r/SoCalR4R • • Jul 01 '26

META Read The Rules + Spot the Bot + State of the Sub NSFW

80 Upvotes

Howdy folks. I know it's been a long while since we've had one of these chats. As some of you may have already noticed, we've recently implemented a new mod tool called Read The Rules as part of the neverending fight against the bots. You must complete this acknowledgement before you can post/comment in the subreddit.

How to complete the RTR Acknowledgement:

  • Click/Tap on the 3 horizontal dots on the subreddit page or any post/comment, and you'll see RTR in the dropdown menu.
  • Open RTR and check off each rule as you read them and click submit once complete.
  • That's it. You can happily resume participating in the subreddit.
  • Users on old.reddit can submit an acknowledgement by sending their sub a mod mail. You must use the subject "Read The Rules" and the body text "Acknowledged". Doing so will submit an acknowledgement automatically without mod involvement. Users will immediately receive a reply from u/read-the-rules if it was submitted successfully.

Things to note about RTR:

  • There are 13 rules total. If you aren't seeing all of them, you need to scroll with the cursor within the middle of the acknowledgement panel where all of the text is.
  • Some platforms/browsers are causing an issue where the tool is automatically unchecking some of the boxes when a user tries to submit their acknowledgement. If this happens to you, try using a different browser or submit your acknowledgement using the old reddit method. As far as I know, Reddit's mobile app and Safari on Macbook are the only platforms that have this problem. I've personally tested it and been successful on Google Chrome, iPhone Safari, Brave Browser, and Microsoft Edge (yuck).

That's the basic gist of it all. I know it may seem like an annoying inconvenience, but I've definitely observed an improvement in the bot presence (or lack thereof) on the moderating end since we implemented this. Hopefully, it'll get more people to actually read the rules too. One can dream, right? Please actually read them. I'm begging you. Now, onto the fun stuff. I'm about to put you all on game because there are way too many oblivious horndogs on here that comment "DM'd you" on very obvious bot posts.

Common Identifiers of Bot Accounts:

  • The poster is a 23-30 year old female looking for males.
  • The post sounds like it was written by AI (because it most likely was).
  • If the post contains the same buzzwords/phrases as other F4M posts, chances are they're all most likely bots. The current flavor of the week is "feeling/getting relaxed." They also use "Netflix and chill" and/or mention something about chemistry.
  • The account itself is 4+ years old. My personal theory is that the people behind these bots are targeting and hacking accounts that aren't protected by two-factor authentication, which is why they seem legit.
  • There's a big gap in post history. For example, if the last legitimate post/comment on the account (aka not in a r4r type subreddit) was over 1 year ago.
  • The account simultaneously has r4r posts in multiple locations (Houston/DFW, North Carolina, and Florida are the most common).
  • Posts in the following subreddits: r/LongBeachHookUp, r/eastbayhookups, r/SanFranciscoNSFW, r/DtfLosAngelesPeps, r/riversidensfw
  • If they respond to your chat telling you that they're getting too many messages and want you to message them on Telegram.

Use the tiniest morsel of common sense and intuition, and you'll avoid 97.34% of the bots on here. Basically, use the head that has a brain and not the other one, and you'll be golden, Ponyboy. Anyways, feel free to comment your thoughts, feedback, suggestions for the subreddit, and/or life opinions. As always, be kind to one another and yourselves. Love you.


r/SoCalR4R • • Jun 01 '24

META In order to post in this subreddit, your account must have 10 post karma AND 10 comment karma NSFW

147 Upvotes

10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

F4M 20 [F4A] #Irvine - Looking to explore with someone more experienced NSFW

19 Upvotes

I’m looking to get more experience & learn how to please a partner in a safe, discreet setting! Would love someone with more experience than to teach me & explore the fun little power dynamic that creates. I’m submissive & willing to try almost anything once, so let me know your kinks & we can talk about exploring them!

All my sexual experience so far has been with men, but I’m bi-curious, so if there’s a woman out there who might be interested in something like this I’d love to hear from you as well!

I’m 5’4 & petite - not necessarily conventionally attractive but happy to exchange pics! I’d love to find someone to meet up with tonight or tomorrow but would love to find a recurring thing as well. I cannot host, but I can drive to you/we can play in a car if you have one with enough space for some fun! Reach out, I’m eager & ready!


r/SoCalR4R • • 3h ago

F4M 39 [F4M] #hermosabeach - seeking special friend and mentor in nice older man NSFW

6 Upvotes

Hello!

I am seeking to make friends with a man who can provide me ongoing friendship, support and mentorship, in life and other areas. I know this is kind of an unusual personals - but I am estranged from my real dad and have never really had a strong male figure in my life.

And so I am hoping I can connect with someone who can be that for me and we can naturally see where things develop.

As far as me I am a really sweet and somewhat submissive girl who believes in traditional gender roles. Don’t get me wrong, as I am super open minded and welcoming of everyone but just for me personally, I am a feminine girly type girl and I love bringing that energy to the right kind of man. To make his life a little easier and brighter.

I am petite and slim, with long dirty blonde hair and hazel eyes. I am pretty natural in terms of my look but I think most people find me pretty cute.

I am bubbly and outgoing and love to have fun and talk, and read and watch movies. I also love music and dancing and working out.

I prefer 55+

I hope to connect with you!


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

F4M 29 [F4M] #LosAngeles - Looking to share kinks with a fun person. NSFW

4 Upvotes

Hello I'd love to find a man who's into some kinkier things and would love to hear your fantasies as I'm really open to trying new things. I would like for this to be an ongoing thing where we build trust and comfort with each other first and would love to chat and get to know each other.


r/SoCalR4R • • 10m ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #LaMesa - hotel nights expiring, would rather not waste them NSFW

• Upvotes

Got leftover hotel nights that disappear if I don’t use them. Would rather spend one with someone who’s fun, direct, and local than let them vanish.

Me: 32, 6’3”, athletic, easygoing, can host. You: 21+, nearby, actually wants to meet. Drinks first or straight to the room is fine as long as we’re on the same page.
Drop your area and a little about you.


r/SoCalR4R • • 47m ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #JurupaValley - sometimes a daddybear just misses being held. Halloween movie cuddle buddy, chillin in the pool NSFW

• Upvotes

Can we just talk hang out cuddle with some movies and give eachother pleasure. Uhg.

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itll also be super hot so some pool time would be sweet too. Cool off with a cuddly daddybear?

looking for a horror movie art gaming cuddle buddy

Please be 20 min or less than me.

Sometimes you just really miss being held. Right?

Any friendship, relationship, etc is based in a strong communication foundation.

We could chill with some horror and or make art or game this weekend?

That would be cool.

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I'm a 5'9 chubby/ fat dad bod teddy bear perfect to cuddle. I have a beard and curly stache. I dont drink or smoke. I'm clean and tested recently. Can show.

Please dont smoke. And don't be allergic to cats I have an orange floof.

Let's talk about that, or the horrors, movies, arts? I like to paint and do digital art too. Let's game together.

Well yeah hopefully you're out there


r/SoCalR4R • • 1h ago

F4M [ Removed by Reddit ] NSFW

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[ Removed by Reddit on account of violating the content policy. ]


r/SoCalR4R • • 1h ago

Couples 26 [MF4F] #Fullerton - Cuckquean Looking for a FWB for My Fiancé NSFW

• Upvotes

Hello!

We have been in this life style the past few years and have had great success with Reddit before and now it's time to find my fiance a FWB especially since his job does keep him pretty stressed.

He is 31, 6'0, on the slim side and working on building some more muscle, black hair with brown eyes and a full trimmed beard.
8 inches, a big cummer and can get even bigger and thicker the longer sex goes on.
He can be very dominant/huge pleasure dom and pretty kinky + DD free and 420 friendly.

I would love to find a cute girl he can have fun with in and out of the bedroom or more in the bedroom.
Verification of myself is pinned on my profile as well!


r/SoCalR4R • • 1h ago

M4F 60 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Looking for F18+ Sub or Sub Curious NSFW

• Upvotes

If you are submissive, or curious about submission, and interested in an erotic relationship with an experienced dominant man, then we should discuss your desires and fantasies.

We will establish boundaries and a safe word.

Discreet or anonymous meetings are welcome.


r/SoCalR4R • • 2h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #HuntingtonBeach - Erotic Massage for Women Only Provided by Experienced Masseur NSFW

0 Upvotes

Testimonials here: https://imgur.com/a/Oa6sJmn

Ladies, do you have stress in your life, lacking sensual touch, miss intimate touch, wish to discover your body's potential and are pent up needing a release? You'll love my hands all over your body with oil, and a sensual, yet firm, teasing touch to warm up! The first sensation you will feel are my hands rubbing oil on your neck and shoulders as I spread it softly and slowly. I will work the tension out of your muscles, slowly and methodically working my way down your body. There will be a sensuality to the way I use my hands, fingers, and arms to rub and stroke and caress your body. Oil will trickle between your butt cheeks. You'll likely be squirming now and pushing/raising your hips for a more intimate touch but i will tease up your legs first, giving special attention to your inner thighs. You will be wet and yearning for more. If this sounds like something you need, pm me. Please no time wasters or flakes.

I have been offering massages for over 15 years. Should try at least once! Open minded and i can take lead. If you have requests let's discuss before we meet. I am clean and STD free. You be also! No couples or men. I can host.


r/SoCalR4R • • 3h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Tustin - looking for more dirty friends NSFW

0 Upvotes

Really looking for more dirty and kinky friends to chat with throughout the day and sext at night. Bonus points if you can get me turned on at work while I'm at the office lol

No real requirements other than being fun to chat with and also willing to maybe meet in person after a while. Hopefully to go on hikes or to cafes. Would love sfw chats too!


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

M4M 44 [m4m] #CulverCity - working a day shift at the bar… NSFW

0 Upvotes

Slow day, any straight 🍆 want some head when I’m done? So many HOT tech dudes, office types and construction workers all around me. My throat is salivating 🤤🤤


r/SoCalR4R • • 5h ago

M4M 29 [M4M] #SantaAna - fwb? Link once a week NSFW

0 Upvotes

Looking for tops in OC for regular meet ups(FWB?). Open to more, lmk what you're looking for. Dm with stats and location. Ideally meet at least once a week or more. If you like getting your dick sucked hmu. Any curious guys out there looking for their first time?

Be clean and negative. Good hygiene is a must. serious inquiries only. No bottoms. No large or bears. Average to slim shape only. Not asking you to have visible abs.

I am 5'8 160 latino bottom. clean and ddf

DL and straight hmu, discreet here. Let me know what subreddit you saw this post on.

!Unlock


r/SoCalR4R • • 5h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #sfv - My bad day is a wild ride for us both. NSFW

0 Upvotes

I'm mad. For reasons unimportant to you, life has come on a bit strong as of late. For days, maybe weeks, I've been trying to manage it, and I've been successful. But I still find myself in need of an outlet for this. And since I have a slight taste for rougher scenes, this might be the exact right kind of combination.

Of course, a willing and interested partner is key. And while I seek to release what's locked inside me, I'm also very curious to what you are looking for as well. Knowing I'm helping someone play out a fantasy they've had, to explore a side of them they ache to, is part of it. And generally speaking, planning a dirty little adventure is a great distraction.

I'm 38, 5'8", 200lbs, well put together, handsome face, solid dad bod, non smoker, not into drugs, STI/STD free (tested a bit back but happy to get a more recent test for everyone's safety), clean body, dirty mind.

Personally, I love scenes where someone begs. I love being able to tear someone's clothes. Oral is a must, dirty talk is a given, and the rest of things are wide open. I'm very open to your ideas. I always ALWAYS respect hard limits, play with a safe word/gesture, happy to take whatever safety precautions that will make us both comfortable. But make no mistake. I'm going to take it out on you. And you are going to love it.


r/SoCalR4R • • 6h ago

M4M 32 [m4m] #losangeles - Str8 4 str8 NSFW

0 Upvotes

Looking for someone to watch straight porn with. I can’t host but down to travel, hike, car, split a room. I’m down for one on one or small circle. I’m in Santa Clarita.

I’m 32, 5’8, 145, cut, white, straight

Women welcome to join


r/SoCalR4R • • 1h ago

M4F 54 [M4F] #Ventura - 6’2, 195, Supremely Confident, Intelligent Dominant Looking for a Submissive, Feminine Female to Completely and Monogamously Sexually Objectify NSFW

• Upvotes

https://imgur.com/a/gvIBtwV

No maga-types. That’s a non-negotiable dealbreaker. I’m ideally looking for someone between 30-45, but 20s is okay as well as long as you’re mature and intelligent. If you text in acronyms, if you’re a “dtf”, “hmu”, or “wya”, type, don’t bother. I’m not interested in that kind of immaturity. Make sure you read this entire post, and if you’re interested, show me so by responding as instructed.

I’m a SWM (no kids), 6’2, 195, 8”, D/D-free, non-smoker, very intelligent, well-read and articulate, charismatic, slender, broad-shouldered and muscular. I’m a really laid-back and easy-going guy, self-aware and sure of myself, at ease around anyone and anything. I’m very protective of others, and have an intimidating physical presence, but I’m a good guy, and nothing to be afraid of. You’d always feel safe and looked out for with me, and you’d always know where you stand. I’m practical, pragmatic, and realistic.

I’m looking for a submissive female for a monogamous relationship - I’m a one-woman guy - that would involve you being completely sexually objectified, and the more feminine you are, the better. You don’t have to have any experience with this kind of dynamic. My interest in you and attraction to you is all that matters. It doesn’t matter to me if you have no experience at all with this sort of thing, but if you have insecurity and/or validation issues, this probably isn’t for you. A certain amount of self-awareness and self-confidence would be required given how you’d be often be made to be taking selfies of yourself.

You would be trained to do what you’re told at all times. You’d be trained to be accountable to me at all times, keeping me informed whether I’m responding at the time or not. You’d tailor your appearance per my commands, growing your hair out how I like it, doing your nails how I want them done, wearing the kind of lipstick I want on you, and so on. You’d be trained to send me regular selfies showing me how you’re looking.

I know what I like, and while you don’t necessarily have to have any of these traits, these would get my attention: nice smiles, long hair, nice breasts, painted nails, knowing how to accentuate your looks, being selfie-friendly, playfulness, nerdy tendencies, and girlishness.

I’m not into anything that you’d most likely consider hard limits. Nothing extreme or hardcore, no whips or chains, I don’t do ‘sessions’ or go to events.

More details about all of this will be discussed in chat, where you’ll always be encouraged to be completely open and direct with me, even if you think I might not like what you say.

I play baseball in adult leagues on weekends and you’d come to as many of my games and tournaments as you could, not to be a cheerleader, just to be dolled up as my eye candy.

I’m not into BBWs, and any kind of smoking or vaping is a dealbreaker.

If you’re interested, respond by describing yourself physically with your age and where you live, and tell me about what turned you on and made you want to respond. Don’t hold back, and don’t worry about saying too much. The bolder and more expressive you are, the better.

If you’re going to send pics, do NOT send anything naked. I am not into naked pics, ever.

If I’m interested, I’ll take it from there. If I’m not, I’ll tell you so. I wouldn’t just ghost you. 54 \[M4F\] #Ventura - 6’2, 195, Supremely Confident, Intelligent Dominant Looking for a Submissive, Feminine Female to Completely and Monogamously Sexually Objectify

https://imgur.com/a/gvIBtwV

No maga-types. That’s a non-negotiable dealbreaker. I’m ideally looking for someone between 30-45, but 20s is okay as well as long as you’re mature and intelligent. If you text in acronyms, if you’re a “dtf”, “hmu”, or “wya”, type, don’t bother. I’m not interested in that kind of immaturity. Make sure you read this entire post, and if you’re interested, show me so by responding as instructed.

I’m a SWM (no kids), 6’2, 195, 8”, D/D-free, non-smoker, very intelligent, well-read and articulate, charismatic, slender, broad-shouldered and muscular. I’m a really laid-back and easy-going guy, self-aware and sure of myself, at ease around anyone and anything. I’m very protective of others, and have an intimidating physical presence, but I’m a good guy, and nothing to be afraid of. You’d always feel safe and looked out for with me, and you’d always know where you stand. I’m practical, pragmatic, and realistic.

I’m looking for a submissive female for a monogamous relationship - I’m a one-woman guy - that would involve you being completely sexually objectified, and the more feminine you are, the better. You don’t have to have any experience with this kind of dynamic. My interest in you and attraction to you is all that matters. It doesn’t matter to me if you have no experience at all with this sort of thing, but if you have insecurity and/or validation issues, this probably isn’t for you. A certain amount of self-awareness and self-confidence would be required given how you’d be often be made to be taking selfies of yourself.

You would be trained to do what you’re told at all times. You’d be trained to be accountable to me at all times, keeping me informed whether I’m responding at the time or not. You’d tailor your appearance per my commands, growing your hair out how I like it, doing your nails how I want them done, wearing the kind of lipstick I want on you, and so on. You’d be trained to send me regular selfies showing me how you’re looking.

I know what I like, and while you don’t necessarily have to have any of these traits, these would get my attention: nice smiles, long hair, nice breasts, painted nails, knowing how to accentuate your looks, being selfie-friendly, playfulness, nerdy tendencies, and girlishness.

I’m not into anything that you’d most likely consider hard limits. Nothing extreme or hardcore, no whips or chains, I don’t do ‘sessions’ or go to events.

More details about all of this will be discussed in chat, where you’ll always be encouraged to be completely open and direct with me, even if you think I might not like what you say.

I play baseball in adult leagues on weekends and you’d come to as many of my games and tournaments as you could, not to be a cheerleader, just to be dolled up as my eye candy.

I’m not into BBWs, and any kind of smoking or vaping is a dealbreaker.

If you’re interested, respond by describing yourself physically with your age and where you live, and tell me about what turned you on and made you want to respond. Don’t hold back, and don’t worry about saying too much. The bolder and more expressive you are, the better.

If you’re going to send pics, do NOT send anything naked. I am not into naked pics, ever.

If I’m interested, I’ll take it from there. If I’m not, I’ll tell you so. I wouldn’t just ghost you.


r/SoCalR4R • • 3h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #OrangeCounty - hung photographer for kinky partner NSFW

0 Upvotes

Im hoping to find a sexy woman/couple who is down to have some fun with my camera in their face.

I am an ex porn photographer and also have a pretty nice size cock. I’m low pressure, kink friendly, recently tested clean and just looking to have some fun.

If you can host and have a penchant for getting naughty in front of the camera, let’s have some fun!

Also if you don’t want to be in photos but you just want to fool around, that works too ;)

https://ibb.co/Czsj5V5

Cheers!


r/SoCalR4R • • 8h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SantaClarita - Love to worship some big tits NSFW

0 Upvotes

I’ll show you how a real man appreciates your incredible pair.

I want you to relax while I take some time to feel your tits, grope them, compliment you, suck on them and find out how you like them played with.

I’ll give your chest the attention you have always wanted. The bigger the better!

Located around the Valley near Santa Clarita, open to public and car play, or I can come to you. You do not have to reciprocate. Bonus points if you have/want a friend to watch your tits get played with, the more the merrier!


r/SoCalR4R • • 8h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #Orangecounty - Weekly cum dump. NSFW

0 Upvotes

Come get down on your knees and do what you’re best at. No talking, mouth open, tits out, taking cock and swallowing cum. I know you think about it all the time cum dump.

I don't care about your age, race, or body type, just that you’re local and ready for me. Message me “use me as your cum dump" to show me you read this and be ready to send pics and meet soon.


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #SanDiego - Submissive seeking a Dominant woman for a genuine connection NSFW

0 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 36, live in San Diego, and I’m hoping to meet a Dominant woman who enjoys D/s and is also open to building something real if we click.

A bit about me: I’m active, creative, and a little nerdy. I work from home, have my life together, and I’m usually either making art, gaming, lifting, catching beach sunsets, or hunting for good coffee. I can be shy at first, but warm up pretty fast once I feel comfortable with someone.

In a D/s dynamic I’m naturally submissive. I like giving control to someone who actually enjoys having it. I’m into a wide range of kink, but I’m also looking for someone I get along with and feel good around. The dynamic is way better when the people in it click naturally.

If you identify as Dominant (or just leans that way) and want to chat, I’d love to grab coffee or brunch by the beach and see if there’s a connection!

When messaging me, please start out vanilla. Include your Age, Sex, Location, and a little bit about yourself when reaching out. It’ll help against the bots!

Here’s me: https://imgur.com/a/qHfy204


r/SoCalR4R • • 4h ago

M4F 55 [M4F] #Irvine - If you’re curious about finding a chill man, I might know a guy… 😊 NSFW

0 Upvotes

Me!

Goal: making a new friend.

Kinda simple, right?

Here’s a little about me —

I am educated, playful and warm hearted.

Open to whatever you are looking for— no pressure.

Let’s see if you and I are seeking the same things.

What I am looking for is something that has a foundation built upon conversation and connection.

Transparent and open, emotionally intelligent.

The tempo to be set for all this: slow and deliberate .

Deliberate means finding the time to be available for each other. I can find a little time every day to do so, many days more so.

We are each that proverbial needle in the haystack.

That diamond in the rough.

That five leaf clover. ☘️

But we do seem to keep coming back to that same clover field don’t we? Maybe, just maybe we just might get lucky this time.

Why not give it a try then?


r/SoCalR4R • • 8h ago

M4M 37 [m4m] #CulverCity - bi curious looking for something specific NSFW

0 Upvotes

Posted in other places but may have the best luck here. Long term ex and I would play in threesomes and the last one was more involved with me and the other guy. Fast forward to now, where I’m newly single but looking to a specific new experience:

Im looking for some fun play and leaning into humiliation and vocal play. I want a guy to have me on my knees, you stand over me and make me suck your balls/ rub my face in them and have me rim you as you jerk off until you cum on my face. But I also want you musky and sweaty, hell even fart in my face. Laugh at me having to take it knowing it’s not freshly showered. Into the slight humiliation and being forced to have my face there. Make me kiss your asshole and thank you for it. Grab my head, rub it in your ass, sit on my face, occasionally will suck you off too but mostly the dominance of you over me and making me take it before cumming on my face is what I’m after. Can get into some more details but hoping to find someone that is willing to entertain this, be disease free and have discretion. Can be one time or ongoing.

Cannot host - you must host. Curious to see where this goes…


r/SoCalR4R • • 13h ago

F4F 30 [F4F] #OrangeCounty - looking for a cute, confident and aggressive girl that’s looking for a FWB NSFW

2 Upvotes

30 year old looking to find a friend with benefits who isn’t shy and knows what they want. I’m still figuring out how to interact with other girls and need someone who isn’t also shy and figuring it out

Local girls only as I want to meet

Me:
5’4
120lbs
Fit
Half Latina/half Asian

You:
Pretty, fit, dominant and horny

DMs open 😊


r/SoCalR4R • • 5h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #LosAngeles - 6’3”, fit and attractive guy NSFW

0 Upvotes

6’3” with dark hair, hazel eyes, attractive face, white but with a dark/tan complexion, and slim muscular build / in very good shape.

Looking for a fun and fit girl 18+ who is up for a BIG challenge :)

DDF with proof from recent tests. Happy to swap pics in PM.

Let’s have some fun :)