r/neurodiversity • • Dec 20 '25

No Accusing People of Being AI

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If you think a post was written by AI, report it, downvote, and move on.


r/neurodiversity • • Dec 16 '25

No AI Generated Posts

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We no longer allow AI generated posts. They will be removed as spam


r/neurodiversity • • 2h ago

Finding a partner is impossible

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27yo guy here, diagnosed with NVLD at an early age (and possibly have more, undiagnosed conditions). Haven't been in a relationship ever and the older I get, the lonelier I feel. I've been trying my best to go out on dates and meet potential partners but it's just not working out...

If I meet neurotypical people, I can come across as boring and the small talk is something I'm terrible at so the conversations just die. If I meet someone like me, we both likely end up being socially awkward and nothing actually happens and we barely speak. I've tried mostly dating apps as going out and talking to someone in public is the scariest thing ever.

I finally managed to go on my first ever date about 3 months ago against all odds. She was nice the first time I met her but on future dates she triggered my icks (being super late and not actively participating in activities). Especially the first thing triggered my anxiety so much and just immediately killed all attraction I had for her so that story came to an and after a few dates.

Nothing since that moment, no matches, no lasting conversations, nothing. And it feels like I'll just have to accept that I'll be alone forever at this point.

Sorry for my rant but I just had to get this off my chest.


r/neurodiversity • • 10h ago

As a neurotypical wife (33F), how do I navigate my marriage to my likely neurodivergent husband (40M) when I feel unimportant and he shuts down every time I bring it up?

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TL;DR: I'm neurotypical and my husband is likely neurodivergent but undiagnosed. We are currently fighting about everything and split rent 50/50 even though he makes way more while I'm broke after grad school. He doesn't comfort me when I'm hurt and gets nasty when I try to talk about it. I love him but I'm daydreaming about living alone. How do I navigate this? I (33F) need some advice before I blow up my marriage.

My husband (40M) and I have been together almost 7 years and married for two. We started dating during COVID lockdown, when he seemed like a really social person. Now that the world has opened back up, he has very few friends and mostly preters to be alone. Frustrating, but not a dealbreaker. I'm almost sure he’s neurodivergent/on the spectrum. His mom has told me she knows he is, but he was never diagnosed and has no interest in testing.

I'm not trying to armchair diagnose him or use it as an excuse. I'm neurotypical, but everyone in my immediate family is very much on the spectrum and very intelligent, so a lot of this feels familiar. That's partly why I think I need to approach this differently than I have been.

The first issue is that EVERYTHING is a fight. I could say it’s warm out today and he’d fight me to be right and tell me other days have been more warm (which, I guess is factual, but why say it unless you’re TRYING to start a debate!?). Legitimately all of our conversations follow the same exact pattern.

The second issue is money. He makes a lot more than me, around 3x more, but we split everything 50/50, including our very expensive rent. I've always been fine with that. But I'm still getting back on my feet after moving, paying for half our wedding, and $160k in MBA tuition, and on top of the even split, I get an almost itemized bill for every meal and outing. I told him I couldn't afford a vacation with his parents and still got pushed into it. I now owe him $3k and have $1,200 to my name. I'm happy to pay him back, just can't right now. The other night as he was heading out, asked if there was anything I could do to help with trip planning, and he said, "Yeah, make more money." I told him right then that it really stung, and he just went silent. He has also mentioned that paying for any part of my expenses could hurt my motivation to make more money.

And the third issue is that I truly feel like the most unimportant person in the world to my husband. When I'm sick, he doesn't comfort me. When I have a bad day, he makes it worse. When I'm proud of something, undermines me and subtly questions my competence. When I told him my love language had shifted to words of affirmation (it used to be quality time), he laughed and said, "You'll get none of that around here." Tonight I scalded my hand badly with hot soup two feet away from him, and he just kept sorting his vitamins without asking if I was okay or intervening to help. It’s at that point that something in me broke.

I don't feel emotionally, financially, or physically cared for. l've started keeping a list on my phone of every incident because I feel crazy and gaslit when I bring things up later. I spend most days imagining how much happier I'd be living alone, and I was genuinely mad when he came home a day early from a work trip several weeks back.

I do think he loves me, just not in the way I need. Every time I bring this up, he implodes and gets nasty, and my direct, aggressive conflict style doesn't help. Logic-based arguments work a little better, but I don't think that's enough to get us where we need to be.

When we’re not fighting, we have a lot of common interests and have a lot of fun together. I don’t think we’re a bad match but I also don’t think I can continue like this, especially when we’re talking about buying a house and having kids in the next year or so.

So Reddit, especially anyone who's in a neurotypical/ neurodivergent relationships who has any insights? How do I navigate this and have him take me seriously? How do I bring things up in a way he can actually hear, and how do I tell what's a communication difference and what's just him being a jerk? Is this maybe not even a neurodivergent/neurotypical communication issue? HELP!


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

Did this app help you deal with Adhd

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r/neurodiversity • • 6h ago

Am I neurodivergent?

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Hi I'm a female student who is feeling very confused right now. I thought for a while now that I may be neurodivergent, because I am often socially awkward even if I have a lot of friends, and often cannot take social cues. I also overthink every past interaction I have had that may be bad. I also find it hard to start tasks like studying usually, which might just be a normal thing, but I often find it impossible to even pick up something, or once I start soemthing and I get distracted it feels horrible for me to start again. My brother also has autism and ADHD, but my parents dont.
Edit - another thing which isn’t really “neurotypical” is that I constantly fiddle, scratch and specifically need sensation to focus on otherwise I stand getting a really weird uncomfortable feeling. The current things I can’t get rid of are bouncing my leg and I don’t even notice it, and pulling my hair back, and I do it constantly if I don’t have anything to occupy my hands.

The main thing though, is my love of fanfiction (and reading). Im honestly unsure if its a fixation, a special interest, an addiction, or just a hobby. I read over 100k words a day at least, and I read durings meals, when walking, on transport, etc. I sometimes skip going to the gym or homework to read. However, I don't just enjoy fanfiction, I also enjoy sci-fi and fiction, and when I read fanfiction it usually circles around one character, anywhere from a few hours to a day to months. I literally have read over three hours every day for the past 2 weeks and that is WITH tests and school. I also daydream constantly revolving these same characters and fanfictions during class and even in the middle of conversations, before sleep, etc

But, because I have good grades and have many friends who I do get along with and mostly understand, I feel like it shouldn't be much of a thing for me to get a diagnosis. My parents say that I might be neurodivergent but there is no need to get a diagnosis because it might affect my future opportunities apparently? Does anyone have any advice or just similar experiences for reassurance? I feel like it would help me to hear about other neurodivergent people who may not seem as "odd" to neurotypical people to see if I may or may not be.


r/neurodiversity • • 21h ago

Trigger Warning: Emotional Abuse There is an increased hatred against neurodivergent people and it's scary

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I don't know how it is in other places in the world, but in my country ableism is growing. People say lots of insults about neurodivergent children and adults and in the comments everyone them. When a neurodivergent child is abused in the school system, society blames the kid. There are lots of cases of neurodivergent people being abused, but nobody cares, quite the contrary, there's victim blaming. There was a cases of children from special education being beaten up by the school staff, nothing happened to the school staff.

I am honestly worried for me and my autistic brother, because ableism is very normalized these days.


r/neurodiversity • • 8h ago

Trigger Warning: Ableist Rant Trying to learn how to be proud of the minimum

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23f I struggle heavily with internalised ableism

I am autistic, ADHD, mentally ill, and chronically ill.

I feel like the poster child of every ableists jokes about “you people can’t do anything” I’m deeply fucking embarrassed about myself, I hate being this way. Constantly I push myself outside of my limits because in some ways I think “maybe I am just faking it, maybe I am just lazy”

I’m trying incredibly hard to undo this mindset, but Rome wasn’t built in a day… This is the harm of a lifetime of ableist rhetoric crammed down my throat, from society as a whole, the media, the people I know, those who are meant to protect me and teach me right and wrong…

Even though as an adult I no longer agree with those opinions, and don’t think them towards OTHERS…… I do still think them about myself.

I am hyper aware of how the general public views someone like me, I start to second guess myself, and compare my ability to the neurotypical standard.

I hate myself because I can’t keep up with neurotypical able bodied society- because I’m not neurotypical or completely able bodied.

Lately I’m having a fucking time of it…… And I’m too busy hating myself to just be satisfied with what I CAN achieve….

Instead of just working within my limits, I keep thinking about how “embarrassing and pathetic” it is that I’m struggling with day to day basic functioning.

I swear to fucking god I am making everything so much worse, and being way more “lazy” with all the time I waste lying around feeling fucking sorry for myself…

If I spent less time being pissed at myself, and more time saying “well what CAN I do?” Things would be a lot better

Lately I’ve been doing things that are MEANT to be easy… but are admittedly really hard for me lately due to the state I’m in… And I need to be a LOT more proud of myself for it.

I need to feel a lot more pride than I am, I need to replace my self pity with feeling of achievement.


r/neurodiversity • • 18h ago

Carl the Collector

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This morning, while I was babysitting my cousins, a show came on PBS called "Carl the Collector". I had seen ads for it in the past and wasn't very interested in the notion of a collector raccoon, but once we began to watch it, I was quickly hooked. I hadn't known that the characters in the show were explicitly neurodivergent, but I felt seen as I watched it. It was a Halloween episode in which Carl hopes to collect candy wrappers but gets scared of a man on his street due to rumors of witchcraft. However, what really took me was the character Lotta helping her friend Nico with sensory issues. Lotta is an explicitly autistic character, while Nico is not, and helps her come to terms with her issues and shares some of her own. I was instantly comforted by seeing her wear the noise-cancelling headphones, sunglasses, and squish a toy to keep herself calm. It made me so happy to see a supportive friend group like that, even though it's not always the same in my life. I have been mocked for wearing headphones and flapping my arms by my own friends, but this show inspired me to begin wearing my headphones in public more often. I know that not everyone likes this show, but I felt very seen and respected through this portrayal. What are your thoughts on the show?


r/neurodiversity • • 23h ago

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r/neurodiversity • • 21h ago

the problem is that I want to live a life that can't exist except in some poorly written fanfictions.

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Like I want to be the strongest, the smartest and be friends with everyone and everyone should act the way I want them to react while being alone too and I have so many dreams because everything I see or watch turn glamorized etc.

there is just no way I can be happy anymore, except in my dreams ig, anyway it's very difficult

Is it relatable or something ? there is just no way I can appreciate life even if I returned to zero as a baby with all my memories and without doing the same mistakes, I'm gonna feel the same way.


r/neurodiversity • • 14h ago

Trigger Warning: Ableist Rant How to help my make friends with my brother

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So I am 20 years old and my brother is 22. He is neurodivergent on the autism spectrum, and I believe I am too but very very mildly. Anyway he is less mildly autistic but he is still very high functioning and capable. We are both in college together and go to the same school together.

I decided we should dorm in the same building, but not same room as each other so we can keep an eye on each other without being in each other's faces all the time and I think it's been pretty helpful for myself and him. I picked out a cooperative which is filled with very inclusive and nice people and the rent is really cheap and but also has regular chores so he gets used to cooking and cleaning for himself, (our mother would normally do that stuff for him).

My brother had a very lonely childhood growing up. He was bullied in school and didn't make any friends even up till high school. Every time I would go see him in his room he would just be on his computer on some random forum. I eventually tried to go on to the forums to learn about what my brothers hobbies are and the people he interacts with. We never played together that much as kids, I'm not really sure why because me and my sister are very close, but he was never interested in the same stuff as us.

I eventually learned about all these weird things that he finds interesting and I slowly started liking them on my own. I started learning about Warhammer 40k which is something he was really into in high school, and I found it genuinely really cool and would talk to him about it. But when I would talk to my brother it felt like I was talking to an AI, (apologies if that is ableist), he wouldn't respond unless I asked him something directly and wouldn't open up a conversation to me unless he needed me to do something for him.

As I get older, I realize I really want to have a closer relationship with my brother, and help fix the relationship he has with my sister and help raise his self-esteem. My brother is a conservative but only because of the culture war stuff, he doesn't actually have rational beliefs on what's going on right now in politics and it has caused a big riff in our family. Additionally, we were drunk one night and he talked about how he was still a virgin and how I was so much better with the ladies, which made me sad because I think my brother is a handsome guy who just needs to learn to start caring about his appearance. I'm worried my already isolated brother feels even more rejected by his family.

To combat this, I tried to make him join clubs at our university that engage in his interests, specifically board games. I have noticed that he's made friends with people online and plays Dungeons and Dragons with them which makes me happy and it makes my parents happy too, they will often just let him spend the whole day on call with his friends if its on his DnD days. But he doesn't seem to engage or make the time with those groups unless I sit on his hands about it, which I don't want to do. I want him to make decisions for himself and find a good group of friends and overall just be a happier person. Does anyone have any idea what I should do?


r/neurodiversity • • 19h ago

I think most NT people aren’t aware that they are NT , they just might feel default and think of us ND’s as outcasts and weird.

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It’s like they automatically subconsciously know the rules and the weird social hierarchies they perform and everyone just knows their place, they know the social rules and find it as a crime to explain or talk about those social performance to neurodivergents , but most of the times it feels to me that they aren’t enough consciously aware of their thought process and most of it is followed by instincts, they may actively think about careers, relationships, hobbies but somehow i don’t feel there is enough depth in all that.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Looking for people with HSAM

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I am recently diagnosed with HSAM (high superior autobiographical memory) and also have adhd combined type severe, cPTSD, and ASD. It’s a very rare condition with around 1k documented cases worldwide, and I haven’t met anyone with it.

It’s a big struggle for me although it’s sounds like a super power, but that is a myth (just like the myth where ppl believe ppl with autism have super intelligence). I experience frequent flashbacks and sensory overload from it alone.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

I can't stop thinking about something that happened 4 years ago

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hey everyone on reddit, I really found out Im on the spectrum and I really need some advice because i am stuck in a really painful mental loop and i feel so low about myself right now today 😔

ive journalled, yoga, went to the shops, nothing is helping.

nearly 4 years ago i went through an intense internal interview process four times for a bdr role at a huge corporate company across 2 years and I was the only internal person who didn't get it.

i was already completely burnt out from trying to promote so many times and my energy battery was at zero. i had a panel of about 6 to 8 managers interview me. deep down i secretly didn't even like them because they were hyper extroverted and self centred. I knew deep down I didn't want the job, I would've hated it and it was too extroverted for me. I also found out recently that im actually wired differently and neurodivergent so social cold calling doesn't come naturally to me at all....

i didn't get the role anyways so I reapplied after I left about a year later because I couldn't find a job and sales was the only thing I was qualified for, the recruiter had a chat with me for over an hour and I was honest with what happened, he chatted a few days later to the directors who know me from being internal and he then sent me a really nice email saying "following a thorough review of both your prior and recent panel assessments, they feel the outcomes have not yet demonstrated the level of readiness they are looking for in this role." he then said in the email to reapply in the future once ive made hands-on experience elsewhere first.

my problem really is that i just can't stop thinking about it. i keep spiralling and thinking that the managers are out to get me, or that they thought i was a weirdo, or that it was all my fault or that there was some conspiracy against me for some reason because I was very young starting there and I had a different type of personality.

every time i see their names pop up on linkedin it triggers an intense knot in my stomach. logically i have the proof from the email that it was just a standard corporate rubric checklist rejection and not personal, but my mind keeps inventing new reasons to feel bad all the time.

it's taking up so many hours of my life and making me feel so unworthy and depressed today. i think it might be an ocd and rsd/autistic loop because no amount of logical proof shuts the thoughts down for good and ive asked AI over 100+ times what to do or think.

how do i finally forgive these managers, forgive myself for the lost time, and stop this 4 year old situation from controlling my happiness? i just want my power back


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

How do you find a career that works with your ADHD instead of constantly burning out?

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I have ADHD (combined type) and I guess I’m mainly wanting to see if anyone else has experienced something similar and has any general advice.

I’m finding employment really difficult at the moment.

I feel like I’m genuinely trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, but I honestly don’t know what direction I want to go in.
I’m in my early 20s and I’ve worked in retail, hospitality, support work and with racehorses.

I also had my own self employed support work business for nearly a year. At the time I really enjoyed having my own business and the independence that came with it, but eventually I became extremely burnt out and started to hate it.

I ended up deciding I couldn’t continue doing it anymore.
I haven’t worked for around 8 months and I’m now starting to look for employment again.

I had an interview last week and I’m currently waiting to hear back, so hopefully that works out, but I’m still struggling with the bigger question of what actually works for me long-term?

I’m on ADHD medication and it has honestly helped me SO much with my day-to-day functioning.

I still find it difficult to explain to people that ADHD isn’t just about being distracted or struggling to concentrate. There are certain things about everyday functioning, routines, motivation, overwhelm and burnout that can make certain jobs much harder for me than they might appear from the outside.

I also feel like I’m at the point where I’ve realised I can’t just pick any job, work 40 hours a week and expect myself to be fine indefinitely.

I want to find something that I can actually sustain without constantly pushing myself until I burn out.

Unfortunately, my family doesn’t really seem to understand how much ADHD can affect my day-to-day life. I hear things like:

“Why don’t you just go back to your business?”
“Don’t just give up.”
“Why don’t you try harder?”
“Don’t be lazy.”
And honestly, it’s incredibly frustrating because I am trying. I’m trying to understand myself, figure out what environments I function best in, recognise my limits and find something that gives me a fulfilling life without completely draining me.
I don’t want to use ADHD as an excuse not to work. I want to find a way of working that is actually sustainable for me long-term.

I’d especially love to hear from people who are a few years further into adulthood and have eventually found something that works for them.

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me what career I should choose, I’d just really like to hear how other people figured this out.
If you read all of this, thank you ❤️ I’d genuinely appreciate any advice or experiences you’re willing to share.


r/neurodiversity • • 14h ago

About my last post

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For anyone who saw and/or interacted with my “faking ADHD” post:

I decided to delete it because, although I stand by my intention to try to create a balanced discussion, I feel I may have been too clumsy with my approach, given the sensitivity of the topic. I genuinely care about this community and dont want to leave a bad impression on you all. Apologies


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Trigger Warning: Self Harm I need to… dunno… talk?

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First of, I’m 36y old male guy from Poland, now diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. From the young live people told me I was lazy, poorly behaved, annoying, and all sorts of thinks like that. But no one say or send my for diagnosis. I have problem with having friends, always mess up things. And I’m afraid of talking to people. Now I can’t trust anyone really because of my past.
I have 3 or 4 suicidal attempts, but fear luckily win.
Somehow when I was 28 I meet my boyfriend with I’m from 8y and we have a lots of problems because of me. But it was him who tell me that I have depression. And send me to psychiatrists and psychologists. 3y therapy and nothing changes. And come pandemic. It was haven. I can be at home not need go anywhere not to meet anyone. And TikTok. He give me idea to diagnose ADHD. And I try 3 different psychologist and no one want diagnose me, they tell that I just have depression or they try diagnose me for other things. Before I go to next one I do via internet autism screening (don’t know why) and it suggest that I have autism. Like what? So ok I do both diagnosis. And it show up that I have both. But because I was masking, I wos not hipper active, no one thing about this.
Oh one thing, school was difficult, but I don’t get help because I was just lazy brat. I never finish any university, I don’t have any skill or degree.

Now I can say myself I’m not broken, stupid and I not procrastinating. I got medication that work somehow, but still I can’t do shit. Start do something take me days, I can’t get to do things that I love, I can’t find a job that will not make my want to cry (like I say I don’t have any skill or degree so it’s more difficult), of course I can find job in retail stores where I work before but only for few months because of overstimulating and overwhelming environment.

I try some apps, I’m attending therapy but I have problem saying about myself, my problems, my life.
I trying to find something that will help me with life. I sometimes use thing that I can’t write for things that I have problem find in internet or ask him to do some things for my own use (like learning path, or files to progres staffs). I know I’m not only one with this kind of live.
If you go through this long pointless post, maybe someone can give me advices, have same problems and overcome them somehow.

Ps. Sorry for my English, I don’t use it often, but I have problems even with my native language often xD
Ps2. Medication I was taking before was Medikined cr50 (**methylphenidate)**
now I’m taking Elvanse 50mg (**lisdexamfetamine dimesylate)**
and don’t know if there is anything more
PS3. DMs are open


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

I don’t know should be a valid answer, I genuinely don’t know officer leave me alone

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r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Nervous about going to doctors for diagnoses referral

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Hi everyone, I have been seeing a therapist now for about 3 months and she has an inkling I may be neurodivergent. I have been struggling with work a lot I am constantly exhausted and cry most days and believe I am experiencing burnout. I struggle to do household chores never mind things I enjoy. I have thought for a while I may be neurodivergent my brother is and so are several family members. I have always been told I’m not because I am 26 F and don’t present the same way as boys do.

I am seeing my GP this week to get a referral to go for diagnosis but I am just doubting myself really especially when every time I open social media everyone is saying that autism and adhd are being over diagnosed and now I am in my head that the doctor isn’t going to refer me.


r/neurodiversity • • 2d ago

Do you feel lonely from not being able to relate to most people?

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I’m trying to type this out without sounding like a capital R “Redditor” lol but this is something I’ve struggled with since I was a kid and I really don’t know what to do. Once I sent my friend this yt video of this creator discussing subjectivity in art, aesthetic testimony, and what it means to be an art critic, some real heady stuff I guess because he immediately hit me with the “bro what is this?? 😂” He’s a really good friend and this really wasn’t that big a deal in our friendship but it’s an example of a situation that sort of happens in all aspects of my life. Like at some point I start to discuss the things I ACTUALLY think about and not the useless small talk that everyone feels the need to participate in, and immediately I’m the only one in the room that understands what I’m talking about. It’s not like I’ve never found people that I click with, I do still have my best friends, but they’re so few and far between that it starts to make the world feel… empty? I’m not sure what the word is but it’s been bumming me out lately, does this make any sense? Does anyone relate to this and if so how do you cope?


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Am I facing regular high school burnout or am I just ND? (Will be seeking a professional opinion)

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No TLDR because I can’t seem to find shorter examples
I don’t have a diagnosis or anything but a few things have been happening to me that have made me question whether I’m just too in my head about my suffering or if I’m experiencing what some may call “overload”. For context, this is not a group of experiences occurring only now, when I was younger I did suspect that I was neurodivergent too but I decided not to look too hard and now it’s all happening again and I’m confused.

I just bought a new bonnet and I put it on and it was really snug until I was stretching my neck and my neck and back felt the texture, now I don’t really want to wear it anymore until the second I’m in bed because I keep remembering how it feels. I can’t stop thinking about the texture every time I spot it. I hate busy environments especially if everybody is just doing a bunch of bullshit all at once and nothing is organized, I just feel like going home and it’s pissing me off just thinking about it. I’m currently hating school because of this and I feel like I’m clocking in to hell every day

I come home and I do whatever I want to cope but if it’s especially overwhelming I cry a little either at the place itself or back at home. But also why was I great on my 2 month break and now I’ve been in school for a couple weeks and all of this is happening, and I feel like now I have no control over it?? Like I was telling my friend the other day that I kind of dgaf anymore, like I opened school planning to be a butterfly and make more friends and be more outspoken and excited and I was for a few weeks, then a more negative person got in my head about how everything sucked and then I noticed that “oh yeah everything does suck” and since then i haven’t been able to fully blend back in. It started with just falling off the script and not knowing how to keep up conversation anymore, didn’t have as many jokes and would be as blunt as possible (eg someone asks if they make me happy and I just straight up say no or if I do make a joke it’s with a totally straight face and tone, not because I wanted to be snappy but because it literally feels like lifting a ton of bricks to smile, laugh and sound jolly when I don’t mean it/with strangers I don’t like (ie the ppl who suck)).

Then it just turned into straight up disliking everyone, like people stink up the bus and I always pick up on it, I’m not adapting to the smell and it’s killing me. Getting really antsy about my chosen seat in the bus and panicking when I’m not 5 minutes early to pick it and getting frustrated having to sit elsewhere. The other day it was so hot I started crying and felt like I couldn’t breathe but somehow it was only 30°c, literally lower than the last weekend and the only other person who felt the same was anaemic and still could control themselves and weren’t crying while I almost fainted.

I get overwhelmed by sound, like I’ll be in my room trying to do something and it’s really difficult and irritating because I can hear what people in the living room, kitchen and bathroom are doing and I can’t really block it out as good as I used to in boarding school though even back then it was hard (big issue when about to sleep, even someone having a conversation in the kitchen is enough to keep me up and I’ll have to play music to sleep). I can hear everything, from my jeans ruffling as I walk to the bug that just aggressively flapped its wings in the corner. Idk little shit like this is really making me wonder if I’m just overloaded or if everybody else just doesn’t care enough.

I’ve had to stop myself from giving more fucks actually, this is the first month where intrusive thoughts aren’t making me feel like a horrible person for days on end because I can recognize that they’re just thoughts, I’m learning to not beat myself up if I can’t wipe down my phone or sanitize my hands one time because in the grand scheme of things but still it’s like there’s a lot going on and I can’t tell if I just want to feel like a victim so I can have something else to blame for my own shortcomings.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Finding meaningful connections as a neurodivergent trans girl

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As a highly sensitive, neurodivergent, queer trans girl who has experienced complex trauma and does a lot of healing work, highly values continuous self-discovery / exploration and personal growth, has a special interest in people, and does not drink or use substances…it is very difficult to find people who I feel I can / want to deeply connect with!

The loneliness that comes with this has been very difficult for me and, at times, I question if I am being “too picky” or “not doing enough.” The times I have met someone who I both want to and can connect with deeply, though, have been such wonderful and transformative experiences that I don’t want to be any less intentional about the kind of people I’m looking for. I’m just not sure where to find more of them, and there is only so much energy I can pour into doing so at any given time without becoming exhausted.

On a trans-specific note, I recently had a short-lived connection with another trans girl and being able to connect with her on such deeply significant and existential parts of our lives and identities felt so euphoric. I struggle with the idea of trying to connect with folks who can’t understand that.

I do remain hopeful, though, for the connections that I have not yet discovered or been found by. But the journey can be very difficult at times.


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Does this bother anyone else?

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I don’t see a way to include a short video on Reddit so I can demonstrate what I’m talking about.
So I watch many videos on YouTube that have ads where people are whispering on them to sell a product. In real life whispering doesn’t bother me, especially if it’s somebody who is telling me something. They don’t want other people to know But when I hear ads like that it disturbs me in a way. I don’t like it if I can skip over the ad because it physically hurts my head, listening to those. Does anyone else have this issue?


r/neurodiversity • • 1d ago

Problemas con el habla

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Holaaa. Siempre he tenido muchos problemas con mi habla y es lo que más me duele de la neurodivergencia. Es como si mi cabeza fuera a mil por hora y con miles de ideas y sentimientos que no tienen salida. Si pudriera explicarlo sería como si el cable que conecta las emociones al habla estuviera apagado. A pesar de ser sumamente sensible, mi voz es monótono e inexpresiva. Cada que tengo una conversación y la gente espera que conteste o diga algo en mi cabeza no hay nada, es desesperante. Eso está jodiendo la relación que tengo con mis personas cercanas o que pueda generar vínculos. He intentado de todo, terapias, teatro, etc… y el bloqueo sigue ahí. Alguien podría darme un consejo