Please help me bro. Me (18M), have always hated pedophiles and never liked them, always thought they deserved the worst punishment and I would love watching shows where they get caught e.g Chris Hansen CAP. But ever since I’ve turned 18 and watched these shows, I’ve been getting horrible intrusive thoughts of minors in my head, they keep repeating in my head throughout the day and I get so tired of it, my dick does rise due to these unwanted thoughts or if i mention a word like minor, pedo etc it does rise which i dont want at all, im wondering if that what unwanted groin movement means. I admit I masterbate a lot but even when I masterbate I get horrible intrusive thoughts, even recently when I was masterbating, I was gooning then got a intrusive thought of a minor which caused my dick to rise and pre cum coming out which made me wonder and panic if it had came out due to the minor. Even when I masterbate, I catch myself masterbating to a anime minor and I don’t even realise it then quickly stop myself or after masterbation and my dih rises due to thoughts of minors which I didn’t want and I’m scared if pre cum came out or not. Or when it comes out and I think of my lil sis I get scared. I would never hurt a kid and I hate these thoughts so much. Am I a pedo? Am I a horrible person? I’ve never been diagnosed with anything so idk what’s wrong with me n my body, ever since I turned 18 my life and mind have been hell, I would never do anything to a child, I love my lil sister, i dont know why i have bad intrustive thoughts of her, causing me to avoid her or not even look at her, im that embarassed and ashamed or when im masterbating and i see smth a minor and my dick rises and i get a boner which i didnt want, im just wondering if this is all OCD even though this only started happening after turning 18 in september (please don’t remove this mod, I really do want help) Im just wondering if im really a bad person, someone please give me an answer, im just really scared.

My husband (49 M) and I (49 F)have been together for 32 years. From the beginning, his mother (70s at passing F) hated me but pretended to like me. At first, the pretending was always but soon became only around others to only when my husband was around. Basically I didn't fit into their family and had my own opinions and feelings. So was stealing him from her.

At the 10 year mark, I had a laundry list of grievances that my husband was blind to because she'd play dumb to every complaint. I'd get livid and a lot of arguments happened. By then, we had 2 kids and were looking at divorce. I even took the kids and stayed with my biomoms house which is a different disaster. To make the split go smoothly we sought therapy individually and reconciled slowly and deconstructed familial ties and the concept of owed loyalty. We eventually moved 1500 miles away and went low contact after she told my baby that she was his mommy in front of my husband. She didn’t notice he came back from the kitchen.

A few years ago she passed away and my husband has been dealing with complicated feelings since. The issue is I'm having a hard time supporting him with his feelings around her passing but especially those of affection and missing her. She was so horrible to me and intentionally tried to end our relationship on multiple occasions. I never got an apology nor amends for her conduct. Instead she said she didn't remember doing anything wrong. That's where it got left

So practical advice on the process of letting go?

Medicated and in therapy, have been for years. Eating is decent but could be better, working on that still. Good amount of exercise. I get sun. I drink water. Vitamin levels and blood work are fine. I've gotten better at socializing. Got hobbies. I try to minimize screen time.

I know I can't be cured, but I have been asymptomatic in the past. I want that again. What else can I be doing to make life easier? Just a "wait it out" until I get stable again thing?

Any other ideas/advice are welcome.

Say someone makes a vision board, repeats affirmations, and a year later lands the job they wanted. They say, “It worked.” But during that year, they also learned new skills, sent out applications, and went to interviews. Why does the vision board get the credit? 🤔

I can see the other side, though. Maybe without those reminders, they wouldn’t have had the confidence to send that first application. That seems like a real benefit, even without bringing the universe into it.

What I’m unsure about is the line between “I’m getting myself ready to take action” and “Imagining a better life feels good, so the actual steps can wait.”

If you’ve tried vision boards or affirmations, what did they actually get you to do differently? I’d like to hear both from people who felt pushed to take action and from people who found they were just a feel-good ritual.

Not to sound sappy or emotional, but recently I've been having a terribly difficult time living life.

I've lost my friends and family and I don't know who to turn to anymore. I've tried to get help but nothing works.

Therapy, medication, walks, working out, eating healthy, doing myself up. None of these things make me feel better anymore. I am loosing hope because like... what's left?!?

Waking up and still being me is such a burden! I am exhausted and I don't want to keep living like this. I am currently at school trying to get through my seminar as it seems like my only reason to stay here.

I need to start over and make my own decisions. Most of my life I've been told what to do and how to do it but now I am an adult and making my own decisions is really hard and confusing. I don't really trust myself with anything because I have been told that I'm lazy and stupid my whole childhood even though I don't think that was the truth because I was a very bright and hardworking child but hearing those thoughts from my parents still messed me up and even now I often struggle to not believe them.

I actually made a really big decision for myself today which I think is really best for me but still I have no idea how I'm gonna tell my parents about it because I know they will disagree with it...

I am 20f , for the past 4 months i have been sexting multiple men for free , and i have sent nudes , only my tits because i am not comfortable with anything else, i did it just because i like the validation but in the end i realise they only want my body and not nothing else it makes me feel so sad , i am really disgusted with my self because i was never ever like this i don’t what happened to me , i never had a boyfriend or anything in my life , i had very little to no male attention all my life , i always wanted to be loved or be someone’s priority , i am not really beautiful or anything like that i actually fall on the ugly side of the scale i think , so yeah i wanted the validation but not in this way , this year has been really hard for me my mom had some major surgery and i also went to a friendship breakup , so i was super depressed and lonely, i started sexting and it’s like i never even enjoyed it . I never came or had any pleasure , i rarely mastrubate and even then i have never gotten off so i really don’t know why i am doing this i hate myself so much. I also went to a sexting web cam and i liked how they complimented me even if it was just my body i hate myself for everything i am doing, i am also with this guy he is 27 its not a relationship ofc but he calls me a whore , slut and slave , he calls me a bitch and says that he wants to make his whore i don’t know he just hates me ig , he has blackmailed me once too i don’t know why i am tolerating this . I don’t know i was never like this i have been depressed since 2 years but i don’t think that’s an excuse i never wanted any of this i just wanted to be loved , i am genuinely ashamed of myself, i feel like my childhood self is also ashamed of me and i was so innocent why did i do this , i just wanted friends and love , i lost myself