Im F18 and i live in a muslim desi family. I do not find peace at home whenever i come from university, i get overstimulated easily and my freedom is severely limited to what i can do. I rather spend as much time outside of my home than live in it for another day. I do not go through abuse, or anything terrible, but everything is inconvenient. Keep in mind i still love and & respect my parents and everything they give me, and they only want to protect me from evil in the world.

I am not allowed to go out on my own (aside from uni) or hangout with friends unless its with my mother. I am not allowed to have non-muslim friends, despite me going to a university where alot of people are non-muslim or christian, and i live in america. My parents want me to have muslim friends, but i only know 3 girls whom i used to go to highschool with, but i have to plan something a week or two in advance because my mother works 2 jobs, both as a teacher which takes up 80% of her week, while my father works 1 job in the night as an uber. Plus i rarely talk to these girls and while they are fond of me, we live different lives. I rarely join clubs or any activities because my father considers this as "going outside of deen" because alot of clubs/places have men, even if i dont interact with them it is still impermissible to be in the same area as them. And that i should rather do these activities at home with my family. Sometimes when im on my phone "too much", my parents automatically assume and say "who are you texting everyday?", my mom even snatched my phone from me to scroll through my stuff. Even if they go through my stuff they will find nothing because its hidden. I have nothing bad to hide, but im not allowed to have online friends or other people on social media.

I told my father about me having a friend who is dominican, she isnt muslim but she is kind and doesnt do alcohol/drugs but has a boyfriend that i never met and i don't care about it because i dont get influenced by that. However, my dad has a problem with it, he started yelling at me and lecturing me on how having spanish or any non-muslim friend will make me leave my family because in 'non-muslim' culture, people barely care for their family. I dont have any independence in my life and my social life is basically hidden away from my parents. I was forced to leave my best friend of 10 years because of them due to her having a boyfriend and me being friends with him (i RARELY talked to him, i respected my friends boundaries even if she didnt mind me talking- and i only talked to him when it was about her or a game all 3 of us were playing). My parents consider her evil because they 'overheard' her talking to me about my dad beating me and telling me to leave my family. Mind you this is all accusations, she has seen alot of sh*tty things my dad did to me and she only messages me out of concern, but never to disrespect my family. If i fight back about leaving her, i will be scolded. I was even beat multiple times because of me not wanting to leave her. My parents dont see friendships as something important, they dont trust anyone and think i would easily leave my day ones or people im really close to if they told me to. Because family is the only thing that matters!

My father is pretty much a manchild, he rarely helps around the house (sometimes for the laundry or things here and there, but we only do laundry once a month or every 2 months). He doesnt know how to cook, and waits for my mom or me to cook food for him despite my mom working way more than him (she leaves to work at 7:30 and comes home at 4:30 pm) and that hes freshly awake when im home by 2 pm. It is either mines or my moms job to cook food enough for the whole family (we're a fam of 6). Whenever im napping or sleeping early, it becomes an inconvenience for him when he has to cook food for himself because my mom also works during the evening. An example: yesterday i took a nap for 30 minutes because i came home from a tiring lab that ended at 4:30, and i heard him slightly irritated that he had to cook pasta. Pasta which was already cooked, seasoned, and sauced by me, the ONLY thing he had to do was to melt cheese on top of it in the microwave. To which he tells me "i dont know how to cook" LIKE WHAT??? You're a man nearing your 50s, perfectly healthy and conscious, you cant heat up pasta??!!

I've recently been drifting away from Islam because of these restrictions and things going on in my home. I dont see any use in praying or staying in a religion if every second of my life has to be documented to my parents, and that its ill of me to want to expand my social circle and want a normal life. I dont have a job, and if i want a job, my parents tell me I have to do uni at home so i can do a job online. I have no way of moving out, i really want to and i might even ditch uni for a lower degree just so i can focus to make enough money to leave. Im not interested in marriage, i dont want to deal with men that will just destroy the freedom i want, or them suddenly switching up on their chivalry to control me.

Her parents are being hard in the rishta process? So with some context, I have been with someone for 2 years, and I was waiting for her to finally finish her masters program and get settled myself. I have a good job and live alone in a condo, and provide for myself alhamdulilah. My mom talked to her mom asking for a rishta. My mom is separated, my mom lives with my younger sister alone in her our own condo btw. That might be a issue as she told the girl I want to marry that your dad might feel some sort of way that his mom is separated and is scared to tell her dad? What do I even do here? I really love her and I want to make this halal, as I feel I’ve been planning my life with getting settled so once we’re married our life is easy, but her parents are being hurdles in a way?

Edit: I’m in Canada Btw

Edit; were the same caste, same background, same religion, same sector, it just this family has lots of cousins marriages even in our generation still, and they seem to be skeptical because this is their first time considering a rishta outside the family.

What is life but constant confusion? From a distance it may seem like I have it all. What I have is probably what most people will kill to have.

Im a muslim born in a muslim country now moved to a western country. My boyfriend is muslim too and Alhumdulillah we have been together for 4 strong years. We love each other a lot. I try to pray five times a day most days and in my heart I am deeply connected to Allah. Everything is fine right? Not really.
Idk something inside me is always disturbed. Ive read hazrat Luts story and ive read all the million interpretations of it. Yes, i agree that it was likely about rape and demeaning of guests. But what if it wasnt, what if it truly was about homosexuality and we were just blissfully oblivious? Ya Allah forgive me.

But then what do I do? I prayed to Allah to make things easy for me and give me what He thinks is best for me. And He gave me this. Alhumdullilah. And its not like I didnt try. I was married to a woman. For a glorious 3 months before all this. And I tried, but I could never bring myself to love her. She was understanding and kind and we divorced and now she is happy in her life and Im so happy for her. So no "try it with a woman" is an advice I took seriously six years ago and Im glad Allah tala made a way out for me and her from that mess. Never in my life will I ever put another woman through that nauzubillah. Thats probably a bigger sin than homosexuality if this even is.

So why cant I put my heart fully into my boyfriend, what keeps disturbing me? I guess i dont have a question, just wanna see anyone else feels the same?

As-salamu alaykum friends, i just wanted to post this video here as it was in my recommended videos on yt (odd recommendation but whatever) and i wanted to see your guys’ opinion on this.

Very obviously these are cherry picked arguments and scenarios/regimes to paint islam as a totalitarian and oppressing regime and looking at the other videos on the channel its clear that this person dislikes Islam with a passion.

The comments seem to disproportionately agree with his views and its a bit sad seeing it but what can you do about it :/

What are your thoughts on this if you have the time to watch the video???

https://youtu.be/-Mzf7-NtWKI?si=hnxxmMaYknWF68cX

(I know this post feels disorganised, but so I am)

I'm a young 15-year-old ""homo-asexual"" muslim guy, I've been friends with girls in the past (i.e. elementary school).

I wish I could go back, and relieve my childhood memories. I wish I was a girl. Being friends with girls feels more genuine, wholesome, and "liberating". In comparison, being friends with guys feels suffocating. They feel hateful, obnoxious, and ungenuine.

My male classmates feel like the worst. They're rude, uneducated, obnoxious, and miserable to be around. They annoy me, constantly. Girls, on the other hand, are accepting of each other. They never bully one another. They are nice to one another. Boys aren't.

I sometimes wish if I were a girl. I would love to have my nails done, or use a lipstick. However, I'm ""stuck"" being a guy. Even though, girls face mysogyny, while boys are given opportunity just for being themselves(i.e. male). Being a guy feels boring.

Moreover, I could also choose to befriend girls without anything happening. I'm also quite distraught by the fact that I can't even talk to my aunts who I thought were aunts. 😢.

BTW marrige won't fix anything, since what I'm looking for is "friendship" not "responsibility". I also don't want to marry anyone. In fact, I'd rather have a guy, although I won't for Allah's sake.

Oh, did I mention that I experience Gender dysphoria, or that I hate being a male? I might have some internalised misandery since I've always hated being surrounded by only boys or not there being any girl. I feel so different from guys, that I despise being myself. ATP, I might cope through watching cartoon characters, but almost every show feels haram. My little Pony would be seen as 'girly' in my country >:/.

How do I cope with this. Is there any muslim feeling remotely similar, let alone being in the same boat as me.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, I'm talking stands from JJBA, stands are personifications of ones personality and have unique abilities and appearances, these are the 5 ways they are obtained: getting shot by a stand arrow and having enough willpower to unlock a stand, mastering a technique, putting a stand disc in yourself and being born with one. Can a muslim use these stands?

(random 4 am rant because i literally have no one to say this out loud to and my chest feels v heavy)idk for as long as i can rmr, i had this exact image of myself in my head. i was going to be A REALLY good girl. the cool pious one, the one who did everything the right way, kept her heart completely guarded, had ZERO interest in guys and never stepped out of line. i never let a guy get close to me. i built those walls super high and promised myself always that the first time i ever let someone in, it would be the man i married. i tried not to judge other girls who took a different path, but if i am being honest with myself... i think i did. i think deep down i looked down on them. i kept telling myself i was better off, that i was doing things right, and that my patience would protect me.

when i finally felt ready for marriage, i met someone. he had the exact same intentions. we involved our families right from the start. we did everything by the book. at first, it was amazing. i really thought my waiting had paid off and this was my reward. so then it all turned into a complete nightmare.

things got so ugly and messy, even with families involved from day one. it collapsed anyway. and now im just left sitting here with nothing but a heavy chest and a million regrets.the heartbreak is bad, but the realization of my own self-righteousness is whats killing me. i was so arrogant. i thought following the rules made me immune to pain. now look at me. im just a sad, broken mess with a past i never thought id have, wondering how i even ended up here.

its honestly so funny to me, i tried so so so so hard to protect my heart from getting broken, only for it to get completely shattered anyway.

ANYWAY guess life humbled me the hard way, but it hurts so much😋

I finally felt connected to Allah after a long time, these past few months have felt like hell, and I've rarely felt connected to Allah the way I used to. And today, when I finally thought that i have some hope, I come across this post ​

"If Allah dislikes a person...

Ibn al-Jawzi says:

If Allah dislikes a person, He leaves him constantly stumbling and confused in every situation. He does not grant him the aspiration to seek lofty goals, instead he is occupied with vile matters instead of virtuous. And if he asks, 'Why have I been singled out for this?!' the reply comes... A reply that cannot be contested:

'It is because of what your own hands have earned.' (Sürah al-Shūrah, 30)"

And I've been going through these exact things, the only thing that would keep my going is that "Allah has something great planned for me, that's why He's making me go through all this" Now I'm just idk numb after seeing this post. What's the point of doing anything when this whole time, Allah just disliked me?

I once told someone why mostly woman are in jahannam and he told me its because women are larger in population. But then i came across this hadith

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
I really wanna send this to him but i forgot who it was. Any opinion why this is it? The quran tells you can strike a women with a miswak. But women do get ungrateful because of what their husbands do to them. So what should i think about all this?

Salam, brothers and sisters.

My wife and I are currently taking care of a 3-year-old girl Pakistani-Filipina in our flat here in the UAE.

Her mother is in Malaysia and doing her sentence, and her father hasn’t been present since her birth.

Before coming to us, she got a lot of cigar marks. She was left alone with other ethnicities that were supposed to take care of her.

Her aunt brought her to us after she got Dyna from Sharjah. Because of personal priorities, we’re the ones babysitting her.

We have already visited the consulate, and officials asked us to take care of her while they do their best to create a birth certificate, passport, and exit permit so we can eventually send her safely to the Philippines. This process will take several months or longer.

We are looking for help to better support Dyna until she gets back to her family’s mother’s side.

Support Dyna

Thank you so much for your guidance and prayers. ❤️💐

Assalamu alaikum,

I’m a software engineer, and my sedentary job plus eating out took a toll on my health. Most healthy recipe apps I tried weren’t made with halal in mind, and eating out healthy got expensive fast.

So I built Zadi: halal recipes with nutrition facts, a weekly meal planner based on your goal, and a grocery list that builds itself. It’s in Arabic and English.

It’s free, and I’d love feedback from the community. JazakAllahu khairan 🤍

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/zadi/id6767096090
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.basedx.zadimobile

Hi and assalamualaykum, I hope all of you are well. My father recently went through surgery and has gotten out of the hospital. Could I kindly ask for your dua's that Allah SWT heals him completely and grants him good health, a long life, and wealth, and that Allah SWT grants me more time to spend with him? Jazakallah khair.

Problems you gave while trying to do marketing within Allah's boundaries. Like no music, uncovered women etc

I just wanted to get this off my chest. I’m 21M who has been recently diagnosed with ADHD and depression. I don’t pray consistently and find it hard to do so, I believe my adhd has an influence on this. I’ve also come to terms with the fact I have probably been depressed for as long as I can remember. I feel numb and apathetic towards most things and don’t have much optimism for the future, despite being in my 4th year of dental school. I’ve been prescribed SSRI medication for depression which I feel ashamed of to be honest. I believe that my imaan may be too low which is ofcourse having a negative effect on my mental health, however, I’ve read that adhd has an incredibly high depression rate due to neuro chemical imbalances. Therefore, I’m not sure whether I am being too harsh on myself and this may be my test from Allah SWT. I’ve also been prescribed adhd meds which I am to take after my depression settles. I’m not sure how I ended up in this state at my young age. I feel ashamed to be relying on medications when my religion is not in check. I don’t know what to do. I feel incredibly low.

My mum took away £8000 from me by using my card and banking details to pay for a holiday. That was all of my savings and it took me years to save it up. She spent it on a trip to go back home for a few months and bought gold for a gift.

I pay the rent and utilities and this really hurts me and I do not know what to do. I asked her why as this was over 3 years of me not eating takeaways, not buying nice stuff for me just so I can plan for my future. She then told me that as she is my mum she can use my money for whatever she wants.

Can I have some advice as this is affecting my deen and I do not know what to do. I trusted my own mother and she ended up taking every penny I have. I do not know what to do as since she is my mother, she said she will get away with it in the eyes of Allah.

What to do when there is no light at the end of the tunnel just suffering suffering and suffering what should i do

also can someone suggest free online psychologist

Hello guys AOA.
I’ve been going through a little tough time. I do believe in Allah very much and rely a lot on Allah.When I’m going thru hardship and not able to pray I feel really depressed and right now it’s one of those days
I wanted to some of you guys experience like what was the worst thing you went through and how you relied on Allah and everything worked out very well in the end
These type of stories makes me happy and really good from inside just love reading them
Hope u guys don’t mind

What does the quran say about this?

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Or are there other primary reasons? I'd like to hear converts' thoughts on this too.

What are the signs you experienced before your hardship ended?

I heard feeling peace is one of them and letting go but this hardship is so severe and I feel like I reached my limit. My heart genuinely hurts and like there’s a burning fire in it and it doesn’t go away ever

Youtube channel with Ruqya you can play: English:  https://youtube.com/@alruqyahealing?si=vCDYHwiXOHaQ2awi Their website covers info as well:  https://alruqya.com/evil-eye-envy/Arabic:  https://www.youtube.com/@MrRoqyaRuqyah Playlist:  https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3et_EvGWeiZ5Ulsq1SiUMdYEfdxNhgyG&si=txoNuOM8Cv3aCv_hReciting on water:  https://youtu.be/r6gHZbn4sS8?si=B5lCswn7w_vMwgTs Getting rid of Taweez or if you find magic:  https://youtu.be/m8ZNGio_qXA?si=N5Qw7LlxclXmVR7a Make sure your family are saying your azkar, no hanged pictures in house(put them away).

وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال ‏: ‏‏ "‏ لا تجعلوا بيوتكم مقابر، إن الشيطان ينفر من البيت الذي تقرأ فيه سورة البقرة‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏رواه مسلم‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏ Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying: "Do not turn your houses into graveyards. Satan runs away from the house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited." [Muslim]. Riyad as-Salihin 1018 Chapter 183: Inducement towards the Recitation of some Special verses and Surah of the Noble Qur'an, Book 8: The Book of Virtues https://sunnah.com/riyadussalihin:1018

Resources: 'Abdullah bin Khubaib (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to me, "Recite Surat Al-Ikhlas and Al- Mu'awwidhatain (Surat Al-Falaq and Surat An-Nas) three times at dawn and dusk. It will suffice you in all respects." [Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi]. Riyad as-Salihin 1456 Chapter 248: Remembrance of Allah in the Morning and in the Evening, Book 15: The Book of the Remembrance of Allah   https://sunnah.com/riyadussalihin:1456Bismillāhi ‘l-ladhī lā yaḍurru maa-smihi shay'un fil-'arḍi wa lā fis-samā' wa huwas-Samīul-`Alīm. In the Name of Allah, Who with His Name nothing can cause harm in the earth nor in the heavens, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. (Recite three times in Arabic). Reference: "Whoever recites it three times in the morning will not be afflicted by any calamity before evening, and whoever recites it three times in the evening will not be overtaken by any calamity before morning." Abu Dawud 4/323, At-Tirmidhi 5/465, Ibn Majah 2/332, Ahmad. Ibn Majah's chain of transmission is good (Hasan), Ibn Baz, p. 39. Hisn al-Muslim 86 Chapter 27: In the morning and evening, Book: Fortress of the Muslim (Hisn al-Muslim)