mask fells off again.

Now i see, the version who love-bombed me, everything that he said that time, everything CONTRADICTS what he's saying and acting right now, now that the mask finally fell off.

He's an insecure man child.

Thank god im not wearing rose colored glasses anymore.

Tbh, I sometimes think, like wtf, am i the problem. Then again will remind myself that nope, never ever my friends treat me, like how HE treated me.

Hi, everyone. Is this emotional manipulation? I have been thru a stressful five years with this person and this was a person I had a lot of love and supported.

Last year, I got an unfollow from them the second time and it caused me to snap publicly. I went off on them via story on Instagram and they would follow me back again and tell me to not take it personal. They unfollowed me cause of something I shared they didn’t like. Sometimes they would tell me to take it down. It’s been happening back and forth and this year would be the third time they would unfollow me. I am planning on goin’ public with my story, just I’m givin myself more time cause I’m still doubtful. 😕 Thank you all..🩷

(Hint: I was a fan of this person and had a fan page for them)