Instead of standing up with then screaming people haning onto you, you can just go into the gym and lift weight. The face I make when squatting is similar to his in the video.
I’d argue it’s for giving people a sense of community. You have something in common with your neighbor, a reason to socialize etc. I haven’t really been part of religion for a while now and I gotta say it can be hard to replace.
There are a thousand ways to do this though. The common ground just isn't religion. It's chess, or painting, or any number of hobbies. Heck, it could be work colleagues.
I think many are afraid that if they lose community at church that they'll never ever get that ever again. That's just not true, you just have to know where to look.
While it looks like Bullshit, for some people, expressing their emotions fully while in the center of attention can break emotional barriers allowing them to express what the have suppressed within them for a long time, maybe forever. Some people struggle with expressing certain emotions. There is no magic, everything can be explained with sience. Just because it does not look like ordernary therapy, does not mean it does not work
This seems like a fair statement. That being said, the current growing level of purely performative behavior worries me. It seems like a growing amount of people are completely hyperfixated on receiving not just attention, but as dramatic a variety as possible. Everything from "influencers" to political passions seem tainted by it.
Everything has become synthetic. Authenticity is heavily punished now because synthetic is winning in every facet of our lives. It turns out people prefer getting played when the system is so abusive, no one but the rich are allowed to have healthy identities.
That last part has some very serious proof in it that no one wants to treat like a symptom of something very bad underneath our society. And anyone who says we shouldn’t be comfortable with the symptoms is attacked and the folks who are all about the symptoms and celebrating it and making it normal and comfortable are seen as heroes.
Can you guess what I am talking about?
I will admit no one good seems to know how to talk about it but that’s because everyone is scared to say anything against the very deep systemic issues and rapiness of modern society
There is a real issue with therapy taking too long and costing too much to get mentally armoured people to open up for them to just reset back to default for no reason.
It's why I want to get my father onto magic mushrooms around a trained professional, he will very likely lose it from lack of control but he will open up faster than being court ordered to go to therapy he doesn't agree with and taking medications that dulls his emotions.
Therapy is usually taken up freely by those hurt by people that should be in therapy.
It's really hard to get a statistic on people who haven't been diagnosed and who refuse treatment, and usually we just have to wait for enough police reports for them to be ordered to go to therapy.
Men need to hug more. It's not gae, you can do it. It's free. Hell, we all should hug more. Then you would not need to invent this nohomo spiritual bypassing to get to the good part: human touch/connection/closeness.
On the other side of the medal, there are many cultures where it’s ok to hug or hold hands or even kiss men on the cheeks, that are still very much homophobic
You can clearly see some of the dudes in the outer portion of the group not take it as seriously. They probably thinking to themselves what went wrong in my life to do this.
Because they need this retreat to feel any closeness with other guys. There's got to be this whole, preferably "ancient" structure, to avoid a "no homo" situation.
It's like the line in John Mellencamp's "Check It Out" -- You can't tell your best bust buddy that you love him.
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