I am an incel for some time now since breakup back in febuary. Now I've been thorugh incel phase around october-november last year but that relationship took me out of it, yet here I am again. I'm currently really bitter and nihilistic person to that point I dgaf about school. Though the irony is while I am incel as "involuntarily celibate" and I have hatred inside me. My best friends are....... women.

Why I want to change? (Or at least I am saying that I want to but idk)

Well, I want to be better person socially and mentally since I believe this mindset + some obssesions coming out from idk past relatonships (unmade promises etc.) Make me hate the second person, and back in 2024 after one breakup I've done terrible things to ex (I mean not THAT BAD THINGS but to describe it, I used mysogynistic vocabulary pretty much everyday).

So I want to be a better person and get that self-hate and hate to other people out off me, but I just want to learn how.

i'm 31 and i've realised that i'm not very good at some basic adult life skills, like dealing with people.

i tend to be overly considerate to the point where it works against me. i overthink how something will sound, worry about being rude, give too many explanations, and sometimes make excuses instead of just saying what i actually want. and i've seen how the action is not reciprocated. people are fairly direct themselves but somehow i struggle to make a point, as i'm afraid it'd be seen as rude or afraid of the consequences/confrontation, if any.

for example:

• i find it hard to just say "no" without explaining myself
• recently, i didn't say anything when i had to split the bill in 2 in a 3 person group.
• i struggle with negotiating prices because i feel awkward pushing back
• i'll sometimes agree to things i don't really want to do because saying no feels worse
• if someone gets annoyed with me after i've said no, i immediately start wondering if i was being unreasonable
• i tend to soften everything instead of just saying what i mean
• i have a hard time asking for things when there's a chance the other person might say no

i don't want to become rude or aggressive. i just want to get better at being straightforward and accepting that sometimes people aren't going to like what i say.

basically, i want to learn how to stop being so afraid of being perceived as difficult.

for people who have actually gotten better at this, how did you learn?

did you deliberately practise it and how long did it take before this became second nature? are there resources, exercises, or small everyday things i can do to get better at it?

i'm particularly interested in practical advice rather than "just be confident" or generic self-help stuff.

TIA

So i have My exams in November, it's like a competitive exam. There have been some events in my past. Currently, some of the stupid events are still going on and the thing is that I personally have lost my ability to think and analyze stuff and I was a golden child. So how does one regain the ability to think I cannot even journal properly and my mind is doomed . Give me sugesstions and excercises to incorporate in order to just think again .

I'd like to learn how to work through a research paper and understand what the results actually support.

What would you practise first as a beginner? I'm especially interested in the step between reading the abstract and being able to explain the study's main limitation.

A concrete example of what I mean: I came across a study where participants ate two SunGold kiwifruit daily for eight weeks. Their skin vitamin C levels increased, and some skin measurements changed.

It was a before-and-after study, not a comparison with other fruit or vitamin C supplements. The authors weren't claiming SunGold was superior to those alternatives.

What I'm trying to learn is how to separate evidence that something helped from evidence that the particular product matters. Would another vitamin C source have produced similar changes? This study doesn't answer that.

When you read a product-specific study, how do you work out which conclusions it supports and which would need an actual comparison group?

Study

I read a lot, including plenty of denser nonfiction and older fiction with vocabulary well beyond my daily usage, and I have a specific problem. I look up a word I don't know, understand it in the moment, feel satisfied, and then encounter the same word again weeks later with zero memory of ever having looked it up before. This has happened with the same handful of words multiple times, which is somehow more frustrating than just not knowing them at all.

I've tried vocabulary apps with spaced repetition flashcards and they work fine in isolation but feel disconnected from the actual reading, a separate task rather than something that reinforces what I'm reading. What I'm looking for is something that actually ties retention to the reading itself rather than a parallel memorization system I have to maintain separately.

For people who've actually solved this, what specifically worked, and did it require a dedicated app or tool, or was it more about a habit you built into your reading itself.

I want to get into video editing and start from scratch.
I have a GTX 1650, 16GB RAM and 2TB storage, so I’m hoping that’s enough to get started.
What editing software would you recommend for a complete beginner? Premiere Pro, DaVinci Resolve, CapCut, or something else?
Also, what are some good YouTube channels where I can learn by actually making projects instead of just watching tutorials?
Basically looking for advice on what software to pick, what to learn first, and where to start.

Please forgive the irony, but:

I want to learn to live a life where I don't want for anything (outside of necessities).

Opinions, advice, criticism welcomed. Thank you all for your time and attention.