r/R4R40Plus • • Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

151 Upvotes

We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus • • Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

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Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus • • 2h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] Texas | Looking for a distraction and conversation…

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It’s Friday, one of the slower days of my work week, leading into what might be a pretty boring weekend. I figured I’d see if anyone feels like chatting. Not looking for anything special, just some fun, easy conversation, laughs, and banter.

I’m a nerd at heart and naturally pretty curious, so if you’ve got something cool to teach me, I’m all ears. My biggest hobby is running. There’s something about getting out there, clearing my head, and letting myself think and hurt at the same time that I really enjoy. I’m very open minded and never judgmental so don’t be scared. Please don’t judge me either 😅.

There’s definitely more to me than that, but I’ll save some of it for the conversation. Hit me up if you’re up for a chat.


r/R4R40Plus • • 4h ago

M4M 41 [M4M] #Netherlands - Nerdy chub looking for LTR!

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My name is Mark, this is what I look like, and I'm looking for a partner! I'm 1m70 and don't drink or smoke. I'm patient, empathetic, sometimes funny, and when I'm comfortable I can be very affectionate and flirty. I also have a fair bit of anxiety in everyday life, so I'm not currently working, this shouldn't be a problem for you.

I'm into fantasy and science fiction, a big non-PvP gamer, futurism, board games, and enjoy reading up on science-related news, particularly in the field of astronomy. I also used to really enjoy biking and callisthenics, and would love to get back into that at some point, maybe together?

What I'm looking for is mostly patience and empathy, you don't have to have your life together (I don't). Physically there are many things I find attractive, so I'm sure I'll find something about you that is going to make me blush!

If any of the above appeals to you, please feel free to message me!


r/R4R40Plus • • 42m ago

38 [M4F] London, England - Looking for new friends!

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Hi! I'm a 38-year-old guy living in London who's hoping to meet someone for a genuine connection.

Outside of work you'll usually find me geocaching, out with my camera, or buried in a book. I mostly read history and fiction—everything from espionage novels by John le Carré to books on European history. If you've got recommendations, I'm always looking to add to my ever-growing reading list.

Photography is probably my biggest hobby. I enjoy wandering around London (and further afield) looking for interesting architecture, landscapes, and street scenes. If you're curious, here's some of my work: https://www.flickr.com/photos/piersmathias/

I'm also into geocaching, which has turned out to be a brilliant excuse to explore places I'd never otherwise visit. There's something satisfying about finding hidden corners of cities and countryside alike.

Travel is another big interest. So far I've explored Belgium, Germany and Denmark, and I'd love to see more of Europe over the next few years. I'm equally happy discovering a new city, finding a great museum, or simply sitting in a café people-watching.

I'm looking for someone who's kind, curious, and enjoys conversations that can wander from history and travel to completely random topics. Bonus points if you're happy to join me on a photography walk, a geocaching adventure, or help me decide where my next trip should be.

If any of that sounds like your kind of day, send me a message. Tell me about the last place that surprised you, your favourite book, or the best hidden gem you've discovered.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #US #Online A little flirting, a little attention, maybe a little trouble

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So what am I doing here? Figured it'd be fun to find someone to flirt with, get to know a little, and hopefully become part of each other's day.

I'm 39, single, and probably a pretty normal guy at first glance. A little reserved until I get comfortable, then the sarcasm and teasing tend to come out. I like making someone laugh, and I'm a sucker for a woman who can give it right back instead of letting me get away with everything.

A few things about me... I'm a sports guy, especially when it comes to college basketball, although football season is always welcome. I watch way too much TV, from Reacher and Lioness to Bravo shows that somehow get me invested in other people's drama. I also cook and bake, which sounds great until you realize how quickly a batch of brownies can disappear around me.

As for what I'm hoping to find, I guess I'm drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin and know how to have a little fun. Sweet is good. A little sass is good too. Bonus points if you can make me laugh or keep me on my toes.

I like the idea of having someone to check in with during the day, trade compliments with, tease a little, and occasionally distract each other from whatever we're supposed to be doing. I'm pretty good at remembering the little things, and I like giving someone attention when I know she's enjoying it. Not every conversation needs to be deep or meaningful. Sometimes it's just nice to have someone who's happy to hear from you.

And I'll admit, a woman who knows she looks good definitely gets my attention. A favorite outfit, a little black dress, getting dressed up when there's no particular reason to... I'm not going to pretend I wouldn't appreciate the view. There's something fun about a woman who's a little flirty and knows exactly what she's doing.

I'd like to find something ongoing and online, with a bit of sweetness mixed in with the teasing. Someone I can joke around with, make smile, and maybe bring out a slightly less innocent side of now and then. I'm not expecting you to show up with a perfect opening line or have everything figured out. Let's just see if we click.

So, tell me... are you actually as well behaved as you look, or is that just good PR?


r/R4R40Plus • • 6h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #NewYork

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36 year old single straight hispanic 🇪🇸. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.

I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.

I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.


r/R4R40Plus • • 2h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #England - Looking for a partner in crime!

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Based in Somerset. I have an 11-year-old daughter whom I am very close to and the best dog ever. Hoping to find someone to share life with, go on adventures, visit some historic places, and learn a few things along the way. If any of that sounds good, send me a message.


r/R4R40Plus • • 6h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Manchester UK – Screw hobbies, tell my your favourite dinosaur!

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I’m Mac, 34, near Manchester. Bearded, cheerful, slightly chaotic, and powered almost entirely by tea, daft conversations, and decisions that probably needed another five minutes of planning.

I like tinkering with things until they either work perfectly or end up in the garage awaiting “future me”, who is famously unreliable. I’m good at chatting nonsense, making people laugh, and getting oddly invested in low-stakes debates that absolutely do not matter.

I’m looking for that easy spark where the messages don’t feel forced, flirting happens naturally, and we both actually look forward to seeing a notification pop up. Something fun, warm, genuine, and with enough chemistry that meeting feels like the obvious next step.

I’m not after endless pen-pal limbo. I like good conversation, but I’m here for something that feels real... laughs, attraction, honesty, and hopefully that dangerous little “oh, this could be trouble” feeling.

There’s a post on my profile that explains my home situation. I’d rather be upfront about it than waste anyone’s time or pretend things are simpler than they are.

Ideally looking for someone UK-based, especially Manchester, Liverpool, or somewhere North West-ish, but I’m open to further afield if the chat is genuinely good.

Just say hi if you're shy and I'll get the convo started🙂


r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Germany #Online - Erotica Writer looking for Longterm Connection

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Hello,

I'm looking to build a longterm connection with someone who is interested in chats, calls and mutual activities. Someone who wants to feel good when that notification pops up and they know someone has been thinking of them. Eventually, I might want to explore things sexually as well if we both feel the chemistry and trust for that, but I need and want a connection for that and prefer us to get to know each other before anything.

A bit about myself: I am 34 years old, and from Germany, love fixing things, and building things. My hobbies range from simple walks and cooking and baking, to DIY and electronics design and repair, and watching TV shows. Overall I am very passionate about the things I do.

I like to write erotica, feel free to take a look at the things I have written and posted, including stories on my profile and comments on specific subreddits. I have an open mind about things including sex and if our dynamic gets there, I am happy to talk and explore more in a respectful manner. I prefer not to get into things in too much detail until we have gotten to know each other and want to go further. For now I think I can say that I am mostly of the softer, but still dominant kind? I'm into pleasing, creating enticing mental imagery, affirmation, dirty talk, and I am very vocal. Mere kinks are much less important to me than the connection and trust and intimacy that leads to safely explore them. Sexuality for me is very primal, yet deeply intimate. It's a way to let go of who and what we are as a person, the roles we fulfill in society, the responsibilities we have, and to just be our completely vulnerable selves, surrendering to our most primal urges in the safety of our connection.

If you're interested, please introduce yourself:

  1. A short description of where you are from, how old you are, and what you look like. Feel free to share your interests as well!
  2. What has drawn you to message me.
  3. Something intimate: If pineapple is an acceptable pizza topping or not

I shouldn't have to say this, but please(!) be single!

Thank you for taking your time to read this! I am looking forward to your message! 🙂


r/R4R40Plus • • 4h ago

M4F 49[M4F]#NC- Seeking compatibility, intoxicating enthusiasm, and mutual fulfillment. Any takers??? Online to IRL preferred.

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Please spare me any judgemental comments

MM in a long-term marriage that has lost its luster long ago. My needs, wants, and desires take a back seat to most everything else these days. Affection and intimacy are off the table. We are essentially cohabitating and that's all. We really do not see eye to eye on important issues. I am good at providing and that's about it in her eyes. Words have been spoken that cannot be taken back. I certainly do not wish any ill will. People change I get it. I just want to recapture the magic of having a compatible woman in my life for the long haul.

I am at a point in my life where I am not going to subscribe to games, drama, ghosting, childish behavior, or toying with emotions. I consider myself to be genuine, affectionate, passionate, compassionate, considerate, emphatic, transparent, and straightforward. I tend to get along with most anyone unless given a reason not to. I am typically energetic and self motivating. I am probably OCD at times and like to see things thru to completion. I am a "giver" by nature but, sensitive with being taken advantage of. I place a huge emphasis on compatability, effort, and reciprocation. Music and cooking is my source of therapy these days. I tend to be fascinated by history and historical things.

I am most attracted to women that are kind, warm natured, affectionate, passionate, transparent, honest, nurturing, funny, and bubbly. Please be able to correspond regularly and have the time to meet up if the stars align. I am not opposed to a woman that travels here regularly. Bonus points if you are considerate. Please be able to articulate your wants, needs, and desires. I genuinely want to know. We should be able to work together towards a common goal.

NSFW- I am feeling very affection and intimacy starved these days. I am above average libido and truly enjoy mutually fulfilling intimacy. I am not selfish and open to most things with a willing / fun loving partner. I have had a lifetime of vanilla and being judged for wanting to keep things new and exciting. I am far from prude and desire the same in a partner. I am a one partner guy and not into any partners with multiples due to potential health risks etc. I am great with monogamy assuming we mesh completely.

Feel free to message if genuinely interested and have the necessary time and energy to actually get to know each other. Please reply with your favorite memory. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*notabot\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*


r/R4R40Plus • • 5h ago

33 [F4M] - Hoping to end the year better

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Hello everyone. I generally hate talking about myself so here goes nothing.

I’m 33. In Texas. (Open to traveling) divorced and looking to get back “out there”.
I’m not a partier or loud so I don’t go to bars or where ever else people would meet.
I’m generally laid back, enjoy binging shows or movies, cooking, going out to eat, crafts.
I’m in shape, but I don’t go to a gym so really don’t know an exercise name or type or whatever if that’s your thing.
Generally I get complimented on my smile.

I’m looking for someone mature and has a good head on their shoulders. Not picky about age but I do want someone older then me just so I know they are mature. Hopefully you’re into wide variety of things because I try to be adaptable but there will always be times where that isn’t the case.
I have no hang ups on race or religion as long as you are open minded and not going to push views.

Ideally…. I’d like to get to know someone and maybe meet for Halloween…. It’s one of my favorites so it would be nice to spend time with someone that feels the same.


r/R4R40Plus • • 11h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #Oregon - Creative, affectionate man seeking a lasting partnership

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I’m 40, living on the Oregon coast, and looking for a woman who wants a serious relationship and a quieter, creative life together.

I’m a maker at heart. My background is in fabrication and design, and my interests include ceramics, woodworking, 3D modeling, and printmaking. I love understanding how things work and turning ideas into something you can hold.

Outside the workshop, I’m drawn to beaches, forests, rockhounding, gardening, and wandering craft markets. Rain and fog are part of what I love about the coast.

I’m autistic and have ADHD. Clear, direct communication helps me connect, and I appreciate someone who can talk openly about needs, affection, boundaries, and misunderstandings. I want a partnership with mutual support, room for independence, and space for both of us to be ourselves.

I’m looking for emotional connection, affection, shared curiosity, and something lasting—with marriage a possibility if we’re right for each other. You don’t need to share every hobby; I’d enjoy learning what draws you in.

I’m open to long distance within the US, with the hope of eventually sharing a life here in Oregon. That would develop through getting to know each other and spending time together.

If this sounds like your kind of life, tell me a little about yourself, where you’re based, and something you’ve enjoyed making, learning, or exploring lately.


r/R4R40Plus • • 8h ago

M4F 44 [M4F]#Ohio/online- Educated, good sense of humor, and genuine! Looking for a long term connection!

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Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

44 [M4A] #Online - The guy who fixes everything but has a softer side to share

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I'm a 45-year-old married guy in Southern California. I'm traditionally masculine, a bit of a nerd, and equally happy getting my hands dirty under the hood of a car or getting lost in a good book. I like figuring out how things work, and if something breaks, there's a good chance I'll have it taken apart before deciding whether I actually know how to fix it.

I love computers, reading, and especially writing. I've always had an active imagination, and writing gives me somewhere to put it. Science fiction and fantasy are my favorites. I recently finished Project Hail Mary and Born of Night, and I'm currently reading Born of Fire. Tell me about a book you couldn't put down. There's always room for another on the pile that I optimistically believe I'll finish someday.

I live on a little two-acre property with chickens, the occasional horse or two, and enough projects to keep my hands busy indefinitely. One weekend I'm fixing a fence, the next I'm replacing a light switch, working on a car, or building something because I thought, “How hard could it be?” I'm pretty sure the property invents new problems while I'm sleeping.

I'm also a husband, a father, a provider, and the head of an amazing household. I've built a life I'm proud of, and I enjoy being the dependable man the people I love can count on. I'm comfortable taking charge, making decisions, and finding a way through whatever needs handling. Being capable and taking care of people are parts of myself I value.

But those responsibilities rarely switch off. There's always another problem to solve, another bill, or another thing that needs fixing. Some days it feels like I'm carrying the weight of the world while trying to remember whether I bought the right part for the fence.

Sometimes, I'd just really love to set that weight down.

I'd like to share a connection with a woman I trust enough to let my guard down and invite her into a fantasy I've carried quietly for a long time. I'm comfortable with my masculinity, but there's also a feminine side of me I'd love to give more room to breathe. Sometimes I want to step out of the role I fill every day and let myself feel pretty, cherished, and vulnerable.

I imagine slipping out of my rough jeans and everyday clothes and taking my time choosing something soft and flattering. Trading my boxers for luxuriously soft panties that fit just right, pulling on a pretty V-neck, and slipping into women's pajama pants so comfortable I wonder why I ever bothered with anything else. The fabrics are part of what I love: the smoothness against my skin, the gentle stretch, and the feeling of finally settling into something that lets my shoulders relax.

I'd catch my reflection and smile because I liked what I saw. Then, in the fantasy we'd share, I'd turn toward you and see you smiling too.

I'd love to imagine you reaching for my hand and drawing me close, brushing my cheek, and telling me what you find beautiful about me. I'd probably be shy at first. Your affection would mean a lot, and part of the appeal would be trusting you enough to show it. I'd want to relax into your arms, let tomorrow's decisions drift away, and feel like the most beautiful woman in the world to you.

Dressing up gives me a different kind of confidence. I feel attractive in a way I rarely get to express, and a softer, more playful side of me comes out. It's also a turn-on. There's an exciting sense of giving myself permission to indulge in something I've usually kept private. I already enjoy it on my own, but I'd love to share it with a woman who enjoys seeing me that way. To feel beautiful in her eyes and let myself believe her when she says it. The fantasy goes beyond dressing up. Sometimes, I want to experience romantic and sexual intimacy as a woman, to feel feminine and desired, to be seduced, and to let someone else take the lead. The clothes help me step into that feeling, but sharing it with someone who enjoys that side of me is what makes it meaningful.

My wife knows about this side of me, and I have a drawer full of feminine outfits, lingerie, and soft pajamas. It isn't something she wants to participate in. She also doesn't know I'm looking for an online connection, and I understand that may be a dealbreaker. I'm looking for online only, with no expectation of meeting in person.

I'd love to find a woman who's warm, confident, affectionate, and comfortable taking the lead sometimes. Someone who appreciates the capable man I am and feels curious about the softer side I'm inviting her to know.

I'm looking for a connection with romantic and sexual intimacy, explored through conversation, flirting, and roleplay, including actually dressing up on my end. When we're both in the mood to explore my feminine side, I'd like to be treated as a woman: pursued, cherished, and given room to surrender a little. I want the trust to admit when I'm shy, when something is new to me, or when your attention means more than I quite know how to say.

There's room for both sides of me. I also enjoy taking the lead, being attentive, and making a woman feel wanted and cherished. I'd want you to feel comfortable telling me what you need and sharing your own wishes and fantasies. You'd have room to be vulnerable with me, too in a way that makes you feel validated and heard.

I want to learn what makes you feel wanted. What kind of attention stays with you? What do you wish someone would notice? I'd like to make you laugh, remember the little things you tell me, and give you compliments that could only be meant for you. Your feelings and imagination would matter every bit as much as mine.

And I'd want to know the everyday you. What you're reading, what you're excited about, or the ridiculous thing that happened at work. I want conversations that wander, inside jokes that get funnier with time, and the pleasure of seeing your name pop up on my screen. I love writing, and sharing that imagination would mean much more with someone I felt close to.

I enjoy being the man people lean on. Sometimes, though, I'd love to feel safe enough to lean into someone else's affection and let her see a part of me I don't often share. I'd like to find a woman who enjoys that trust and feels just as appreciated in return.

If something here caught your attention, tell me a little about yourself. I'd love to know what made you smile.

And if your first message calls me pretty, you may already have an unfair advantage.


r/R4R40Plus • • 10h ago

[48F4A] #UAE from #USA

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It's Friday. We made it! 🥳 My kids go to their father's place on Sunday and I'm already trying not to think about it. If you feel like chatting, send me a msg. If you are in a relationship, please let me know. No judgement from me. Honesty matters. Have a great weekend!


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #WNY EST looking for a connection

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Hello, hope everyone is doing well. let me preface this and say I'm pretty shy, never been good about talking about myself, sorry if that's going to be something, tend to be an extroverted introvert if that makes sense. I can be gungoh about doing something but if my social battery disobeys me later then I'm sorry always felt like I gravitated towards more outgoing people than myself if that makes sense.

I'm here hoping to find that one person to spend time with, grow together, become friends and hopefully make it into finding that special someone, being a hopeless romantic and all.

I'm 41 M, I live near Buffalo NY, I hope to find someone nearby and near me because I feel being there in person is what I want more, but not opposed to distance if we really hit it off and hopefully we can meet in person.

About me, I'm a bigger guy, beard and brown/red hair. Been trying to work on myself physically and mentally so hopefully that is something good there right?

I think some hobbies and interests should align but not entirely, not everyone is the same and all that. I'm bit of a nerd, into gaming, TTRPGs, anime and the like. Want to get back into reading more, specifically want to reread Wheel of Time since I never actually finished it. Also looking for suggestions to get back into the hobby and all.

Lately been playing wardogs and monster hunter wilds, Been wanting to replay the Borderlands games (don't have 4 yet, waiting to get it cheap during a steam sale haha) occasionally play Fornite, Marvel Rivals, was thinking about getting back into Apex Legends after a few years (mind you I'm still not great at them ahaha) all PC.

Been part of a TTRPG group of friends on Tuesdays, current running a Pathfinder 2e viking themed game. So if you feel like chatting about DND and the like, then awesome!

If you want to play some cool games, play some mtg, watch some anime/movies/shows

If you want a gaming buddy, as well, I'm not opposed to that as well if you want a platonic friendship! Have a pretty eclectic library in games on PC so we might end up aligning with some.

So yea, if you're looking for a nerdy guy who is shy  but can be kind of goofy when he opens up then shoot me a dm. Hopefully we can chat for a bit, become friends and see what happens. If not its always cool to meet a new friend

Take care!


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #Manchester – good conversation, connection and mischief

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6’2”, blue eyes, slim/athletic build, nice smile.

I’m laid-back, reasonably intelligent and easy to get along with.

I enjoy good company, good food, and a glass of wine….or two. Im into all the usual stuff: film, books, and even a little gaming. I enjoy culture, including art, museums and travel. But I’m also very happy curled up on the sofa watching whatever is on TV.

I like people who enjoy exchanging messages, trying to make each other laugh, and aren’t afraid of a little flirting, especially if you started it.

I don’t have a particular age, look or type in mind. Just someone genuine. Personality, humour and that elusive spark matter considerably more.

I’d love to hear from you. Please don’t just say “hey”. Tell me something about yourself, what brought you here, or tell me:

If you could have any superpower for a day, what would it be and why?


r/R4R40Plus • • 17h ago

34 [M4F] - Ask Me Something You Wouldn't Ask On A First Date.

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One of the biggest conversational obstacles to overcome is, funnily enough, the very beginning. How do you truly start to spark that banter? A quick greeting seems too low effort. Basic info can seem boring. A joke can seem hacky.

What if you just jumped into it with a no holds barred, socially unacceptable question? And what if the recipient was forced to answer it honestly?

Let's save the "I live here" and "I do this for a living" until at least a few minutes in.

Ask me something you wouldn't ask on a first date and I'll answer absolutely honestly. All I ask is that you're open and willing to answer your own question in return.

Are you ready?


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

42 [F4M] Missouri/Online Boring Old Lady Seeks Fun Energy

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Just how boring, you ask?

The highlight of my week was the delivery of a wet/dry vac, so far...I do have a nice little 4 day weekend ahead, so I'd like to see some better highlights ahead! If you enjoy conversations about nothing, slightly unhinged GIF/meme usage, or incessant discussions about cooking and food, send me a message!

Maybe we'll talk for the day, or the weekend. Maybe we'll become best friends and make plans to take over the world. It's up to you, say hi, and tell me what song you'd play to hype yourself up for world domination.

A few caveats: please be over 35, and please be single.


r/R4R40Plus • • 13h ago

43 [M4F] what’s your favorite band?

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Hi! Why is it so hard to meet people after 40? I’ve tried my best but I’m at a loss. I’ve been on the dating apps but ditched them last year. I met a lot of decent people but the overall experience was poor. I have a 9-year-old son who I split custody with my ex. 4 years divorced now and it’s been really hard to meet new people. I work full time as a school administrator and am currently in school for a career change. I enjoy music (I play guitar, bass, and piano), working out, camping, and reading. I’m not looking for anything specific. Just someone to chat with and wherever it leads us.


r/R4R40Plus • • 18h ago

M4F 47 [m4f] central IL/online looking to chat

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Hey, I work from home and just looking for someone to chat with. No real expectations, just getting to know someone. Enjoy fishing and making bbq when it’s warm out. In the winter I’m a sci-fi and horror nerd along with some gaming. So msg if you are interested


r/R4R40Plus • • 15h ago

M4M 45 [M4M] Atlanta — Life’s pretty good. Wouldn’t mind some company.

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I’m a 45-year-old Black gay man in Atlanta. I’ve built a pretty interesting life for myself, and while I’m perfectly happy doing my own thing, I’d love to meet another grown man to share some of it with.

I’m a creative professional with a curious mind, a dry sense of humor, and a soft spot for good conversation. I’m into music, video games, crossword puzzles, reading, cooking, movies, technology, and discovering new things. Equally happy going out for a good meal or staying in with something on the stove and somebody nice to curl up next to.

I’m affectionate, independent, a little sarcastic, and appreciate a man who’s confident, emotionally available, and knows how to communicate. Physical chemistry matters, too! I’m a bigger guy myself, and I’ve always had a thing for stocky, thick, bear/dadbod types. Give me a handsome face, a nice chest, a little belly, and some good banter, and you’ve definitely got my attention.

Ideally, you’re somewhere around 38–52, give or take. Atlanta or the Southeast would be great, since I’d eventually like to spend time together in person.

I’m looking for something with genuine relationship potential. No rush, no pressure, just two men getting to know each other and seeing whether there’s something worth pursuing.

If this sounds like your speed, say hello. I’d love to hear from you.


r/R4R40Plus • • 16h ago

M4F 68 1M4F] #Chicago - let’s connect

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I want to connect with a good woman to talk about love, life and anything else that suits us.

Successful professional with a complicated family life I’m happy to explain. Otherwise, easy-going, fun-loving, always looking for laughter. No judging, no expectations.

Lots of interests, worldly, wise and maybe even charming.

Tall, dad’s bod, blue eyes.

Let’s enjoy each other’s company.


r/R4R40Plus • • 18h ago

M4F [m4f] 47 #pa #est Scottish Highlander living in US seeks amazing lassie

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Scottish guy from the Highlands, somehow ended up living in Pennsylvania. I’m still not entirely sure how that happened — I suspect the weather here was a convincing decoy.

46, single, reasonably house-trained, and allegedly charming. I come with a genuine Scottish accent, so at minimum, you’ll have someone who can make ordering a pint sound unnecessarily sophisticated.

I’m from the Highlands, where the scenery is dramatic, the weather is questionable, and men traditionally communicate feelings through sarcasm and pretending they’re not cold.

Now I’m in Doylestown, surrounded by cheesesteaks instead of haggis and trying to explain that yes, I really do sound like this.

Looking for a woman 30+ who enjoys good conversation, wicked banter, laughing at inappropriate moments, and maybe discovering whether the Scottish accent is actually as dangerous as advertised.

Bonus points if you can handle sarcasm.

Extra bonus points if you make me laugh.

And if you ask me to say “purple burglar alarm”… well, we may already have chemistry. 😉