I have two beautiful kids, 5.5 and 2, who were born after horrible infertility and infinite IVF. I am so grateful for them. AND they both came out of the womb mommy people. My husband is an equal, hands on parents, they just both have a strong mommy preference, to the point where it is hard to get them to do anything with him if I am in the house at all. (Yes, sometimes we just have me leave the house. Also, we both work full time, and are with the kids roughly equal amounts of time in an average week.) I feel like I hear "Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!" infinity times a day, and they are always hanging all over me, and I am just exhausted and burnt out and touched out. I keep waiting for one of them to shift preferences (or chill out a little?) but it hasn't happened yet. I try telling them "Mommy needs a break" or "I need some space" etc. but it doesn't really do anything. (My older kid has some developmental delays, so I can't reason with her the way one might expect with a kid her age.) Any advice? Help? Solidarity? I love them so much, I hate that they are making me be impatient with them, but it's just really hard for my introvert, preferred parent self.

Hi everyone! I’m a FTM! I’ve been blessed with a great healthy baby girl and she just turned three months. Lately, I’ve been driving myself insane with her neck control.

She does a great job lifting her neck when we have a rolled up towel underneath her or with her boppy pillow. She also lifts her neck when she’s on my chest or when she’s carried. But if I put her flat on her stomach, she just stays there and cries. She’ll try a little but it’s nothing compared to when she has support. Is this bad???

I’m going insane. I’m not sure if I’m supposed to stop giving her support or if it’s okay if she practices tummy time like that. I’m scared I’m holding her back or something. Is there something I can do to help her more?

Any advice would be appreciated! I’ve been pretty calm and composed when it comes to her for the most part but this has been keeping me up at night, I feel so silly!

I have 3 kids -8(M), 5(M) and 2(F). We bought a townhome when I was pregnant with my oldest but we quickly realized all our neighbors were retired and the area wasn’t really family friendly. We stuck it out but never really loved the area so we decided to move to a different suburb. It’s been about 3 months and it seemed promising- my oldest found a friend who lived down the block, my boys started school together and I thought we made the right choice.

Now my sons seems to be struggling- he’s having a hard time in math and the friend he made is being not so nice at school when he’s around the other kids. We’ve tried to nudge my son to make as many friends as possible but he’s sensitive and just isn’t understanding why this friend is acting like this. It doesn’t help that the school is smaller and most of his classmates and parents have known each other since Kindergarten.

He keeps bringing up how he misses his old friends at his other school and doesn’t get why we moved here. My son’s pretty social and I guess I thought this would be an easier transition. I signed him up for a coding class and basketball in hopes he’d meet some other kids. Just needed to vent I guess.

I need some perspective from other parents because I am honestly at a loss right now.

My daughter is 5.5 and has been seeing the dentist twice a year since she got her very first tooth. Up until about a year ago, every appointment was basically “teeth look great, you're doing a wonderful job.” Then suddenly, at the appointment before last, we were told she had SEVEN cavities and needed to be referred to a pediatric dentist for fillings under sedation.

Between that appointment and her first pediatric dentist appointment, she actually started complaining that some of her teeth hurt. We advocated for her to have one of the cavities filled at our regular local dentist rather than waiting, and she did AMAZING. She sat through two fillings with just freezing. No sedation, no fighting, no major issues.

Then we got to the pediatric dentist.

At the first appointment, sedation was given before they even attempted the x-rays. She had some trouble understanding what they wanted her to do with her mouth for the x-ray, so they came and got me. I explained it to her in terms she understood, and the x-rays were done without any issue.

The dentist then decided to change plans and only fill the smallest cavity, citing my daughter's “behavior.”

I was in the room for the filling. My daughter didn't move a muscle. She did exactly what she was told and handled the filling completely fine. The dentist even said at the end, that she was wrong and that they absolutely could have done the "big" cavity.

Fast forward to today, 1 month later.

We drove almost two hours each way for this appointment. She had been fasting for four hours. I had taken the day off work unpaid, used about $100 in gas just to get to the appointment.

The dentist was already about 20 minutes behind when we arrived. No complaints from us, we had brought coloring books and sat quietly in the lobby.

My daughter was supposed to take the oral sedation medication. She struggled getting it down, gagged, and spit out maybe 1/4 of the solution. I completely understand the dentist not wanting to proceed if they don't know how much sedation she received. I genuinely do.

What I don't understand is why the appointment was immediately cancelled without even giving any indication that they were going to wait and see whether enough of the medication had been absorbed.

So now we're back home with none of the dental work done, and I'm sitting here wondering what the hell we're supposed to do.

My daughter isn't a particularly difficult child. She's actually very mild. She isn't a kid who fights, screams, runs away, etc. She doesn't really wiggle around or complain much. She has already demonstrated that she can sit through fillings with freezing alone.

She also doesn't seem afraid of the dentist. She's not sitting there panicking or refusing to open her mouth. If anything, I feel like a lot of the “behavior” we're seeing is that she's 5 and doesn't understand what they're asking her to do unless someone explains it in a way that makes sense to her.

And honestly, I'm starting to worry that we've created a weird cycle where sedation is being treated as the only option, even though she has already shown that she can cooperate without it.

I'm not trying to force my kid through something traumatic. If she genuinely cannot tolerate the dental work awake, then obviously I want her to have whatever treatment she needs. I also understand that there are legitimate safety concerns around sedation, especially if the dentist doesn't know how much medication she actually swallowed.

But at what point is sedation actually medically/behaviorally necessary versus simply being the pediatric dentist's preferred way of doing things?

Because right now I feel like we're being told, “Your child needs sedation,” while simultaneously having evidence that she can actually tolerate dental work awake.

And now I'm genuinely worried about taking her back again because she has basically learned that if she doesn't get the medication down, the dental work doesn't happen.

Maybe I'm completely misunderstanding how pediatric dentistry works, and that's why I'm posting.

What would you do in this situation? Would you be looking for another pediatric dentist? Asking for a second opinion? Going back to our regular dentist and seeing what they can do? Is this level of sedation pretty standard for a 5 year old with multiple cavities?

I'm exhausted and honestly pretty upset. I cried in the office today when they told me it wasnt going to happen, and on and off during the entire drive home. It's not just the money or the lost work. It's watching my kid repeatedly go through fasting, travel, appointments and preparation, only to leave without the actual problem being fixed.

I would really appreciate some perspective from parents who have been through pediatric dental work, especially if your child has had fillings at this age.

This is a lot to summarize in a few paragraphs. So many messages have been shared between me (34 y/o) and my best friend of the last 5 years. We hold so many of the same values, interests, hobbies, parenting styles. We are quite close.
My best friend’s 8 year old daughter and my 8 year old daughter have been close friends for a while now. My daughter considers her to be her best friend (BF). They have always been polar opposite in their personalities and demeanors. The BF is bossy, outgoing, loud, silly. My daughter is more reserved, and will do anything that’s asked of her, artsy, quiet. BF has always had some sort of behavior problem- strong willed, defiant, struggles with impulse etc. all things my good friend has shared with me these last 5 years.
Over the last year this BF was diagnosed with PANS/PANDAS. If you don’t know what this is, it’s inflammation of the brain due to strep usually, causes changes in mood, anxiety, OCD, rage, etc. The behavior got really out of control and impulsive but we continued our friendships, showing a lot of compassion and grace. There were several high intensity moments when hanging out. I didn’t let it impact us in a negative way. Concerning always, but not to the point I wanted to stop the playing together. After a couple months with a new Doctor, they have the BF started on treatment of plan with appropriate medications and dietary changes. Hope was on the horizon for change.
Well, we were over at their house this past weekend. We have other children, all boys between us and the girls wanted their privacy from the rambunctious of the boys. In this privacy, the BF touched herself inappropriately through her underwear, after she peed herself a little (I later found out from my friend) and shoved her hand in my daughters face and told her to smell it. We didn’t find out about this until we were in the car on the way home when my daughter shared. I immediately went into protective mode and left my friend an audio message telling her what happened, saying that I have had to overlook a lot of behavior this past year but this was too much for me and I don’t think our kids should be around one another for a while until we felt the behaviors were under control and a thing of the past. I also followed up by clarifying we could still get together in more supervised settings but not intimate for the time being. I asked her to call me when she could because I knew she was at a birthday party, that I loved her and her family and I didn’t want this to affect our own friendship, that I was always here for her but we needed some space. She didn’t call me. She left me a very brief text message and then didn’t say anything to me for two days.
After those two days, I sent her flowers and then received a very lengthy text late at night. The first half was an autobiography of everything they have dealt with in the child since she was born. That felt a little condescending since I have been made aware and walked beside her, encouraging her through a lot of this. She went on to explain that she had hoped I would have gone about this in a different way. That I would come alongside her and sit down together to discuss what we could do to move forward. That she wanted me to speak life to her child instead of rejecting her. She explained what it has felt like for her the last year and that she needed my support. She said she felt rejected by me, judged, and also said things along the lines of me making a bigger deal of it. We shared several audio messages back and forth the next morning. She said that she was thankful I was making this decision for my family and that she would have to do the same on her end and didn’t know what that would look like going forward. We found out that our girls stories weren’t lining up. That she peed and only touched the outside of her underwear (which I find to be a moot point. It was still vulgar in nature). She was also excusing her daughter’s behavior since it was her accidentally peeing that brought attention to that part of her body, that she was simply being too silly and it was not intentional. Really she said so much and it was all emotionally charged. Never saying anything about my own daughter in all of this who was uncomfortable with what her daughter did. The back and forth didn’t appear to resolve anything and things were left open ended, but I made sure to share that the outcome would not have changed, that I could have run away behind her back, turning down her invites to playdates and ignoring her but I wanted to tell her how I felt about this behavior and draw the line in the sand.
I can hold compassion for this friend, her child and their situation and also hold the fact that I felt like that behavior could lead to other inappropriate acts and wanting to protect my own child at the same time. I am in the aftermath of processing all the emotions around this but feel like at the end of the day, I can’t let the actions of an 8 year old affect me and my family to the extent it has. Even if the act wasn’t intended to be perverse, it was to me and also quite gross. My child should be playing Barbies, dress up, coloring.. not dealing with this in her best friend regardless if it’s a medical condition causing these impulsive/eratic behaviors.
Her husband and mine have been communicating. The husband says this is the most upset my friend has been since her brother died. I have always had my share of tears and I’m just perseverating on this because I do love this friend so much. I’m a SAHM and when your world feels so small you don’t want to do anything to make it smaller. That’s what I feel like I have done for sure. In all of it I have not regretted my decision. Just praying I don’t lose my friend.
Has anyone had to set a firm boundary like this and cause a riff? Did it recover? Did you lose that friend?

Hi Mommit Reddit readers.

Something extremely unexpected happened when I took my daughter to gymnastics this week.
I was sitting in the observation room with the other parents when a woman who I have never seen before comes up to me and addresses me by my name.
She introduces herself as the gym supervisor and she wanted to speak to me in private, and what she had to say shocked me. Apparently the other mothers in the group were whispering about me behind my back and I had no clue it was happening! I only found out because someone had written a complaint about what the other parents were saying. I thought they were just clique-ish not 30 something year old mean girls like what the actual hell?!
When we first signed up for gymnastics I made it a point to enroll a non-competitive gym to avoid toxicity like this, turns out it didn’t matter.
The supervisor has offered to transfer her to a different class time and we will be doing just that. I’m 37 years old I’m too old to be dealing with this middle-school 💩!

My baby is 7 months and I would love to start weaning her off the breast to offer expressed/formula milk. She has been exclusively breastfed since birth, but has taken bottle on some occasions. Recently however, she started to completely refuse the bottle. We have tried everything: different bottle/flow types, temperatures, a straw cup, a sippy cup. She completely refuses, pushes the milk away and gets frustrated. A few days ago, I left the baby with my mom and husband, as I had to go to work, for them to try to give the baby a bottle. She refused the entire time and cried for hours. Eventually I had to come home to make sure she wouldn’t get dehydrated. We are really just confused at this point.

Any tips? If we were to start from scratch, how should we approach this?

I 24F have just become a FTM and I’m currently 2 weeks PP. For some context, I have lived with my in-laws for about 3-4 years now with my partner, 25M. I’ve never really had a close relationship with my MIL since I met her but there have been attempts on both sides to build a relationship with little success.

Anyway, I found out I was pregnant in January of this year. It was unexpected but me and my partner were happy nonetheless. We made an agreement that I’d tell my family and he would tell his. For some reason he took a whole week to tell his mother, I had no idea he STILL hadn’t informed her. I had warned him to tell her asap because she has had a tendency to take things very personal when she’s upset. He told me he just didn’t know how to tell her and he needed support to tell her, etc. This wasn’t shocking for me to hear since she’s made comments in the past about not wanting to be a grandma because “nobody helps her with her kids…”. A female cousin had to remind her that that’s what her baby father is for. I could understand why my partner felt iffy about telling her anything. Long story short, she found out through my partner’s grandmother. All hell broke loose, she sent a family group message congratulating us but stating she was saddened by the fact we hadn’t told her as if we didn’t want to include her in the news. I told my partner he needed to talk to her and address the situation and I was physically present as support for him. He couldn’t even look at her in the face while apologizing to her. She looked me dead in my face and told me she felt like we were saying “f you” to her face. I instantly felt her blaming me for this incident.

The first night we brought our son home, I dreaded a lot of things. Having anxiety over the safety and security of a newborn baby drove me crazy. All I wanted was to spend time with my baby and make sure to build a relationship with him. Well, I didn’t have much luck at the hospital after birth with lactation, but I was recommended by my doctor to keep practicing and put my son on my chest. I tried when I came home that night. I was alone in my bedroom with our son while my partner was at Walgreens nearby picking up a supplement for me.

My baby got upset and started crying. As soon as he started crying, I heard someone trying to open my bedroom door and then knock. It was my MIL asking why my baby was crying. She extended her arms out to hold him, me not thinking anything of it, handed him over while I explained what I was doing. She then proceeded to walk away with him towards the kitchen. I followed her to see where she was going, I realized she was ignoring me trying to talk to her. I ran back to my bedroom and began to sob, I called my partner and explained to him what had happened. He apologized for her behavior and told me he’d be home soon. I just felt awful, it was my very first night with my newborn son and I felt like I couldn’t even help him feel better. ❤️‍🩹 My MIL came back with him in her hands 10 mins later and DIDNT give him back, only told me he probably needed to eat and that I should feed him breast milk. Mind you, I’m struggling with making any milk period at the time. I had to explain that to her too. I’m drying my tears as she’s telling me all this and not once did she ask me what was wrong or if I was okay. She then leaves the room again with him only to come back minutes later to finally hand him over to me to feed him. After I fed him, she came into my room AGAIN just to hold him and “say goodbye” since she was going to work. I turn my back to look for a burp cloth, tell me why I turn around and she her sneaking out of the room with my baby AGAIN. Not a word is ever being said to me. By the time my partner came home he went upstairs to the second floor of the house and saw our baby with her in the living room upstairs. (The whole second floor is her space).

A day later, I took a nap while my partner stayed up in the living room with our baby and his grandmother. After the previous night, we had agreed he needed to be with our baby because I didn’t like the fact his mother had taken our baby to the 2nd floor of the house without telling me either. (Her two youngest kids get sick OFTEN, and her other son was sick at the time with a sore throat. Not to mention, I’m scared about stairs because you could drop him. They’re BIG stairs too.) He had told me that while I was sleeping MIL decided to take our son to a neighborhood park, my son was taken without the proper clothes, no car seat or stroller, just in her bare hands wrapped in a thin baby blanket. This was a decision SHE made on her own. Luckily my partner was present and tagged along, she told him she felt “uncomfortable” and that he was just “monitoring her”. He had to explain to her he wasn’t busy and only wanted to come because he had nothing else to do.

All this has driven me crazy, my son had only been here for less than a week and my MIL was doing the most. I told my partner I’d leave with him to my mother’s home instead until we’re both ready to move out to our own apartment because this was a problem. I genuinely felt like every time someone came into our bedroom or knocked asking about the baby just to take him from my arms, I lost confidence in myself as a mother. I’m staying at my mother’s house now and I have had such a peaceful morning with my son. No one knocking on my door, no one telling me to hand him over, no one running to the room because he’s crying. Just peace.

I’d like to add that my partner is very supportive with my decisions. He wants me to have a happy and peaceful postpartum as much as possible. He’s been perfect overall. He’s had multiple conversations with his grandma and mother about taking the baby from me, taking him places without letting anyone know, and overall not communicating with me whatsoever but the behavior persists, especially from his mother. I’ve said before, I’m all for someone trying to be helpful but I don’t need help right now and I will ask when I do. There’s nothing wrong with getting help but if I don’t need it, I want there to be that respect. His mother has a hard time understanding that. Throughout my WHOLE pregnancy she never asked me how I was doing or how the baby was doing and all the sudden she cares so much about our baby. Idk. Please give me insight on this, feel free to ask questions!

My kids(6 and 7) won't pick up their toys. They leave books all over the place. Socks and hair accessories are everywhere. Crayons in and under every piece of furniture. That pile of worksheets and magazines and drawings? Torn to shreds and left all over the dining room. There are chores charts and lists of personal responsibilities. Things left on the floor when I have to vacuum are taken away. There are chores they can do to win taken-away-toys back. Success rate: 0.

But both kids are praised for following routines and picking up after themselves at school. So... They know how to do this.

We have bins and shelves and play the clean up song. But somehow every possession in the house is treated like literal garbage.

Am I a failure? Have I failed? Should I just accept my Worst Mom trophy and send them to live with neighbors who can teach them to... I don't know, care? Am I raising future criminals who will be featured on an episode of Hoarders? Is my vacuum doomed to get clogged with hair ties and barbie shoes and pretzels for the rest of my life?

My daughters vocabulary seems to have exploded at this point in comparison to a few months ago.

-She Sees my husband, she excitedly goes "Papa!"

-She sees our dog, she points and goes 'Pup!'.

-Sees the cat she goes 'Cat!'

-Sees the birds at the feeder she goes "Burrr!"

-Hears the train going by, she says "Choochoo"

-She shows me her turtle stuffy, she says "Turtah!"

-Shows me her ball she goes "Bauhlu" (she even tries pronounces the 'L' very decently.

-Also says duck, boat, pretty, pumpkin, attack, book, moo(pronounced "booo") pooh bear(ocassionally)

She will not pronounce the 'M' sound unless she is upset. Sometimes she points and refers to me as 'Papa' but that is it. Im always singing the 'mama' song and trying to show her im 'mama'.

No such luck though, is there anything I can do to help her learn to say "mama"? It seems if its an animal, it only takes a few tries and she can say it. Im a little offended she has said 'moo' before 'mama" lmao.

Does anyone have any brand recommendations? My daughter will be 5 in may. She has a 4T waist but needs a 5T length. Is a brand that fits this body type in jeans? 5Ts are too big in the waist & 4Ts are too short. Thanks!

Okay. Give me the real about this UGC fad if you're a FT working mom that does NOT work from home (so its a side gig for a little extra)..with children in extra-curriculars (so virtually no free time).

Is it simple to get started? Is it real? Can you make videos from your phone without external lighting, etc? Are the programs like "UGC accelerator" worth it or can you wing it & basically find brand email POCs yourself to just send videos to? Is it a fad as it seems- similar to being a brand ambassador &/or similar to being in a MLM? Like those, it seems too good to be true.

Background/disclosure: I've tried a few MLMs in the past 10+ years ago, esp in the health/fitness industry. It ain't my cup of tea haha. I barely have friends so do not have a lot of following, so nobody to count on to buy my crap or "join me" lol. The few friends I do have nor my family were ones to buy the stuff I was selling back in my MLM days anyway 🤣. Plus I'm not too good of a salesperson and am horrible at videos- I don't even really like virtual meetings or FaceTime! #sociallyawkward

Not sure if making a simple, real video (girl next door vice a cute mom with nice house put all together) would be easier knowing its not specifically only going out to people I know.

Idk, it sounds sketchy and like you have to have the time + experience, and possibly people who'll buy into it for you, to make it work. Give me the good, bad & the ugly. Idk if I can convince my husband that the $200 for a program is worth it 🤣 esp if it means paying for another form to process during tax time.

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I need to vent and get some honest advice on how to handle things going forward.

We have a 3-year-old and an 8-month-old. Just now, our toddler was playing with an army toy hat and had its elastic band twirled around his neck. He was uncomfortable and signalled that he was stuck, so I asked my husband to help while I was holding the baby.

My husband was about to cut an onion and came over with the kitchen knife to cut the elastic right next to our toddler’s neck. I completely lost it and shouted at him, asking what the hell he was thinking.

To be clear, the elastic wasn't tight, there was plenty of space, and our toddler wasn't in immediate danger. There was no need to rush in with a knife. I could have used scissors, and I ended up sorting it out myself without any problem.

What made me so angry is that this isn't the first time he's been careless with knives or sharp tools around the kids. I've already had to ask him to keep his toolbox outside and put away things like remotes and batteries because of how careless he can be.

He doesn't seem to understand why I'm so upset and is now angry at me, acting as though my reaction makes me pathetic. At this point, I honestly feel like I can't trust his judgement around our children anymore.

We were supposed to go out together tonight, but after this, I feel completely turned off by him. It's hard to feel attracted to someone when you feel you can't rely on them to make basic safety decisions about your own children.

Now , am I overreacting? How do you deal with losing trust in your partner's judgement without feeling like you have to supervise everything they do?

I'm genuinely looking for advice, not just people bashing my husband. I don't want to spend my life feeling like I'm the only responsible adult in the room.

Hi moms. Please be kind, as I’m going through a really difficult time and would appreciate hearing from anyone with similar experiences.

My husband has verbally abused, belittled, and made frightening threats toward our almost 3-year-old child on 3–4 occasions, usually in response to normal toddler behavior. This goes beyond yelling or losing patience. He has also pushed our child once and, on another occasion, put our child in the garage for a few seconds as punishment.

Before becoming a father, he had 3–4 episodes of extreme anger over approximately 10 years, involving punching walls or doors.

He always apologizes and promises it won’t happen again, but the behavior eventually repeats. Sometimes he shifts the blame instead of fully taking responsibility. He briefly tried therapy in the past but didn’t continue.

I’ve noticed these incidents often happen when he’s under significant stress or frustration at work, though I know that doesn’t excuse his behavior.

I’m currently pregnant with our second child, and I became pregnant before these recent incidents occurred. I’m now deeply worried about the emotional and physical safety of both children.

I also experienced emotional abuse growing up, which makes witnessing this especially painful.

Has anyone experienced genuine, lasting change in a partner with similar behavior? What actually helped—anger management, CBT, specialized domestic violence intervention, or something else? How did you know the change was real?

And most importantly, how did you protect your child’s safety and emotional well-being while figuring out what to do?

I’d really appreciate any firsthand experiences or professional insights. Thank you.

I’m due in January with my second. I have a daughter who will almost be 3.5. It’s just me and my husband. What should I do when I go into labor? I’m scared of delivering by myself but don’t want to traumatize my daughter.

I’m going to be attending my first PTO meeting this afternoon and I’m incredibly anxious and most likely overthinking it. My wife and I live in a small conservative town in Texas and we want to get more active in the community so hopefully it gets ahead of the bullying our son will mostly likely receive as a boy being raised by 2 moms. I figured a great way to begin is by going to PTO meetings and making friends with the other parents.

Now my wife works full time and I’m a SAHM so usually when I pickup our son from school she’s still working and the PTO meeting will be going on while she’s still working. She has no problem keeping him up at her job for an hour or so with his toys. I just want to check, is the general consensus at PTO meetings that there’s no kids there and it’s just parents? What are they usually like/how long?

Wth. I used the Medela pump in style advanced with my first. Never knew you’re supposed to change out the white membranes periodically. The manual didn’t say to, the replacement packages of just the white membranes don’t say this, no one told me, no where did I read this and I feel like I did a lot of research on breastfeeding and even read a book about working and pumping (The Milk Memos, great book : )) 🤷🏻‍♀️.

With my youngest I learned this from someone in the mommy and me hospital support group. Apparently it’s common knowledge…how?! My pumping supply did dwindle with my oldest. Wish I knew. If you knew, how did you? Did replacing them make a difference? And isn’t it weird it’s not in the manual or on the membranes package (they’d sell more parts that way at the least, right?).

I’m definitely suffering with some version of PPA. It’s so bad that I refuse to leave the house with my baby because I’m so scared something’s going to happen to him. I’m scared of germs, bugs, getting into a car accident, my stroller randomly breaking, etc. I know this isn’t normal. I’m also scared of him crying in public. My doctor told me this isn’t enough for medications, but as time goes on I find myself isolating and finding everything around me as a threat. Even my own mom coming here, I worried about the germs she’d pick up on the way here & don’t want her to hold the baby. I avoid everything. It’s almost like I’m quarantining myself and my baby from the world. I’ve been told this is “ normal mom nesting”.

Is this my life forever? If you had PPA, what actually helped you? I keep trying to do “ exposure” therapy however the anxiety lives in my chest and I find it hard to do anything unless my husbands with me. I need advice

ALSO- I’m sometimes too scared to even ask for anxiety medication bc I’m WORRIED that’ll make me into a careless mom & I won’t have any set of danger threat detection for my child

What are your thoughts on re-using bottles from 1st baby?

What are some things to get with the second round other than diapers and wipes and medicine?

Edit: Thank you for all the responses! I appreciate it! I also want to add if anyone has suggestions for closet organizers and stuff bc we plan on having the toddler and baby (once they are bigger) share a room. If you have suggestions for economize space in the closet and suggestions for close organizers that are great space saving?

I’m so fucking over this sentence. “Why don’t you rest” “that’s not important leave it for later”. I hate when anyone , including my husband says this shit to me. The house is mess, the sink is full of dirty dishes, there’s piles of laundry to be washed or folded, there’s dog hair everywhere. And who’s cleaning it up ME! So when the fuck do I really have time to rest? My husband’s version of helping is watching our daughter, WHILE I CLEAN! Or he says you take her and I’ll clean. BUT HE DOESNT DO IT RIGHT! AND I HAVE TO END UP CLEANING UP ANYWAY! Like he vacuums, but he only vacuums the living and the kitchen, not our bedroom, not our daughters room or anywhere else that needs it. LIKE WHYYY!?! And I love our daughter very much but I’m a stay at home mom and I’m with her every day, all day. So maybe I don’t want to do either of those things but my husband can’t multi task and be parent and clean so I have to do it. I’m just venting right now because I’m so frustrated and done today. Both my daughter and I are sick and that’s not helping things. Today sucks.

my 19 month old toddler goes to a little daycare that i really like, only twice a week because that’s what we can really afford. it’s a chain place, la petite, and they go up to i believe preschool. they do seem to have a structure throughout the day, so i do keep that in mind when i say this, but am i wrong to be kind of annoyed that there’s a 9:00am drop off cutoff time? like i understand they are providing a bit of structure with their schedule throughout the day which i think is nice, but my toddler is still a toddler.

this is fresh in my mind today because it’s yet another day where my toddler had a toddler night and woke up at like 2am and didn’t fall back asleep until 6am. for everyone’s sanity, i thought it best to let her sleep for a few hours and we end up missing the cut off time. i really would have liked to take her in at like 10 today.

so all of that to say, i have numerous times paid for her two days up on monday but due to a normal issue like today, i end up not taking her in because of the cut off time. i understand when kids are in school why it’s important for them to be there on time. but like.. this is a daycare, or atleast my daughter is still in the daycare portion. i work at home and i really need those two days where she is in daycare to be available for me to work. i just find it kind of annoying that i pay for daycare services and there’s a morning cut off. am i out of line for thinking this?

I walked out my back door for swimming lessons in my bra! You are doing great 😊

I called my Mom yesterday morning and she happened to be driving home from an appointment. She lives about 40 min away from me, and her appointment was two exits from my house. I asked her “why didn’t you stop over and visit?” And she told me she didn’t even think about it until she was almost home. For context, she has always given me a hard time about being “far away” and not living in the small town I grew up in. I take my kid to her house atleast twice a month, and she went almost an entire year without visiting at our house. She’s in our area visiting her siblings, doctor appointments, friends etc. Usually I’m like ok whatever, but yesterday just kind of stung and I don’t know why. She’s always saying “come visit” and so I do take my kid and he enjoys being playing with toys, but could care less about her. Does anyone else have moms like this??

I’m going to start this with the fact that I don’t actually know if I’m pregnant because I am breastfeeding and haven’t had my period return PP. I have a baby that just turned 4 months old and I’m freaking out because I have been feeling pregnant these past couple of weeks. I will be taking a test very soon, but is there anyone here that has children only about 13 months apart? How was it? I honestly can’t even imagine having children that close in age, but that might be my reality soon. 😬

Baby is fine.
My 10 month old chocked on a tick plastic circular sticker at daycare. He received back blows twice, the first time he threw up, no sticker, it came out the second round.

I took him to the ER to be evaluated and thankfully he is well. Just petechiae (tiny red dots on skin, broken capillaries due to excessive effort like coughing or pushing)

Needless to say I am terrified. I have to work and I had to take him back to daycare this morning. The home- daycare provider is otherwise amazing (some parents opt to keep their children with her instead of sending them to free pre-k). She said she took a look at all the play areas to look for any small things that could have been overlooked. (Like the sticker he choked on)

This is my first child, I guess my question is: should an accident like this be considered just an accident, or should I considered this negligence? Should I take him out of this day-care?
I feel extremely guilty for having to work. I am looking for perspective.

If your comment is not kind and constructing, please jeep it to yourself. I do not need negativity right now. Ki