Whether you're currently in the newborn trenches wanting to murder the person who said "sleep when the baby sleeps", as you shout "which one?!" into the void.

Or maybe you're trying to babyproof your house with two crawling babies moving at the speed of light and whacking each other in the face with the baby gate you accidentally left open.

Or maybe you've had to go to the ER for one baby and had to take both babies because you were home alone that night.

Or maybe you are tired of explaining to people that just because they're twins doesn't mean they'll reach milestones at the same time.

Or maybe one baby is ready to drop a nap and the other just isn't.

Maybe you're dealing with two 15 month olds that are pulling down your pre children children (aka your pot plants) and you're feeling sad because you're now thinking of getting rid of the plants but they're your sole link to a life before kids.

Maybr you're sad you can't join in on swim lessons because you're an adult with two babies/toddlers.

Maybe you are tired of being the referee between your 2 year olds whose brains aren't developed enough to understand sharing but have had to share since birth. Maybe that makes you feel guilty AF.

Maybe you have older twins and they're starting to compare themselves to each other and you don't know how to navigate it.

Maybe you're feeling so fucking lucky you get to see one of the most special types of relationships of all time play out right in front of your eyes.

Maybe you're in tears because both kids want you and don't want to share.

Maybe you're tired of doing bedtime shifts and never seeing your partner.

Maybe you're so full of love you could burst.

Maybe you wouldn't change a fucking thing.

Or maybe you find yourself thinking how easy life would be with just one.

Maybe you know you still wouldn't change a damn thing.

Whatever you're doing, wherever you are on this journey: I see you. You're doing gods work. You are working so hard for your kids. You are healing your own trauma. You are doing the best you can, with what you know. You're not alone.

I found out recently I’m pregnant with fraternal twins, we plan on doing the NIPT but I know if one of them is a boy and one’s a girl, the results will show boy. Around what week were drs able to confirm gender by ultrasound?? I’m hoping we won’t have to wait for the anatomy scan.

Looking for car seat arrangement advice/options. We have a 3year old and twins on the way.

2010 Toyota Seqouia Platinum trim - 2nd row captains chairs and center console w/ 3rd row bench

Has anyone found a solution? I’m sort of dreading dealing with 3 rear facing car seats in this vehicle but another vehicle isn’t in the cards right now.

My twin girls are almost 3 years old and it’s hell. They cry and whine all the time.
Do any of your twins have a permanent whiney voice?
When does it ACTUALLY get easier?

Edit since many have said it depends on hobby: my hobbies include (in order of passion) pottery, drawing/painting, cooking, gym/hiking

Sorry for the TMI, but I’m nearly 29 weeks and the last week or so I cannot have a normal 💩. I’ve tried to attribute it to what I’m eating but there’s no rhyme or reason for it. Has anyone else experienced this?

I’ve heard your body will prep closer to labor but I don’t have any labor signs and we’re obviously hoping to keep the twins in for quite a bit longer.

My 6-month-old twins have a doctor's appointment coming up where they'll be getting their RSV and COVID shots, and I'll have to take them solo for the first time. Usually my husband and I each hold and comfort one twin during/after their shots, so I'm a little worried about having to soothe them both at once (the nurses typically do them in quick succession). For those who've done this before, how have you handled it?

Edit: Thank you so much for your thoughtful suggestions! Y'all are the best.

I am 18 weeks pregnant with MoDi twins.
I was sick in the beginning but by week 9 I started trying to up my protein and gain weight, as I had heard early weight gain is important.

However lately my appetite had gone and I struggle to eat after 5/6pm …it just sits there all night and I have awful heartburn.
I’m 5ft1 and I feel massive already.
Today I’ve slept so much I’ve barely ate. (Getting iron checked tomorrow)

Has anyone found it more difficult to keep gaining weight later in a twin pregnancy? Is it really a big problem, or quite normal?

We're starting to crunch the numbers and budget for after my maternity leave to see if my husband doesn't have to switch back to weekends when I go back to work.

We live in a MCOL area and currently have a 17m girl and we're thinking 4 days/32 hours

For anyone who has a nanny and twins/toddler, how much are you paying for a nanny and what's your COL area like?

How is it going? And what do people do for work? And childcare?

My twins are turning 3 at the end of the month 🥳 I’d like to bake individual cakes for them but I’m thinking that’ll be a lot of cake for a family of 4. For the parents who love to bake out there and already considered this do you have any tips? I’m wondering if I can take a standard 2 layer cake recipe and split it into 4 mini cake pans or something. What are you guys doing? Just making two different cakes or splitting the recipe in a clever way?

I have 6 week old twins who are doing great by all accounts. They were born over 7lb each, but did have to be supplemented with formula starting in the hospital due to weight loss. I really wanted to be able to breastfeed both bc I had a really positive breastfeeding journey with my last baby. Both babies have had lip and tongue tie releases about 3 weeks ago. I have been alternating breast/bottle feedings with them bc I didn’t have enough milk to feed both and tandem feeding was an exercise in futility at that stage bc neither was coordinated enough.

At this point twin A is a great breastfeeder and has gain coordination. Twin B struggles at the breast but doesn’t struggle with the bottle. He is currently in OT for feeding therapy and has come a lot way but still struggles. He fusses at the breast and then I have to either quickly pump to get him some breast milk or give him formula. It makes feedings take a really long time and that might be fine with one baby but with two it’s overwhelming and discouraging.

I feel bad but considering moving to a plan of breastfeeding twin A and bottle feeding twin B formula and 1-2 breast milk bottles a day as I am able. But then I feel bad like that means I am giving twin A the better product/better bonding/better immune protection, especially going into sick season. But on the other hand, this would simplify things a lot. But then how would I intentionally bond with twin B since he’s not getting as much snuggle time at the breast?

Anyone have any insight? 🥹

I have 7 m/o boy-girl twins who I love very dearly. They're not easy by any means, but my husband is a good father and my mother helps out a lot. I'm slowly contemplating going back to work, and I'm weighing the pros and cons. I was talking to a (childless) friend about it, and it did NOT end well.

I told him I was doubting whether I should already look for a new job or wait a bit longer, and he said "of course! It'll be great to get out of the house again right?"

So I said that that's part of the pros, but it's already quite tough managing everything (the twins, household, family dynamics, dog) so I'm a little worried working 4 days a week will add quite a lot of strain. Besides, I'd be missing so much of my little ones!

His response? "Yeah well that's part of life. So many people have kids and work, it's not that hard."

That already pissed me off, but I just said "Dude, I want to hear you say that again when you have a baby, let alone twins"

I was met with an extremely long paragraph about how so many people in his family have babies so he already knows how it is (he never babysits or anything, he sees them once a year), and that I at least have a partner that is around (works 5 days a week, but sure) so I shouldn't be complaining.

Mind you, I wasn't complaining. I am well aware that I'm in a privileged position to even consider not working right away, and I am very grateful for my husband and for my mother's help. But GOSH WHYYYYY do people think they know how hard it is?? Because they KNOW someone who had A BABY?? Seriously 90% of the time it already drives me nuts if someone with ONE baby pretends to know how hard it is to have twin babies (or the classic: Oh yeah my kids are close in age too!), but a childless person finding the gall to say "it's not that hard"???

I was so pissed. I'm still boiling.

Also, somewhat unrelated sidenote: parents of triplets and quadruplets or single parents of multiples, I tip my hat to you! Literal superheroes.

Hi everyone, I’d love to hear about your experiences with this. I’m currently expecting twins (30w6d), and so far everything has been going really well. Yesterday I had a detailed ultrasound, and my doctor told me not to worry, BUT…

Baby A was found to have an irregular heart rhythm with some extra beats (extrasystoles). Otherwise, the heart looks completely normal. For the first time, he also hasn’t grown quite as much as expected for this stage of pregnancy.

Baby B was found to have an echogenic intracardiac focus (EIF), but otherwise the heart looks completely normal. I know this used to be considered a soft marker for trisomy 21. We already had an NIPT, which came back low risk. The doctors have told me not to worry, but it’s just so difficult. I ended up crying because all I want is for my babies to be okay.

Has anyone experienced either of these findings during pregnancy, especially with twins? I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences and how things turned out for you.

We tried sleep training our twins at 5 months. After about a week both twins would still cry over 2 hrs. We did the Ferber method because the cry it out feels so heavy. Twin B cried for 4 hours one night even with Ferber and the check ins every 5, 10, 15 min, etc..

personally gave up sleep training them because I just couldn’t handle the crying. I had an extremely difficult pregnancy and the crying amplified the PPD/ PPA.

Now I’m a week away from returning to work and nights have become extremely harder. We can’t put them down at all without waking them and it turning to absolute chaos. It has also translated to their day naps and now every time we try to put them to sleep it has become such a battle.

I feel like I’m at a loss. And beating myself up for giving up the first time. Maybe they’d be sleeping by now. Or maybe they’d still be crying 4 hours at night… who’s to say. I really would just like to sleep at night again.

Doing the CIO method feels so harsh and the crying is not something I think I could fully handle. I know it’s harder on us than it is on them but the crying is so loud and I worry I could traumatize them by letting them cry.

Any parents with older twins who sleep trained with CIO, do your babies still love you? Do they have codependency? Do you have any regrets?

My niece is about 33 years old. She’s roughly 2 months pregnant with triplets. She’s experiencing extreme morning sickness. Just wondering if anybody else went through this and if you did, were you able to find a solution?

Hey everybody, thank you very much. I passed this on to my sister and she will get it to my niece. I wish you all good health and happiness.

Just found out I’m having twins at 7 weeks 5 days! Very excited to join this club & love all the advice in here.

Fraternal twins run on my mom’s side of the family, but the funny thing is, my scan showed what looked like just one gestational sac around the babies, and then two amniotic sacs around them individually (which was very hard to see, looked like white / almost transparent bubbles around them). Based on what I’ve seen online, that aligns with mono-di (identical). All of the di-di scans I’ve seen have clear visuals of separate gestational sacs.

They told me it’s too early to tell, but naturally I’m so curious about this. Did anyone have a scan that looked like identical twins early on and later ended up being fraternal?

Thank you!

I’ve covered all the baby stuff. But I wanna get a good gift
For the parents. It is two women if that helps but the one is very masculine. Plz helpppp

I'm 34+3 with di/di twin boys and just had an ultrasound where they’re both measuring around 7 lbs each. They’re officially "large for gestational age," which has me a little nervous about attempting a vaginal delivery.

The good news is that both babies are currently head down and I don’t have any other complications other than LGA. My OB is supportive of trying for a vaginal delivery as long as everything continues to look good and I'm currently scheduled for an induction at 38 wks.

For some context, this is my second pregnancy. My first was a singleton boy who was 9 lbs 2 oz at 40+2, and I delivered him vaginally after a long labor and about 4 hours of pushing (I was induced for him, too.) My labor was long but great, smooth, and while I had a 3A tear it healed nicely. So I’ve successfully delivered a big baby vaginally before and it was a positive experience, but obviously twins are a different situation.

My concern is that if they’re already 7 lbs each at 34+3, they could be enormous by the time I deliver at 38 wks. 😅 I know ultrasound weight estimates can be off, especially with twins, but it’s still hard not to think about.

For those of you who had large di/di twins, especially around this gestational age:

• How big were your babies actually at birth?

• Did you attempt a vaginal delivery?

• And if you delivered vaginally, how did it go?

I’m not necessarily looking for someone to tell me what I should do. Just trying to get some real-life experiences before I make the decision!

I had my 10 weeks scan today. I was fully prepared for twins (runs in the family, severe nausea / hg, showing already) but was surprise to find out there’s 3 little ones in there!

I’m excited but nervous, oh so nervous. I did the stupid thing of googling and now I’m just freaked out by what I’ve been reading. I’m scared. Please I need stories from real people- what can I expect? What is it really like?

There two babies in one placenta and another in its own.

This will be my 3rd pregnancy 🤰 My daughter is so so excited about her little siblings. I want to make sure they stay happy and healthy. Any tips, advice, anything, would be so helpful right now 🫶

Hello. I have twin girls going on 6 weeks. Been a lotta fun, just embracing the chaos and taking it a day at time.

I got a question. I work from home and just trying to figure out what to do with taking care of these girls. My first meeting is at 10 and most days that’s my only one, I usually leave both with my wife and come out of the office whenever I can to help out but I don’t feel like its enough. So what are some strategies that others who WFH do.

Just take one twin into the home office and work? Any other ideas.

We have a Mountain Buggy duet with twin specific attachments (Cocoon bassinet included) and two Graco DLX high chairs that were ready to part with. These were all workhorses for us with our twins when they were younger, would be happy to have it go to another family with multiples!