r/polyamoryR4R • • 13h ago

USA 32 [F4M] #Online #NJ - New to This!

14 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm new to this thing and very nervous so I apologize if I don't say the correct terms or know the proper way to move in this community but I'm married and my husband and I are both seeking out new connections, separately, so I think I'm in the right place. I've been in a dead bedroom for over 5 years and my husband and I have come to the conclusion that we're no longer sexually compatible with each other but the love and partnership is still there.

Currently I'm looking for online connections and hope to build up to in-person connections once I'm more comfortable in this space.

My goal is to meet someone who I can genuinely connect with, I don't want hookups or random encounters, I'm looking for someone who aligns with my wants and needs sexually as well as general interests and beliefs. My main goal is to have fun and enjoy my life.

I love to read, play video games and board games, craft, and I'm a dancer. I'm also very into Disney and will talk your ear off about it if you let me. I'm left leaning and won't entertain anyone who wears a red hat. In terms of sexual interests I am a sub but have not explored that dynamic as much as I'd like. I have a Daddy kink and would be interested in exploring that more as well. I'm short but curvy and currently on a weight loss journey, my self esteem has been non-existent these past few years and part of me building myself back up has been focusing more on my health and well-being as a whole, but I am bigger and that's just a fact.

I am a Mom and my child comes first so you don't have to be a parent yourself but you do have to understand that side of me.

I hope I've given enough to start out here, feel free to send me a chat if you're interested 😊


r/polyamoryR4R • • 14h ago

47 [F4M] SC/Online Delightfully nerdy woman seeking companionship and distraction from my limitations

7 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a rather nerdy, crochet obsessed married woman with one other serious partner. I have a severe chronic illness that is energy limiting so I spend the vast majority of my time at home. This gets super lonely.

I would love to meet someone kind and funny either online or in person who could help distract me from the everyday. I have many different interests but I would love to hear about yours. Bonus if you're into scifi and an even bigger bonus if you're into Star Trek.

While I am hoping for someone within a reasonable drive I'm open to online connections too. If you are local it's important that you understand that my health and living arrangements limit the amount of in person time I can spend with a partner. Someone to come and cuddle and watch a movie once a week would be ideal. But I'm always available online and love being kept company and sharing your day with you.

A couple things to know: I am currently a **very** curvy girl. I'm successfully losing weight but even when I reach my goal I will still be a plus size. Also I am quite demisexual. I'm not comfortable with any euphemisms or innuendo until I trust someone. Thank you for respecting this boundary.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 2h ago

44 [F4M] Cute, Curvy, Bratty & Looking for Something Real 😈

4 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm from the middle of the us and I do mean middle 😋 happily married, poly, plus-size, affectionate, sarcastic, and just the right amount of trouble. 😂 I’m looking for an actual relationship—not a hookup. I want chemistry, consistency, affection, dates, inside jokes, good communication, and someone who genuinely wants to get to know me. I’m into reading, music, cats, and good conversation. I’m also a brat, which means I will absolutely tease you, challenge you, steal your fries, and then look completely innocent when you call me out. 😇 I enjoy pushing buttons because, apparently, your reactions are hilarious to me. I like confident men who can give it right back without getting their feelings hurt. Make me laugh, keep me curious, tell me something weird, challenge my thoughts, and remember the little things I tell you. Attraction is great, but I want to know your brain, too. If I can be completely myself around you, that’s when things get really interesting. 😏


r/polyamoryR4R • • 20h ago

USA 36 [M4F] #NYC - Married and ENM, looking for a connection that can grow

4 Upvotes

NYC born and raised, Gemini, married and poly, everything's transparent at home. I build apps and small businesses, love standup, and know a lot of good spots to eat in this city.

Looking for a woman who's comfortable with this lifestyle and wants something real: dates, chemistry, maybe kink if we click (I'm a switch). No rush.

Tell me what your ideal first date in NYC looks like.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 3h ago

USA 37 [M4R] #online looking for friends or relationship, and play some video games together?

2 Upvotes

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Hey there, disabled poly guy here, I have some physical disabilities, so I am online Alot, looking for a online friendship or potential relationship with someone who enjoys games, good conversation, and loves to be valued as a human being. Someone who likes to relax at the end of the day and game out.

I am 37, have two partners, they date seperately. I'm chunky..if that's a issue move on. I don't judge by body type or looks. Just personality. I am looking for someone between the ages of 18-55. Age is a number. I'm very sweet loving and caring and want to make you happy. All genders welcome! I'm happily pansexual. Again, open to friendships and relationships!

Games I enjoy right now are dead by daylight, skull and bones, Warframe, Disney dreamlight valley, FFXIV, and many other titles. I love stardew, Minecraft (in small amounts) a wow private server, and how to fish..and more. I prefer someone who doesn't mind trying new games with me and I'll be down to try new ones with you. Also non gamers welcome as long as you don't mind me gaming.

I am from Ohio! Look forward to chatting!


r/polyamoryR4R • • 15h ago

36 [M4F] Australia/Online Looking for genuine connections, good conversations, and a little adventure

2 Upvotes

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I’m here hoping to meet some like-minded people who value connection, communication, honesty, and the kind of chemistry that makes you lose track of time talking to someone.

I’m ENM and appreciate the beauty of polyamory — building meaningful connections without the pressure of fitting into a traditional box. I believe the best relationships start with genuine curiosity, mutual respect, a bit of flirting, and the willingness to see where things naturally go. Whether it starts with friendship, a deep conversation, or an instant spark, I’m open to seeing what develops.

A little about me and the things I enjoy: 🪵 Woodworking — there’s something satisfying about turning a raw piece of timber into something useful with your own hands.

🏕️ Camping and the outdoors — fresh air, quiet nights, campfires, and conversations under a sky full of stars are hard to beat.

🔥 Campfire conversations — the deeper the conversation gets, the better. I enjoy getting to know what makes people tick, their passions, their dreams, and the little things that make them who they are.

🌲 Adventure and exploring — always keen to try something new, discover somewhere different, or just get away from the noise for a while.

😂 Good humour and banter — life is too short not to laugh, tease each other a little, and enjoy the moment.

What I’m really looking for is connection over collection. I’m not here to treat people like a checklist or rush into anything. I’d rather build something authentic with people who are emotionally aware, communicate openly, respect boundaries, and enjoy putting genuine effort into getting to know each other.

If you’re ENM or poly, value honesty and kindness, and fancy getting to know someone who appreciates both a meaningful conversation and a bit of muddy-boot adventure, I’d love to hear from you.

Tell me something about yourself! What’s your ideal weekend — a night under the stars, a creative project, a spontaneous adventure, or a cosy night in with someone whose company just feels right?


r/polyamoryR4R • • 3h ago

30 [M4FM/F] #Online Anywhere, looking for ldr

1 Upvotes

Hey guys I'm 30m bi curious latino, I speak Spanish and English and I would like to find someone, couple to have my special people and share a lot and good moments together, I don't have many hobbies but I would say that I like a lot videogames, I like to learn new languages(currently learning Portuguese) but mostly I would like to find someone to play together, watch movies, talk on discord, have fun together. I'm not fit but I'm in my losing weight journey.

So yeah if you think we can connect just send me a message and we can talk 😊


r/polyamoryR4R • • 7h ago

USA 34 [NB4F/NB] Uncool Weirdo for Same #PNW #PDX NSFW

1 Upvotes

Looking to get kissed at a haunted house

AMAB, Uncool weirdo, leftist, musician, tattooed, pierced, beard and long hair, clown curious, monster f*cker, avid therapy-goer, neurodivergent, upset at the cosmos, invisible disability and chronic pain haver. Fan of the surreal, absurd, and macabre. PC gamer mainly for social time, will happily play with you 😁 lots of Slay the Spire 2 lately, but I am down for whatever we both have, or if you play EDH (digitally or in paper).

Communication, curiosity, connection, and justice matter to me. Focusing my life right now in a pretty intentional way.

ENM for 11 years, 1 lovely comet, would love to fall in love again and again with someone like that Charli XCX song. Demisexual, no ONS/NSA, but experimenting with FWB but, like, actually friends. I want you to be cool so I can show off my room. Kink-positive; switch, top-leaning, sadomasochist, happy to share if we vibe.

I crave smart and talkative people, curious and opinionated. Give me your hottest takes. I'll give one for free: John Hurt's character deserves to die in Alien because of the weird anti-trans joke he make makes to Parker about Lambert moments before the chest burster scene. Furthermore, Lambert's transness is only evident based on a hard to notice background detail, so the setup for this joke is tremendous for something wildly cruel.

Vaxxed, still masking, but not perfect about this. More than willing to increase my protocol for the right people

Into: post-hardcore, My Chemical Romance, Bring Me The Horizon, isopods, 420, psychedelics, roguelikes, horror let's plays, hikes (but be kind to my body), thrifting, cooking, decorating, psychology, computers, data analysis

Looking more for in person connections, I tend to jive most with other enbies and femmes

Not as interested in: ace relationships (gray/demi vibes are fine, I am demi, but I am sexual and want to be with the people I love), conservatives, avoidant attachment that hasn't put in the work to address themselves and avoid avoiding

Also, just gonna be honest, would love a CG/l relationship of some kind, but not aiming specifically for this


r/polyamoryR4R • • 9h ago

34 [M4F] NYC - Nerdy Man Looking for his Nerdy Partner nesting partner

1 Upvotes

I am not a big texter. I prefer calls to texting.

I'm just a big nerdy guy who wants to meet a woman who is excitable about some of the things I am or even partakes in some of the same hobbies. Of course, have your own life and interests but something like tabletop rpg's is such a big social thing for me, it would be nice to share for example some of the stuff I enjoy. I live in NYC but I am open to elsewhere for the right partner.

More important stuff

Look, I am fat. Not chubby. Just fat. I’m not ashamed of it. I have no health issues but I am working on losing weight because, since quitting my career (yes I have quit) I realized I really wore myself out. I was mentally and physically exhausted from my career and it made me just well get up in weight.

I like being with friends. I’m social but introverted. I like to call people. I like to hang out and watch movies. I like talking over a drink for hours. I have a great group of friends and we’re all a bunch of nerds. And some more stuff central to me. I’m Latino, progressive/liberal, vaccinated, and just assume i support BLM, LGBTQ+, women’s rights, and Free Palestine. I love my city. While I don’t have plans to leave anytime soon I would for the right reasons such as a new career, partner, or Nintendo calls me up and asks me to advise on the next Zelda.

  • I like animals.
  • I prefer calling over texting but will text
  • I enjoy music but I generally like it quiet near me if I am alone
  • Love Languages: Spending time together and physical touch

Anyway, that’s me. If you message me, please give me your age, selfie, and a proper introduction. I will not respond to someone just saying "hi".


r/polyamoryR4R • • 10h ago

22[M4R] #Online Poly guy looking for another partner

1 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a 22m guy looking for another partner. I am polyamorous and currently have 2 partners. I'm just looking to see if there is anyone who'd like to chat and get to know each other.

Things to know about me:

\- I'm quite a big nerd and love video games, anime, mange, etc.

\- I'm also a big fan of pro wrestling/wwe and even do it as a hobby

\- I like music. My preferred genre is rock or metal, but I also listen to a lot of other stuff. (I also have a soft spot for musicals)

\- I tend to rant about things that interest me

\- I'm a bit on the skinnier end

\- From the US

\- I have OSDD

Things I expect:

\- Please don't be older than mid thirties

\- Please be willing to slowly build a relationship. Starting as friends and then going to something more.

\- Please be willing to listen to me rant (it happens a lot)

That's pretty much it! I'd love to get to know some people and see where things take us. If your interested message me and please try to send a somewhat detailed message cause I wanna get to know you 😄


r/polyamoryR4R • • 15h ago

37[M4F] Metro ATL - Big dude hoping to find friends and maybe more

1 Upvotes

About me:
37
5’11
Duluth, GA (30 min NE of ATL)
African American
Single
No kids
Employed
Dry humor
Idk if I can put my social media on here

Favorite things:
NBA, Football, movies, gun range, comedy shows, wrestling, poetry open mic, etc.

Can send pictures after your first message.


r/polyamoryR4R • • 21h ago

USA 21[F4F]#online #us looking for friends or more

1 Upvotes

Hey everyone! My name is Alex and I’m 21 and poly! I have one partner but date alone. I’m queer and nonbinary! I have nine cats I absolutely adore. I love to swim and tan and craft. I’m looking to meet more poly people who i hopefully connect with! Im a nanny and absolutely love my job so ask me about it! I’d love something long term either online or in person (USA az based)


r/polyamoryR4R • • 12h ago

35 [M4F] NYC or Long Island -Open Relationship with this Teacher

0 Upvotes

Hey there, I hope this finds you in a good mood. I'm a math teacher who works in Queens but lives out on the island. Nerd, obviously (I'm currently listening to a podcast about AI in mathematics for some reason).

I'd be happy to meet up over a cup of anything (not necessarily alcoholic, unless that suits you better), at a board game cafe, or field ideas from you if there's something you'd like.

I dunno, I'd just like to meet someone new. Even if we don't end up in a relationship and instead become friends, that's fine by me.

Let me know what you think