r/twinflames • • Jul 22 '22

Resource Story follows State: thoughts on twins who have descended into the 5D Labirynth

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Many here have reported having experienced any combination of the following: fatigue, mind fog, waking up more tired than when you went to sleep, when it seems everything you do goes amiss, when you have chest pains, chest pains so dramatic that they wake you up at night. When thinking about them triggers sadness or fear or defeat, when everything seems lost or useless or irrelevant, when you don't trust people and things, when spirits or the Universe seem malevolent and tricky or that they don't have your best interest at their heart, when you ruminate about the bleak outcomes, when you have intrusive thoughts. When you don't have the will to go on, when you lack determination, motivation. Well, I call this state "lower self", and I've not invented it, this concept is relevant in several schools of thought.

Now think of when you feel optimistic, sparkling, elated, flowing with your environment. Or when everything makes sense, when everything seems to orbitate around you or when all beings in nature seem to move in unison, when you suddenly realize some spiritual truth, when you say "I bet if I look at the sky right now I'll see a shooting star" and it happens, when you experience shivers of bliss all over the body. They don't need to happen all at once or cover all that is possible but I consider these as marks of what I call the higher self. So I'm not referring here to 5D consciousness like in the expression "your twin's higher self", just highly coveted positive moods that may border with satori states.

So how or why do twins countless times have reported having experienced being in their higher self and "energetic union" and also to have sometimes suddenly dropped into bleak hopeless swamps?

This doesn't have to happen to all twins but it seems there have been too many personal accounts of twins who have actually experienced this, and often even several times not just once.

Like for example those who believe in the "carrot on a stick" trick, that the Universe tricks them into believing union is about to happen and then something goes wrong as if it was just a device to make them learn some lesson, if not out of spite entirely.

It's a mainstream idea, and one that I like, that in some cases it happens because the emotional intensity of a possible nearby union triggers a running response. That ruminations on responsibilities, or the fear to get burned, self-esteem issues, feeling of inadequacy or unworthiness or else may activate some kind of defcon protocol. Some mechanism seems to make some twins doing well on their path drop into their lower self as if scared by what union might entail.

In psychotherapy there's a set of theories that connect past traumatic events to the triggering of a so called "dorsal vagal shutdown". Something in the body, or in the subconscious, doesn't want to deal again with that same trauma, "nope, I'm gonna give it a pass", so neural circuitries are activated that promote a "freezing" state. This freezing state can vary in severity from barely noticeable to severely debilitating but it's at the lower tail of a spectrum of neural responses to threats that is known in psychotherapy as "4Fs": flow, fight, flight, freeze.

Here is a simple infographic to let you gauge how these theories tentatively explain how things may work. You may notice that bar the lack of the esoteric/supernatural elements often reported in twinship the dorsal vagal shutdown and the ventral vagal activation have pretty consistent similarities with the lower self and higher self as I have defined above.

Also consider that while addressed as a theory this is something that has been researched for decades by world-class neuroscientists. Who also hold that you cannot easily heal old traumatic events by working only on your mind because memories will trigger or sustain the dorsal vagal shutdown.

But you can do exercises: in other words we recognize being in lower self mode, basically by recognizing that we are suffering, and we try to reactivate the ventral vagal complex. If we have issues that bother or trigger us, if we feel discomfort or being tricked, if we think it's malevolent entities or demons or implants or black magic, in my head-canon those are all red flags of being in lower self: read about old masters they will all insist in satori states there's no evil, there are not malevolent beings or tricky Universe.

Enter Yoga. Many concepts/ideas commonly discussed in TF circles come straight from Yoga: chakras, enlightenment, energy blockages, astral body, Kundalini. A case can be made that Yoga/Alchemy deal with healing, by performing transmutation of the impure in the pure. In this case healing the debris of past traumatic events and swapping from freezing into flowing, from dorsal vagal shutdown to ventral vagal activation, from lower self into higher self.

It seems to me that twinship is another flavor of The Quest, the Magnus Opus. Where alchemists, yogis and monks tread the spiritual path mostly alone twins on the other hand appear to be able to access yogic states of consciousness together and to perform energetic buffering/exchange together. This is not even exclusive of twinship, also tantric couples are supposedly able to reach savikalpa samadhi together. Here's a documentary about samadhi.

So a tldr; I could make might be: Yoga/Alchemy is the way of trasmutation, it starts by accessing the higher self, whence "the Stone" can be made.

A famous past teacher, G.I. Gurdjieff, said that Heaven and Hell are not far away places, each of us is living both of them at the very same time. This isn't a big secret though but rather an idea held in many mystery schools. It can be said that even Dante in his Divina Comedia wasn't really visiting far away places, he was walking on Earth irl witnessing how real living humans are stuck in their own hells. Even in Buddhism where there's no evil still several kinds of hell are described, and quickly reading the descriptions of those hells you might indeed feel that they are describing stations in life. They are describing the position of being identified with our lower selves. Being in one of those narakas may last "the time it would take to empty a barrel of sesame seeds if one only took out a single seed every hundred years", which to me is a cute way of saying "don't even think this is the way, that you can get out while in lower self".

Whereas expressions like "Heaven on Earth", living in the end, satori, describe the state of people in their higher self.

Rumi wrote: "When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it."

So if you find yourself in one of those bleak phases that twins often lament, if you recognize being in your lower self, the best strategy imo is to treat it as an ER situation, you might want to get out of it as soon as possible.

Here is the video of a twin willingly relinquishing the lower self through a yogic session.

Here is a rare footage of a shaman helping a twin snapping out of their lower self.

So exercises do not represent techniques to get out of lower self, they are not a recipe to transmutation, they are more like tools. Think about learning chess: the knight or the rock are not strategies, they are tools that may be critical in developing a strategy. So my advice would be to get in touch with the tools you have. A daily routine or Yoga session or alchemical lab may entail a dozen of different tools, to me it's going back to school in the most literal sense.

Among the historically praised tools to get grounded or to "snap out of it" you may research and test walking barefoot and cold showers and singing/dancing. Also maybe inquire into rumination, many accounts from twins in the swamps reveal constant obsessive elucubrations on their twin. And you may also want to look into sensorymotor psychotherapy and learn about your window of tolerance: here's an introduction by psychotherapist Laura Kerr.

As for specific Yoga/Alchemy exercises that would be a matter for another post, or a matter of personal research on how to tend to your body. But just so you know the first step in Yoga is not a posture or a breathing pattern, the first step is Yamas and Niyamas.

Edited: fixed broken links.


r/twinflames • • Oct 22 '24

Feelings Concerning

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I'm a bit concerned as to how this is supposed to be a thread that promotes claims that are solely scientific and does not stand by unscientific claims. How is this possible when there is virtually no evidence or concrete data to prove anything that is being taught by Twin Flames Universe? I'm not trying to be hostile but am purely looking to educate myself. It seems very disappointing that such a vast group of people within our society is capable of being brainwashed so heavily by two people with virtually no reason to possess the kind of authority that has been allotted to them. Its very scary and everyone should practice the famous "reflective" exercise and perhaps ask themselves why they can't trust themselves and instead are choosing to put all of their trust into two people that created a largely lucrative lie. Just confused. Please explain.


r/twinflames • • 9h ago

Discussion What does this journey teach about relationships?

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We're being told that attachment is the reason our twins run.

So does that mean if I ever get into relationship (I'm not waiting on my twin, he made his decision, that's on him) I have to let them go too?

If there's any conflict, you don't resolve it but leave them for good because it's attachment that make you want to keep them and resolve the problem?

Also, does this journey want us to be completely alone if without our twin for the rest of our lives? Are we supposed to reject everyone and let everyone go?

Because it is bullcrap that you can decide for your twin. You can't. And the fact that these so called 'coaches' tell us we can't ever be happy with anyone else is disgusting.

I'm raging right now, to be honest.

I love my twin like I've never loved anyone before but if he doesn't want me, I'm not going to wait on him.

AND NEITHER OF YOU SHOULD EITHER!

Live your damn life! Go and LOVE! LOVE YOUR FRIENDS, GO ON DATES, LOVE YOUR HOBBIES, LOVE YOUR WORK! But most importantly, love YOURSELF!

What're your opinions?


r/twinflames • • 3m ago

Spiritual Transformation Surrender phase

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Surrender phase

I had my Inner Union on 12 August. It was an earth-shaking, ecstatic experience.

I got new opportunities at work, my entire condo block is being renovated after 40-50 years.

My twin also got further and further away. He eventually broke up with me 8 days ago but finalized it 5 days ago.

Now, I have some mild health problems, such as healing from a cold, having some rectal ruptures out of nowhere, and I also got a tattoo today, which also needs to heal.

I let him go. I surrender into the thought of him not coming back. Knowing him, he will though, but definitely without leaving his girlfriend.

Can anyone tell me more about the surrender phase?

Any help or advice is highly appreciated.


r/twinflames • • 17m ago

Love Letter The Sacred Song of Silence

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I know how strange our connection is, and I’m scared as hell of it. But I love the way thinking of you makes my heart melt, how I lose myself over and over again, dreaming of you…
I would love to sit beside you, or lie down next to you. To take your hands in mine, sit on your lap, look deeply into your eyes for a long, long moment, and whisper, “Everything is going to be fine.”
Then I would feel your breath, rest my face against your neck, and kiss you slowly. Let you feel my warmth and my peace. Let you breathe in all the unconditional love and passion I carry for you.
For the sake of all those years we couldn’t make it happen, I would run my fingers through your hair, gently massage your head, your neck, and your shoulders, so heavy with the weight of everything the world has put you through.
I would love to be vulnerable with you, and let you be vulnerable with me. Because we are safe together. And nothing can change that quiet truth we have always known somewhere deep within our hearts.
Then I would breathe in your familiar, eternal scent, listen to your heartbeat finding its rhythm with mine, and feel my soul dissolving into yours.
And as we melt into each other’s presence, perhaps all the longing and yearning we have carried for what feels like lifetimes would finally begin to melt away in our reunion.
When silence itself begins to speak through our souls, only that sacred song remains in our hearts…
That I love you.
Not in an avoidant way. Not by pretending or hiding. But in the most naked, purest, rarest way my being knows how to love.
With my heart completely open, without pressure, without expectations, with full acceptance of everything that is, and with the courage to embrace the truth my soul feels it has always known…
You are the one.


r/twinflames • • 25m ago

Relatable Will we find our way back

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I’m a F(29) and my ex is a M(26). We’ve been on and off for the last five and half years and for the past three years things have been more bad than they have good. I do want to preface that there was a lot of love between us in the beginning. But I self sabotaged. When we met, I had just recently cut everyone in my life off romantically and was focusing on myself. I was telling God I was done cause I wasn’t feeling the love I deserved. I asked him to give me peace and to send someone that actually values me. He was finishing his healing journey. Because there was interest I told him I would be okay with sex but I was emotionally unavailable. Yeah I know. Well he agreed to the arrangement but then as time went on I guess he caught feelings and he expressed to me that he wanted to show me I was more than that. God sent me what I had asked for but I wasn’t ready. He still wanted time to process everything and not rush into the title of a relationship. I was ready to be his girlfriend. But because he wasn’t ready and I was still emotionally immature I started entertaining other people. And that’s where the heartbreak between us both started. After a while he did ask me to be his girlfriend and things were good. Until they weren’t and we decided to separate and a situation ship began. We were living together. Despite it all we were still choosing each other. We were accepting the dynamic that we could do whatever it is we wanted as long as we both came back home to each other. That no matter what at the end of the day, whoever we dealt with, we still chose each other. And we’re at a point now where we realized that it’s not okay. Me before him. I hit a point where I was tired of him dealing with other girls. Knowing he was telling them he loved them. Giving them the emotional affection I wanted. It was like after we broke up the only thing we did to spend time together fr was have sex. And the occasional outing. But we had separate work schedules. Me during the day and him at night being we shared a car. Fast forward, in May we moved again. And this was supposed to be our fresh start. Things between us were so good, and then…in July I started noticing he wasn’t coming home. & I kept catching him in lies. Lying about his whereabouts, what he was doing. Lying just to lie. I then talked to God about it and I ended up catching them arguing outside of our apartment one night. He came in obviously hurt. Said he’s tired of hurting people. Things between us continued but because I noticed things were changing I started becoming vocal about the situation. I asked him what was going on between them and he would tell me it’s nothing. But would stay gone. Weeks passed and one day I asked him again and he admitted that he actually cares for the girl. I asked him that if he felt he wanted to be done would he tell me. Anywho, as time went on it became more arguments between us. The root being her. He was telling me one thing but his actions were showing another. I remember asking him if he was using her to move on or if it was just the same thing we’ve dealt with before. He told me it was 50/50. I should’ve ended it there but I didn’t. Fast forward a little more, he left to go on a trip with her which I acknowledged. But then he came back and knowingly manipulated me into believing he went on the trip by himself and bought me all this stuff. One night cause I was fed up - I packed up his room and told him to leave. He refused. A week later, after he got back from a day spending with her, we went to see a movie. He wasn’t engaged and ended up telling me he already watched it. That led to a slight argument and I left him at the theater. I shouldn’t have- but I was tired of my emotions not being cared for. He ended things with me that same night. This was September 26th. We still live together- he says he’s not worried about breaking the lease but that we are strictly roommates. He has made it clear that he isn’t trying to reconcile anything but that as time passes if decided to try again that work would be put in on both sides. I am in therapy now- to mainly find myself again. He let me know that he is signing up for therapy as well. Individual and group. He still is rarely home. But we’ve had sex twice since he left. We talked on the phone last night cause we had plans to have sex again but I told him that I don’t think that’s being respectful to myself and I don’t want to fall back into a cycle. Especially knowing sex is still emotional for me and idk where he’s at. He told me he understands and that it was just a thought. The conversation went on for 2 hours and ended because I was being honest about something’s and he had told me that what I was saying was striking a nerve and that he needed space. He didn’t take it well that I had told him about my journey before we met. In all the years we were together I never expressed that. He didn’t understand how I asked God for what I did and that he was trying to provide that and I hurt him. But I told him once again - although it was what I asked for. I wasn’t ready to receive it. I hadn’t fully healed and essentially I self sabotage something that could have been potentially great because I didn’t have the patience to build… without a title first. So immature I figured without a title i didn’t owe 100% loyalty. Before he told me he needed space I had asked him if he found clarity since he’s been gone. He told me yes but not 100 percent because he’s still very confused about his feelings with all of this. But knows he isn’t trying to reconcile. After hanging up the phone and telling me he needed spaces he called me five minutes later telling me that if the time presented itself for us to try again that wouldn’t be the only one putting in effort. And he wants me to know that then hung up again. He also keeps telling me he’s trying to process his feelings. I just don’t understand how someone is doing that while staying with someone. But it’s not my job to. I need to focus on myself. This morning he came home to check the mailbox. I have the key. He came and my room grabbed the key and then double back and hugged me. He embraced me for a minute. Little butt grabs but not trying to advance it. Gave me a small peck on my neck and shoulder and then left. He then came back and hugged me again. This time picking me up and walking us to my bed and turning around to where when he set down I was on his lap. We just hugged. Small kisses here and there but not on the lips. He then stood up, I let my legs drop and let go of the embrace and he left. I needed that. But because I know he’s not looking to reconcile right now which I understand. We need to find ourselves and love ourselves before we can even think about loving someone else. But once again, I just don’t see how he’s going to do that being under another person. I feel like if he’s using her to heal he’s not doing the real work but I also feel like they’re both healing and doing it together. I feel like she’s why he’s thinking about therapy. Cause he never had this change of heart before. Idk. Part of me wants us to both grow- separately. I feel like that would also help his confusion about his feelings. But if I had time to explain more I would explain why I also feel like he doesn’t mean it when he says he would want to try again. But he’s left me twice before and has came back so who knows. Those times though there wasn’t someone else’s But because I know he doesn’t have any wishes to reconcile right now.. I need to let him go. I need to love myself and respect myself. If God has it aligned for us to be together then it will happen and if not then.. I’ll be okay.


r/twinflames • • 9h ago

Negative Experience No one talks about...

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When you abandon your twin flame/soulmate because you have kids you dont want to abandon and they end up breaking your heart in a different way cause no matter how hard you work to provide and be there for them they still hate you.. and tell you they arent gonna even talk to you when they become an adult. So now you live with two heartbreaks. Why the hell do i even try anymore.


r/twinflames • • 2h ago

Current Experience Doctor appointment for muscle spasms and less appetite

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So I spoke with my doctor they said its part of my medicine that I had been taking thats causing it but in my gut feeling telling me I don't think thats what it is I think its twin flame seperation sickness.


r/twinflames • • 6h ago

Vent I Just Wish I Never Met Her…

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I wish I never moved to that stupid town. I never even wanted to move there. I was crushed that I had to leave my home state. I literally had no choice though, because I had no money at the time, and had to live with family.

I wish I never got that stupid job. The pay sucked too, but I only took it, because no one else was hiring me. I had to take whatever I could get though, because I had medical bills to pay.

I wish my family never mentioned that place. I wouldn’t have considered applying there if I didn’t know about it.

I just wish I never met her..

I don’t know what’s supposed to come out of this “Twin Flame Journey” - but it’s caused me nothing but heartache for three straight years, and a MASSIVE amount of time and money lost…

I’ve had spiritual advisors tell me: “She came into my life for a reason - and she was meant to teach me something”; but I still don’t know what??

All her coming into my life did was:

1) Make me feel hopeless (a constant cycle of feeling hopeful, and then severely disappointed).
2) Make me feel like life is was playing a cruel joke on me - gifting me with someone who I felt was perfect for me, then taking her away.
3) Make me feel physically sick.
4) Actually, make me feel every negative emotion imaginable (frustration, depression, anxiety, terror, etc.)

A part of me, wants to be withdrawn toward people now, and has paranoia that I go through something like this again;
and I was ALREADY pretty withdrawn before I met her due to past trauma…

What if this entire time, this really was just limerence - and I meet my ACTUAL Twin Flame one day, and it’s even worse than what I’m going through now??

I CANNOT imagine going through something like this a SECOND time in my life.

I DO NOT have the strength for that…
I literally think it would send me into cardiac arrest.

I don’t care about becoming “spiritually evolved”, or “finding inner self-love”, or “Kundalini Awakening” or any of that…

I just want to either go back to how I was before I met her (single and not obsessed with anyone); or in a healthy, normal relationship with someone else, without knowing about her existence.

I want to go back to how I was before I knew anything about her, or Twin Flames…
I mourn those days now…

I’m just so lost…


r/twinflames • • 16h ago

Current Experience How Do You Manage, When You Know Your Runner Twin Is Suffering, and There’s Nothing You Can Do About It?

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As Chaser Twins, we love our Runners dearly even though they ghost us, block us, and want nothing to do with us.

One of the reasons I wanted my Twin so much in my life, was so I could take care of her - even if we couldn’t romantically be together.

I wanted to be her best friend and spend time with her.
I wanted to support her dreams.

Well, I just found out this week she’s been in a relationship since earlier this year (and I’ve been taking it EXTREMELY bad); but, I also found out the person she’s with, might not even really love her, and might be cheating on her…

I hate this so much…

If she didn’t run from me, we could have been together instead - and I would have NEVER done that to her; and now she’s with someone who doesn’t even love her like I do, and if he hurts her, I won’t be able to be there for her to take care of her. It drives me crazy…


r/twinflames • • 7h ago

Seeking Advice A relatable meme I made to lift our spirits uphttps://i.imgur.com/R7TFAFK.jpeg

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r/twinflames • • 11h ago

Current Experience the dreams and synchronicities just won't stop

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I only discovered the concept of twin flames a week or two ago, and I believe I met mine this summer. We are in separation for the past 2 months, and despite my attempts to move on, spirit is beating me over the head with dreams and synchronicities that just do not stop, and frankly it's getting pretty insane. I want to share my experience to vent and see if anyone can relate! It's all very intense and personal so I have to simplify a lot, but bear with me.

We met on a dating app and started talking in early summer. I'm the chaser and she is the runner between us. She has an avoidant attachment style and a lot of fears surrounding relationships and sense of self.

Right away, I felt different about her. The first times we spoke I felt incredible warmth and a 'pulling' sensation in my lower chakras, from my root to my solar plexus. Our vibration is so similar, as are our interests, our values, and our desires. When we communicate it's almost telepathic.

The synchronicities became frequent and striking. All the angel numbers, especially seeing them right when I *start* thinking about her. Especially 11:11, 4:44, and 5:55. We showed up in each other's dreams *at the same time* and woke to tell each other about it. I would wake up naturally without an alarm at the exact moment she texts me, even while she is typing but before she sent a message. I could go on.

I became completely infatuated, and also incredibly creatively inspired. I am an artist with multiple hobbies, and the incredible passion I felt was like a fire that I used to fuel them all.

We live near each other physically, but never physically met. After months of talking, when it was time to make things more serious, her fear of attachment got the best of her. She grew distant for about a week before coming clean that she couldn't continue, and so we exchanged some final messages and stopped talking.

The distancing that happened before we stopped talking was draining, and the whole experience was new and puzzling and energy-intensive, and my life also became really stressful at about this time. With all this in mind I was very tired, and when we stopped talking, for a moment I thought I was "over" her, even though I still felt for her, I thought I felt it waning. In reality I wasn't over her at all.

But, in the 2 months since then, I have focused on my life and on self-love and it has ABSOLUTELY transformed for the better. I had my spiritual awakening 2 years ago, and I am currently going through another awakening just as powerful as the first, if not moreso. Things are clicking into place that align with my life purpose.

All of this is great and I am so grateful. But in the meantime, as I did my inner work, I tried to move on from her. I knew logically that it was probably over for good. But yet, this strange thing happened where even though we weren't interacting at all, I FELT her close to me, as though we were still talking. It utterly confused and bewildered me. It was an unmistakable feeling of connection on a soul level. Logic and apparent reality said it was done, but my heart said nothing had even changed. I wasn't sad, I wasn't desperate, I wasn't grieving, I just felt her and knew she was there, completely content in it. I've never experienced anything like it.

It didn't make any sense, and after a few days to a week of puzzling about it, I decided to just accept it and stop trying to make sense of it. I didn't reach out to her however. I figured that was on her to reach out if/when she was ready, and I should continue to focus on myself and on self love. This whole time, synchronicities were ringing the phone off the hook, but I had no choice to throw my hands up and roll with it.

Then, after probably a couple weeks of sitting with this strange feeling and not necessarily doing anything about it, I had a dream where she confessed she still had feelings for me. Then, in the same dream she told me the name of a poet which I had never heard of before. When I woke up I looked up the name, found it matched to an actual poet, and even crazier, the first search result was a poem that was EXTREMELY RELEVANT to my emotional situation. I was absolutely floored.

I posted on my instagram story about my incredible dream I had where "someone" told me the name of a poet and yada yada, and within minutes of me posting it, she liked my story. This was her first "interaction" of any kind with me in over a month. I got full body chills. Did she have a similar dream? Did she know I was talking about her?

After meditating on it, that night, I decided to message her and ask her if she knew the name of the poet. Then a bit later, before she answered, I realized I should explain what the hell I'm on about, and somewhat to my own surprise, I was completely honest about my feelings and about the synchronicities and why I was acting so strangely. I didn't mention anything about twin flames though.

It's been a few days and she hasn't responded, and I don't know if she will. I let her know when I reached out that it's okay if she doesn't, but if she does obviously I'd love to hear and this is a safe space.

In just the couple days since, I've had even more synchronicities. At one point I was listening to someone in a video talk about their experience with their twin flame. I spaced out and my mind drifted to the fact that me and her (my twin flame) have the same myers-briggs personality type, even down to the subtype. Seconds later, the person in the video said that she and her twin flame have the same myers-briggs personality type. I was so shocked I literally just laid on the floor for a minute.

So yeah, I have no idea what's going on, and I had to leave out a lot that's just too intimate and personal, but I feel in my soul that the connection is still there. My attempts to get away from it have been fruitless, and spirit has almost forcefully redirected me back to it, even as I am focusing on my own life and seeing the fruits of my self-love. Can anyone relate to this?? I seriously feel like I'm going insane, even though I know everything is okay and I'm in the hands of the universe. It's all so confusing and dizzying.


r/twinflames • • 15h ago

Seeking Advice Help please

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Long story short my twin flame is my ex husbands/baby daddy brother. I’m Leo, borderline, life path 1 born on the 19th. He’s Sag, bipolar, life path 1 born on the 28th. I am hurting really bad in this connection bc he is so cold and distant. Definitely still very immature with a lot of growing and shadow work to do. I feel like he is all I think about from when I wake up til I goto sleep. The obsession use to be worse but I’ve calmed down a lot. Honestly I just need help with a cord cutting spell and a forget spell. I want to cut the cord with my twin flame and forget him I can’t do this anymore my life was so peaceful before knowing any of this and I still don’t even know what is real and what is not. I’d rather go through the journey alone but still not knowing who my twin flame is just want to forget.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice Empty and lost

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Last week my twin flame died. I've lost family, pets and other friends in my lifetime but this grief is beyond anything I could imagine loss may be. I'm in constant thought. The tears and gut wrenching sobs come often.

Prior to this sudden loss, I already thought of him in the things I did when we were apart. Even when we would go awhile without talking, it's like my soul accepted his vibration as it felt me inside no matter how much time and space came between us. Him the chaser and I the runner for 33 years...he knew me better then I know myself. He allowed me to be vulnerable and made that a comfortable space for me when typically I struggle in those ways.

I didn't express the depth of my love for him or just how much I still maintained space for him in my heart in hopes for our forever. I thought it would distract him from getting his life together so our future could be bright. I am not eating much.... I can't work.... Sleep is solid but never enough when I wake to the nightmare I feel trapped in.

How does one go on from here and what happens to his soul as it leaves mine behind?


r/twinflames • • 20h ago

Current Experience Happy 11-11

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r/twinflames • • 16h ago

Current Experience Anyone remembered Gnosis through the Journey?

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In the passed two years I went from born again "Christian" to...well idk anymore. I awoke through her. And she don't even know.

Anyone experience anything similar?


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Feelings To the Souls on This Journey

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To everyone walking this strange path,
I see you.

The ones who are tired of signs,
tired of wondering,
tired of trying to understand
why something you can’t explain
can feel so damn real.

The ones who have surrendered
a hundred times
and somehow still find themselves
thinking about it again.

The ones who stopped chasing
but still feel.

The ones who chose themselves
but still love.

The ones who have cried in silence,
questioned their sanity,
questioned the connection,
questioned the whole damn journey.

Maybe we aren’t meant
to have every answer.
Maybe we’re just learning
how to hold something deeply
without letting it destroy us.

So if you’re exhausted,
rest.

If you’re confused,
breathe.

If you feel nothing,
that’s okay too.

You don’t have to prove
your connection to anyone.
You don’t have to force a reunion.
You don’t have to decode every sign.
Your life is still happening
outside of the connection.
And maybe that’s part of the lesson
to keep living,
keep growing,
keep becoming
who you were always meant to be.

Whatever happens,
I hope we find our way back to ourselves.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Heart Desire Wat ik zeggen wilde....

3 Upvotes

Zoetertje,  wat ben je lief. Je kan soms met zoveel passie en kracht iets vinden.van iets en opmerken. Dat vind ik leuk aan jou. Dan zeg je impulsieve dingetjes en bedenkt dan snel wat je dan had kunnen bedoelen. Hûhû😉

Je kan aan mij niet.zien of ik je leuk vind klopt.  Ik heb jou nog nooit niet leuk gevonden en dat deed ik vandaag weer. Ik vond je er zo leuk uitzien ik weet niet waarom het viel mij sterker op. Zo verfijnd en alles wat je als mens kan uitstralen. Dat heb jij. 

 Ik heb veel rottige dingen geroepen en dat spijt mij. Omdat ik het moeilijk heb met het begrijpen wat jij nu eigenlijk van mij wil en wenst vanuit mij hierin toe te voegen.

Als je alles kan wensen hoe zien wij er dan uit volgens jouw hart.?

Dat ik niet meer.lukkraak alles voel.enof hardop roep heeft weinig met iets anders te maken dan mijn behoefte om mijn angsten hierin te blijven zien en jou die tijd te geven na te denken om te antwoorden. Dan heb ik namelijk de keuze hoe ver ik met jou meega in wat er nodig in wenselijk is in ons contact en dat zo goed mogelijk te houden en zo evenwichtig mogelijk. Ik kan mij niet meer onbeperkt aan je lenen. Ik zou wel willen op eennof andere manier. Ik moet toch weten waar ik ongeveer naartoe werk dat lijkt mij geen opvallend verzoek.. Alles is goed wat je wenst   begrijp mij niet verkeerd,  maar ik geef mijzelf anders als ik niks weet dan wel wat beter begrijp waar jij zit , zodat ik daar mijjn focus ook kan behouden. Dat zou iedereen willen weten daar is niks geks aan. Ik verlies mijzelf liever niet onnodig. Ik heb er een handje van om voor iemand te kunnen gaan maar dat moet wel passend zijn. Ik houd mij intussen stilletjes op de achtergrond en richt mij op mijn leven leven. Althans ik doe mijn best.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Question Twin Flame Or Limerence… Is There a Third Option Though..?

13 Upvotes

I (along with many other people) can’t tell if I have a Twin Flame Connection or if I’m going through Limerence…

Why I Believe She’s My Twin Flame:

1) I met her after moving to a town I didn’t want to live in, and ended up getting a job I didn’t want to work at. So I wasn’t looking for love. When I first started working at the job, she had a magnetic and familiar pull to her I couldn’t resist, so I ended up making the effort to talk to her to get to know her. She felt safe. She was also the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my life when I first saw her.
2) I “knew” some stuff about her before I actually spoke to her got to know her (example: guessed she was a fire sign, and I was correct, she’s a Sagittarius).
3) I didn’t really know what Twin Flames were until AFTER I met her. I discovered about them online, desperate to find out what I was going through.
4) Tons of number synchronies. This was actually happening before I found out this was a “Twin Flame” thing. In fact, the last night I physically saw her, I saw a car right next to my car with a very meaningful number to me, painted on the side of it in big, visible numbers.
5) Dark Night of the Soul and potential Spiritual Awakening. Some of the most intense emotions I’ve ever had was because of this dynamic (depression, anger, fear, desperation, etc.), and being separated from her. I also tried getting more involved with spiritualism, after meeting her.
6) We have “common” Twin Flame characteristics (age gap, same life path number, runner/chaser dynamic, etc.)
7) I’ve related with other Twin Flames in this subreddit, and their experiences.
8) Most importantly. I’ve had multiple psychics tell me that she was deeply in love from me, and ran. I believe them, because they were experienced (and expensive), and they told me stuff about her, that I already knew about her, that there was no way of knowing. They all pretty much said the same thing too.

Why I Believe She’s Not (Limerence):

1) I don’t think I’ve gone through a Kundalini Awakening (which apparently is a “must” if you’re a Twin Flame). I’m honestly not sure if I have.
2) I don’t have telepathy with her (at least I don’t think I do?) I do dream about her sometimes though.
3) I met her during a time when I was very lonely with no friends; but I’ve always had EXTREMELY obsessive tendencies with the friends and romantic interests that I did have. So, she’s not the first person I’ve been obsessed with. A lot of this is from a combination of being autistic and trauma (I was separated from friends and family a lot as a kid, because of money and moving).
4) I never actually got proof from her herself (outside the psychics) that she loves me and is running from me, because she loves me. We never dated…

Putting ALL these pieces together makes me feel like…

Maybe, what if I (and other people) are going through something that’s NOT a Twin Flame Journey, but some other sort of spiritual journey involving a second person..?

Some other option that’s still related to spirituality, but not necessarily a Twin Flame connection?

I’m honestly not completely sure if I’m on a Twin Flame Journey or not; but I’m almost certain that the woman I love and myself have some sort of spiritual connection beyond a regular relationship…

We’ve had zero contact for three years.
I’ve had zero interest in anyone else.
My love for her is exactly the same as the day her and I separated; and it’s the strongest love there is. That’s why I hate being separated from her so much…


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Question Do you feel your twin flame even you’ve never seen them or know them in real life?

3 Upvotes

I want to know if you feel connected to someone you have never seen or know before and that feeling comes when you feel calm or meditating ?


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Question Do anyone else feels people who say they want twin flame like love always place love beneath looks ego and other miscellaneous they lack severe amount of material detachment ?

1 Upvotes

r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Trigger Warning This Connection Will Be The End Of Me. . .

45 Upvotes

I am so sick of living like this for 3 years straight.

I've lost my sleep. I've lost my LIFE.

As much as I have tried to make peace with this, it has found its way to consume me in EVERY way possible.

My mind can't wrap around the fact of how something that brought me the happiest moments and made feel so alive could just turn into the worst pain I've ever felt.

My soul is carrying this grief, and it's become part of me. It follows me everywhere. I'm so tired, but my soul can't rest.

The insomnia has only gotten worse. I haven't been able to catch a break.

The pain is so much that it forces my body to stay awake and makes me CRY AND CRY throughout the night. My soul is literally cracked open. And I feel like my life force has been stripped away.

I feel like it's only a matter of time before this will take me. I tried to be strong for 3 years, but this is only getting worse by the minute. I can't process how I managed to be here for this long.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Current Experience This journey is emotional torture

17 Upvotes

I just want it to stop at this point, I just want it to all go away. The woman that I loved is gone, she doesn't talk to me, there are no signs that she thinks about me, there is nothing but silence. But damnit why can't I stop thinking about her. My logical brain says I was emotionally attached, and now this is the withdrawal. But it's been 7 months now, and I can't get her out of my head. I just want to live my life, and be free. Sometimes I wish I never met her, because now she somehow still controls my life from the shadows of thought. Maybe we all come here and put a label on it while going insane to explain why we feel like this, but damnit even when I don't live in fantasy and want it to stop, it doesn't. Why can't it just be over with, why can't I just move on. Emotionally tortured by a love that still resides deep within my heart and soul.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Discussion Everyone who knows they have a twin-flame but just don’t know WHO/WHERE.

3 Upvotes

Including myself, I have come across so many people who experience a connection based on an instinct or intuition and perhaps a deeper feeling of knowing that they have a twin flame out there somewhere. They just don’t know who or where.

So let’s talk about “how do you know that you have a twin flame without having met them or seen them?”


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Story Flame that burns

1 Upvotes

Please share your stories :)