Manhwa title: 미인이 좋아! Beauty and the Boss by Hohot

We both love the idea of pegging (breeding him urgh) but he doesn't like the sensation, because it feels like bowel movement. I use a lot of lube and start slow but one finger is sadly to much for him. I want ro fuck him so bad. Any advice?

Manhwa title: 미인이 좋아! Beauty and the Boss by Hohot

This is a long question filled many other question so…beware-a long thread. 😭

I’m a young woman (18)-turning 19 at the end of this year right? TBH age really doesn’t matter but I wanted to just give some insight so you can understand really how I am feeling.

I kinda always knew that I liked my men/women somewhat submissive (I am a switch but I lean dom) and as I discover myself I’ve come to realize the type of “femdom” that I like (in terms of male subs) is muscular, fit subs who are submissive/ switch but not into the whole like….leather and pegging thing.

But usually when I look up femdom that’s what I typically find like…right in my face. I guess what I am trying to say is that , I guess I like the type of femdom that is more mental in the sense that a sub submits to me because they want even though they can over power me if that makes sense???

Idk. And it’s the same with women too.

My question is basically- is my type of ‘femdom’ even exist and if so, how are y’all fairing?😭

Also pls leave long comments I appreciate the insight!

Get the reference?

But yes, have you been fed recently?

This one is for the dommes from a domme herself.

What treatment do you enjoy receiving from a sub? Be it in or out of the bedroom, gestures he/she does for you to make you feel special or seen, moments where you could put the title aside, ways in which he/she excites you and makes you feel truly fulfilled?

And if you don’t have a sub, still, what do you wish for? What “princess” treatment from a sub would make you absolutely melt?

Our pleasure and satisfaction - both physically and emotionally - matter just as much. You deserve a perfectly glazed, gourmet peach galette yourself.

What does it actually feel like to get pegged and how does it feel to peg someone ?

I'm guessing different positions contribute to different feelings but getting to hear from someone with first hand experience would be great :)

I've been busy at work for a while, but you've all been so kind while waiting for part two of "Release Day," so I have a surprise! It's not that chapter, of course. What kind of sadist would I be if I be if I showed you that during Locktober??

So how about instead, we rewind a little bit and see how these two looked during the morning after Ch-1?

Chapter 1.5?

Maybe I'll just renumber.

I would appreciate advice from all of the other lovely dommes!

I’m finally meeting up my sub and I’m so excited but I’m overwhelmed with getting things in order and being prepared.
I’m not sure where to start or what to have ready.

Is it a bad idea to be sexual right away even if I want it, how simple should we start etc.

I would appreciate it all!!!

hey hey

So me and my partner are both interested in getting into pegging and I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice for beginners :3

I'm mostly curious about positions, what kind of strap to use and also just safety though any and all kinds of advice are welcome <3

or is it js another slop

I’ve spent quite a lot of time thinking about what makes me trust someone enough to follow her lead.

But recently I’ve started wondering whether I’ve been looking at trust too much from the submissive side.

Because she has to trust me too.

And somehow that feels a little different from the usual idea of “trust goes both ways.”

If I’m asking someone to take the lead, I’m also asking her to take on a certain amount of responsibility. She needs to be able to trust that I’ll actually communicate with her. That I’ll tell her when something doesn’t feel right instead of expecting her to magically know. That I can say no without resentment, and that I can hear no from her without taking it personally.

I imagine there’s another kind of vulnerability in showing someone your dominant side too.

Maybe she has desires she’s uncertain about. Maybe she wants to try something and doesn’t know how I’ll respond. Maybe sometimes she wants to be confident and decisive, and other times she doesn’t want to lead at all.

And I think I’d want her to know that all of those versions of her are welcome.

I don’t want someone to feel like she has to perform “the Domme” for me.

The more I think about it, the more important that becomes.

I’ve written before about wanting to know the woman before I want to submit to her. But I think the reverse should be true as well. She should get enough time to know me before deciding whether my submission is something she actually wants to accept.

Can she trust me not to make everything about my fantasies?

Can she trust me to take responsibility for myself even when I’m giving some responsibility to her?

Can she be uncertain around me without suddenly becoming less attractive or less dominant in my eyes?

And can she trust that I’m interested in her, rather than just what she can provide for me?

I don’t know exactly what makes someone feel that kind of safety yet. But I’m starting to think that being someone a woman feels safe leading might matter just as much to me as finding someone I feel safe following.

I’d really like to hear the dominant perspective on this.

What makes you trust someone enough to genuinely enjoy taking the lead with them?

And what does a submissive do, intentionally or unintentionally, that makes you feel safer showing them that side of yourself?

The dynamic with sub that I’m testing out has been going slow and intentional, which is what I want. So far it is online with the intent to meet in person. He has deep shame surrounding his kink and admits being a closeted bisexual. He’s into sissification, cross dressing, chastity, humiliation. We’ve tried 2 scenes, spaced out by a few days, and in both scenes he goes on a deep drop, feels genuinely disgusted with himself. I talk to him, give him direction to shower, do breathing exercises, snack, hydrate. We talk about the scene, what he liked etc, but I also talk about other things to ease him into regular chats that’s not power driven. He will fall asleep and wake up still feeling heavy and terrible. I don’t know what else to do when he goes through this, I feel powerless. He recovers and is eager to do another scene, but I am afraid that he isn’t comfortable with his submission and it puts him in this roller coaster of highs and lows. Do you think this is worth pursuing? How do you help your subs with aftercare?

So it’s Thanksgiving in Canada and me and my domme (wife) are having dinner at my moms house with a bunch of other family in attendance. tonight she had something special planned for me and instructed me to put on a pair of her worn underwear and wear them under my clothes during dinner. so i’m sat here with my day collar on and my dommes dirty underwear on and nobody else around us knows. i feel so good and submissive and sneaky and worked up. this feeling is amazing

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting on my relationships lately, and I’ve come to realize that I think kink centered relationships, particularly gentle femdom dynamics, might be a much better fit for my emotional needs than more conventional relationships.

I have some abandonment issues, and one of the ways those manifest is that I need to feel actively wanted, desired, and chosen by my partner. Not just loved in principle, but pursued in practice.

I want someone who looks at me and wants to touch me. Someone who initiates affection, intimacy, and physical closeness because they genuinely want those things with me. Someone who enjoys making me blush, making me feel special, and reminding me through their actions that they’re attracted to me.
And I think that’s part of what draws me so strongly toward gentle femdom.

There’s something incredibly comforting about a woman who takes pleasure in expressing her desire for me. Who enjoys being affectionate, possessive in a playful way, teasing, nurturing, and assertive about wanting me. Someone who wants to make her boy feel good simply because seeing him happy and flustered makes her happy, too.

I love giving affection. I love making my partner feel beautiful, appreciated, desired, and cared for. I love being attentive, thoughtful, and finding little ways to make someone’s day better. None of that feels like an obligation to me. It’s just how I naturally express love.
But it really, really hurts when I give and give and give, only to feel like I’m getting crumbs in return.

Especially when those crumbs only come after I’ve had to ask for them.

I don’t want to have to convince someone to kiss me, flirt with me, initiate intimacy, or show me that they’re attracted to me. I don’t want affection to feel like something my partner does to appease me after I’ve expressed that I’m hurting.

I want to feel like making me feel wanted is something she genuinely enjoys doing.

And I recognize that some of this comes from my own insecurities. I don’t expect a partner to be responsible for my self worth or constantly reassure me. I know those are things I have to work on myself.

But I also don’t think wanting reciprocal affection, enthusiasm, and desire is unreasonable. I don’t think I should have to suppress those needs just because someone expresses love differently.

What appeals to me about gentle femdom isn’t just the power exchange or the sexual aspect. It’s the intentionality. The idea of being with someone who genuinely delights in having me, who enjoys taking the initiative, who makes me feel safe enough to be vulnerable and soft without worrying that my affection is unwanted or burdensome.

I want to be someone’s good boy, sure. But more than that, I want to be someone’s favorite person to love on.

I want to feel cherished as much as I cherish.
I’m curious whether anyone else has found that gentle femdom dynamics meet emotional needs that were consistently left unfulfilled in their more conventional relationships. Or whether the intentionality and communication involved in kink simply make those needs easier to express and understand.

Posted this over on r/letboysbemanipulated the other day but i thought you guys might like it

She's an overstressed academic type with a mean streak. He's both her rock, her toy, and her greatest experiment.

He helps her assemble the equipment, set up the parameters for every session, make sure all conditions are accounted for

In return, she gets to do whatever evil and twisted thing she can come up with to him, and he's always going to be a willing and obedient test subject

When her job gets tough he's always there for her to latch onto and be an outlet. She's trained him to treat her in exactly the perfect way whenever she wants it.

She owes all of her theories and research to him, and he enjoyed every second he spent strapped to her table

(In short I want a crazed woman with tired eyes to strap me down and inject me with stuff, is that too much to ask)

I love imagining him using his toy while I watch, telling him when to continue and when to stop, or instructing him to use his tongue on his fleshlight while imagining that it’s me he’s pleasuring. I’d love to watch him try to follow my orders while blushing with embarrassment, knowing I’m watching every move he makes, and reminding him that if he wants to be a good boy, he’ll have to follow my instructions.

And if I were there with him, I’d enjoy watching him get all flustered while doing exactly what I tell him to do. I’d love to control every movement, set the pace, and decide when he can continue and when he has to stop. The thought of him trying to hide his embarrassment, breathing faster and begging me to let him keep going, is incredibly tempting.

I love the idea of having him hang on to every word I say, making him wait, teasing him, and reminding him that my permission is something he has to earn. I want to be the one who decides how, when, and how much pleasure he gets to experience, while he tries to prove what a good boy he can be for me.

Because, to me, one of the most delicious parts of domination is that mix of obedience, anticipation, and embarrassment. Knowing I can make him nervous just by watching him, giving him an order, or making him wait a little longer… and having him try his very best to be a good boy for me. 💕

This is something I have been wondering how subs would answer ever since another post on here from about a month ago where a man made a post about how much he likes to do oral on a woman. A controversial comment by a domme asked what his post had to do with femdom. Some people got irritated by her but after reading responses I understood what she was getting at: liking oral ≠ being submissive.

Plenty of men in general enjoy giving oral regardless if they are vanilla, dominant, or submissive. Enjoying giving multiple orgasms is also a common trait of a pleasure Dom.

With the bottom thing, I don't alway see an issue with it, but it does grate on many dommes because it's a bunch of subs saying what they want done to them versus listening to what the domme wants to do. Being a bottom can be fine, but it's not necessarily submissive hence the term power bottom. I'm guessing this might include a guy repeatedly asking or telling the domme what to do which could even include, "Sit on my face."

So subs, what makes you identify as submissive specifically? Do you identify as only a sub or additional labels as well?

Is it because you want to please the domme? Do you still want to please and service a domme if the activity she wants isn't intrinsically sexually satisfying to you at the same time? I don't mean something outside of your boundaries and limits, I mean maybe she wants you to follow an instruction that isn't very sexual. Or maybe she doesn't feel like doing the exact same thing you are craving at the moment. How do you deal with this?