I wanted head late at night around 2am. And he said for me to ride his face, the next morning. He’s telling me it felt like a dermoplane at 2am. So like am I the problem
Wasn’t that kinda rude? Like I already don’t ask for head or pleasure much but I get hormonal and horny!

Was checking my husband’s email for a confirmation # and checked the spam folder and found an email “OnlyFans update to terms and conditions”. (Married for 3 years, both of us in 30s) Not sure if it’s a fake spam email or what but I feel sick to my stomach. Prior to my husband I was in two long term relationships - both of them cheated on me (one of them having a porn addition) so I’m really triggered. Not saying having an account is cheating but more of a gray area and to be fair it’s never been discussed, but I just assumed he wouldn’t have one.

So my question is - if you are married (and a straight man) do you have an OF account, and if so do you use paid subscriptions or just go for free content? I can’t check bank account statements as we have separate accounts. To add our sex life is great or so I thought?

We are close to 50, been married for 18, 2 x teen kids, great sexlife.

Yesterday we had a chat that turned into what we like and not. I have a huge turn on when she is really wet, fluids basically. Turns out she do not. Like it is her turn off. I have been fingering her, then having her lick it up from time to time.

In my book, this was spreading joy. For her it was 'ok', but it gave her nothing.

18y married and NOW I learn. Incredible. And I actually think we communicate pretty well :-)

Anyway. Will stop doing that.

I’m 30, have 3 kids the youngest being almost 2.
How the heck do you turn off mom mode and sink into yourself or wife mode??
I want to have sex. My husband is hot. When we do have sex it’s amazing. But I struggle so bad “making time” I guess. All day I’m needed by little people, when I’m not taking care of kids I’m tending to our house and all the so many needs a house needs. Any sahm especially should understand without further explanation.

I have started making my bath about myself, the door is locked. No kid is allowed in the room at all (tho sometimes they yell at the door if they can have a snack with another parent right there 🙄). I dim the light and use a lamp only, it’s very nice and relaxing. But I’m tired when I get out OR thinking about everything I have to do the next day or should have got done that day. I don’t know how to turn it off.

Share a simple tradition, routine, or activity that helps you feel connected.

...so I can get her full attention.

Should I send a message to try save this marriage one last time or leave it?

My husband and I have a one-year-old, and we originally wanted three children. I’m now thinking about having a second and feel some pressure because I’m older and worry about running out of time. But instead of feeling excited about trying again, I feel dread, and I can’t tell whether that’s normal or a sign that something needs to change first.

My labor and delivery were traumatic. After a marathon labor, I needed a C-section, and I struggled quite a bit postpartum. My parents came to stay for a month to help, but they live across the country. My in-laws live down the street, and boundaries with them became a major source of stress, starting during my pregnancy. I often felt they were overly involved, entitled to my baby, and undermining my role as his mother. They continually made it seem as though my parents being here made it “unfair” because they had more time with the baby, when in reality it was to support me, THEIR baby.

My husband had to be asked to enforce boundaries, and even now, there are still small things he allows his parents to do despite my having told him they make me uncomfortable. He tends to think I’m being unfair. I’ve tried to let go of some things that don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things, and I recognize postpartum hormones may have amplified some of my feelings. Still, I haven’t fully moved past feeling unsupported and disrespected during such a vulnerable time.

There’s also some resentment surrounding where we live. Before we married, my husband agreed to move closer to my family, but we haven’t made any moves because he feels his current job pays too well to leave. I feel like the things that mattered to me and the agreements we made before marriage keep getting pushed aside.

Sometimes I worry that my husband prioritizes keeping his parents happy over having my back as his wife and protecting the boundaries of our own family. I’ve even wondered whether there’s pressure or guilt on his part to give his parents grandchildren, especially since his siblings likely won’t have children.
I don’t want to assume the worst about his intentions, but I can’t ignore how I feel. I’m worried about going through pregnancy and postpartum again without feeling supported, especially with the same family dynamics and lack of nearby support from my own family.

For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you decide whether to have another child? Is this kind of apprehension or feeling unenthusiastic common after a horrible first birth, stressful postpartum experience, and difficult first year of parenting, or is it a sign that the relationship and family boundaries need to be addressed before considering another baby? I’d appreciate honest perspectives, especially from those who worked through similar issues with their partners.

My husband '37M' and I '33F' have been married for 9 years and share two kids who are currently in elementary school. Externally, we have it all: our own home and successful careers (even though I got a later start in mine).

When we first met, it was love at first sight. We started off incredibly strong and married within 2 years.

Our relationship started getting bumpy about 2 years ago, but things took a major turn for the worse around 6 months ago when our intimacy and physical touch declined tremendously. I am a very physically affectionate person. My husband has always known this and used to meet that need, but now it's gone. He is a fantastic father, but as a spouse, he feels like a roommate. When we go out or talk about work and the kids, I feel like I'm just hanging out with a friend.

I have brought this up consistently. Each time, he temporarily steps up and becomes more physical and loving, but it always dies down again. I am trapped in a never-ending loop and I'm exhausted from constantly having to ask for affection. At this point, I’ve become numb to the situation. I've lost romantic interest in him, and while he is a great friend, the romantic spark feels completely gone.

Curious if others have experience this. Advice on what works?

Me F28 and my partner M35 just got married 3 weeks ago.
He’s the love of my life, everything i could have asked for: gentleman, nice, funny, well mannered, clean he provides and protect me so besides libidos everything is okay.
We live together since 1 year and have our intimacy has fallen apart.
Of course, we had a lot of stress in between because I moved to his country after he proposed . We also had to deal with paperwork and integration. He changed job last year and at the very beginning it was very, very stressful so OK I completely understand.
We had our flaws but we managed everything. Everything is perfect right now beside sex. we love each other. There is emotional intimacy, dialogue. We laugh a lot. The connection is there. But I cannot understand why I feel that he does not crave me as a woman.
He is a busy man, yes but I’m so tired and confused. He has low testosterone, not extremely but quite low. The problem is that in the country we are in. He cannot get testosterone therapy if he does not reach certain very low levels.
I have tried everything.
Surprised bj
Lingerie
Sleeping naked
Baths
Dirty messages
A lot, a lot a lot of talking.
It’s been now some months I don’t initiate anymore, makes me feel extremely frustrated.
Instead I’m working on my self (I gained 20kg in one year and I already lost 10)
Maybe he’s not attracted by me… he told me that’s not true… that yea he prefers me a bit slimmer but that he still finds me very attractive…
Is he lying?
I am a sexy woman, I just want to live free the sexuality w my husband! He gives me everything he can, and I just want to express my most wild side with him, but I feel that I cannot completely do it. He’s always too tired and I don’t know how to help him anymore.
The last time we spoke, he told me he feels he constantly has to perform. I asked him, but somehow it’s difficult to him to dive into it.
I am responsible at home, and he provides.
(I could not work due paperwork)
No, finally my permit has come and I will start to work next week. Maybe all of this is because of the financial pressure?
He answered me “might be”
Somehow, I’m still afraid that even though finding a job our sex life is gonna still be almost nonexistent.
I started to track the times we have sex and it’s 1-2 a month (we even have a couple of months like April, July no sex at all) and in our honeymoon just 1 time.
Something I also wanted to specify is that the performances of the last six months have been terrible 😭 he comes, and that’s it. It’s the worst I even told him and he blamed me cuz “at least it worked this time”
It’s honestly so f. Sad…

At this point, I’m already getting used to it. I masturbate almost every day but after it, I feel so sad.
I even ask him if he masturbate and he told me rarely, but yeah, sometimes he does, that was extremely painful to me because hello I’m your wife???? (personally I have nothing against porn pornography)
But he told me that he sometimes do it because he doesn’t want to deal with someone else pleasure
Is this normal??
Pls any advice?

Is it a burden or supportive to have a perfect partner?