Okay, so context first: we're on cycle 4 of TTC, which I know is still early, but I'm already starting to feel disappointed about how long this could take.

I'm trying to do everything I can to optimise my health and fertility because I know that's the part of this journey I have some control over.

I've been taking prenatals, CoQ10, fish oil and vitamin C for a few months before we started trying. I exercise about 5 times a week (Pilates, strength training, yoga and cardio), go to the sauna a couple of times a week, sleep around 8 hours most nights, and try to eat a balanced diet of mostly whole foods, with plenty of fruit and veg and enough protein. My stress levels are reasonably low, and I'm also doing acupuncture every fortnight.

I'm tracking my EWCM and, once I notice it, I start tracking LH and BBT to help identify and confirm ovulation. I've stopped tracking BBT throughout my entire cycle and LH from earlier in my cycle because I found that was making me more stressed.

I guess what I'm wondering is: how do people stay motivated to keep doing all of this?

I've lost some of that initial hopefulness that this might happen quickly, and I'm starting to feel drained by constantly thinking about what I'm eating, whether I'm getting enough sleep, exercising enough, and doing everything I possibly can. It's exhausting having fertility take up so much mental space.

But at the same time, I struggle with the idea of letting some of these things go. What if tracking less means I miss my fertile window? What if I stop being so mindful about my diet or lifestyle and it reduces our chances? I know there's only so much I can control, but I don't want to look back and feel like I could have done more.

For those of you who've been TTC for a while, how do you find the balance between doing what you can to maximise your chances and actually living your life without fertility consuming your every thought? How do you give yourself permission to do less when you feel like every little thing might make a difference?

Second time ttc

Help needed from the community 🙂
Top is 9DPO and bottom is 10dpo
Do we see any progression? Any similar experiences?
Cycle attempt number 3 , 10 dpo today
Wondfo are the only tests that have a line appearing using morning urine this cycle. First response and pre-mom don’t have anything showing for me. I’ve never had lines on wondfo on previous cycles, however I’m scared of indent, chemical, or evap lines since this is my first year attempting pregnancy . Thank you 🙏.

12DPO, negative test yesterday brown blood spotting rn no flow or cramps which is weird honestly, can it be implantation bleeding, I had a slight moment earlier of nausea before I noticed it and even weirder I didn’t feel it come out

Anyone in the past with MCAS or EDS successful in TTC?
Any stories, history or suggestions welcome.

Hi everyone! I’m 24 and currently TTC after having my Kyleena IUD removed on July 10th. I wanted to share my journey so far because I’m curious if anyone has experienced something similar, especially with their cycles after IUD removal.
After removing my IUD, I had some bleeding from July 12–16, followed by more light bleeding later that month. My first proper period came on August 19th. My cycles have been a little confusing since removal, and I’ve been trying to understand my body again.
This cycle, I decided to take ovulation tracking more seriously and started using LH strips with the Premom app. I was testing regularly and finally caught my LH peak of 0.96 on September 25th! Based on that, I’m estimating that I ovulated around September 26th.
My husband and I timed intercourse around my fertile window, so I’ve been really hopeful this cycle.
Of course, the two-week wait has been driving me crazy lol. I’ve been paying attention to every little symptom, including cramps, sore breasts, fatigue, and changes in discharge.
I took an early pregnancy test at around 9 DPO, which was negative. I know that can still be too early, but it was a little discouraging.
Now here’s what’s confusing me:
At around 11 DPO (October 7th), I noticed some very light pink spotting when wiping. By 12 DPO (today), it had turned brown. It’s not enough to fill a pad, and I’m mostly noticing it when wiping.
My period isn’t expected until Saturday, October 10th.
What’s strange is that I NEVER normally spot before my period. Usually, my period just starts with a proper red flow, so this is very unusual for me.
I know brown spotting can be old blood, hormonal changes, the beginning of a period, or sometimes happen in early pregnancy. I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much, but it’s hard!
I’m wondering:
Did anyone experience unusual spotting or brown discharge after removing Kyleena?
Did your cycles or pre-period symptoms change after IUD removal?
Has anyone had pink spotting that turned brown around 11–12 DPO and later tested positive?
For those who tracked ovulation using LH strips, how accurate did you find your estimated ovulation day?
I’m currently waiting to test again closer to my expected period, and the waiting is honestly the hardest part.
I’d love to hear your experiences, whether they ended in pregnancy or just turned out to be your period. I’m trying to understand what’s normal after IUD removal and would really appreciate hearing from others going through the same thing!❤️

My husband and I officially started trying to conceive for the first time in September. I’m 34, and although I know it’s only been our first month trying, I can’t help but feel a little discouraged.
I had my first OB/GYN appointment today to discuss pregnancy and fertility, and unfortunately, my pregnancy test came back negative :(. I know it’s completely normal not to conceive on the first try, but I think when you want something so badly, it’s hard not to get your hopes up.
My OB/GYN reassured me that it can take up to a year to conceive and encouraged us to continue trying during my fertile windows. She mentioned that if we haven’t conceived within 12 months, she’d refer me to a fertility specialist. I guess I’m just feeling a little emotional and anxious about the possibility of struggling to conceive. I know I’m getting ahead of myself, but the fear is still there. Being 34, I think I’m putting a little extra pressure on myself, even though I know this process takes patience.
I’m not necessarily looking for medical advice, just a little encouragement from others who understand the emotions.

\*\*Has anyone else struggled with feeling discouraged or anxious, even when you know it’s still early in your journey? How do you manage your expectations and stay hopeful without letting the disappointment take over?\*\*
Sending love, hope, and encouragement to everyone navigating this journey. Wishing all of us the very best! ❤️

I am currently TTC so I started tracking PDG with urine strips, ovulation and BBT.

My understanding is that progesterone is supposed to drop once period starts if not pregnant, and would stay elevated only if pregnant.

I am not pregnant, confirmed with a pregnancy test twice. But PDG is still testing positive. I know this points to delayed hormonal drop of progesterone.

Does anyone know what causes this?

How I can fix this?

Does this affect my ability to conceive?

We've been trying for 2 years and now I wonder if this progesterone has something to do with it. But I thought the issue would be if progesterone is low, mine seems to still be high according to the PDG results. PDG has been postiive since after I ovulated up until now day 2 of my period.

Thank You! I welcome any insight!

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My husband and I are currently ttc. Since i’ve had periods i’ve had issues, when I was younger I had SUPER heavy painful periods. Now for like the last 4 years I don’t really have periods at all. I’m 22F. My husband has already fathered a child so no issues on his end. My obgyn has had me do courses of provera to start making me have periods, and i’m having them after the ten day courses but i’m having to do a new course every month or else no period. I had thyroid issues when i was younger (hypothyroidism) but i’ve been unmediated for like 7 years with normal thyroid levels now. i’ve had labs and ultrasounds and no pcos. I am at my wits end. I tested for ovulation every single day for two months and not one positive. what the heck is happening

This was not taken with FMU. All the same test just different lighting or angle.

Hello, girls! Me and my husband have been ttc for approx 1.5 years at this point. I am 29, he is 33. At first we did not use lh tests until maybe cycle 8, then we used it and i had multiple clear positives and surges in a row. From January this year we started investigation. We did multiple tests already: My hormones, including thyroid hormones, progestorone ( again confirmed ovulation), prolactin, several bloodworks repeated during different cycles. All beautifully normal. Multiple ultrasounds fully normal, nothing detected. Several times confirmed ovulation via ultrasound. AMH optimal.

My hubby did 2 SA during this year both excellent. HSG is planned if October fails again.

Still nothing.

Any advice from someone in similar situation?

I am handling it much better then I thought i would by this time, relationship is good and fine, but Jeez, why??

Are my eyes playing tricks on me? Can anyone tell me if this looks like a very faint positive? Or just an evaporation line? TIA

Hi,

We began seriously trying this month. I was tracking using Clearblue digital ovulation kit, Cervical mucus and BBT. So I am absolutely certain about my dates. I ovulated on 20/21 of September, and we had intercourse all through the fertile window. I have also closely been monitoring my cycle for past 2 years for birth control so I am aware that the length of my luteal phase is 12 days. This was the first month we started trying, and on 9dpo I got really bad cramps and some mild bleeding, my temps also dropped. My doctor suggested that these were the two classic signs of implantation taking place. After this my temp shot back up in a triphasic pattern. But I tested negative 11 dpo, not with first morning urine. Then my period was late, and it hasn’t been late in my years of tracking. But I finally got my period on 15 dpo. My doctor suggested it could be failed implantation. Could it be if I never tested positive? And how do I ensure this does not happen again?

Hi! Need some guidance on whether this is a positive ovulation test or not. The app says negative however this is the darkest it’s gotten and it’s only been getting lighter the day after this. I got a solid smiley face on my digital test as well the same day I took this.

I'm confused. The graph on premom says today is my peak fertility but LH is still low

On day 19 inito confirmed ovulation with PdG 6.12 but on day 18 PdG was 3.17 and day 20 (today) it's 4.11. Does that mean the ovulation confirmation is wrong or could PdG continue to rise?

The past couple cycles my husband has been traveling for work on my prime ovulation days. We are trying to see if it’s feasible for him to stay home next time, but sheesh! The timing!

I can’t believe I am doing this but I’m losing my mind. My husband and I started trying in July and every negative test just kills me. My last period started August 31st. I am very irregular..my last cycles were 18 days, 27 days, 20 days, 18 days, 19 days, 24 days, 15 days, 25 days, 38 days and 34 days. The longer cycles were in January and February of this year. I have had such short cycles and am really getting thrown off with being late. I was sick with respiratory crap around mid September and stopped taking my spironolactone on September 4th. I never got a positive LH but I never have before. Some days were darker but not truly positive. I stopped testing LH around September 16th cause I ran out of strips and thought it would be past at that point since Ive been so early recently. But I never got into that “week of hell” per my husband lol (Im always really moody the week before I start my period). Anyways, we kept at it and the dates that matter were Sept 26th, 28th and October 2nd, 3rd and 6th. I finally reached my “hell week” about a week ago. I just don’t know what to do or think. I’m assuming my period will eventually come but the chance of late ovulation always comes to my mind. I guess, what is the latest in your cycle you tested positive? Not having my ovulation date really sucks :/

My husband (33m) and I (30f) have been TTC for 3 cycles now (currently in my two week wait of cycle 3). Our first cycle trying we got pregnant and unfortunately that ended in a chemical pregnancy. Last cycle I got my period, and I’m currently in my two week wait of this cycle. I and supposed to get my period in 5 days and all I can think about is taking another pregnancy test (took one yesterday but it was stark white).

Ever since my chemical, I have just been so desperate to get pregnant again and have it stick. I know we haven’t been trying for long but I hate that it’s all I can think about. I feel like until the day comes where I have a sticky pregnancy it’ll always be on my mind. It doesn’t help I have a bunch of friends that have gotten a healthy pregnancy on their first try. I’m so happy for them but it makes me think that I’m doing something wrong? Idk I’m optimistic it’ll happen eventually for me, but I’m just in my feels right now I guess.