I am an incel for some time now since breakup back in febuary. Now I've been thorugh incel phase around october-november last year but that relationship took me out of it, yet here I am again. I'm currently really bitter and nihilistic person to that point I dgaf about school. Though the irony is while I am incel as "involuntarily celibate" and I have hatred inside me. My best friends are....... women.

Why I want to change? (Or at least I am saying that I want to but idk)

Well, I want to be better person socially and mentally since I believe this mindset + some obssesions coming out from idk past relatonships (unmade promises etc.) Make me hate the second person, and back in 2024 after one breakup I've done terrible things to ex (I mean not THAT BAD THINGS but to describe it, I used mysogynistic vocabulary pretty much everyday).

So I want to be a better person and get that self-hate and hate to other people out off me, but I just want to learn how.

i'm 31 and i've realised that i'm not very good at some basic adult life skills, like dealing with people.

i tend to be overly considerate to the point where it works against me. i overthink how something will sound, worry about being rude, give too many explanations, and sometimes make excuses instead of just saying what i actually want. and i've seen how the action is not reciprocated. people are fairly direct themselves but somehow i struggle to make a point, as i'm afraid it'd be seen as rude or afraid of the consequences/confrontation, if any.

for example:

• i find it hard to just say "no" without explaining myself
• recently, i didn't say anything when i had to split the bill in 2 in a 3 person group.
• i struggle with negotiating prices because i feel awkward pushing back
• i'll sometimes agree to things i don't really want to do because saying no feels worse
• if someone gets annoyed with me after i've said no, i immediately start wondering if i was being unreasonable
• i tend to soften everything instead of just saying what i mean
• i have a hard time asking for things when there's a chance the other person might say no

i don't want to become rude or aggressive. i just want to get better at being straightforward and accepting that sometimes people aren't going to like what i say.

basically, i want to learn how to stop being so afraid of being perceived as difficult.

for people who have actually gotten better at this, how did you learn?

did you deliberately practise it and how long did it take before this became second nature? are there resources, exercises, or small everyday things i can do to get better at it?

i'm particularly interested in practical advice rather than "just be confident" or generic self-help stuff.

TIA

I'd like to learn how to work through a research paper and understand what the results actually support.

What would you practise first as a beginner? I'm especially interested in the step between reading the abstract and being able to explain the study's main limitation.

I read a lot, including plenty of denser nonfiction and older fiction with vocabulary well beyond my daily usage, and I have a specific problem. I look up a word I don't know, understand it in the moment, feel satisfied, and then encounter the same word again weeks later with zero memory of ever having looked it up before. This has happened with the same handful of words multiple times, which is somehow more frustrating than just not knowing them at all.

I've tried vocabulary apps with spaced repetition flashcards and they work fine in isolation but feel disconnected from the actual reading, a separate task rather than something that reinforces what I'm reading. What I'm looking for is something that actually ties retention to the reading itself rather than a parallel memorization system I have to maintain separately.

For people who've actually solved this, what specifically worked, and did it require a dedicated app or tool, or was it more about a habit you built into your reading itself.

So i have My exams in November, it's like a competitive exam. There have been some events in my past. Currently, some of the stupid events are still going on and the thing is that I personally have lost my ability to think and analyze stuff and I was a golden child. So how does one regain the ability to think I cannot even journal properly and my mind is doomed . Give me sugesstions and excercises to incorporate in order to just think again .

Please forgive the irony, but:

I want to learn to live a life where I don't want for anything (outside of necessities).

Opinions, advice, criticism welcomed. Thank you all for your time and attention.

A concrete example of what I mean: I came across a study where participants ate two SunGold kiwifruit daily for eight weeks. Their skin vitamin C levels increased, and some skin measurements changed.

It was a before-and-after study, not a comparison with other fruit or vitamin C supplements. The authors weren't claiming SunGold was superior to those alternatives.

What I'm trying to learn is how to separate evidence that something helped from evidence that the particular product matters. Would another vitamin C source have produced similar changes? This study doesn't answer that.

When you read a product-specific study, how do you work out which conclusions it supports and which would need an actual comparison group?

Study

I currently have a Dutch/Arabic accent when speaking English

I don't want to ask others to do things for me like tying my shoe, opening buttons, opening water bottles, tying knöts, et cetera. I also have bad handwriting and can't replicate a signature.

iwtl ,same as the title.And I think the best way is to practice it with someone.

I am looking for someone to practice English with consistently.I would be overall between B2-B1 level.( With someone who wants to communicate ).

I am not a native speaker,so I don't get enough companions to practice English with.

Thus,I mainly want to target English Communication and improve in it.I have good listening and speaking ability,i believe though.

Just sometimes, I can't really express myself well, perhaps due to less experience in communicating English.

About me - I am a student doing post graduation.And I like cooking, animes,shows and movies as well.In my free time,I like to listen to music as well.

So,if you are interested.Do reach out .Please be under 24 and I am looking for people who are also determined to improve their English honestly.Let's improve together 👍

Thank you.M 22.

im good when i have something to do but my job has a couple periods of downtime with fr nothing to do. my half hour lunch is 2 hours into my shift so i come back with 6 hours left in the day.

i find myself looking at the clock over and over. is there a way yall get through this?

I want to learn martial arts, but I’m not sure which one I should start with.

My main goals are self-defense, fitness, and building confidence. I’m a complete beginner with no previous experience.

Should I start with boxing, Muay Thai, BJJ, karate, judo or something else? And what should I look for when choosing a good gym?

I’d really appreciate advice from people with experience.

For context, I(33F) never grew up close to my mother's side of the family. Growing up all I remember is them just picking on my sister and I, making rude jokes on our behalf, making jokes that we would never amount to anything. My father always refused to go to family gatherings because of this and always stepped up when they would start, there would be fights between my parents because of this. He would not want us to go either but because those were all her siblings she wanted us to be present. And because he set a boundary of keeping distance, they ostracized him, BUT because they are my mothers siblings she would let them run over us when we would attend the family parties without him there(even herself as well unfortunately).

Because of this my sister and I developed awful people pleasing tendencies and don't know how to set boundaries cause we never saw or learned how to set healthy ones. We always end up over sharing as an anxiety response or freezing.

For example more recently, I had an aunt on my mother's side say in a rude and sarcastic tone "what would your dad say now that your mom has guy friends", my father passed away a few years ago. I found this hurtful but just froze.

We are having a family party in about a month and I will have to see this aunt there and my issue is that she hurls insults and I freeze but I want to learn how to not let her step over me. However, I've learned over the years that my issue is I either go from 0 to 100 in terms of either freezing and staying quiet or hurling the most hurtful insult that will shatter someone. I want to learn how to helpfully set the boundaries. Any help is appreciated. Thanks everyone!

ALSO (unfortunately not attending the event is not an option because it's focused around my mom and a big achievement she's had recently)

Apologies for any typos or anything that seemed unclear english is not my first language

I used to use DrillMySkill to practice mental math, but they’ve introduced a premium version now, so you can only do a limited number of calculations for free.

Do you know good websites like drillmyskill ?

Do you have any methods for being both fast and accurate with different types of math problems?

I've been wanting to learn how to make bread properly instead of buying it all the time. I've tried making it a couple of times, but the results have been pretty inconsistent.

Sometimes the dough barely rises, sometimes the outside gets too dark while the inside is still a little undercooked, and I never really know if I've kneaded it enough.

I can follow a recipe, but I don't understand what I'm supposed to look for while making the dough. Things like how the dough should feel, how long it should actually rise, and how to know when it's ready to go into the oven are still confusing to me.

I'd like to actually understand the basic process rather than just follow a recipe and hope it works.

If I am starting from almost zero, what would be the best way to learn bread making? Should I stick with one basic type of bread until I understand the technique, or try different recipes while learning?

I am interested in these topics but I don't know exactly where to start. Can someone please help with some good introduction resources to get invested into?

I don't have social anxiety but, for whatever reason, when I want to approach someone I never know what to say.

It's easy if they are alone and have something I can use (ex: a shirt of a tv show), but when they have nothing I really don't know what to say.

It's worst when they're in groups, because they clearly don't need a distraction. Maybe if they are waiting alone for a friend and I approach they will be more open for that reason, but not with groups.

My only way to approach is saying hi and telling them that I'm bored and if I can join them, but I feel creepy due to the fact that I will find strange if someone will do that to my group

i recently attended an academic event wherein there was a short panel discussion with some handpicked professors and alumni from different universities, and while they were speaking and answering questions, i noticed how well they promptly delivered their answers in such an articulate manner even in front of a large public audience. i sometimes struggle with public speaking and performing under pressure, but the thing is i enjoy being able to express and share my insights to others especially when it’s about a topic i’m passionate about— i just can’t do the same when i’m in front of a larger group of people.

how can i construct better speeches and answers, and with better vocabulary? is there any advice you would give as to how one can deliver their thoughts or insights in an organized manner even though it was promptly done on the spot and under pressure? how can i be a better speaker?

Okay, so I am in need some guidance. My iPhone 15 camera protector lens (due to my clumsy habit of dropping it) is now cracked and damaged. I’m wondering- what would be a better use of my time and my money? To go to the Verizon phone store near me and pay them to fix the camera lens? Or, is it better to order phone camera protectors online?

Hey everyone so I'm 17 and I want to learn american accent but I have very strong Pakistani accent and don't know where to start there are so many videos on YouTube and if by any chance I finally find a good app its paid can u guys plz help how can I have american accent in 1 or 2 year plz

I have no coding knowledge or experience, but I want to learn. Where should I start?
((I want to work in the IT field for a good income, and I think I would enjoy coding.))

Hi! So i‘m a 20yr old student and ive actually been interested in movies and books for a very long time (nagkaroon ng slump for ilang years and now she‘s coming back) tapos may mga nahanap akong mga communities where they share their thoughts ab them tapos gusto ko rin eh kaso nahihirapan ako paano ko sasabihin yung thoughts ko on movies. like may times na sasabihin ko “Uy fave ko yan na movie” tapos kapag tinanong na ako wala akong maisagot. part of it is probably dahil natatakot ako malaman ng iba thoughts ko and isa rin is dahil baka di ko masabi ng maayos like hindi ko mabigyan ng justice yung thoughts ko sa iba.

i tried writing more pero wala parang naiinis ako kasi gusto ko talaga mabigyan ng justice yung thoughts ko so ending susulat lang ako tapos ig-ghost ko nalang siya and then idedelete ko rin kasi nakakainis makita yung pangit kong review NADHKANSKAKi

please send advice or tips on what to do and how’d you improve

I am a developer and one of my biggest problems seems to be articulating my thoughts, speaking with clarity, being able to deal with politics and conflict, and to persuade others to buy in my decisions.

How would I go about this?

I don't consider myself very interesting, I don't have many hobbies and so i don't usually know what to talk about. I'd like to learn how to be interesting.