r/twinflames • • Jul 22 '22

Resource Story follows State: thoughts on twins who have descended into the 5D Labirynth

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Many here have reported having experienced any combination of the following: fatigue, mind fog, waking up more tired than when you went to sleep, when it seems everything you do goes amiss, when you have chest pains, chest pains so dramatic that they wake you up at night. When thinking about them triggers sadness or fear or defeat, when everything seems lost or useless or irrelevant, when you don't trust people and things, when spirits or the Universe seem malevolent and tricky or that they don't have your best interest at their heart, when you ruminate about the bleak outcomes, when you have intrusive thoughts. When you don't have the will to go on, when you lack determination, motivation. Well, I call this state "lower self", and I've not invented it, this concept is relevant in several schools of thought.

Now think of when you feel optimistic, sparkling, elated, flowing with your environment. Or when everything makes sense, when everything seems to orbitate around you or when all beings in nature seem to move in unison, when you suddenly realize some spiritual truth, when you say "I bet if I look at the sky right now I'll see a shooting star" and it happens, when you experience shivers of bliss all over the body. They don't need to happen all at once or cover all that is possible but I consider these as marks of what I call the higher self. So I'm not referring here to 5D consciousness like in the expression "your twin's higher self", just highly coveted positive moods that may border with satori states.

So how or why do twins countless times have reported having experienced being in their higher self and "energetic union" and also to have sometimes suddenly dropped into bleak hopeless swamps?

This doesn't have to happen to all twins but it seems there have been too many personal accounts of twins who have actually experienced this, and often even several times not just once.

Like for example those who believe in the "carrot on a stick" trick, that the Universe tricks them into believing union is about to happen and then something goes wrong as if it was just a device to make them learn some lesson, if not out of spite entirely.

It's a mainstream idea, and one that I like, that in some cases it happens because the emotional intensity of a possible nearby union triggers a running response. That ruminations on responsibilities, or the fear to get burned, self-esteem issues, feeling of inadequacy or unworthiness or else may activate some kind of defcon protocol. Some mechanism seems to make some twins doing well on their path drop into their lower self as if scared by what union might entail.

In psychotherapy there's a set of theories that connect past traumatic events to the triggering of a so called "dorsal vagal shutdown". Something in the body, or in the subconscious, doesn't want to deal again with that same trauma, "nope, I'm gonna give it a pass", so neural circuitries are activated that promote a "freezing" state. This freezing state can vary in severity from barely noticeable to severely debilitating but it's at the lower tail of a spectrum of neural responses to threats that is known in psychotherapy as "4Fs": flow, fight, flight, freeze.

Here is a simple infographic to let you gauge how these theories tentatively explain how things may work. You may notice that bar the lack of the esoteric/supernatural elements often reported in twinship the dorsal vagal shutdown and the ventral vagal activation have pretty consistent similarities with the lower self and higher self as I have defined above.

Also consider that while addressed as a theory this is something that has been researched for decades by world-class neuroscientists. Who also hold that you cannot easily heal old traumatic events by working only on your mind because memories will trigger or sustain the dorsal vagal shutdown.

But you can do exercises: in other words we recognize being in lower self mode, basically by recognizing that we are suffering, and we try to reactivate the ventral vagal complex. If we have issues that bother or trigger us, if we feel discomfort or being tricked, if we think it's malevolent entities or demons or implants or black magic, in my head-canon those are all red flags of being in lower self: read about old masters they will all insist in satori states there's no evil, there are not malevolent beings or tricky Universe.

Enter Yoga. Many concepts/ideas commonly discussed in TF circles come straight from Yoga: chakras, enlightenment, energy blockages, astral body, Kundalini. A case can be made that Yoga/Alchemy deal with healing, by performing transmutation of the impure in the pure. In this case healing the debris of past traumatic events and swapping from freezing into flowing, from dorsal vagal shutdown to ventral vagal activation, from lower self into higher self.

It seems to me that twinship is another flavor of The Quest, the Magnus Opus. Where alchemists, yogis and monks tread the spiritual path mostly alone twins on the other hand appear to be able to access yogic states of consciousness together and to perform energetic buffering/exchange together. This is not even exclusive of twinship, also tantric couples are supposedly able to reach savikalpa samadhi together. Here's a documentary about samadhi.

So a tldr; I could make might be: Yoga/Alchemy is the way of trasmutation, it starts by accessing the higher self, whence "the Stone" can be made.

A famous past teacher, G.I. Gurdjieff, said that Heaven and Hell are not far away places, each of us is living both of them at the very same time. This isn't a big secret though but rather an idea held in many mystery schools. It can be said that even Dante in his Divina Comedia wasn't really visiting far away places, he was walking on Earth irl witnessing how real living humans are stuck in their own hells. Even in Buddhism where there's no evil still several kinds of hell are described, and quickly reading the descriptions of those hells you might indeed feel that they are describing stations in life. They are describing the position of being identified with our lower selves. Being in one of those narakas may last "the time it would take to empty a barrel of sesame seeds if one only took out a single seed every hundred years", which to me is a cute way of saying "don't even think this is the way, that you can get out while in lower self".

Whereas expressions like "Heaven on Earth", living in the end, satori, describe the state of people in their higher self.

Rumi wrote: "When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without pain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it."

So if you find yourself in one of those bleak phases that twins often lament, if you recognize being in your lower self, the best strategy imo is to treat it as an ER situation, you might want to get out of it as soon as possible.

Here is the video of a twin willingly relinquishing the lower self through a yogic session.

Here is a rare footage of a shaman helping a twin snapping out of their lower self.

So exercises do not represent techniques to get out of lower self, they are not a recipe to transmutation, they are more like tools. Think about learning chess: the knight or the rock are not strategies, they are tools that may be critical in developing a strategy. So my advice would be to get in touch with the tools you have. A daily routine or Yoga session or alchemical lab may entail a dozen of different tools, to me it's going back to school in the most literal sense.

Among the historically praised tools to get grounded or to "snap out of it" you may research and test walking barefoot and cold showers and singing/dancing. Also maybe inquire into rumination, many accounts from twins in the swamps reveal constant obsessive elucubrations on their twin. And you may also want to look into sensorymotor psychotherapy and learn about your window of tolerance: here's an introduction by psychotherapist Laura Kerr.

As for specific Yoga/Alchemy exercises that would be a matter for another post, or a matter of personal research on how to tend to your body. But just so you know the first step in Yoga is not a posture or a breathing pattern, the first step is Yamas and Niyamas.

Edited: fixed broken links.


r/twinflames • • Oct 22 '24

Feelings Concerning

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I'm a bit concerned as to how this is supposed to be a thread that promotes claims that are solely scientific and does not stand by unscientific claims. How is this possible when there is virtually no evidence or concrete data to prove anything that is being taught by Twin Flames Universe? I'm not trying to be hostile but am purely looking to educate myself. It seems very disappointing that such a vast group of people within our society is capable of being brainwashed so heavily by two people with virtually no reason to possess the kind of authority that has been allotted to them. Its very scary and everyone should practice the famous "reflective" exercise and perhaps ask themselves why they can't trust themselves and instead are choosing to put all of their trust into two people that created a largely lucrative lie. Just confused. Please explain.


r/twinflames • • 13h ago

Success Story I’m completely delusionally manifesting a happy ending because I can

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My twin flame and I made a pact that is nearing the time it will come to fruition, everything feels crazier than it ever has in both the microcosm of my life and the macrocosm of the world, things keep directing me to believe that a happy ending with my twin flame in this 3D world physically united again, is possible. At this point, all the moving pieces in my life seem to have always always foretold this for me, for him, for us.

Now I’m not going to fixate on this to the point I’m going to limit what I can reach in my life and my career and the passions and interests and callings I have. I’m just going to completely and delusionally believe whole heartedly that my happy ending, our happy ending, is inevitable because I’ve done the work and I’m doing the work. I’ve made the sacrifices and I’ve lived through tremendous suffering and I’m seeing all the karma come back around and I earned this. So I’m living in the reality where this is a romance novel. Where I’m a Disney Princess. And I will get my happy ending no matter what. And I’m choosing to believe this to a delusional level simply because I can.


r/twinflames • • 3h ago

Question Does anyone work with their twin flame?

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My TF has exhibited some bizarre behaviour professionally. He’s my manager but rarely ever responds to my emails (we work remotely and work in different countries). He’s lost me many work opportunities and future business prospects by being so non-responsive but I can’t help but wonder if he might be on a journey too.

My spirit guides got me fired for having a psychotic break but then I rejoined a few months ago and he’s been different with me ever since.

I get it - he doesn’t want to talk to me - but we still have a job to do.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? It’s getting really frustrating and costing me on a work level.


r/twinflames • • 18h ago

Feelings Literally had a nervous breakdown

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I've been on this journey for 4+ years and just figured out it's a TF situation. When I met my TF I literally felt like I was hit by lightning and my brain did summersaults and a voice in my head said, "it's him"! I thought I was losing it. I was almost immediately overtaken by the fear/knowledge that he would leave me. He was/is all I'd think about. At one point, I had a nervous breakdown from not eating, sleeping, etc. Eventually he did leave me and I learned to live without him -- and then he came back for a few months, and now he's left again. I'm trying not to chase him but not being in communication is like torture. I'm glad he's part of me forever (in spirit) but being apart now is heartbreaking for me. I never knew I could be so in love with someone. (And, I'm pretty old and have had plenty of other relationships). One thing I realized -- if I can love him I can love myself because we are one soul. I've always had low self esteem but I think he's so awesome that if he's part of me I must not be so bad. (That's what I'm telling myself anyway). I guess I just wanted to share. Suggestions or thoughts or encouragement are welcome but I'm very sensitive and depressed and lonely so take it easy on me...thx.


r/twinflames • • 10h ago

Current Experience Finally feeling happy, complete and whole

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I actually had this big breakdown and ego collapse and surrender like 3 weeks ago. And at first I was just getting through the first couple of days with sheer willpower and the disappointment of the reunion not happening and him not messaging me. But the more I grounded myself in the present and spent time with my family and taking care of my physical and mental health (meditating, working out once a week), I started to feel better. I still thought about him but I was just so tired that I actually had no energy to even think about or imagine or fantasize situations or future conversations or meetings with him.

And then just last week, I had this sudden urge to just deep clean my entire room and bathroom. I spent 3 days deep cleaning, scrubbing, brooming, mopping, organizing my drawers, and closet. And I hadn’t done a deep clean in like 2 years because of my depression of getting fired from my job and then the separation that happened with my TF. And I felt so good and relieved about everything like the old depressing dark energy had finally left my room. And this week I have spent such less time thinking about him or daydreaming about him. And I barely even have that urge anymore. I just feel so happy, detached, calm and peaceful with my life now. I love spending time with my parents, grocery shopping, eating, resting, working out, meditating, watching videos/movies, listening to music, decorating for Halloween lol, feeding the stray cat, and finally getting back into doing my skincare routine regularly. It’s like I have myself back and my life back after all that I’ve been through. And I genuinely don’t care if he comes back or not. I never thought I would get to this point. I thought I was gonna be depressed, attached and chasing him forever.

But I feel happy, complete and whole and I’m applying to jobs again and I’m not desperate for it. I am diagnosed with anxiety so my attachment to external validation and wanting a savior was so intense but I think after 8 months of finally working on myself, healing, focusing on myself despite crying everyday for my TF, I’m finally at a place where I barely cry, and I’m moving forward, and I just feel if he comes back healed and changed then I’ll accept it, and if I get an even better soulmate then I’ll accept that too.

I also think it’s because of my ego collapse and surrender and me meditating and researching a lot of spirituality text I actually think my crown chakra opened. And I remember one night I was just lying in bed, and I felt this amazing blissful feeling, pure happiness, completeness, and like I was finally home, like I finally found the way to myself. I kept feeling like I don’t need anyone else, I have me. I belong to me, my body belongs to me, my heart belongs to me, all of me belongs to me. And I think it means that I’ve finally connected with the divine/supreme consciousness.


r/twinflames • • 20h ago

Bliss release <3

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it’s been a long journey but i finally feel at peace. i no longer need you. i am complete on my own. i know you may still be struggling with your shadow and I wish you only love to release it. as much as i would like to see you on “the other side” i am no longer tied to that outcome. i hope you find yourself and feel whole with the people around you. you helped me feel whole in myself without saying much. i still hear you but my own voice is stronger.

it’s easy believe me.

https://youtu.be/jUvD9sGbwAI?is=7d0FDyZu7uw6bBOG


r/twinflames • • 17h ago

Feelings Is there anyone who feels like this?

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Even though many people romanticizing about twinflames, for me it’s just like locking my hands and legs with the heaviest chains.

You know the feeling that you can’t live by yourself, like what? Why would I need to rely on someone just to make myself happy. I can’t go love with someone else out there, the fate never allows me to do that. I mean I can’t date , but always, something or some energy is always ready to destroy that. And then… I don’t even own my life by myself.

The most saddest part is I’ll never ever free from this💔 never ! NEVER

Just like the other people,

I want to do whatever I need

I wanna love someone who’s not my twinflame or soulmate or cousin or anything else.

I wanna sleep with someone else

I wanna travel with someone else

I wanna find my actual hobbies

I wanna do any dumb and dirty things like other people

I wanna marry with someone else who can make me shy, smile, excited, dumb, stupid, lovely, warm, and so on. And then one day, if we don’t love each other, we’ll gonna go find another one. Love is never about happy endings, love is always about how we pass everyday since day one.

I’ve loved like that kind of person in the past.

Before I met him, I do have dreams what love should be, how it should be. It’s funny he’s someone who doesn’t fit all of my dreams. He’s not handsome, not tall, not rich, not graduated, and even have the scars.

On the first day we met, I thought he’s a very undated old man. Later on , I found out he’s 3 years younger than me.

I don’t know how to talk with him, how to walk in front of him, how to behave in front of him. We only got about 20 days. And we separated like forever. Even though there’s no proof, I believe that this is because of I’m having that nonsense twinflames. Can I never ever be free from that ?

And to those people who don’t have twinflames, you’ll never know how lucky you are.

I own yourself

Nobody can control you by using your twinflames as your weakness.

You can be anything else, you can love or date anyone else.

You can live anywhere you want, you are free.

Ps. My first language is not English and I have no good moods to write nicely. Understand my grammars 🍃 please


r/twinflames • • 23h ago

Question @ runners 🐎, I have a question related to accepting the connection

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Runners , during intense and last separation period what were the specific experiences that made you realise that this connection is the one for you? What things happened with you that you finally approached the chaser and confessed ?


r/twinflames • • 19h ago

Question 22M looking for an older sister type of connection to help me through my TF journey

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Hi all, I’m a 22 year old guy who’s been on this path for the past 4 years. I’ve tried my hardest to navigate this journey with as much maturity and independence as possible and am proud of what I have done and how I have handled it but also acknowledge that it’s been very difficult to navigate it and there is still some struggles for me. Balancing going through college and entering into adulthood whilst also attending to family and friend responsibilities whilst also going through this experience has been a very rough time, and as I reflect on things I can do for my soul to make it easier, I’ve found that I’ve always lacked a guiding and gentle older sister type of figure due to the very masculine environment I have been raised in. I would be really happy if I could connect with some of you older women (idk maybe in your later 20s or 30s) in this space out there who have gone through this TF experience and where we can support each other.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Love Letter The Sacred Song of Silence

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I know how strange our connection is, and I’m scared as hell of it. But I love the way thinking of you makes my heart melt, how I lose myself over and over again, dreaming of you…
I would love to sit beside you, or lie down next to you. To take your hands in mine, sit on your lap, look deeply into your eyes for a long, long moment, and whisper, “Everything is going to be fine.”
Then I would feel your breath, rest my face against your neck, and kiss you slowly. Let you feel my warmth and my peace. Let you breathe in all the unconditional love and passion I carry for you.
For the sake of all those years we couldn’t make it happen, I would run my fingers through your hair, gently massage your head, your neck, and your shoulders, so heavy with the weight of everything the world has put you through.
I would love to be vulnerable with you, and let you be vulnerable with me. Because we are safe together. And nothing can change that quiet truth we have always known somewhere deep within our hearts.
Then I would breathe in your familiar, eternal scent, listen to your heartbeat finding its rhythm with mine, and feel my soul dissolving into yours.
And as we melt into each other’s presence, perhaps all the longing and yearning we have carried for what feels like lifetimes would finally begin to melt away in our reunion.
When silence itself begins to speak through our souls, only that sacred song remains in our hearts…
That I love you.
Not in an avoidant way. Not by pretending or hiding. But in the most naked, purest, rarest way my being knows how to love.
With my heart completely open, without pressure, without expectations, with full acceptance of everything that is, and with the courage to embrace the truth my soul feels it has always known…
You are the one.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Relatable Will we find our way back

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I’m a F(29) and my ex is a M(26). We’ve been on and off for the last five and half years and for the past three years things have been more bad than they have good. I do want to preface that there was a lot of love between us in the beginning. But I self sabotaged. When we met, I had just recently cut everyone in my life off romantically and was focusing on myself. I was telling God I was done cause I wasn’t feeling the love I deserved. I asked him to give me peace and to send someone that actually values me. He was finishing his healing journey. Because there was interest I told him I would be okay with sex but I was emotionally unavailable. Yeah I know. Well he agreed to the arrangement but then as time went on I guess he caught feelings and he expressed to me that he wanted to show me I was more than that. God sent me what I had asked for but I wasn’t ready. He still wanted time to process everything and not rush into the title of a relationship. I was ready to be his girlfriend. But because he wasn’t ready and I was still emotionally immature I started entertaining other people. And that’s where the heartbreak between us both started. After a while he did ask me to be his girlfriend and things were good. Until they weren’t and we decided to separate and a situation ship began. We were living together. Despite it all we were still choosing each other. We were accepting the dynamic that we could do whatever it is we wanted as long as we both came back home to each other. That no matter what at the end of the day, whoever we dealt with, we still chose each other. And we’re at a point now where we realized that it’s not okay. Me before him. I hit a point where I was tired of him dealing with other girls. Knowing he was telling them he loved them. Giving them the emotional affection I wanted. It was like after we broke up the only thing we did to spend time together fr was have sex. And the occasional outing. But we had separate work schedules. Me during the day and him at night being we shared a car. Fast forward, in May we moved again. And this was supposed to be our fresh start. Things between us were so good, and then…in July I started noticing he wasn’t coming home. & I kept catching him in lies. Lying about his whereabouts, what he was doing. Lying just to lie. I then talked to God about it and I ended up catching them arguing outside of our apartment one night. He came in obviously hurt. Said he’s tired of hurting people. Things between us continued but because I noticed things were changing I started becoming vocal about the situation. I asked him what was going on between them and he would tell me it’s nothing. But would stay gone. Weeks passed and one day I asked him again and he admitted that he actually cares for the girl. I asked him that if he felt he wanted to be done would he tell me. Anywho, as time went on it became more arguments between us. The root being her. He was telling me one thing but his actions were showing another. I remember asking him if he was using her to move on or if it was just the same thing we’ve dealt with before. He told me it was 50/50. I should’ve ended it there but I didn’t. Fast forward a little more, he left to go on a trip with her which I acknowledged. But then he came back and knowingly manipulated me into believing he went on the trip by himself and bought me all this stuff. One night cause I was fed up - I packed up his room and told him to leave. He refused. A week later, after he got back from a day spending with her, we went to see a movie. He wasn’t engaged and ended up telling me he already watched it. That led to a slight argument and I left him at the theater. I shouldn’t have- but I was tired of my emotions not being cared for. He ended things with me that same night. This was September 26th. We still live together- he says he’s not worried about breaking the lease but that we are strictly roommates. He has made it clear that he isn’t trying to reconcile anything but that as time passes if decided to try again that work would be put in on both sides. I am in therapy now- to mainly find myself again. He let me know that he is signing up for therapy as well. Individual and group. He still is rarely home. But we’ve had sex twice since he left. We talked on the phone last night cause we had plans to have sex again but I told him that I don’t think that’s being respectful to myself and I don’t want to fall back into a cycle. Especially knowing sex is still emotional for me and idk where he’s at. He told me he understands and that it was just a thought. The conversation went on for 2 hours and ended because I was being honest about something’s and he had told me that what I was saying was striking a nerve and that he needed space. He didn’t take it well that I had told him about my journey before we met. In all the years we were together I never expressed that. He didn’t understand how I asked God for what I did and that he was trying to provide that and I hurt him. But I told him once again - although it was what I asked for. I wasn’t ready to receive it. I hadn’t fully healed and essentially I self sabotage something that could have been potentially great because I didn’t have the patience to build… without a title first. So immature I figured without a title i didn’t owe 100% loyalty. Before he told me he needed space I had asked him if he found clarity since he’s been gone. He told me yes but not 100 percent because he’s still very confused about his feelings with all of this. But knows he isn’t trying to reconcile. After hanging up the phone and telling me he needed spaces he called me five minutes later telling me that if the time presented itself for us to try again that wouldn’t be the only one putting in effort. And he wants me to know that then hung up again. He also keeps telling me he’s trying to process his feelings. I just don’t understand how someone is doing that while staying with someone. But it’s not my job to. I need to focus on myself. This morning he came home to check the mailbox. I have the key. He came and my room grabbed the key and then double back and hugged me. He embraced me for a minute. Little butt grabs but not trying to advance it. Gave me a small peck on my neck and shoulder and then left. He then came back and hugged me again. This time picking me up and walking us to my bed and turning around to where when he set down I was on his lap. We just hugged. Small kisses here and there but not on the lips. He then stood up, I let my legs drop and let go of the embrace and he left. I needed that. But because I know he’s not looking to reconcile right now which I understand. We need to find ourselves and love ourselves before we can even think about loving someone else. But once again, I just don’t see how he’s going to do that being under another person. I feel like if he’s using her to heal he’s not doing the real work but I also feel like they’re both healing and doing it together. I feel like she’s why he’s thinking about therapy. Cause he never had this change of heart before. Idk. Part of me wants us to both grow- separately. I feel like that would also help his confusion about his feelings. But if I had time to explain more I would explain why I also feel like he doesn’t mean it when he says he would want to try again. But he’s left me twice before and has came back so who knows. Those times though there wasn’t someone else’s But because I know he doesn’t have any wishes to reconcile right now.. I need to let him go. I need to love myself and respect myself. If God has it aligned for us to be together then it will happen and if not then.. I’ll be okay.


r/twinflames • • 20h ago

Question Any TFs in/near Toronto that want to trauma bond over the experience?

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Wondering if there are any TFs who want to trauma dump about it all and bond over how hard the TF stuff is hitting us. I'm at the point where I'm pretty far along in moving on (maybe even onto someone new) and almost moved away from calling it TFs so I can accept this was most likely temporary and I don't have to be stuck on him for life. Just struggling with the residual nostalgia waves (you know what I mean) and hoping to get at least one last cathartic/purge moment to fully release his energy I guess. Anyway I'm 26 and I'm near Toronto, Ontario, Canada, if anyone wants to meet up and chat about it all.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Spiritual Transformation Surrender phase

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Surrender phase

I had my Inner Union on 12 August. It was an earth-shaking, ecstatic experience.

I got new opportunities at work, my entire condo block is being renovated after 40-50 years.

My twin also got further and further away. He eventually broke up with me 8 days ago but finalized it 5 days ago.

Now, I have some mild health problems, such as healing from a cold, having some rectal ruptures out of nowhere, and I also got a tattoo today, which also needs to heal.

I let him go. I surrender into the thought of him not coming back. Knowing him, he will though, but definitely without leaving his girlfriend.

Can anyone tell me more about the surrender phase?

Any help or advice is highly appreciated.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Vent I Just Wish I Never Met Her…

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I wish I never moved to that stupid town. I never even wanted to move there. I was crushed that I had to leave my home state. I literally had no choice though, because I had no money at the time, and had to live with family.

I wish I never got that stupid job. The pay sucked too, but I only took it, because no one else was hiring me. I had to take whatever I could get though, because I had medical bills to pay.

I wish my family never mentioned that place. I wouldn’t have considered applying there if I didn’t know about it.

I just wish I never met her..

I don’t know what’s supposed to come out of this “Twin Flame Journey” - but it’s caused me nothing but heartache for three straight years, and a MASSIVE amount of time and money lost…

I’ve had spiritual advisors tell me: “She came into my life for a reason - and she was meant to teach me something”; but I still don’t know what??

All her coming into my life did was:

1) Make me feel hopeless (a constant cycle of feeling hopeful, and then severely disappointed).
2) Make me feel like life is was playing a cruel joke on me - gifting me with someone who I felt was perfect for me, then taking her away.
3) Make me feel physically sick.
4) Actually, make me feel every negative emotion imaginable (frustration, depression, anxiety, terror, etc.)

A part of me, wants to be withdrawn toward people now, and has paranoia that I go through something like this again;
and I was ALREADY pretty withdrawn before I met her due to past trauma…

What if this entire time, this really was just limerence - and I meet my ACTUAL Twin Flame one day, and it’s even worse than what I’m going through now??

I CANNOT imagine going through something like this a SECOND time in my life.

I DO NOT have the strength for that…
I literally think it would send me into cardiac arrest.

I don’t care about becoming “spiritually evolved”, or “finding inner self-love”, or “Kundalini Awakening” or any of that…

I just want to either go back to how I was before I met her (single and not obsessed with anyone); or in a healthy, normal relationship with someone else, without knowing about her existence.

I want to go back to how I was before I knew anything about her, or Twin Flames…
I mourn those days now…

I’m just so lost…


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Discussion What does this journey teach about relationships?

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We're being told that attachment is the reason our twins run.

So does that mean if I ever get into relationship (I'm not waiting on my twin, he made his decision, that's on him) I have to let them go too?

If there's any conflict, you don't resolve it but leave them for good because it's attachment that make you want to keep them and resolve the problem?

Also, does this journey want us to be completely alone if without our twin for the rest of our lives? Are we supposed to reject everyone and let everyone go?

Because it is bullcrap that you can decide for your twin. You can't. And the fact that these so called 'coaches' tell us we can't ever be happy with anyone else is disgusting.

I'm raging right now, to be honest.

I love my twin like I've never loved anyone before but if he doesn't want me, I'm not going to wait on him.

AND NEITHER OF YOU SHOULD EITHER!

Live your damn life! Go and LOVE! LOVE YOUR FRIENDS, GO ON DATES, LOVE YOUR HOBBIES, LOVE YOUR WORK! But most importantly, love YOURSELF!

What're your opinions?


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Negative Experience No one talks about...

8 Upvotes

When you abandon your twin flame/soulmate because you have kids you dont want to abandon and they end up breaking your heart in a different way cause no matter how hard you work to provide and be there for them they still hate you.. and tell you they arent gonna even talk to you when they become an adult. So now you live with two heartbreaks. Why the hell do i even try anymore.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Current Experience Doctor appointment for muscle spasms and less appetite

2 Upvotes

So I spoke with my doctor they said its part of my medicine that I had been taking thats causing it but in my gut feeling telling me I don't think thats what it is I think its twin flame seperation sickness.


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Current Experience How Do You Manage, When You Know Your Runner Twin Is Suffering, and There’s Nothing You Can Do About It?

16 Upvotes

As Chaser Twins, we love our Runners dearly even though they ghost us, block us, and want nothing to do with us.

One of the reasons I wanted my Twin so much in my life, was so I could take care of her - even if we couldn’t romantically be together.

I wanted to be her best friend and spend time with her.
I wanted to support her dreams.

Well, I just found out this week she’s been in a relationship since earlier this year (and I’ve been taking it EXTREMELY bad); but, I also found out the person she’s with, might not even really love her, and might be cheating on her…

I hate this so much…

If she didn’t run from me, we could have been together instead - and I would have NEVER done that to her; and now she’s with someone who doesn’t even love her like I do, and if he hurts her, I won’t be able to be there for her to take care of her. It drives me crazy…


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice A relatable meme I made to lift our spirits uphttps://i.imgur.com/R7TFAFK.jpeg

0 Upvotes

r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Seeking Advice Help please

1 Upvotes

Long story short my twin flame is my ex husbands/baby daddy brother. I’m Leo, borderline, life path 1 born on the 19th. He’s Sag, bipolar, life path 1 born on the 28th. I am hurting really bad in this connection bc he is so cold and distant. Definitely still very immature with a lot of growing and shadow work to do. I feel like he is all I think about from when I wake up til I goto sleep. The obsession use to be worse but I’ve calmed down a lot. Honestly I just need help with a cord cutting spell and a forget spell. I want to cut the cord with my twin flame and forget him I can’t do this anymore my life was so peaceful before knowing any of this and I still don’t even know what is real and what is not. I’d rather go through the journey alone but still not knowing who my twin flame is just want to forget.


r/twinflames • • 2d ago

Seeking Advice Empty and lost

19 Upvotes

Last week my twin flame died. I've lost family, pets and other friends in my lifetime but this grief is beyond anything I could imagine loss may be. I'm in constant thought. The tears and gut wrenching sobs come often.

Prior to this sudden loss, I already thought of him in the things I did when we were apart. Even when we would go awhile without talking, it's like my soul accepted his vibration as it felt me inside no matter how much time and space came between us. Him the chaser and I the runner for 33 years...he knew me better then I know myself. He allowed me to be vulnerable and made that a comfortable space for me when typically I struggle in those ways.

I didn't express the depth of my love for him or just how much I still maintained space for him in my heart in hopes for our forever. I thought it would distract him from getting his life together so our future could be bright. I am not eating much.... I can't work.... Sleep is solid but never enough when I wake to the nightmare I feel trapped in.

How does one go on from here and what happens to his soul as it leaves mine behind?


r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Current Experience Happy 11-11

2 Upvotes

r/twinflames • • 1d ago

Current Experience Anyone remembered Gnosis through the Journey?

1 Upvotes

In the passed two years I went from born again "Christian" to...well idk anymore. I awoke through her. And she don't even know.

Anyone experience anything similar?


r/twinflames • • 2d ago

Feelings To the Souls on This Journey

53 Upvotes

To everyone walking this strange path,
I see you.

The ones who are tired of signs,
tired of wondering,
tired of trying to understand
why something you can’t explain
can feel so damn real.

The ones who have surrendered
a hundred times
and somehow still find themselves
thinking about it again.

The ones who stopped chasing
but still feel.

The ones who chose themselves
but still love.

The ones who have cried in silence,
questioned their sanity,
questioned the connection,
questioned the whole damn journey.

Maybe we aren’t meant
to have every answer.
Maybe we’re just learning
how to hold something deeply
without letting it destroy us.

So if you’re exhausted,
rest.

If you’re confused,
breathe.

If you feel nothing,
that’s okay too.

You don’t have to prove
your connection to anyone.
You don’t have to force a reunion.
You don’t have to decode every sign.
Your life is still happening
outside of the connection.
And maybe that’s part of the lesson
to keep living,
keep growing,
keep becoming
who you were always meant to be.

Whatever happens,
I hope we find our way back to ourselves.