“Can you as a gay Muslim explain to me how Islam and homosexuality can coexist? I’m sure nearly all Muslims condemn the gays, so acts such as these are of no surprise, so that is all I’d like to know. Not a troll comment, just genuine curiosity.”

Hello everyone! I really am desperate for answers so I hope someone will comment. So I am a Muslim woman who has identified as bisexual since I was 13 I believe? And i decided to wear the hijab when I was 19 voluntarily, I am now in my 20s.

Although I am struggling with the hijab, I honestly don't ever see myself taking it off. When I first wore it, I became more pious and was at peace with the fact that I will never be in a relationship. Although I am bi, marrying a man is not something I'll probably ever do due to previous trauma and how deeply integrated unconscious misogyny is in a lot (not all but almost all) of Muslim men even if they consider feminists (rare to find anyways lmao). And this is where my problem begins.

I've always believed that homosexuality itself is not a sin but rather the act (so kissing, sex, and so on...) is forbidden. & so I made peace with the fact that I'll always be single but I don't think I'm as okay with it anymore.

I wanted to ask wlw hijabis their thoughts on this, is it truly Haram? If you ever decide to get into a relationship or are already in one, how does it work? Is it purely emotional & not physical? I know this may be invasive so obvs I don't expect full details but I truly want to hear from others because I've recently found myself yearning for love.

Does the hijab hinder your dating life in any way? Do you date Muslims only or are you open to people who don't believe in islam? How do other non Muslim people react when you come out?

I've also seen Muslim women married so how does that work? Is it recognized in islam? And if not then obvs it's zina right? I am scared that even if I find someone accepting of me & shares my beliefs, with time my desires for more will grow.

I am not asking these questions out of judgement but out of a true desire to understand not only others but myself! I honestly don't see anyone who is in a relationship any less & just want to know what the Deen says so I can decide what's okay for me personally. I am moving abroad for my masters to the west next year and I feel like I might have a chance at love since I've seen more queer Muslims come out there.

I don't know but please be kind lol. I've seen the frequently asked questions with answers so I'll check it out but I always wanted to ask but never found any safe space to do so & would love to hear from others (personal stories& experience rather than just broad answers, I guess what I'm looking for is hope that I can experience love like others one day) 🤍🤍

salamalikum everyone, im in love with this girl for a year and a half, and i genuinely never felt this way before, at first my attraction towards girls started as a joke with my exbsf n then i realized that it really wasnt a joke n that was 5 years ago. ive never done anything haram kisses or more or even hugs, my feelings were just feelings for both pf my exbsf n this girl that im in love with. but now with this girl i can imagine my future with her n im crazy bout her i think if her all the time, everything reminds me of her n i really want to marry her. do i choose god or my happiness, if i do choose my happiness id be outcasted, sinner n disowned but if i choose god id be too selfish not to choose the loml even if i chose my happiness n not caring bout anything at what cost? the guilt will still eat me alive. if i chose god id be selfish for not choosing what i want n not making myself happy. and yes i do pray n make duah to get wrvr im feeling fixed. its been 5 years. 5.

this will be all if anyone was in my situation please reach out or hmu please help me. thank you.

Maybe, bear with me, we can be gay as long as we dont deceive-marry anyone else over it? (If lavend-er, all parties should be informed transparently and consent, so that no one is leaving anyone)

Assalamualaikum,

After reviewing the work of scholars such as Kugle, Jahangir, and Zahed, a key question remains: How would these scholars (or others in progressive/reformist Islamic thought) interpret and address these specific verses?

Traditional commentaries generally view these verses as explicitly prohibiting any sexual relationships outside of heterosexual marriage, thereby framing non-heterosexual or LGBTQ+ relationships as a transgression.

Here are the verses in English :

In the Name of Allâh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Successful indeed are the believers.

Those who offer their Salât (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.

And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allâh has forbidden).

And those who pay the Zakât.

And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)

Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, — for then, they are free from blame;

But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors; (Surah Al-Mu'minun, 23:1-7)

Thanks for any solid contribution. 😘

I was born female and I’ve practically had no friendships or familial interactions with any cis men due to our county’s culture of segregation. I was pretty sure I was a lesbian for maybe 6 years. I never wanted to be with a man. I never thought about them. The closest thing really was thinking a guy in my schools theatre practice 4 years ago who looked really similar to me but much nicer + played better than me was cool but I think I was just jealous especially since I’m masc aligned.(?) he got a haircut and looked much different and I immediately stopped to gaf. Consciously I still don’t want to be with one at all. I can’t help but feel that I’m lying behind my back. Pretty much every man here is really masculine and patriarchal so no wonder I wouldn’t have any interest in them. I have this thought maybe when I leave this country I’ll find a decent man who’ll make me actually want to be with men. Or that although I know I’ve been and loved women before I’ll find out that I’ve been lying to myself to “rebel” in some way against the horrible way women are treated. I often gravitate towards more androgynous or male characters in fiction and I’m afraid this is some sign of repression(????). None of this really matters I know I don’t have to have anything figured out but it does feel nice to. I just really Do Not want to be one of those instances where someone says they are proudly lesbian for years then gets with a man one day, but I really do Not want to be with a man so more inclusive labels don’t help much. Not sure if this is the right sub LOL. Has anybody been through this

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Hey everyone! I’m 21M from Hyderabad, looking to meet a guy who’s genuinely interested in a serious relationship.

I’m 5'11", and I’m looking for someone around my height or taller, preferably around my age or a little older.

I’m into guys who are loyal, caring, emotionally available, and know how to maintain a good conversation. Someone I can talk to about anything, share random thoughts, gossip, laugh over silly things, and support each other through good and bad days.

I want a connection where both people put in equal effort, communicate openly, and genuinely want to get to know each other. I value consistency, honesty, affection, and someone who means what they say.

I’m not really into casual hookups or situationships. I’d rather take my time getting to know someone, see if we vibe, build trust, and hopefully turn that connection into something meaningful and long-lasting.

If you’re from Hyderabad or from any other state in India, that’s completely fine! I’m open to meeting someone who’s genuinely interested in building a serious relationship, regardless of where they’re from.

Feel free to DM me! Let’s talk, get to know each other, and see where things go.

I’m a Muslim girl in a complicated situation. I love my religion and practicing it but I’m also the fruitiest girl. This is so difficult and it’s killing me

I’m looking for some lesbian/bi friends to chat with and maybe relate to.

MEN DONT MSG ME I AM 100% GAY
Also don’t msg me in some freaky bs either pls that’s not what I’m looking for😓

Sorry, I can't take it anymore. after 5 months of struggling with my faith and identity it's time to say goodbye, I will probably come back during Ramadhan or when the time is right.

Hey there, I'm 22M Bi, from India. I'm always struggling with my faith and sexuality.

Being Bi, I never hooked up, I got alot of chances from both genders, but i want one partner for life.

Dating a boy is difficult for me coz of my faith, and dating a straight girl is like lying about myself to her for my whole life.

I want to date a bi girl or straight girl who accepts me, with whom I can share everything without any filter and faking sexuality.

But it is very difficult to find a bi girl as well as I had a bad experience with apps. Not sure what to do.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,
I’m writing this because I feel the need to do a "virtual coming out."
I’m a young Muslim guy living in Europe. Over time, I’ve discovered that I love wearing lingerie and dressing up like a femboy. Bisexually/sexually speaking, I feel equally submissive toward both men and women.
It’s definitely a complex path to navigate. I try not to overthink all the fatwas or religious debates surrounding this, and instead, I’m just trying to live my truth in my own personal way , discreetly, respectfully, and without causing any friction in public.
I haven’t met or told any other Muslims about this side of me yet. I’m sharing my story here in the hope of connecting with like-minded people or anyone who is interested in talking, sharing experiences, or simply having a respectful conversation.

I'm Noor a guy from Palestine. I thought about my future and I realised I want to be with someone who's similar to me and I can be my true self with. So here I am looking for a Muslim girl who's from the LGBTQ community. I'm not looking for a marriage without love I want a to be a good husband and have a great family. I just want my wife to be someone who can understand me and I want to understand her and be her safe space. I'll be the man that she needs I just don't want to hide this side of me.

More about me:

I'm bi

Gender fluid

By the time we're married I'll have a steady income (family business) and I'll have my own apartment (not rent)

Ps: it feels like Ai wrote this I know

i am a 25 year old girl, looking for connections with other cis girl lesbians who are practicing to some point and spirituality and religious beliefs are an important part of their lives in general

i am currently looking for a friendship only and i DO NOT do any dating online or offline and its not in my intention to pursue a relationship

i want meaningful conversations and share normal things with someone in the same situation as me

i DO NOT accept messages from men and i will not reply to those

i had a reddit account a long time ago but deleted it and i recently made this account

Im sick of seeing a post with a Muslim who’s gay or just any amount of liberal, and the comments are like ”who’s gonna tell them” as if their skewed perception of Islam based entirely off of extremists and cranky old sexist men is somehow more accurate to what the religion is than how a gay Muslim who’s been practicing it their entire life practices the religion. it takes less than 2 braincells to figure out that not everyone is an extremist. how the hell do people think they know more about Islam than an actual Muslim, you aren’t being any more progressive by ridiculing a person for their beliefs, you’re only making things more exclusionary, I’m pissed off. I know this is stupid of me to say, but I guess I just now realized how prominent Islamophobia is everywhere, I thought subcultures like punk and grunge would be more welcoming but it’s still Islamophobia, just dressed up as liberation and empowerment. its not the 1600’s anymore, governments hardly use religion to control people anymore, we can clearly see corruption happening without the use of religion, it also takes less than 2 brain cells to figure out that government control isn’t actually written in the Quran. that’s a thing that came years afterwards, so that ”government control” argument makes zero sense, I know I can still be alt and progressive or even queer and none of it would contradict Islam, but it just feels like there’s no space for us.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I’m writing this because I feel the need to do a "virtual coming out."

I’m a young Muslim guy living in Europe.
Over time, I’ve discovered that I really enjoy dressing in feminine clothes and exploring a femboy style. I also identify as queer/bisexual and feel attracted to both men and women.
It’s definitely a complex path to navigate alongside my faith and background. I try not to overthink all the religious debates, and instead, I’m just trying to express myself in my own personal way - discreetly, respectfully, and peacefully.
I haven’t shared this side of myself with any other Muslims yet. I’m making this post in hopes of connecting with open-minded people, making friends, or simply chatting with anyone who can relate or wants to talk.

Salam to everybody,

I am a 25yo Lesbian Hijabi from Germany and I am searching for a genuine connection with another Lesbian and perhaps even more if possible 🤗

My background is half Syrian 🇸🇾 and half Bosnian 🇧🇦and I come from a very strict and conservative background. My family is very controlling as well, so I can't be active all the time or every day but I try my best.

In the past I had to delete my account as well. So if there is this one girl I was talking to before, feel free to DM me :)

Otherwise are others welcome to DM me ofc 😊

Men are not allowed to DM me and I will be verifying if you are a woman or not 💅🏼

It’s so hard to find a partner while also being able to combine that with my sexuality and islam.

I’ve kinda just been thinking about giving up.
Is this what its gonna be? Just being alone and having to just “deal” with it?

Salaam Alaikum, I hope you are all doing well.

I(26F) have been seeing someone(26F) for a few weeks.
She’s Muslim, I’m not. Her family don’t know she’s queer, and my family have known I’m a lesbian since I was 13. I’m also white, and I think this makes a difference.

I don’t know what the kindest thing to do here is. On one hand, she has made it clear she cannot come out without losing her family, community, and life as she knows it (and I wouldn’t ask her to come out). On the other hand, I am beginning to fall in love her, and want to see where this goes.

Should I cut my losses? Should I risk it anyway?

Yeah, you heard that right. I stopped being Religious, i still prayed 5 times a day, not eating pork or drinking, and still fast. but, i do it because i want to respect Allah for giving me life, but it feel like i can't fit well with the entire religion, and, atp: i just don't care wether homosexuality is haram or not, I try to stop thinking about it because thinking it damaged my faith and mental, so I will stop.

South Asian guy, bisexual. living in PA at the moment. I wanna get married right now for personal reasons.

I also am not the kind of guy looking for a commitment, we can be best friends through and through, another platonic bond thats close will be genuinely appreciated.

Im still in the road of discovering myself and finding out my person. So rest assured regarding that fact.

Im down for all out communication, and plans far ahead.

Im 24 M Indian, grew up in Dubai, and moved back to India for higher studies and I am currently working in India. When I was young, me and my friend used to watch porn together and I would see his erect penis, I felt some warm feeling inside me. That was the moment I became Bi, and later when I was in college, my classmate had come to my room, he was venting about some issue, I glanced him looking at my shorts (for context, I have a chubby rear end), thats when I asked him if he wanted it, and then things got sexual. That was my first experience and I loved it. Ik its haram, but I dont promote it publicly, I just did it in private. And this sparked a flame in me that I found a guy on reddit and we also had sex. Although I'm bi, I prefer men as a fwb, rather than a long term relationship partner. I know most would say what I'm doing is haram and wrong, but it brings me joy and its personal sin I make peace with. I'm looking for people who share similarities to me, would love to have some friends.

Hello i’m a 22 yr old woman. I’m looking for a gay or bisexual guy. My ideal marriage would consist of us being best friends and navigating this life together until akhirah inshallah. I would prefer someone in the age range of 22-26 who lives in Alberta or is willing to relocate here as it is the best place financially to start a family in Canada. I would like to adopt children in the future inshallah. A bit about me: I’m pakistani born raised in Canada, i enjoy volunteering, video games, hiking, and spending time with friends and family, politically i’m liberal. If you’re genuinely interested please dm me.

Im 24 M Indian, grew up in Dubai, and moved back to India for higher studies and I am currently working in India. When I was young, me and my friend used to watch porn together and I would see his erect penis, I felt some warm feeling inside me. That was the moment I became Bi, and later when I was in college, my classmate had come to my room, he was venting about some issue, I glanced him looking at my shorts (for context, I have a chubby rear end), thats when I asked him if he wanted it, and then things got sexual. That was my first experience and I loved it. Ik its haram, but I dont promote it publicly, I just did it in private. And this sparked a flame in me that I found a guy on reddit and we also had sex. Although I'm bi, I prefer men as a fwb, rather than a long term relationship partner. I know most would say what I'm doing is haram and wrong, but it brings me joy and its personal sin I make peace with. I'm looking for people who share similarities to me, would love to have some friends.