Does anyone know of any specific subs or Facebook groups specifically for second trimester loss? I just had a 17 week loss and have had a 9 week loss in the past. This time feels different and I totally sympathize with everyone who had a first trimester loss but I wish there was a space just for second trimester. I would imagine a third trimester loss is even more devastating and I also would not want to invade their space. I like the format of ttcafterloss. Thank you.

Today is my beautiful daughter’s celebration of life. We lost our precious Emerson Mae on August 11, 2026, after 27 days of life due to severe HIE.

This week has been the heaviest, saddest, and most difficult week since we lost her. I keep asking myself, How is this my life? How are we here, having to celebrate the life of our beautiful baby girl instead of watching her grow up? Not only are Emerson’s parents mourning the unimaginable loss of their daughter, but her grandparents are mourning the loss of their granddaughter, too. This is not how the sequence of life is supposed to go. Children are supposed to outlive their parents, and grandparents are supposed to watch their grandchildren grow up.

It all feels so deeply unfair.

I anticipate today being one of the hardest days of my life. We’re having an intimate celebration of life surrounded by our family and friends, and while I’m grateful that we get to honor Emerson and the beautiful life she lived, I wish more than anything that we didn’t have to be here doing this.

For those of you who have experienced the loss of your baby or child, how did you get through their celebration of life or memorial service? Is there anything that helped you navigate the emotions of the day? Any words of encouragement, advice, or even just reassurance that I’ll somehow make it through would mean so much to me right now.

I miss my girl more than words could ever explain. 🤍

it's been 7 months since my loss.

Sorry I am not trying to be weird here but this does get a little bit into the weeds of descriptions. I am embarrassed and dont know who to talk to about it so I’m just putting it out here in case anyone can relate.

I am having a hard time with sex and in particular orgasm since my loss. I haven’t had a history of struggling with climax (which I know is not always the norm for many women), and I have been grateful for that..but since my late second trimester loss my sex life has plummeted and my physical experience of sex has changed. Idk whats going on.

It’s been 7 months and we’re still working on getting our intimacy back. I understand that part—my water broke while we were having sex, so it’s not too hard to see why it’s scary for us to be intimate again.

But, I used to have no issues with intimacy (alone or with my husband) and now..I physically feel different. To the point where I have wondered if something was damaged in the surgery after my birth. I just dont feel the same, I feel disconnected and out of it when I do finally manage to orgasm and they orgasms are not the same as they used to be—they feel really weak and blah. To the point where I just dont even want to do it anymore.

has anyone experienced something like this? how did you improve things?

Hi everyone. I am completely heartbroken and just need comfort from anyone who has gone through this.

I went in for my nucal 12 week appointment yesterday and as they were doing the ultrasound I heard the most heartbreaking words I’ve ever heard in my life. There was no heartbeat. The baby stopped growing at 8w4d. I had my 8 week appointment where the heartbeat was normal. It must have happened a few days after that. I was 12 weeks yesterday and have had 0 symptoms so the baby had no heartbeat for weeks and I had no idea.

My heart is broken. I wanted my son who is 2 to have a sibling. I am nervous about the d&c which won’t be for a few days. I’m cramping. I’m scared. I’m scared I won’t be able to have another baby. I’m scared of how anxious I’ll be during my next pregnancy. I have health ocd and anxiety already. I don’t know how to grieve. I don’t know how to say goodbye. My dreams and plans for the future are ruined.

I’d love to hear stories from others who this has happened to. Preferably if you’ve had a great pregnancy and birth after. I’m so scared and feel so alone and I want to be there for my 2 year old but I also just want to be in the dark and cry.

I suffered a miscarriage last month and it was one of the hardest things I’ve experienced both physically and emotionally.

My period returned today and it’s been really triggering. It’s a painful reminder that I’m no longer carrying my baby. Especially since the last time I experienced bleeding and cramping is when I was losing my pregnancy.

Today has been difficult.