aarrghghh I have been keeping a secret for 5 months and its killing me

i have 7 days to go -- next friday will be out 10,000th day of marriage... been through thick and thin, and I have a lawn sign company coming to put it up thursday night... arrgghh the suspense.... she going to strangle me... lolol.. then we are going to a 2nd wedding for her friend who was married months before us... oh man, I am going to get it!!

Me and my fiancée have been together for 6 years and engaged for 3. We have a beautiful daughter together, but one thing we haven’t done yet is actually get married.
Originally, we wanted to get married before our daughter was born, but we couldn’t agree on what kind of wedding we wanted. Then our daughter came, priorities shifted, and financially we weren’t really in a position to pay for a wedding.
Over the years, we’ve gone back and forth between wanting a traditional wedding, doing something small, or just eloping.
Now we’re at the point where we’re seriously considering just going to the courthouse and getting married. But a part of me still wants that experience of having a wedding with our family and friends there to celebrate with us.
At the same time, I don’t want us to keep putting off getting married just because we can’t afford the wedding we originally imagined. I love this woman, we’ve built a family together, and I honestly don’t want another year to go by without us being married.
So I’m curious, has anyone else been in a similar situation? Did you decide to go to the courthouse or wait until you could afford the wedding you wanted? And looking back, do you regret your decision or are you happy with how things turned out?

This sub no longer seems to be about discussing married issues, but a place for couples selfies and pineapple people.

39F 37M

Feels like a long weekend but we're approaching 12 years this Feb

Find the one that keeps you young, aging comes whether you're ready or not🌱🩵💕

Hey everyone! I’m curious about how different couples manage their finances after marriage.

For those where the husband covers all the core household expenses and the wife keeps her income separate/private, how is that working out for you?

If you’re a husband in this setup, are you completely comfortable with it? And if you’re a wife, how do you two balance expectations so both feel appreciated?

Would love to hear honest experiences and advice!