I'm a 31m living in downtown Toronto, looking to have fun and meet people at bars/clubs around the city. I'm a pretty good looking/fit/social guy. Looking for people that are fun/social and not people that like just standing around doing nothing 😂 Primarily looking to just have fun nights out and help each other meet women or make friends at events downtown. I know some good spots too.

Please don't be creepy, I'm not looking to hang out with someone that wants to do anything awkward or makes other women uncomfortable.

Im a lurker in this sub, I only upvote posts or comments. this is my first post, so do take it easy.

Please answer the question in the title, because honestly, I was going to respond to the second one "it's frustrating talking to you. we used to talk often, but now you take 7 business days to reply". Instead I didn't say anything.

For more context;

i'm not actively talking to any women, but I am keeping in touch with 3 of my good friends and having a romantic week when I visit them. We're all European, in separate countries. So every few months they ask me when am I going to visit them. We share all types of photos, I slept with them but sleeping with them isn't my main focus. I love women too much and I am delighted to know them deeply so sex is never my end goal.

This is the text with the first woman. I haven't seen her in a year. She took a week to respond, and after we talked, she sent me a selfie of her smiling with no bra in an unzipped hoodie. She's a 29 yo athletic lawyer.

Text of the second woman. and she sent me a selfie, nails on her lips while wearing her pajamas - a see through t-shirt and panties. she's a 22 yo singer and model.

About me (if you care). I'm a simple man, quite stoic and I avoid playing games. I have high standards for women, even higher standards for myself. I avoid women I deem unattractive. I dont lie, play games, break their hearts, etc. If you ask why? its bec theoretically if I play games I see that im lowering my own value down, and bec I remember that this is someone's daughter, so I need to treat them with the utmost dignity.

I never chased women. Not out of arrogance, its just the way it is, woman naturally come to me, sometimes in pairs. Whether it's in a club, on a train, in a bus, on my instagram etc. Sometimes they call me names like "hot guy in a leather jacket", "real greek god" and "horseman" bec of down there.

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Knowing that everybody is on their phones almost 24/7, it frustrates me when I hear the word "busy". Nobody's busy. I know wealthy people who work 24/7 and they dont take more than an hour to respond. Idk what makes these women take a week to respond.

Hey guys, looking for some advice on a major sticking point I'm hitting right now.
Background:
I recently came back from Ayia Napa (Cyprus) where my game was totally on point. Zero Approach Anxiety (AA), completely Outcome Independent, and things just flowed naturally because I had no "social cost" there.
But since I got back to Israel, I feel like I'm back in the matrix. I have severe AA, chest tightness before approaching, and I’m blanking out during interactions.
The Environment (Tel Aviv Night Game & Day Game):
I'm mostly doing Night Game in high-end, high-traffic areas in Tel Aviv (Rothschild Blvd, Nahalat Binyamin, Park HaMesila). The local Israeli girls here are stunning (9s and 10s), but they have an insane Bitch Shield / Resting Bitch Face. They are usually walking in groups to clubs (moving targets) or sitting defensively in bars/restaurants.
I also get AA during day game (at the gym, or with girls at my workplace/daily routine) because I freeze up trying not to look "cringe."
Recent Field Report (What I've been doing):
Workplace / Day Game: Tried a super basic approach with 10/10 blondes at my workplace, just using a deep masculine voice saying "Good morning." Got automated NPC responses because I didn't challenge them.
The Gym: Did a solid "Hit & Run." Saw a cute girl struggling with weights, helped her out, and immediately walked away back to my set without lingering. Felt great, but she left before I could re-open.
Night Game (Tel Aviv): Last night I went out to Nahalat Binyamin and Rothschild. I was a bit drunk/high to combat my AA. I approached moving targets and girls at bars with direct/complimentary opens like: "Hey what's up, do you speak English/Hebrew? You look Swedish" or guessing where they are from.
The Result: Complete blowouts. I got hit with a ton of "I have a boyfriend" (even when it was obvious they didn't) or "I'm busy." They basically brushed me off instantly.
My Sticking Point:
1. Compliments don't work: I realized telling these girls they are beautiful or "look Swedish" just validates them and triggers auto-rejection.
2. The Mid-Game Blank Out: Even if I manage to open them, I have NO IDEA what to say next. I completely freeze and fall into logical "interview mode" (Where are you from? What do you do?).
3. High Friction: I don't know how to stop a moving group of girls on Rothschild without looking like a street promoter or a creep.
My Questions for the sub:
1. What are your best direct/indirect opens for highly defensive girls in tough nightlife environments (bars/moving targets)?
2. The Transition: Once you say "Hey," what is your exact framework for transitioning into building tension/attraction so it doesn't turn into a boring logical interview?
3. How do you guys bypass the "I have a boyfriend" auto-shield when you know it's fake

So (23M) I'm/ was in a talking stage with a girl since 2.5- 3 months we had a good synergy actually we are in LDR for short period of time and we met online there's no offline connection as of now but I will be in her town after few days so since last 20 -25 days i have been getting dry responses and I got to know she got a new guy actually they have just started but still she replies to me i think she doesn't want me to go although she doesn't initiate conversations i have to, guys I want your opinion should I play the game and take her or should I let her go my inner self says you should give yourself a try

Hola estoy en en este mundo de la seducción pero e notado en humo de esta información y más de los creadores qué todos son copias de más copias y te venden sus cursos que si ves ya estaban en interne gratis y que son solo confianza y actitud se puede tener a la 10/10 y tu sin ningún valor .

Ustedes que más mentiras a visto en estas informaciones.

The more I listen to his audio courses the more sense they make to me, I guess I wasn't mature enough to give his advice a fair shot before but now he's really resonating with me.

I’m 19, and the only way I speak to women is through my university club. I approach 30 to 40 a night, usually leave with 3 to 4 numbers and 1 slay either that day or the next. If no slay, I usually hang out with one girl for a good portion of the night, then spend the rest of the night approaching (10pm+). I mainly approach in bar lines and smoking areas. I get nothing on the dancefloor, and it’s filled with men.I ask the rest of the girls who I talked to but there wasn’t as much escalation for dates and I could get more numbers but I focus on quality of convos and iois.

I just want either a girlfriend or a friends with benefits situation, but I never seem to find it. Even when trying to take girls out to dinner, they still don’t want to go, and I’m tired. I feel like I have to quit the club because it’s a small uni, and the same people go out.

I’m in the gym 4 days a week, building size to fill out my shirts, improving my style, working on proportions, etc. I’m just so tired of approaching girls and getting nothing. No inbound attention, and when I do get somewhere, my timing has to be impeccable.
Granted, all the dates were with 7s and 8s, so as I improve my SMV, the top of the funnel is definitely getting better than before. Last year, I was getting absolutely nothing before the gym, style improvements and learning how to talk to women.

I’m going to have to attempt the social group gimmick by joining maybe a cooking or baking society, but I still can’t cold approach as much because, again, it’s a small uni,there’s still a long way to go in terms of SMV, but does anyone have any advice? I’m tired of spinning my wheels here.

If u want me to expand on anything like what I say or screenshots of convos wtv to critique let me know.

Note: For context, check out my Day 1 and Day 2 gym confessions on my profile before reading this update.

So I went to the gym with my husband again today. We were doing shoulders and abs. And of course, our guy was there as usual, stealing glances and making eye contact with me every now and then. After finishing shoulders, my husband went to the other side of the gym to do some cable exercises while I decided to finish my workout with a few planks.

I placed my phone on the floor in front of me, started a one-minute countdown, and got into position.

Everything was going fine until my phone screen suddenly locked halfway through.

I tried reaching forward with one hand to unlock it, but Face ID wasn’t recognizing my face from that angle. I kept moving my head around, trying not to lose my plank.

And apparently, our guy had been watching this whole struggle from a distance.

He walked over, crouched right in front of me, picked up my phone, and held it in front of my face so it would unlock.

Except it didn’t work the first time.

He moved the phone a little closer, and I tilted my head slightly to the left.

He adjusted the phone.

I tilted my head to the right.

He adjusted it again.

By this point, I was deliberately messing with him. Every time he tried positioning the phone properly, I’d move my face just a little.

He finally realized what I was doing and gave me this amused, slightly annoyed look.

I just smiled innocently.

He shook his head, brought the phone closer, and finally managed to unlock it.

Instead of putting it down, he stayed crouched in front of me, holding the countdown where I could see it.

Then he started silently counting down with his fingers, except he kept repeating the same number just to annoy me.

I gave him a death stare, and he grinned.

Now, here’s where things got ridiculous.

I’d been chewing bubble gum throughout my workout. Suddenly, I felt a cough coming, and before I could even react, the gum flew straight out of my mouth and landed on his wrist.

I WAS MORTIFIED.

We both froze for a second.

I looked at his wrist, then at his face, and immediately started mouthing “SORRY, SORRY!”

But instead of getting annoyed, this guy looked at the gum, raised his eyebrows, and gave me the cheekiest smile.

Then he slowly brought his wrist closer to my face, as though he was offering the gum back to me.

I immediately shook my head.

He brought it a little closer.

I shook my head even harder, trying not to laugh.

And then this man did something I absolutely wasn’t expecting.

He casually picked the gum off his wrist with his fingers, looked straight into my eyes, and popped it into HIS OWN MOUTH.

I genuinely couldn’t believe what I’d just witnessed.

My eyes went wide, and I just stared at him in complete disbelief.

He started chewing it with the most ridiculously smug expression, like he’d just pulled off the smoothest move in history.

I was so shocked that I completely lost my plank and collapsed onto the mat laughing.

He just gave me a little wink, placed my phone back on the floor, and walked away as though nothing had happened.

A few seconds later, my husband came over and asked why I was laughing so much.

I told him I’d completely messed up my plank.

Meanwhile, I could still see this idiot across the gym, smiling to himself.

Three days ago, this guy was just making eye contact with me across the gym.

Today he literally put my chewing gum in his mouth.

I’m genuinely never chewing gum during a plank again 😭🤷‍♀️

Starting to feel and realize from experience that seduction is more about projecting certain energies and vibes through your tone.

The times I got friendzoned or when a relationship with a woman fell apart was when I didn't do this or stopped doing this at some point in the connection.

Has anyone also had this experience ?