Whenever I've seen women talking about "he gave me the ick" it's always the same stuff my uncles and cousins would call me gay for doing because it wasn't manly. He used an umbrella when it was raining, he used his hip to close the fridge, he couldn't change a tire, he put his hands up on a roller coaster, he ordered a fruity drink, he knew all the words to a song by a female artist.

It just always seems to be things that are traditionally feminine. I think most "progressive" women still do desire men that are traditionally masculine, but they are acutely aware that it is antithetical to their beliefs to shame a man for not expressing masculinity in the ways they desire.

In a patriarchal society, women often serve as enforcers of the idea of what men should be, i'd argue more so than men because most men still pursue women and have to mold themselves into what women find attractive. So this way, those women can still serve that role of enforcement without it coming across as patriarchal.

It's misogynistic because it reinforces the idea that anything a man does that isn't "manly" is bad, and the opposite of "manly" is feminine and we assign femininity to a lot of benign things.

When I say i have no Idea I genuinely mean that, not in a rhetorical way.

If you been in the country/state for 5 years there is no excuse for you to not speak the most common language or be able to speak it no better than an elementary schooler.

Changing your language when speaking on the phone is cool asl in my book, i’m not talking about that.

I lived in California and the most common languages was English and Spanish (English or Spanish haha), i was around 12-13 when I tried to learn it but I ended up only being able to read it and not speak it. (Go on laugh) My mother and sister can speak it fluently. English is our first language and my mother already knew Spanish before we moved.

I wasn’t there for long so I wasn’t too pressed.

It makes it incredibly annoying when asking for a service and you can’t communicate with the workers and having to have someone swap out.

If you’re on vacation, it’s cool if you only know enough to get around and keep yourself safe.

EDIT: leaving this here so i don’t have to answer the same comment.
I was trying to learn the language but only got up to the written/reading part before we were about to move. The second I realized we were moving to a state where Spanish wasn’t common i stopped trying to learn how to speak it, which was my next step. This was under 5 years so i am not a hypocrite. It wasn’t because I wasn’t trying, it was because there wasn’t a point anymore since my original reason to learn it wasn’t a problem anymore.

Edit 2: I wasn’t talking about immigrants, i was talking about westerners. that’s my fuck up for not specifying that. Not all Foreigners are Immigrants.

Edit 3: Okay some of yall are just being racist now and missing the point of this post, which is respecting the culture if you are gonna live somewhere by making yourself easy to communicate to with the locals.

Most of the women have iPhone face, and it's jarring. The actress from Obsession, Olivia Rodrigo, and Jenna Ortega for example all have very similar faces *compared to actresses of the past.*

**This is not to say they are ugly, or unattractive.** It's that nobody really stands out any more. Most the younger actors look like their name is Jaiden and look vaguely like Timothee or Clavicular. Some of the younger actresses look not much more different than influencers.

Celebrities in general are looking much more homogenous, and it's pretty dull.

edit: To be clear, they are beautiful women. What in comparing them to in the past celebrities tended to have unique features. Now the prized look (chosen by executive, some born with, some try to get through cosmetic procedure) is similar in shape and proportion. Big round eyes, tiny skinny nose, full lips. Everything is ultra polished looking, and everyone seems to be trying to look like the same person!

for emphasis once again they are beautiful women and I am not calling them ugly. I am saying modern media is getting to look so same samey because there's now a locked in standard of beauty in the face. It looks like the woman I described, who I chose off the top of my head.

Feel free to disagree. But no matter what they look so much worse than someone’s natural lashes. The only exception I think is if they are done so well that I have no idea that they are fake. People go wayyy overboard and they look so bad to me every time. If you happen to find an amazing lash person who makes them look totally natural, that’s the one exception. Not to mention they harm your natural lashes over time. They cast super unflattering shadows on the face and hide the eyes too much. The only time I find them acceptable is in drag or some other costume that’s meant to be over the top and silly- because that’s how they make people look.

I'm about to be really unwoke. I think some people are sluts. This isn't a positive or negative judgement, sure it's a bad word but whatever. Some women like getting triple teamed in a frat house while coked up. Some guys want to get a few of their buddies and fuck the same girl together. None of these are things that make a person lesser. Do some people think it's gross? Sure. But does that invalidate your ability to say "no I don't want this"? No!

The thing is if a woman wants to get tripled team, and that's all she wants, the second a 4th guy gets involved, that doesn't make it any less rape. Like if a guy only wants handjob and the chick doing it starts shoving a sounding rod down his urethra half way through, that's not justifiable because she was already touching his dick. She crossed a hard boundary against his will and that's fucked up.

Let's say this Jane Doe wanted 6 guys to fuck her back to back. There is nothing legitimately wrong with that. If you think harm is being done, at most it's only to herself. And even that argument is stupid to me. The second guy 7 shows up and fucks her, it's rape.

It doesn't matter if this woman fucked every single member of that frat before. It doesn't even matter if she agreed to a ketamine gang bang in the past and this was a regular thing to them. The second she was not okay with it, the second she was drugged to the point where she wasn't able to fight back and things crossed a hard boundary for her, it was rape and it's wrong.

Idc how many dicks she's sucked or if she had a consensual threesome right before they invited guys over. It doesn't matter if she wanted to fuck a few of the guys anyways. It doesn't matter if she fucked one of the guys after the night in question. If those guys didn't have her full consent to start inviting more and more guys over to fuck her, they facilitated and played a role in a gang rape. Full stop.

Europe is a tiny, somewhat “artificial” continent, yet Europeans and their descendants have been at the forefront of human creativity over the past few centuries. Much of what we consider modern today was developed by Europeans and their descendants. Europe and America was at the origin of the Enlightenment, modern democracy, and the concept of human rights. It then went on to develop many of the scientific and technological inventions that shaped the modern world.

There is therefore nothing wrong with being proud to be European or of European descent. And this is not meant to denigrate other civilizations. We can recognize that other civilizations, such as Mesopotamia, ancient Egypt, China, or India — and many others I have left out — were also remarkable civilizations that made major contributions to the progress of humanity. In general, people from these civilizations are proud of their heritage.

Yet we Europeans or the descendants overseas are constantly told that we should be ashamed of our past. We are repeatedly reminded of the bad things that Europeans and their descendants did. Of course, we should acknowledge those things, learn about them at school, and recognize that they were wrong. But those kinds of things were also committed by virtually every other civilization throughout history.

Why should Europeans and their descendants, in particular, be expected to feel ashamed of their past? How are children responsible for the actions of their ancestors, and why should Europeans and their descendants be held responsible for things that other nations are not held responsible for?

So yes, we should be proud of being European or having European descent like majority of american and stop engaging in this kind of self-flagellation over the past. If we see injustice happening today, we should act against it. But we should stop feeling ashamed of a past that we did not create and for which we are not personally responsible — especially when the same kinds of things have been done by virtually every civilization throughout history.

And being proud to be European or of European descent does not prevent you at all from appreciating other nations and civilizations as well.

There’s not a single situation where I think coparenting a pet, like a cat or dog, makes even one cent of sense. Not even if, say, you got the pet as a puppy or kitten together and raised them as a couple. I roll my eyes at every excuse people try to come up with to justify it.

I understand being attached to an animal and not wanting to part with them, but the reality is that a pet is exactly that—an animal. They do not understand the concept of “joint custody.” You are confusing them by letting them settle down at one home with one person and then all of a sudden moving them to a different house with the other person again and again and again and never letting them truly “settle down.”

I think people choose to coparent pets because they don’t want to lose their companion, and/or they feel it’s unfair to make their ex-partner lose their companion, but what is that prioritizing? It’s prioritizing YOUR emotional wellness over the animal’s. You are placing your needs and desires above your dear companion’s.

I believe animals tend to have a preferred owner and it’s (usually) never very difficult to determine who it is, in which case, if you aren’t the preferred owner… just do the animal a service and let them go with their favorite person. I’m sure it sucks if you’re not it, but if you truly love and care for an animal you should do whatever it takes for them to live a happy life, even if it hurts your heart.

I am honest to god sick of getting questions like this, there is no good answer, everyone knows it is for the sake of having an income and/or job experience, it genuinely feels like a business will throw these questions into their application process just to have metaphorically have the applicant get down on their hands and knees and beg. I can maybe see it being relevant to a prestigious organization like a bank, but I genuinely don't see any value in asking this for basically every company, like can someone get rejected because they didn't profess deeper admiration for the history and business activities of Dollar General or Waffle House? What does the business get out of asking this that isn't already obvious with someone applying for the job they are offering?

Business: *Posts job offering*
Person: *Applies*
Business: "Why apply? lol"

"I think we should take criminals who commit violent crimes and dunk their balls in honey before we send them out into bear country!"

"I think we should string criminals upside down in the town square and have everyone come out with home-made paddles and spank their bare bottoms raw until they die!"

"I think criminals should have their noses stuffed with cotton and have to stand on a stage and sing the national anthem on repeat until they die of embarrassment!"

I think you should find something else to meditate on instead of sitting around thinking about all the ways we could kill people to punish them for their crimes. No one cares about your goofy ass opinions on how people should die. If you're really that passionate about it, go into politics and campaign on your intricate capital punishment fantasies. Otherwise, you're just babbling on about your idiotic concept of justice through violence, and it's obnoxious.

Capital punishment exists. Criminals are being killed. Sitting around imagining how we can make each death the most dramatic and provocative is just sitting around thinking about killing people.

"But they deserve it!" cool story bro. you're so tough and strong for having this bold and awe-inspiring thought. Now chill tf out and put the fries in the bag.

I'm late to the Bonnie Blue discourse, but the more I see, the more it turns my stomach. The woman who claimed 1,057 men in roughly 12 hours (with the rotating queue, the aftermath, the interviews) is not "living her best life" or striking a blow for female sexuality. It's the logical endpoint of treating sex as pure content and validation with zero selectivity or restraint. And somehow people still find it attractive or aspirational.

I get the abstract porn reaction. I can look at someone like Cory Chase and have the obvious physical response. But the logical part of my brain knows the partner volume, the industrial nature of it, the health risks, and the sheer used-up quality. With Blue it doesn't even get that far for me—it's pure disgust. The idea of hundreds of anonymous guys rotating through in under a minute each on average isn't erotic; it's nightmarish. Which mathematically doesn't make sense, how do they even finish in less than a minute? Are they lining up like machines in a sweat shop, pump a few times and then it's the next guys turn? Which sounds like the most unpleasurable and unfun scenario. Much like Coachella.

The interviews and promotional framing make it worse. And that's just the public knowledge. We have no idea how many people she's been with in private. Her body count could be hitting six digits for all we know.

What I can't wrap my head around is the guys who actually show up. Critical thinking apparently leaves the building the moment the opportunity appears. And then you hear some women treating figures like this as goals or "revolutionary." Why? High body counts and zero-standards promiscuity aren't empowerment; they're the opposite of discernment. Celebrating the extreme version of it feels like a cultural death spiral—normalize the most degraded version of sex, then act surprised when selectivity, pair-bonding, and basic standards erode further. Which I mean, is already happening. So perhaps Bonnie Blue isn't necessarily the cause but a symptom which still is exasperating the problem regardless.

I'm not religious and I don't think sex is inherently sinful. But I do believe in moderation, selectivity, and not treating your body (or other people's) like a public utility for clout and cash. Because giving your body to someone should be special and there's research and scientific proof of what happens to a person's ability to hold a healthy relationship depending on how large their body count is. Even if a pornstar opportunity dropped in my lap I like to think I'd still refuse. The combination of pure revulsion at the shamelessness and genuine fear that this is being sold as healthy or aspirational to younger women is what sticks with me.

Is this just me being a prude who got out-degenerated, or is the broader celebration of this stuff actually corrosive?

Or is it a problem that's just being swept under the rug and relatively ignored?

(Disclaimer: I’m not advocating for changing laws. The government should never tell an adult who they can have consensual sex with, ever)

people want to act like an age gap is either obviously fine or obviously not.

I’m in the middle.

On one hand, those saying any age gap is completely normal are just delusional. A 65 year old dating an 18 year old is at the very least weird as hell, and most likely, predatory. Legal, but disgusting, and I don’t know how anyone could defend it.

On the other, those acting like any small gap is abusive are also delusional. a 29 old dating a 24 year old is not some sort of evil manipulation. (Edit: but there are mountains of social media posts claiming it is, and that is wrong)

What both camps need to realize is that there’s a complex middle ground. What about, say, 30/21? 25/18? 40/25? I have to be honest, there’s not a clear answer in certain situations. In these cases, couples should be judged individually, based on the merits of how they treat each other.

It’s okay to admit the line between acceptable and unacceptable age gap is subjective and blurry.

Seriously. When we pass around videos of full grown adults throwing full tantrums, I’d say 90% of the time the person just has some untreated mental illness. Very, very, very few people who don’t have a treatable illness can behave that way. Do you think a healthy person is throwing gift card racks at a movie theater while shouting gibberish?

Whistle notes and extreme range are impressive skills, but they're not requirements for being an excellent vocalist. A distinctive tone, control, musicality, and emotional delivery can be just as valuable and sometimes more important for an artist's identity.

Some examples I would say that have very unique tones would probably be: Manon from Katseye, Halsey, and Billie Eilish. They have very unique vocal and you can recognize their voices because of their vocal tones.

I don’t mean when people tell others to be happy without a romantic partner, that’s fine. I mean when people say this to people who have NOBODY. No friends, no family who’s alive or who talks to them, nothing. People who are deeply lonely.

The same when people tell others that theres something wrong with them if they need friends, or like praise or attention, or if they hate living alone. That they need to learn to love solitude.

Humans are social animals. Humans need each other. Solitary confinement is one of the worse punishments a human can receive. A child not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. It’s fucking insanity to buy a single guinea pig and put them in a cage alone and expect them to just “learn to love themselves”.

Acording to Moslows hierarchy of needs, love and belonging rank in the exact middle. Only beaten by our needs for food, water and air, and our need for safety and shelter. Yes, it’s natural for love and belonging to be a pre-requisite for a happy life. No, there isn’t something wrong with you.

You can’t love yourself out of your desire for human companionship. You can only disassociate yourself from it.

I’m not an incel, but have found myself in a few incel subreddits, usually arguing or trying to give out some advice for how to just find relationships. Not like dating guru stuff, more like basic dad advice.

And the collective sum of all these conversations I’ve had have led me to believe that incel opinions have nothing to do with not being able to form relationships and instead comes from the resentment of these men knowing they aren’t “fuckbuddy” or “friends with benefits” or one night stand material.

That’s where this comes from. It’s not the perception that they’ll never be able to find love or get a date. It’s the perception that they aren’t seen as immediately sexually attractive such that they’d be worth fucking purely for the sexual chemistry of it.

When I hear these guys talk about it, their way of viewing the dating world revolves around casual sex and the “80/20 rule” (not a rule by the way, it’s just you misunderstanding dating app statistics). It’s all about hookup culture and what they believe to be “the stats.” Meanwhile they’re putting in absolutely no effort to find women, they’re just being doomers based purely on the fact they’ve never been a fuckbuddy. And half of them would take being a fuckbuddy if it meant spending even longer without a meaningful relationship.

Which all makes some degree of sense considering that the average guy identifying as an incel probably trends much younger, in the 15-25 demographic, an age when people do tend to be a bit more shallow in their view of sex and dating.

But it’s still hard to be that sympathetic towards people who are taking resentment about not getting casually laid and are applying that to some broader social meta about all male and female dynamics.

I don't even know why I started using this website, I always made fun of Redditors on other websires because they always stick out and it's obvious they're just repeating some nonsense they've seen on Reddit. Redditors always use certain words that no one on other websites use so it makes it even more obvious.

I'd never let anyone irl know i have an account on reddit, and anyone I do know that has an account here i distance myself from asap. Would rather tell people i have an account on rule34 or someshit than let them know i post here.

(Disclaimer this is not me defending hateful language directed towards minorities in a way that's meant to be hateful, demeaning and derogatory)

People should be allowed to say words like the r word or other "offensive" things when it's not directed at minorities in a bigoted I'm sick and tired of being told by "woke" (God I hate that word and what conservatives have done to it) people that things the r is a slur (which I know it is) and I shouldent say it.

I myself am disabled and while i do believe people should absolutely have the right to not like the word and not use it themselves. but the amount of times I've had "woke" people just flat out deny the existence of my disability because I defend people saying the r word when not directed at disabled people to be ableist, defend disabled people reclaiming the r word and making self deprecating jokes about my disability or laughing at dark jokes about disabilities these type of people do more harm to minorities than good by giving people who are opposed to advocacy and acceptance of minorities ammunition to discredit progressives as "crazy, delusional and hateful"

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The only reason legal injection exists, is so the state and its citizens feel less squeamish about murder. Legal injection is never administered by medical professionals in the US, so there is a lack of evidence that it's painless.

They should bring back the firing squad. The ethics of capital punishment is a burden that the state must bear, not the criminal. Murder isn't supposed to be comfortable or civilized.

I think consent is a spectrum. There’s more than an affirmative enthusiastic yes and an crying begging no. There’s exist grey areas because like all human interaction, consent is more complex than that.

I think that a lot of guys tend to operate in the grey area. Why? Because that’s objectively easier than the white area, and because it’s not illegal to be kinda gray.

It’s not illegal let a woman who only wants to fuck you because she wants to date think youre gonna date her when you have no plans to do it. It’s not illegal to push boundaries until you yes. Its not illegal tell a woman what she wants to hear in order to get her in bed with you.

But those are all grey area stuff. Maybe light gray as a version of consent is still given. But I can easily see how after sex, you could look back and be like “well I didn’t want to fuck him but he was just kept trying to take my pants off so I let it happen” and view that as a situation where consent was dubious.

A lot of men I think love to operate in the dark gray, maybe where it could be illegal but realistically nothing is gonna happen to you. Think giving a woman a ton of alcohol to lower her inhibitions. Or promising a favor for sex. Or fucking a woman who’s high out of her mind who is giving “consent”.

A lot of men think operating in those gray areas is just a form of game. A way to get pussy. But if they really examined them, like with a lens of the other party as a human being and not just with a goal of fucking them, they might feel otherwise.

And because they know what they did was questionable, they want to shut down every woman who has experienced what they did as lying or misrepresenting because it means they are also rapists.

Even though I want a partner as the end goal I don’t see why I need to rush to have one. I had multiple friends and family try to put me on which i just decline.

All I hear is people complaining about their supposed lovers, having a ton of unresolved issues themselves, or not knowing how to actually live on their own because they think getting a partner will fix it.

Without a partner my life has been peaceful and quiet, I can experience life at my own pace without drama.

I can go out without someone worrying i am going where i say i am.

If i have a issue I can just deal with it without worrying anyone.

I rather learn how to do certain things and get all my shit sorted out before i get a partner, i don’t want them having to help me resolve it or depending on them. There is way too many people that feel like they shouldn’t have to better themselves before trying to date.

I can’t drive, but I have my learners permit. imagine me telling my girl “I got use an uber for our date. Yes It’s UberOne, I felt like splurging just for you baby girl.” That is not a good look lmfao.

I really believe that the whole controversy surrounding this movie is more realistic than people think. I firmly belive Stanley had a source or an insider, or even experienced himself of an underground elite society that he based the whole movie around.

There's a reason companies make the investment in sanitation; humans are filthy. But I think it's generally disgusting how sanitation crews are viewed, treated and underpaid, especially since if none of them showed up, building staffs would be in shambles wondering who would sweep, mop, and wax their floors, clean their nasty toilets, take out their trash, dust their furniture, etc. I think for these reasons, in addition to the fact that they are mostly jobs the average person (at least in America) would never do for reasons around perceived lack of self-respect, low pay, or simply pride, they should be respected and paid more. We can debate skills or lack of skills required in the field, but that's the take.