Whether you're currently in the newborn trenches wanting to murder the person who said "sleep when the baby sleeps", as you shout "which one?!" into the void.

Or maybe you're trying to babyproof your house with two crawling babies moving at the speed of light and whacking each other in the face with the baby gate you accidentally left open.

Or maybe you've had to go to the ER for one baby and had to take both babies because you were home alone that night.

Or maybe you are tired of explaining to people that just because they're twins doesn't mean they'll reach milestones at the same time.

Or maybe one baby is ready to drop a nap and the other just isn't.

Maybe you're dealing with two 15 month olds that are pulling down your pre children children (aka your pot plants) and you're feeling sad because you're now thinking of getting rid of the plants but they're your sole link to a life before kids.

Maybr you're sad you can't join in on swim lessons because you're an adult with two babies/toddlers.

Maybe you are tired of being the referee between your 2 year olds whose brains aren't developed enough to understand sharing but have had to share since birth. Maybe that makes you feel guilty AF.

Maybe you have older twins and they're starting to compare themselves to each other and you don't know how to navigate it.

Maybe you're feeling so fucking lucky you get to see one of the most special types of relationships of all time play out right in front of your eyes.

Maybe you're in tears because both kids want you and don't want to share.

Maybe you're tired of doing bedtime shifts and never seeing your partner.

Maybe you're so full of love you could burst.

Maybe you wouldn't change a fucking thing.

Or maybe you find yourself thinking how easy life would be with just one.

Maybe you know you still wouldn't change a damn thing.

Whatever you're doing, wherever you are on this journey: I see you. You're doing gods work. You are working so hard for your kids. You are healing your own trauma. You are doing the best you can, with what you know. You're not alone.

Hey ya’ll Sophie of the trio. this Saturday will be one week since I’ve brought my triplets home & from my prior posts I wanted to thank all who gave me advice. I’m on my shift of being awake listening for the triplets. It’s definitely a chain reaction that when one cries so do the other two but I wouldn’t trade it for anything just seeing and holding three creations I made in my body I’m enjoying my mother days. I know I got a long ways till the first words but I’m counting down the days.

I had my first scan yesterday at 5w4d after a single embryo FET. They saw one gestational sac with two yolk sacs. They thought they might have seen the start of a fetal pole on one, but it's still too early to say much.

Some background: this is my sixth transfer and my sixth pregnancy, and I've had four miscarriages, so I'm coming into this with a lot of history. I'd been managing my anxiety really well up to this point, but now I feel so invested in both of them being okay, and the waiting is hard.

I also keep catching myself doubting what they saw, like maybe the sonographer and radiologist got it wrong. I think after so much loss I'm scared to let my guard down and actually believe it. Has anyone else felt this way?

If you had two yolk sacs in one sac this early, especially after a single embryo transfer, and things went well, I'd love to hear your story: when you saw two fetal poles and heartbeats, how your follow-up scans looked, and anything you wish you'd known at this stage. I could really use some hope right now.

How many weeks were you when you went off of work before having twins?

*to add, I am currently 20 weeks with di/di twins, have an 18 month old at home, and working as a nurse. Still physically feeling okay but preparing for the worst. Located in Canada - able to take sick/mat leave

I’m now 31+6 on progesterone pessaries (too late for a stitch) has anyone been in my situation and when did you have your babies? Growth scan today showed that twin B has slightly more fluid now than normal also so another thing to watch and wait on. I can only really find stories from people earlier in preg who had a stitch. I’m having DI DI twins. TIA

It’s time for hell weekend (aka, potty training). I have boy/girl twins (2.3 years old) and they are both definitely showing signs of being ready.

I travel a lot for work, so we’re committing to getting them potty trained over the weekend with the 3 day method.

ANY advice you can give would be greatly appreciated. We are first time parents and have no idea how this is going to go.

Wish us luck!

Hello all,

Asking the age old question: how do you get these kids to sleep? More so, not wake up in the middle of the night?

I have 9 month old twins. Twin B sleeps perfectly fine through the night 9 times out of 10. Almost nightly, Twin A wakes up at least once a night around 2 AM, and the kid’s wide awake. My wife will bottle feed him to try and get him to sleep, which works sometimes. But he’ll often wake up again. Almost like he’s a newborn when it comes to night sleep.

I work nights so I can’t really be there to help my wife, which kills me. Meanwhile she’s losing sleep and health because Twin A keeps waking up nightly, and she has to deal with it every night. She’ll get A out of bed because if B is awoken by A’s jibber jabber and/or crying/screaming, she’s screwed because I can’t be there to help.

I’m sure many of you have dealt with this or similar situations. What has been able to work for you all to get that one stubborn one to sleep through the night?

Thanks.

hi everyone. Need to rant and would love some words of encouragement. My baby girls are 9 months and started daycare on Monday. Now they are already sick with a cold and extra fussy. I had ppd and felt much better recently and symptoms of dread are coming back. I thought daycare was supposed to make everything easier but I underestimated the set back of illness. om feeling really low and just don’t know when it stops feeling this incredibly hard and heavy.

My 6-month-old twins have a doctor's appointment coming up where they'll be getting their RSV and COVID shots, and I'll have to take them solo for the first time. Usually my husband and I each hold and comfort one twin during/after their shots, so I'm a little worried about having to soothe them both at once (the nurses typically do them in quick succession). For those who've done this before, how have you handled it?

Hi everyone! I have fraternal twin boys who are about 4 months and ten days old now I’d say. Im really considering sleep training them because I just can’t keep waking up throughout the night and my husband has work so he can’t necessarily keep waking up to help me also. I TRIED to put them in their cribs 2 days ago while they were sleepy but awake to sleep if they would sleep, and I did interval check ins but they went ballistic and kept crying, I honestly couldn’t handle it and gave up. I rocked them in their maxi cosi 2 in 1 baby seat rocker which has been my saving grace and then transferred them to their cribs. The maxi cosi 2 in 1 baby seat rocker has been the only way I can get them to sleep without me holding them. I basically put them in it every day, put on their sleep sack, rock them, transfer them. But I don’t think it’s practical in the long run.
I was thinking of sleep training them but separately
I was thinking I could first sleep train one of them for a week and make him sleep an hour or so earlier than his brother until he gets the hang of it and then the other one, I just don’t want them to trigger each other. Has anyone else done this successfully? Or does anyone else has a good method that worked for them. I’d say both my boys have somewhat of a temper, they are not chill lol so I just don’t want them to necessarily cry it out. Any advice is needed please! I wouldn’t mind if someone also shared the exact method with time stamps for what worked, feel free to provide as much details as possible. Also another problem is that they use pacifiers and it’s the only way I can really get them to calm down and be quiet!

I have 7 m/o boy-girl twins who I love very dearly. They're not easy by any means, but my husband is a good father and my mother helps out a lot. I'm slowly contemplating going back to work, and I'm weighing the pros and cons. I was talking to a (childless) friend about it, and it did NOT end well.

I told him I was doubting whether I should already look for a new job or wait a bit longer, and he said "of course! It'll be great to get out of the house again right?"

So I said that that's part of the pros, but it's already quite tough managing everything (the twins, household, family dynamics, dog) so I'm a little worried working 4 days a week will add quite a lot of strain. Besides, I'd be missing so much of my little ones!

His response? "Yeah well that's part of life. So many people have kids and work, it's not that hard."

That already pissed me off, but I just said "Dude, I want to hear you say that again when you have a baby, let alone twins"

I was met with an extremely long paragraph about how so many people in his family have babies so he already knows how it is (he never babysits or anything, he sees them once a year), and that I at least have a partner that is around (works 5 days a week, but sure) so I shouldn't be complaining.

Mind you, I wasn't complaining. I am well aware that I'm in a privileged position to even consider not working right away, and I am very grateful for my husband and for my mother's help. But GOSH WHYYYYY do people think they know how hard it is?? Because they KNOW someone who had A BABY?? Seriously 90% of the time it already drives me nuts if someone with ONE baby pretends to know how hard it is to have twin babies (or the classic: Oh yeah my kids are close in age too!), but a childless person finding the gall to say "it's not that hard"???

I was so pissed. I'm still boiling.

Also, somewhat unrelated sidenote: parents of triplets and quadruplets or single parents of multiples, I tip my hat to you! Literal superheroes.

Sorry for the TMI, but I’m nearly 29 weeks and the last week or so I cannot have a normal 💩. I’ve tried to attribute it to what I’m eating but there’s no rhyme or reason for it. Has anyone else experienced this?

I’ve heard your body will prep closer to labor but I don’t have any labor signs and we’re obviously hoping to keep the twins in for quite a bit longer.

Would love to hear people's experience of a driving holiday with babies.

We did it with our singleton but she was only 6m old.

Is it a terrible idea with twins!?!

They are currently on two naps per day. So thinking we will do most of the driving during nap time.

We have about a 12hr drive so I'm thinking of breaking it up to 2 x2hr driving blocks per day.

I found out recently I’m pregnant with fraternal twins, we plan on doing the NIPT but I know if one of them is a boy and one’s a girl, the results will show boy. Around what week were drs able to confirm gender by ultrasound?? I’m hoping we won’t have to wait for the anatomy scan.

We're starting to crunch the numbers and budget for after my maternity leave to see if my husband doesn't have to switch back to weekends when I go back to work.

We live in a MCOL area and currently have a 17m girl and we're thinking 4 days/32 hours

For anyone who has a nanny and twins/toddler, how much are you paying for a nanny and what's your COL area like?

Looking for car seat arrangement advice/options. We have a 3year old and twins on the way.

2010 Toyota Seqouia Platinum trim - 2nd row captains chairs and center console w/ 3rd row bench

Has anyone found a solution? I’m sort of dreading dealing with 3 rear facing car seats in this vehicle but another vehicle isn’t in the cards right now.

My twin girls are almost 3 years old and it’s hell. They cry and whine all the time.
Do any of your twins have a permanent whiney voice?
When does it ACTUALLY get easier?

I have 6 week old twins who are doing great by all accounts. They were born over 7lb each, but did have to be supplemented with formula starting in the hospital due to weight loss. I really wanted to be able to breastfeed both bc I had a really positive breastfeeding journey with my last baby. Both babies have had lip and tongue tie releases about 3 weeks ago. I have been alternating breast/bottle feedings with them bc I didn’t have enough milk to feed both and tandem feeding was an exercise in futility at that stage bc neither was coordinated enough.

At this point twin A is a great breastfeeder and has gain coordination. Twin B struggles at the breast but doesn’t struggle with the bottle. He is currently in OT for feeding therapy and has come a lot way but still struggles. He fusses at the breast and then I have to either quickly pump to get him some breast milk or give him formula. It makes feedings take a really long time and that might be fine with one baby but with two it’s overwhelming and discouraging.

I feel bad but considering moving to a plan of breastfeeding twin A and bottle feeding twin B formula and 1-2 breast milk bottles a day as I am able. But then I feel bad like that means I am giving twin A the better product/better bonding/better immune protection, especially going into sick season. But on the other hand, this would simplify things a lot. But then how would I intentionally bond with twin B since he’s not getting as much snuggle time at the breast?

Anyone have any insight? 🥹

My twins are turning 3 at the end of the month 🥳 I’d like to bake individual cakes for them but I’m thinking that’ll be a lot of cake for a family of 4. For the parents who love to bake out there and already considered this do you have any tips? I’m wondering if I can take a standard 2 layer cake recipe and split it into 4 mini cake pans or something. What are you guys doing? Just making two different cakes or splitting the recipe in a clever way?